Aries & Libra...Frenemies?

Sooo, I'm an Aries female (Moon in Leo, Gemini Ascendant), and I have a Libra friend (Moon in Gemini, unknown Ascendant.)
Not only are our sun signs opposites, but the weeks we were born in are exactly opposing (almost to the DAY.)
We??re so widely different that I'm often surprised we haven't been reduced to slap-fighting yet.

Our differences make it really difficult to stand each other, most days. I feel like we do better hanging out in small doses and with other people around to help referee. It's hard to have serious conversations, because I like to get straight to the point and he's all wishy-washy--we??re much more suited for snarking.

Sometimes it's like he's sitting on a pedestal, looking down his nose at me, and I relish in knocking him back down, and then we??re annoyed with each other, but it's damn-near impossible to stay that way. We have a strange sort of magnetism, and it makes it hard to hold grudges, despite how easy it is to piss each other off.

I would never dream of dating someone so repressed. He's far too picky and indecisive, and cares too much about appearances and what other people think, but at the same time denies that any of that is true. Just hearing him talk about what he??d prefer in a girlfriend makes me cringe, and it drives me insane knowing when he's thinking something but just won't spit it out!

And then??_we have these moments of shared weakness. I??ll be tired and quiet and soft spoken, because being so fiery can honestly be exhausting. He??ll be tired, too, but more from maintaining that aloof front, and then suddenly, FINALLY he's open. He??ll curl up in my arms and I won't make fun of him for being a sissy or anything I normally would, and I??ll just silently stroke his hair and he??ll pay me a sincere compliment for once, and it's completely bizarre. We??ll fall asleep wrapped up in each other and then wake up reluctant to move, because when we do its back to our regular routine and all the tenderness is gone. We won't say a word about it, but it inevitably happens again and again, and our other friends see all of this happening but I'm not sure what they think about it.

I definitely wouldn't say that I'm smitten. I think about us being in a committed romantic relationship, and it makes me want to laugh.

I guess I'm not really seeking advice on anything, but it's still a story I thought I'd share and see if anyone can relate.

Posted by Perspicacity
Interesting. I think my Sag rising makes me get along better with Ariens than I normally would. Out of curiosity, what decante are you?

Second Decan/Leo Decante, ruled by the sun.

Posted by size zero superhero
Those two(bolded)points are directly contradictory, LOL. Just sayin'.

To address your question; Overall I consider Aries shockingly agreeable, particularly in contrast to the belligerent, aggressive astro-stereotype often associated with the sign. Quite frankly, I know of & have met more abrasive Libras & Leos for instance, versus far fewer disagreeable Arians.

Among the traits Libras & Aries have in common? On a social level, Aries & Libra company is equally high in demand. Both like to argue, but aren't likely to take disagreement personally nor hold grudges.

One common Aries quality that I appreciate is how I can talk to an Aries for extended lengths of time without them overtaking the conversation, losing my attention span or experiencing/detecting boredom in the process. That aspect of interaction is pretty important to me, thus I am a Libra with many Aries friends.

I think "contradictory" is simply just the main problem in this entire scenario, lol.

Of the Libras I've met, both male and female, I have yet to meet one who doesn't immediately set me on edge. Even the most laidback of Libras (including the one I've specifically described) and I seem to just clash. It then becomes important that I pay more attention to body language and facial expressions, and less to what's being said, because Libras are just never straightforward with me.

I would LIKE to get along better with Libras, being as most are certainly likeable enough--they're popular, I'm popular, what could go wrong?--but I have to jump through hoops just to make any headway.

Blah.

I know this is for Libra and Aries, but

DXP's perception of Libra's surprised me-- it's been my experience that at the end of the day, Libra's will do the right thing.

And they're so much fun.

It's easy to see why Aries would find themselves in orbit around Libra (and vice versa)-- whether they like it, or not.

My best friend is a Libra (Virgo Moon) and I love her to death. We've been friends for 7 years now (wow time flies when you're having fun) and it's been a LDR surprisingly (because 90% of our relationship was spent apart) and it's worked. I think that distance gives us enough space where we can't strangle one another... lol I keed. We love each other, it's like we're soul sister. I believe our relationship works because we have very open communication so I"m very patient with her and I let her take her time in expressing her self also take her time in expressing her long drawn out stories to get to a point. And she lets me be me and say what I want because she knows I mean well on the inside. Lots and lots of communication.

Maybe try exercising that with your Libra friend Porcelain doll and who knows it might just turn into a beautiful relationship 🙂.

My closest friends and people I seem to connect with most often are Aries and Pisces. All women.