Appreciate any advice at all on this man! :)

So, I've been lurking you guys for months! Love this board. Finally figured I'd create a profile and ask a question that has plagued my mind for a bit. Posted this in Scorpio board because of all the placements they suggested I post here!

So I've been dating a Libra man with a Scorpio stellium for 10 months (Moon 12 house, Venus 12 house, Mercury 11, Uranus 12) I know how difficult 12 house and Scorpio placements can be in love.

Anyhow, we've spent a lot of time together even though we live an hour apart. We have talked daily, sometimes for hours. I had some issues with him not really wanting to have sex with me for awhile. I wanted passion. I called him on it twice and he always claimed that he was extremely physically attracted to me, even calling me "out of his league" but would never really open up about why. This went on for the duration of a 6 month period.

I just recently split with him for what I assumed was for good because of the elusive, confusing and control games he was playing. I told him "he wasn't who I thought and to leave me alone." I didn't speak to him for 6 weeks, he was shocked by this (I was at his beckon call for 10 months) I don't think he thought I had the strength to do that. He actually said "I'm calling your bluff". He finally broke down and text me, after seeing me out with mutual friends. He said he missed seeing and talking to me and that he was sorry that "he is too f'd up to make anything like that work". No idea what that means. Anyways, we ended up hanging out as friends and by the end of the night he was ravishing me. I let it go as a good time. We hungout two days later and it was even more intense sex...like 6 hours intense. CRAZY awesome! Eye contact for 6 hours straight.

My question... why would he go from rarely having mediocre sex while we were dating, to completely having open sex with that seems intimate after me not speaking to him for 6 weeks? 10 months for him to open up sexually?? He also told me that he smashed him laptop over his leg when I said I couldnt talk to him anymore? Another thing is now that i've seen him these three times he follows me if im on phone, tries to see who im texting and overall is showing signs of jealousy seems intense considering where were at, no? Why would he get pissed if he was the one who said he couldnt do a relationship— Confused. sex things seems odd to me...

Typical case of he wants what he can't have. You made yourself an easy prize the first time around and he basically wasn't appreciating it.

You booked it, he realized you were serious and realized what he lost. It's all about that desire to want what he can't have.

Also, be wary- when Libra guys aren't the ones to call it quits, they're likely to come back around and could eventually end it on THEIR terms. Once that happens, you won't see them again. If all this works out and you walking off was a smack of reality across his face, and how he's shaping up, cool. But don't be surprised if this fizzles out quickly and he takes off because now HE'S decided that this is done.

I've definetly considered that possibility! Especially with all that vengeful Scorpio inhis chart. How wouldyou suggest I progress in order to try and keep some control of the situation?

tiziana I think you're right!!! My gut told me that then! What is it the deal with the control? Jeez

Just another thing he said to try and control me. While talking on FB
Me: Hey, I need your undivided attention, Please! haha 🙂
Him: Okay, Hon. Im here.
Me: Now If I can just get you to come visit whenever I ask.
Him: Maybe i think people say yes to you too often.
Me: Ughh what does that mean? Strategic no's on purpose?
Him: Name one person besides me that won't give you want you want. Being withholding is one of life pleasures!

How is that for a mind fuck!!!!!

Excellent advice Tiziani! So you think I'm fucked huh? No turning this around? Just gotta walk? Thank you for your wise input 🙂

What will happen if I don't show withdrawal symptoms? Continues the cycle?

I'm trying to keep a clear head. It's hard but I am not going to let this man bring me down! To me it seems that only someone incredibly insecure would need control so bad.

I can see that. I guess I miss the point of his behavior? Just to see what he can accomplish? Why do this for so long? Purely for fun? Very odd.

Because scorp/scorp placements are douchebags like that.

Scorp/scorp placements can be really difficult! The thing is I KNOW he actually does care about me. I just don't understand why waste all this time with these control games. Was it really worth it? What was his desired outcome? Already thrown myself out there for him.... wah wah wah 😢 haha

Posted by SweetLibra
That Tiziani sure is a wise man. Excellent assessment and advice. I'd listen to it if I were you Helium.

+1000000

Love me some Tizi! Wise he is about the male Libra games or not.

Tiziana want to be my life coach? haha. Libra wants to drive an hour to see me today, I said yes... I know, I know. I'm fully aware of the danger but I'm going to take it for what it is and not invest an ounce of emotions anymore. Want to friends? Sure, we're friends!

Posted by heliumfiasco
Tiziana want to be my life coach? haha. Libra wants to drive an hour to see me today, I said yes... I know, I know. I'm fully aware of the danger but I'm going to take it for what it is and not invest an ounce of emotions anymore. Want to friends? Sure, we're friends!

Wish I was getting laid today! 😄

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Posted by heliumfiasco
Tiziana want to be my life coach? haha. Libra wants to drive an hour to see me today, I said yes... I know, I know. I'm fully aware of the danger but I'm going to take it for what it is and not invest an ounce of emotions anymore. Want to friends? Sure, we're friends!

Wish I was getting laid today! 😄

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this is your lucky day cause i need a tablecloth. Will you pretend to be one just for a few hours? 😛
Girl do go wild when drunk, so you might get a few glimpses up a few skirts when they start table dancing & not to mention ass prints. Deal?