In Praise of the Libra Woman

The Libra woman is endowed with charms from the moment she is born, which makes her be preoccupied with highlighting all her qualities rather than shaping one in particular. According to some old astrological beliefs, the Libra woman is the ideal lover, which could be true from many points of view. If we are talking about ancient beliefs, we can trust them; the medieval ones should be doubted though, because they refer to the perfect woman as a physical presence in society.

Indeed, the Libra woman knows like no other woman to be genuinely feminine, from her most rebel hair to the most (apparently) insignificant ply of her gown. With her, everything is well matched and added because it has to mark out the perfect combination of colours, shapes and gestures. Her way of dressing is always cheerful and deliberately chosen, like a balance between extravagance and common sense. Her jewels are always exquisite and her perfumes make you want to hug her, to possess her like an adornment meant to enchant the rest of your life.

The Libra woman is, indeed, made to receive appreciation, compliments, declarations, to capture looks, men, love and when she is more profane, even money. She loves getting involved into relationships - her life would not make sense without socializing - and sometimes even getting married. She gets married very easily, not necessarily to have a husband, but to have a "mate".

The Libra woman is not the traditional kind of woman. She is not interested in the idea of family and/or in reproduction. She takes great interest in complementarity, opposition, polarization, both affective and erotic. You will always recognize a Libra woman by the nice fragrance she leaves behind her and the pleasure with which she buys anything concerning her physical appearance and her personal beauty.

Dating the Libra woman
The Libra woman likes manifesting and displaying herself, falling in conversations, being admired and taken pictures of, being part of social events (even the less important ones), being present at gatherings (be it a countryside wedding or a revolution) and she is crazy about love notes. To make sure she gets them, she will be the first to write them.

The Libra woman can hardly wait for you to invite her out, not necessarily to be together, but to be introduced to someone - to a reunion, to a group of friends, to her future mother-in-law, and why not, to her former/present/possible future rival. If you ended up in the presence of many people though, don't make the mistake to be silent or gloomy or to confine her freedom of expression.

Just like the Gemini woman, the Libra woman has a lot to talk about and she is eager to find out many things, not necessarily because she is interested in knowledge, but because she knows a lot about many people and she loves being told all kinds of stories and anecdotes. If you happen to find the Libra woman with another woman, be sure that she is not gossiping, but she is only trying to catch up with the events from her neighbourhood or from the high society.

If, God forbid, you happened to upset a Libra woman, you'd better have some money on you to take her to a market, anywhere, no matter if it's a bazaar or a luxurious shop, not necessarily to buy something, but to see. First of all, take some long walks where gewgaws (bracelets, rings, necklaces, earrings) can be found. They always work. This will relax and immediately cheer her up

Once you reached home, don't commit the mistake to take the Libra woman directly to bed. Firstly, make her some love confessions and slowly undress her, showing your admiration for the cut and the quality of the fabric that "conceals" her. Go in raptures about the most shocking or the finest piece of lingerie that she is wearing and shiver at her allusive touching, her adolescent sensuality, as if she discovers sexual communion for the first time.

The Libra woman is a refined human being and any blunder, rudeness or sign of greed can take you on the other side of her door, with all your things in your hands.

I don't think so.

What makes you say that?

Do you mean sexually or something else?

A libra will devote themselves to their partner. Getting us to commit, TRULY commit to you and to see you as our true partner is the problem.

Once we see you as our true partner, there is nothing we won't do or try to do for you.

Well I can be in a committed relationship with someone and not be fully committed. Not that I would cheat, I would just keep my toes out the door and not fully give my heart. I have only fully given my heart once.

You have to be the complete package for me to commit fully to you.

I agree (again)! with Sparrow on all points. It describes my approach to life perfectly..im so in love with my Libra sign.....

Aloha Sola!

Hey, how are you? I like your original post...its beautiful in its truth!

I am alrighty! How are you doing?

I actually stole it from another site. Thief!

I get tired of all the misunderstanding around our sign. I think it is a very complex sign, we are the only inanimate object in the zodiac, and people don't look deeply at it. It is kind of tragic to me.

huh?

