A Relationship

What does being in a relationship mean to you. Anyone, everyone, not just Librans. I am interested in hearing your point of views. I have grown to understand that lots of people see them differently.

Me first:

A relatioship is built from a trusting, and dependable friendship. Someone you can be yourself with and the feeling is mutual. Someone who will walk beside you. cheer you up when your sad, feel your pain when you hurt. Be happy for your successes. Never envy your accomplishments, however support them. Include eachother in major life decisions, give eachother space to have your own individual lives.

Dependable on all levels. Love eachother "just cause" not for money, sex, physical beauty alone. Be open, and know it is okay to argue, and look forward to the make up sex. 🙂 Knowing the other is there. Just to name a few things...

To me love and a relationship means a genuine appreciation of another human being. A relationship should consist of two whole individuals, not two halves coming together, who compliment one another. Also, in a relationship trust is a very important thing, as well as allowing one's partner to go about their own lives from time to time (not hanging 24/7 as that's not healthy), then coming together in the middle somewhere.

And all of what QS said up there ^



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"Should I tell him something as minor as that, even though it will hurt him, so there will be no secrets. Nothing but absolute and burtal honesty?"

You've got to do what's right for him and for your relationship w/him. Not necessarily what's right for you. Getting something off your chest is fine but doing this at his expense would not be fair per se. Behing honest for honesty's sake - and upsetting him.

However finding out the inevitable through a third-party is never right.

Well Libra has high ideals when it comes to love and if it is not fulfilled it gets difficult. You know it. It's a struggle between being modest in the expectation of love and your deep personal desires for that perfect love, combined with only having one life.

I struggle with that a lot.

LLL, I agree with Libra, no I wasn't stabbing or calling you unmoral, read my post on that thread.

Libra, uh, relationship? What does it mean to you.

You're asking me at a difficult point in my life. Ideally it is:

- Love without words

- Rock solid with lots of freedom

Something like that.

- that you cannot fuck it up

f*** it up

Libra, why is this point in your life so difficult? If you have already shared your story what topic can I find it under? I'd like to read it.

It's not really on this board. I usually try to 'give' not 'take', and not 'need'. Apart from this one day in May when I complained my socks off about a Capricorn.

But you're recognising yourself in my comment, I guess...

No, Libra, I was just asking out of concern. I wanted to help my fellow man, or in this case woman, lol. You took interest in what I posted and I thought I might do the same. Since I'm oh, so wise in my 21 years of experience. Haha! =)

Hello Q its me again. ill have to agree with your idea on relationships also but when your so called best friend takes you on a ride after 15 yrs then what

bubba, what exactly do you mean for a ride? I need you to be a little more specific.

Rollercoaster rides are always fun - weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!

when you believed you were getting in for all the reasons you thought since she was your best friend and it was all a front best friend yea, lover no ,hard lesson

If it isn't working you move one, chalk it up as a lessons and take that lesson and learn from it. No regrets, stepping stone. That is how I view my past, no regrets, there is always a lesson learned.

"What does being in a relationship mean to you"


Everything that is done, all words spoken, intentions .. are for the purpose of making the other person happy, and not exclusively for the happiness of the self.

Woot Chatz on the "genuine appreciation for another human being" definition of love. That is mine as well.

To me a relationship is a partnership where neither person needs the other, but desires to be with them and both open up and allow themselves to need the other. Their love, their affection, their support and their presence. Where each individual allows themselves to become naked as LS put it, to put their heads and hearts together and use their combined strengths to achieve everything they want out of life no matter how pragmatic or idealistic and are there to grab the others hand when they get lost or feel defeated. To be with someone whom you desire and admire and respect so much that they are the only one you will desire for the rest of your life and where both people have both the self understanding and drive to achieve perfection together.

Love is turning off the t.v. because you would rather talk, even if there is nothing to talk about.
Love is cancelling the last appointment of the day because the day gets longer with each minute your away from them.
Love is compromising and sacraficing what you want for what your relationship needs because you want to, not because you have to.
Love is walking side by side with someone you feel is your perfect compliment. Not in front of, not behind only next to.
Love is listening to the other persons dreams, and instead of giving your two cents in how to achieve it, simply offering your hand.

As always brilliant Nic....