A whole month?

I like this libra girl, and I've been pursuing her for a year now. Today I called her to get coffee and she said she would be busy for the rest of the month, but to call her in October. So, thats what I'm going to do. Now I have to figure out how to keep my mind off her until then. Any ideas?

What? You have been pursuing her for a whole year? And she is busy the rest of the month and cant even spare half an hour to get a cup of coffee and talk with you? Call her in October? And you are going to do it?

OMG......Please, let her go!

There isn't anyone else that I want.

Okay.
Tell her how you feal. And find out if she is interested or not.
With Libra everything is Yes/No.
If she say she is not interested or has a boyfriend. Move on! :-)
The best way to forget her is:
1: Destroy everything related to her, pictures, email, chat recors, phone nr EVERYTHING2
2: Go out and start dating, going to clubs and meet many other people. And in 1-2 weeks she is forgotten.

She knows how I feel, and she doesn't have a boyfriend. She has told me a few times she isn't interested in me romantically, but, you don't need to be romantically interested in someone to get coffee with them, and once she told me that the reason she wasn't sure if we should hang out was because we don't know each other. If she wasn't at all interested in any way, like not even in being friends, then why would she tell me to call her in October?

She is NOT interested in you. At all.

Trust me ... there are few things more uncomfortable then being around men who "like" you when you do not return the feelings.

She told you to call her in October because no one in their right mind wouldn't get it. She isn't interested in you. I have a busy social calendar, if I don't set up a date with you ... you don't see me. she didn't set up a date. She doesn't want to see.

Sorry to be so hard but that is just the way it is. She isn't into you and she doesn't want to be friends with a man that has feelings for her ... because that is wrong.

little_sparrow, I understand what you're saying. If she was interested, it wouldn't really matter how busy she was. After a year of having me pursue her though, I would think she would use more drastic measures to shake me off than telling me to wait a month before calling her again. So, I think she wants to test me, either to see if maybe this time I will accept the hint and drop it, or to see if I'll actually wait until then to call her again. I don't think that it would be wrong for her to get coffee with me one time, and it's not something I would want to do more than once if it didn't go well. So I'm not asking her to be my friend or anything, I'm just asking her to get coffee with me once because I want to see what would happen. I have a feeling it would go well, and at the same time I'm willing to accept that it might not. I could take the hint and drop it, but I would still want it if I did. To me, if I still want to get coffee with her when October rolls around, and she told me to call her in October, I should do it.

She might be wondering whether to get out of her current relationship or not. and trying to keep you in hold. I know many librans who do that.

She's not in a current relationship.

Its sooo cute that you are persistant and really really like this girl, but if it doesnt work out in your favor, dont let this stop you from treating the next girl (who maybe the one) just as good as you do this girl.

GoodLuck with your wait.

It won't 😉

At least I hope not.

Wait A Minute:

Your Mr. Annoying...why are you still chasing her? Did she ever go to the gym with you? God I hope she's worth it...

Seriously though if it doesnt work, don't change...it sucks when you get a guy, who use to be nice, but thrrough messy circumstances CHANGED and treats you (the right girl) terrible.

Update please

"A loser behind me for one year as if he has no other job... lemme see how much i can play with his mind"... thats next thought if she is not in a relationship.... and though libra is not necessarly in a relationship, she is weighing some up and downs about someone else... if that fails, you may get a chance.

Well look, I haven't even always treated her very well. I've lightly sexually harassed her, and even though it was around a bunch of friends and I was joking, it's still not really a good thing to do. It kind of gets that way when we're around friends where we compete for the center of attention. I think I said that already in a previous post, but yeah, we each try to degrade each other in front of our friends to make ourselves look better and put the spotlight on us. At least thats what I think, having read other leo libra accounts where similar things happen. It isn't always that way, but I think that it's the reason things are the way they are.

I know she's playing with me. Should I tell her I know that so she knows that she's only being allowed to play with me because I'm letting her, and not because I don't know what's going on?