What are you talking about? Where in the article does it say that?

no one is saying you have to do anything. do what you want.

No.

Sometimes you can love someone, sometimes you can be in love with someone, but still not see them as your life partner. I will only fully commit to someone who is my lifepartner. Next time we will actually need to walk all the way down the ailse for me to commit fully.

In the days of disposable relationships, a girl has to protect her heart. There is only so much breakage we can take.

I sincerly believe for a libra it is worse because our whole selves, our whole indentities, get so intertwined with our lover that we can completely lose balance unless we keep a small part of ourselves for ourselves.

Not rude at all. 🙂

Not saying men don't have broken hearts too.

I have no idea what I am doing. lol! But it isn't really fair to ask because I am going through a bit of an identity crisis at the moment spurred by the latest Leo and realizing I no longer am in love with my ex. I am in redefinition and am uncertain what would make me happy and what sort of man would make me happy.

I have a very hard time hurting people and telling them I am not attracted to them. Also, it is only in the last few years I have realized I am very attractive and appealing. As a result, I sometimes get sucked into relationships with people who I really like, even love, and try very, very hard to fall in love with them but don't.

I just have a hard time with the whole "no" thing. lol!

You take life too seriously angel. You need to have fun.

They lie on the floor so you have to bend over and pick them up. You also realize it isn't the end of the world and EVERYONE goes through it. And we all survive.

You shouldn't be dating right now. There will be lots of time when you are less wounded. But if you get involved with someone right now, you are only going to break their heart. It is a vicious cycle.

The solution doesn't lie in other people. The solution lies within. You need to come to terms with yourself. You need to develop a support system of friends who you can rely on. Get out and meet people not to date but to cure some of the loneliness. I know it is the last thing you feel like doing but I have been there.

My big heartbreak became a great teacher to me and I learned how to love people and how to be loved. Allow this time to be your teacher.

It gets better. Trust me.

Something I heard once ... sometimes the only way out of the forest is through the swamp. You have to go through the muck to get to the otherside.

You'll be okay. Promise.

Have you seen someone about your depression?

Your relationships won't work because no one can make you happy or unhappy.

Listen up to me and Sparrow ok..Libra?s rule. We are good/bad, decent/indecent,lovers/haters..our beauty lies in our contradiction. Dont question it, accept it..

our beauty lies in our contradiction. Dont question it, accept it..

LOVE it! LOVE it!

Depressed

I didn't know how to socialize until I went out and did it. Over and over and over again. Now, I LOVE people and can't get enough.

Just take an interest in them and they will respond.

Totally ditto, i cant get enough of people either, but only when i choose company..i hate to have it inflicted on me!!

I like one-to-one?s too, and yet i enjoy being centre of attention too. There go my contradictions!!! Who cares if people think you?re boring, your interested and that?s all that should matter.

** I really don't like to be the center of attention.

But that is just it! Make THEM the center of attention.

** And i am often too lost in my own thoughts analyzing things again and again that i could even walk by on a friend without noticing.

I do this all the time too. My friends know I mean well.

But the thing is that even if you are in a group, you are generally only talking to one other person. You don't have to talk to them about your interests ... find out what they do ... who they are ... what they like to do ... find out all about them. People are bloody fascinating. They really are!

Yip, be the centre of attention by ?pretending?to make the other person/people feel like the?re in the centre..It works every time..trust me.

You need me and Sparrow to help you..here?s how.
1) Act confident, even if you?re not feeling it. No need to be overt, but casually coll is sufficient

2) Dont talk about yourself at all..at first. It can be added to the convo later, and by that time, you?ll have already made a new best friend.

3) In the event of boredom, smile. There?s not always a need for words.

4) You?re made!!

Good lord ... I was a complete grey mouse. I was very anti-other-children.

Don't worry about it. Just have fun.

As Sola is saying, it isn't about YOU it is about THEM. Find out everything about the other person. People love talking about themselves. Personally I love hearing about them. It can be really fun.

Well ... you have to decide .... do you want to be lonely or not.

If not, then you have to follow up on your obligations. There are different degrees of friendship. Some friends I talk to everyday. Some I don't see or talk to for months. It just depends.

