Confused about Libra guy :P

I co-sign everything dreamer23 said.

fuzzywolf.. this Libra man is not the love of your life.. but he IS the catalyst that woke you from your long sleep, gave you motivation and a reason to finally take care of yourself better and recognize the things in your life that aren't making you happy. Can you imagine that there is someone out there for you.. a better fit and a bigger love than the Pisces OR this Libra? There is... and you are now taking baby steps to get there, and to be ready for it.

Settle your marriage.. either take your newfound changes and use them to better your marriage and work things out, or get out of your marriage, freeing both you and the Pisces to move on. Leaving things the way they are won't help anyone -- you'll be just like you are now, only feel 100x worse, with 1000x the intensity.

You don't need ME to tell you that the Libra is enjoying all of the perks that go along with this.. sex, company, companionship, financial help, emotional support, ego stroking... and all very "safe" for him because he's not only got a backup plan (the other woman he TOLD you about!)... there's a trump card up his sleeve.. you're married.

You, my dear, are in what they call an FWB situation -- where you caught feelings. But you know all this, because you FEEL all that already.. your post screams it. You know this isn't how LOVE feels, how a good relationship feels. But this infatuation and hot affair broke you out of your frozen state and is propelling you into a new state.

I'm not here to judge you. Your choices are your own. You are in control of you and ONLY you. Better your life, find the things that make you feel good, let go of the things that feel bad, and the rest (ie. love and relationships) will fall into place MUCH easier than your current struggle.

Best of luck to you.

Thank you for your input. Yes, a "victim" because I couldn't resist his charm...and yes, part of me knows of course. Denial is strong when one is hungry for that good fuzzy stuff we all crave to have in life. Nefer, you are right, he couldn't have come across a better opportunity given the situation, although I suppose I'm benefiting too as you said, because he is the catalyst that woke me up. Too bad we didn't meet under better circumstances, but there's a purpose to everything that happens in life.

it's not surprising that he talked to you even though you were fat (and libras do definitely care about this). libras don't just see what's in front of them, they see potential too, what someone could do if they feel like doing it. you probably have a pretty bone structure and nice complexion, otherwise he wouldn't have bothered, so i'm sure you look quite nice now.

it's funny what a reputation libras have for supposedly being cheaters, when we're much more likely to be the person someone in a relationship cheats with.

buy his dogs food if you want. that's sweet. don't buy him food. don't buy him anything. i shouldn't really need to explain all the reasons why. just don't.

he isn't in the right place for a relationship, even if you left your husband. men can't be happy in a relationship unless they're at least mostly ok with the rest of their lives. his is a mess. don't even bother. either continue with what you've got, or stop, but it's not moving any further.