Another Silly Q

Addressed primarily to my Libran female friends.

When I ask Libra Girl out and we finally pin down a date, time, event, her USUAL response is, "That would be okay." Or sometimes she says, "That would be fine." She really never says, "That would be GREAT!" Or "That would be WONDERFUL!" 'Seems to answer shyly instead of enthusiastically. Is that typical? Is it one of those things where she doesn't want to let on how really interested she is? (After all, I figure she hasn't said, "NO," so it must be what she wants). Thanks for helping out a relatively cluesless Aries! (Who's learning, learning).

Even though Im not a Libran, I can relate to that scenario...my LIbran male does the same kinda thing....never lets on...always aloof even though you can say "wow that'd be awesome"...the response would be something like "yeah, it'd be ok"...talk about crushing hopes at times - guess they don't realise this bothers us *shrugs* Such excitable creatures aren't they?? hehehe

Oh and don't know about you but I constantly get "you're such a nice girl"....grrrrrr I don't wanna be known as a nice girl - sheesh!!! Is that a compliment or telling me he just thinks of me as a nice friend—

Bugger!!! here we go again LOL

Chatz, nice to share mutual frustration, isn't it?

Of course "nice guy," in my case (being male), is almost always considered derogatory---even though what's the opposite? BAD guy? MEAN guy? But "nice guy" to me usually translates to door mat. So I try to sweetly correct those who tell me I'm a nice guy by telling them, "I'm a good man." (THAT makes sense, includes nice versus bad or mean AND tells them I'm strong, believe in my principles and myself and refuse to be a door mat). Guess what? It works!

When you get, "You're such a nice girl" again, you may want to try, "I'm a GREAT girl!" Just to see what kind of reaction you get!

And I don't have an answer to get a stronger response than we usually get from our Libran interests.

Atom, Im not sure whether its "nice" to share the frustration LOL....nah its all good - good to bounce stuff off of others. I think though, today I have just frustrated myself more!!! Probably good I am going home soon and not be on the net tonight....Im not doing myself any good - grrrrrrr

Hmmmm not the thing I wanted to see re: door mat!! thanks NOT lol....I get ya though I won't argue with him....if he only sees me as "nice" then so be it...I think that from him is a compliment...they are few and far between and I never hear him say anybody else is nice, in fact, he's rather cynical about people.

I dunno - Ive just gotten a tad grumpy - sorry all

Chatz, you may be nice and VERY nice! I know when I'm interested in a girl and I call her "nice" I'm still checking out my feelings for her. (Otherwise I probably wouldn't even talk to her!). Don't know if that helps or not. Librans definitely ONLY want people close to them that are nice (they ARE sensitive, y'know!). So maybe it's an open door. I don't know. If you think it's a compliment from him, it is---especially if he's looking at you with those magnetic eyes.

If we don't hear from you the rest of night, we understand. I've been living with the "nice guy" label all my life. Grrrrr!

LOL yeah that I do get but grrrrrr and those magnetic eyes— hmmm yes well there I go again thanks for that LOL. its all good but Im making a mountain again!! Oh and its almost like its to the same degree of pain of pulling teeth when he gives those rare compliments...honestly its like it pains him to have to do it LOL....geeeze I love making somebody feel good about themselves...can't see what the big deal is but probably again, he's scared I'll get all gooey on him!! Hmmm actually I take that back, he did give some compliments over the weekend - just can't say them on here

Mind you being called a "nice girl" isn't so bad I guess.

To keep your sanity (suggestions, not prescriptions; I am not a mental health specialist. . .):

*remember the compliments you can't say here

*he probably IS scared of goo; so you can sit back and watch

*continue enjoying your chocolate between times

*"nice girls" can still communicate subtle sexy things (your voice, your eyes, your body language).

*pulling teeth for compliments NOT good---unless you believe he would be more attractive toothless (*gah*)

*IF he sees you only as "nice," there are worse things---BUT, being a guy, I'd say he likes you and, not be a Libra but listening to our Libra friends, he's processing

*personally ice cream works better for me than chocolate----unless there's chocolate in the ice cream--then it's ALL good

LOL Atom - thank you 🙂

Now that comment about being toothless— nah, its ok I won't go there *laffs hysterically*....thanks Atom you've cheered me up - that didn't take too much did it?? I bounce back quickly...just a bad day and life at work is ewwwwww with a huge audit going on - gee I hate em and Mondays?? bad combo.

chocolate = M&M's...I cannot leave them alone!!! oh and don't know if you get those easter eggs filled with cremes...yummmmmm!!!! (they're only available around this time up until Easter) They look at me when Im shopping, just gotta buy a few - mmmmm mmmmm....not really into ice cream so much myself but if that's what you like, try putting some M&M's in too~!!!! Noice!!!!

oh and nice girls can still commuinicate subtle sexy things, etc?? well if I'd left the chase to him I'd still be waiting for that call/text/email/etc....I did all the work....he loves it, loved the innuendos I used - we were reminiscing on Friday as to how we evolved....his words:..."we've had a lot of fun getting to this stage...did you ever think we'd get here?"...so I haven't exactly been the sweet, innocent girl next door if you know what I mean!! LOL and I guess he's remembering the fun we had getting to where we are - where was that again?? 😛

That's why the "you're such a nice girl" or "you're such a nice person" kinda gets to me - THAT'S the best he can give?? lol. Nah I get it....its ok...again, Im happy - just reminded myself of the laffing we did a few days ago - can't deny thats not real.

Hmmm anyway almost hometime - wooohoooo

I hate audits too. And on Monday? Yuck. What a relief TUESDAY will be. M&M's are probably my favorite but I eat them so fast I don't buy them anymore.