Agaiiin. im with Sparrow!

Its not about beauty, im only recently considered as attractive, and thats only since i got more and more confident (that is confident, not arrogant)!! Major difference..no one likes an asshole. I was also queer at school, chose not to have friends etc, i didnt like kids at school.

*** I was also queer at school, chose not to have friends etc, i didnt like kids at school.

Interesting, that you had this experience as well Sola. hmmmm ... I wonder what that means.

depressed

you have to want to help yourself. that is what it comes down too.

you really should see someone about your depression. life is not meant to be lived with only sorrow.

Well Sparrow, for me it was that I simply didnt like anyone!! I couldnt connect, and could only bear the company for the duration of the school day. I was a total loner, and happy that way. When i got older, i realised that i needed some kind of network, and i set about creating one. It wasnt something i ever worrried about though.

Depressed Angel. you need professional help..sorry to be blunt about it. And p.s..self-pity isnt a good talking-point.

Quit your job, and do some travelling. Its the mother of all cures!!

** Well Sparrow, for me it was that I simply didnt like anyone!! I couldnt connect, and could only bear the company for the duration of the school day. I was a total loner, and happy that way. When i got older, i realised that i needed some kind of network, and i set about creating one. It wasnt something i ever worrried about though.

OMG! This is exactly what happened to me! My mom always said I was stuck up but I wasn't. I just couldn't relate. I LOVED being alone. I was a complete loner. Weird.

I agree with sola on the self-pity. It is hard to like someone who is down. They just drag you down. People like happy people.

You are very depressed. If I can feel it half-way across the world, it is a pretty strong depression.

DepressedAngel,

You sound a LOT like me; I mean it's eerie. I also have Moon in Aquarius. I don't know if it's the same for you, but my perspectives on a lot of things are so melancholy, pessimistic, and generally dark, although people would never know that. To the world, I am a happy face 🙂, except my occasional slip where I verbalize something cynical. Sometimes that makes it worse as I drown in my repressed emotions, but I don't want to become a burden to those around me. I don't consider this depression, as it is not temporary, it is really a fixed perspective, a life perspective, a world perspective. I don't see it as a problem that therapy or drugs can fix. It's a part of me that I know probably won't go away, unfortunately. An inability to cope with it would definitely be a problem, but I can't say for sure if you have such a problem, since this is a message board, and you are likely much more expressive of your insecurities/gloominess than you may be in real life.

Why don,t you Libras ever try Pisces ?

Because they are a water sign. They are too emotionally needy. They would pull us down. I never meet Pisces. Libras need joy and optimistic lovers that can cheer us up when we start to get down. If they wallow with us, we get depressed.

Plus, I have one Pisces friend. She is more than enough.

I find water signs are all about power and getting the upper hand. I am all about cooperation and getting along. It can work in a friendship because friendship by definition is more shared and the power balance is less important.

** you have moon in aqua dp why the hell can,t you just detach yourself .

because he is a Libra. Libra becomes defined by their lover. When we truly love someone, we become completely devoted. Libras are detached from pretty much everything but our lover. If we choose you as our lover and commit, detachment can take years because our very self has been carefully constructed to make YOU happy.

because he is a Libra. Libra becomes defined by their lover. When we truly love someone, we become completely devoted. Libras are detached from pretty much everything but our lover. If we choose you as our lover and commit, detachment can take years because our very self has been carefully constructed to make YOU happy.""

So true.
Issues arise with me when I feel like I'm too catering, and my needs aren't being met... I can get evil... so I've learned to detach somewhat so that I'm sure not to lose myself in a relationship and put that much pressure and responsibility on my lover

I am an Aries man, married to a Libra woman.

She beautiful, maddening, soft, angry, shallow, deep, sweet, distance, high spirited, quiet, a wild cat, a shy mouse, smart, self centered and thoughtful.

Get the picture! As my friends and family say she will give you brain damage... but damn... she is sexy and smart!

Good luck if you are with a Libra woman. It won't be dull!!!!!!

I have survived 5 years. wish me luck!

Awww, what a lovely post!! Libra and Aries are great together!