Oh this is worst than I thought...lightly sexual harrass her...tsk tsk

Let her know, and be assertive, dont let her bullshit you any longer...she might just give in... or RUNAWAY 😛

We were at the gym and she was bending over a sit-up bench thing, and I told her to stay like that. That was it. Oh yeah and then another time we were all drinking at a bar and I tried throwing bits of paper down her shirt from across the table. None of them went in, and she threw ice at me. I dunno. I'm not going to hang out with other girls with the sole purpose of seeing if she'll come sniffing around. I don't think thats right. I will and have hung out with other girls recently, because I wanted to hang out with them.

I guess a libran girl enjoys such comments than taking it as sexual harrassment. But since its been a year and she havent shown much of an interest, you can drop it. I know its hard to knock it off ur mind when you think abt her eyes and butt. but try to find another girl...

Rock on Rockchick!

Look the girl is NOT interested in you. She has told you straight out she is not interested in you romantically. She has told you she doesn't want to be your friend. Doesn't want to get to know you better etc. The poor girl has given you every excuse she can think of SHE IS NOT INTERESTED IN YOU.

The longer and more you persist, the more you are going to scare her. I am not kidding.

This is not cute. It is creepy.

Here is a great article on Nice Guys and nice guys. Perhaps it will put what you are doing into persepective. http://divalion.livejournal.com/163615.html

Actually she has told me she would be friends, and never that she didn't want to be so... yeah. I don't know how many times I've explained that there are other girls I've been checking out. People aren't reading everything.

She was telling you she didn't want to hang out with you because she didn't know you. That is what I was refering to.

"once she told me that the reason she wasn't sure if we should hang out was because we don't know each other."

Okay, well, so thats what she said. This time she told me to call her in October, so I'm going to, and we'll see what happens then.

I am Libra, and if i had you creeping around me like that i would have have set you straight long ago. I dont know what her game is..but she is sooo not interested. Not now, not October, not ever. Get that into your head. My guess is that she is terrified of you, and no wonder! Get some self-respect and a backbone..invest your emotions in someone who will reciprocate. And lastly, leave her alone!!

I didn't post this thread to find out if she was interested or not. I mean duh, she's not, but occasionally she does something that makes me wonder. Things like, inviting me to join sporting events she's participating in, being friendly when she probably doesn't need to be. Not things that make me think she's romantically interested, but things that seem to contradict the trend of her being freaked out by my obsessive behavior. I posted this more as a way to find out if there was a chance this could be just a test, and some people think it might be. I could see how it could be, but it seems more likely that it's not.

banini, Libras always flirt. With the waiter, the mailman, the doctor, etc. It's just what they do. You're reading way too much into things, if she had any genuine interest in you she would have accepted one of your many invitations. Take it for what it's worth and move one or continue to let her toy with you.

Or set up a creepy shrine and cast voodoo love spells. For that you'll need a lock of her hair and eye of newt.

yeah...

Okay now I have a question. The mutual friend that this girl and I share just messaged me and said he wants to hang out tonight, and suggested we find out what she was doing too. This was his idea not mine. I haven't seen our mutual friend in weeks, and I would like to. Should I go along and pretend the girl doesn't exist, or should I tell him I don't want to see her and we should do something else?

Its late... you've probaly made your decision...

So what did ya do?

Well, actually, it's not that late where I live, and I haven't done anything yet.

okay nm, our mutual friend is a but whole. in case the situation arises again, what do you guys think?

If he wants to invite her he cna, but dont let her know that you'll be there, she might think its your idea and decline the invitation.

I think your mutual friend is looking for some entertainment at your expense.

Well even if I make sure she doesn't know I'm coming, she still might think it was my idea when I show up. I don't think I'll be in this situation anytime soon though cuz my friend never called me and says he guesses he just fell asleep? wtf. I don't think I'll be doing anything with him for a while.

Its not easy chasing a libran girl. all u get is get to know her playful nature and flirting side. trust me if she was interested, she would have been out with you long time back. There are lots of other libran girls arnd if u r specific abt libra. why not chk out the ones who got some way special eyes gently caressing her hair next time you go to a pub.