A Virgo friend of mine LOVES M&M's and eats them by the fistfuls when she's nervous or upset about anything. I visited her in her office one day and she was really stressed out and wouldn't tell me why. So I asked her if she had some M&M's (secret stash in her desk drawer). She said, "Yes," I grabbed the bag and started throwing them at her one at a time. The she started throwing them at me! THAT was good stress relief!

yeah it would be good stress relief...try getting one in her mouth next time - that could be fun LOL....M&M's just don't last long around me!!! I prefer savoury stuff as a rule but M&M's— my weakness!!!

When I like someone (and I have realised/admitted to myself etc but I don't have the green light from you at that point in time) and he's standing before me, I choke, am boring, cannot think, don't want to think, don't want to hustle, don't want to flirt, don't want to sleep - AM VERY WORRIED basically in how this is all going to come together. All that's on my mind is the 'destination' (quote, unquote, TheLibran).

So I am not spontaneous at all, until that green light comes true - it's embarassing to have all these feelings and I FEEL VERY TRANSPARENT - and this is what you see in her responses. Libra Girl is keeping her emotions in tact assuming you can see right through her.

Once the green light is there I get elevated to a whole new level and that's where you will see a warmth that you did not know existed.

kenny, I forgot what Social Butterflies you are! Yes, you ARE always invited. We other signs just like to have, er, signs of enthusiasm at times. (And I don't mind snark!).

Nice it is then LOL....tis all good 🙂

OMG, I heard a "nice," this morning! Libra Girl and I had a nice Thai dinner, she loved the mango dessert, and we played duets on the piano for about an hour (you HAVE to sit close together and accidently brush each other's hands), and I bought her two bouquets of flowers as a "project" (that's what I told her) to fill an empty vase. She did very well pruning and placing and looking very happy. THAT was our evening two days ago. I had to work and didn't call her back.

Then she called this morning and thanked me and said it was NICE.

🙂

When I like someone (and I have realised/admitted to myself etc but I don't have the green light from you at that point in time) and he's standing before me, I choke, am boring, cannot think, don't want to think, don't want to hustle, don't want to flirt, don't want to sleep - AM VERY WORRIED basically in how this is all going to come together. All that's on my mind is the 'destination' (quote, unquote, TheLibran).

OMG! This is so true. I can be a complete disaster. Deer in the headlights until I feel safe. lol!

I am more of a "This will great. I am looking forward to it." Type person but I tend to love an outing.

I would use the "I had such a nice time" line after a date. The fact that she called you two days later to thank you Atom is a GREAT sign. 😉

Yes, little sparrow, I agree with you but I still hate the times between when I don't hear anything or see her.

"Then she called this morning and thanked me and said it was NICE."

That is awesome! Looks like your patience and hard work is really paying off. Just keep remembering that to help you through the slow times...

Thanks for the encouragement, alcheme. But is it always going to be WORK?

"Thanks for the encouragement, alcheme. But is it always going to be WORK?"

From what they say, no. Just hang in there... 🙂

You are Aries, and do not forget you are still conquering. Conquering mode requires work, and afterwards you get to reap the benefits of your labor. It is the perfect Aries quest... Trying, tiresome, pain staking, grueling, requiring patience, dedication, and a person unwilling to give up so easily. But, for all that, it is one that has a beautiful, adoring princess for the white knight at the end of it... 😉

That's very encouraging Atom and the word nice— you've given me hope now LOL....we're both experiencing the LIbran nice!!! wooohoooo *giggles*

Good job Adam that sounds really nice 😉

yeah, I use it all the time too.

you're up early or late boys!!! Its 7.40pm Sunday night - weekend is over 😢

but, but, but it is closer to me seeing the boy again 🙂

"weekend is over"

Oh, don't even be saying that... Still another 24 hours before I get to contemplate that disappointing thought.

now that's just plain teasing me!!!! Not fair...we're in the middle of a heatwave here - couldn't do a thing today....what a waste of a weekend 😢

Did I mention I totally detest the heat—

Yeah, but yours gets to start nearly 24 hours before ours... And, we are in the middle of a freeze (it got 23 degrees F last night).

We had a massive heatwave this summer. I think we are still in level 3 water rationing (thankfully, it is winter).

"Did I mention I totally detest the heat—"

Haha! Maybe you should move to Canada... Cold!!

hmmm yes we're on tight water restrictions too 😢 And this house of mine is taking way too much effort to look after on my own....grrrrrrr...might sell

I was thinking of moving there, but after winter hit... I am not quite sure a little ole' Texas girl could cut it in Canada.

Besides, it is hard to look sexy when you are wearing 15 layers of clothes (but, I could if need be 😉)...

Noooooooooo I don't like the cold either - just in between would be PERFECT all year round

lol@15 layers of clothes!!! I won't even say how much Im NOT wearing at the moment....man its stifling hot!!

I'd kill for a place that actually has 4 seasons... We have spring and summer. And, we do have fall and winter for about a week (combined 😉).

I love fall... My favorite season. The beautiful colors of the leaves falling, vibrant and intense. Life hunkering down...

"I won't even say how much Im NOT wearing at the moment....man its stifling hot!!"

Hahaha! That is what is bad about the heat. You can only take off sooo much (and then your naked and hot, hahaha!)...

Go hop in the cold shower and don't dry off...

done that twice already LOL...nah the air conditioning works well here thank goodness and yeah the fall = autumn we call it is a nice time of the year, but then again so is spring 🙂.....we're never happy so just ignore me!!!