A little underwhelmed by a libra woman.

So I met a libra woman recently, couple months. We get on really well, and we're attracted to each other in every way.

But she said the other day that she doesn't feel that thing ya know. It's brilliant that she is honest, but it's left me a little like, I'd rather you not say that, personally left me little confused. Like how you can be so attracted but not feel anything, anyway, that is the case. She's going through a lot having moved a from another country to London and working long hours. Plus, she says she has hate regarding her ex so possibly think that might have something to do with it?

She's insisting on wanting to be a part of my life as a friend but personally I don't stay friends with girls I've not met in a friend situation. So any advice how I can not get dragged in the friend zone and generate that spark or just walk away.

How do you know she's attracted??

Well because she flat out told me from her own mouth lol! Unless he was flat out lying but she's been honest about everything.

Posted by doublesidedGem
Well because she flat out told me from her own mouth lol! Unless he was flat out lying but she's been honest about everything.

She told you 'that thing' isn't there. 'That thing' is code for chemistry.

I think she just wants to be friends. Libras are all mind, you have to get into her head for her to actually develop feelings they don't just appear to the air signs.

Well, I don't really feel either..I'm a thinker. So if you're on her mind and she's making time for you, it's definitely a good sign. Try not to get insecure and make sure there's opportunity for touchy/feely to improve the vibe.

Well, it depends on what you mean by a 'couple of months'.

So a little development from when we’ve spoken.

She said I was a bit too much, and that for herself it was too much too soon. She’s said that she doesn’t want to date me, which as I said is a bit underwhelming because I was reciprocating what she was doing albeit I didn’t send love heart emojis as she did, but I probably pushed without knowing it. I got her a small present for her birthday last week but haven’t the chance to give to her.

She’s asked for space - we last spoke over a week ago I think which I thought was enough but alas it’s not. Weirdly she blocked me on WhatsApp and iMessages but trust me I’m not even messaging her once every few days. We spoke recently via FB.

Obviously being respectful to her wishes and not wanting to push the issue - how can I approach this and allow her to see I’m not pushy, don’t want to smother her and do not want to force the issue? Sad thing is there is attraction on all levels. I’d like to get back to the beginning.

I think, as sad as it is to hear, you need to make a major step back 😢

Even if she is answering via FB, she's probably wishing for no contact. Space is space, she''ll think more about it when you're not popping up. I hate to give this advice, but it's only to give you the chance you want.

@doublesidedGem I've been in this position in the past. The best advice anyone can give you now is to walk away. If a person tells you that the chemistry isn't there or that they need space, don't waste your time hitting your head against a brick wall. Simply let that person know to contact you if they change their mind and walk away. That all being said, here's the situation:

Libras tend to be indecisive, which can bleed into their romantic relationships. They tend to be charming and flirtatious and as a result usually have other romantic options. Being an air sign, Libras also desire mental stimulation over emotional stimulation. Too much emotion can smother a Libra. When a romantic situation seems to be moving along too quickly, a Libra may pull the ripcord and bail. They are afraid of making the wrong decision and losing their space as a result.

If a Libra asks you for space, GIVE it to them. Give them ALL of the space they could ever want. An oscillating Libra may have a "grass is greener" mentality when presented with too many options. As a result they can suffer from FOMO (fear of missing out). This means that an option which is not readily available may increase in their minds. I've personally watched Libran friends ping pong between the same decisions several time because of this. This is because Libras NEED to think about you and through their decisions. She needs to wonder if pushing you away was the right decision.

Remember that Libras are charming and are used to getting attention from potential suitors. They are accustomed to being chased. As a result they value a person who is a bit more detached because that persons probably won't threaten their need for space. That's not to say that Libras avoid affection (far from it), it's just that it takes time and finesse for a Libra to truly become comfortable.

Astrology aside, if a woman asks you for space, it means you're moving too fast or smothering her. Women don't push away the men they like. Also remember that women are more emotional beings and tend to speak their feelings. So when a woman tells you that she is attracted to you, she means it IN THAT MOMENT. Just because she says it then, doesn't mean her feelings can't change later.

A woman needs to know that a man has enough internal strength to resist her. If she asks for space, you need to be secure enough to give it to her. She must also know that if she pushes you away, she could lose you. A man who values himself will not chase a woman who pushes him away. He will stand up for himself instead. A woman needs to know that you'll stand up for yourself because that means you'll stand up for her if she ever needed it.

This increases your value in her eyes. If a woman is blocking you on social media, that means her attraction for you is practically non existent. By backing away you can give her the space to think/wonder about you. If she's wondering about you, that means her interest in you is going back up.

P.S, you were smart not to accept being put in the friendzone. If she asks "why?" just let her know that friendship is not what you want. Let her know to contact you if she changes her mind. Then leave her alone.

"Like how can you be so attracted but not feel anything"

I am attracted to my bf, BUT I feel more-there is a connection with him which is SO important to me and why I was single for a long time. I am attracted to Brad Pitt, but it ends there-its on a physical level. If I met him i'd no doubt *feel* nothing because that feeling can only be between me and my other.

In other words physical attraction alone is shallow.

I get that, but come on We all have those type of attractions.

I’m going to heed the advice given above, which thank you for by the way.

It pains reading them messages where she says she doesn’t want to doubt and that there is no doubt about that but hey.

Oh not blocked on FB but whatsapp at the minute and I guess phone number. Made no contact with her and carrying on.

I just wish she said she wanted to take it slow or it was going faster than she thought. I’m no mind reader and was only reciprocating.

Anyway thanks for the advice 🙂