Confused About Libra Male Friend-Need Advice

I reconnected with a male friend of mine all the way back from elementary school about a month or so ago (we are in our mid 40's). As of right now, all I know is that he is single, lives alone with his dog, is somewhat active but also likes being a home-body and what we have in common is the love of motorcycles and motorsports. His personal life outside of our "getting to know each other" phase is of no concern to me due to the fact that he has never brought it up.

We went on a motorcycle procession for a special event about 2 weeks ago. I am part of a riding club for the local American Legion and I invited him along. He enjoyed himself and afterwards, we had a couple non-alcoholic drinks back at the legion and talked for a while. He "never" asked me any questions about myself whatsoever. It seemed like I had to initiate everything from going to find a place to sit to finding topics to talk about. This libra male made it uncomfortable and actually a little hard for me to even socialize with him (this is where I question the typical libra being social and somewhat flirtatious). He knew I was married and if this bothered him, I am sure he would have shown it in some way (or would have declined to join me on the motorcycle ride). He did not show any interest or ask any questions (Ex: Why isn't your husband here? Does he ride or is he also a member with the Legion? etc, etc).

At this point I was getting a little frustrated and had nothing to lose. Again, I started the conversation and told him straight out that my husband has no interest in motorcycles or any of my hobbies whatsoever so I am free to do as I wish. After that he mentioned his last girlfriend (finally) and told me how things didn't work out basically because she bought a house behind his back. This was after he told her the area the house was located was way to far for him to get to work. They never lived together so I am guessing he was thinking "she was the one" and obviously she wasn't. It ended a little over a year ago.

That night after the motorcycle ride, he texted me his phone number and said he would rather text than messaged using facebook. I agreed and then after that he told me he wanted to join the American Legion where I was at. That shocked the **** out of me but then again, he is a navy vet. I asked him why and he said cause it seemed fun and they are a great group of people (apparently it had nothing to do with me being a member and us being able to continue our friendship or him even wanting to see me now and then).

Now, here it gets confusing. I told him that he can call or text me anytime. I thought after we spent that day together, having fun & communicating our current situations, etc that he felt comfortable enough for me to tell him that. His response was a simple "ok". That was over a week ago and he has yet to call me without me asking him to "or" I always have to text him first. Another confusing thing is that he told me he was going on a ride to a Harley dealer. They were having some kind of event and I said it sounds like fun. He NEVER asked me if I wanted to go (even after several hints that I think even a rock would have noticed). The day before the trip, I had to text him and ask him straight out if he wanted company cause I would like to go. He said "cool, meet me at the corner store tomorrow at 10am"....After a great day, I followed him back to his house. I asked him if he was comfortable with it and he said yes. We parked our motorcycles, went over some of the stuff he purchased, talked outside for about a half hour, met his dog and I was ready to say goodbye. I went to give him a hug and I caught him off guard. Apparently the hug did not bother him as we went and I signed him up at the Legion as a member the next day. We talked about the trip we took and left it at that. I did not approach him to give him a hug and wanted to see what would happen...well, NOTHING happened. Not even a thank you for coming with him and signing him up as a member to ride with us. I even bought his drink and when I was done mine, he didn't even offer to return the favor to get me one..hmmmm?

I am soooo confused at this point it is driving me crazy. He is familiar with the biker culture and everyone hugs everyone..even the dude's! We are all brothers and sisters and it is a way of life. He has never texted me first, hasn't called me on his own accord or if he see's I am on facebook he NEVER messages me to just say hello. I am beyond clueless and need help here...PLEASE!

Come on guys..anyone out there that can help me ou? Yes it is a somewhat long post and I apologize for that but wanted to give you certain events that have lead me to this confusion.

My advice; get more friends.

The way you are hanging so much on this one particular friendship indicates to me that you need more options.

Posted by blvckphase
Why so much effort put into understanding this guy when you are already married? I stopped reading after that.. you wrote way too many concerned paragraphs for a married woman..

I am married but separated...my bad for not getting into more detail.

Why so much effort in wanting to get to know this guy? Because we have the same interests and we are now going to be seeing each other more often due to him now being a Legion member. Also the few times we were together we had a good time. Virgo's are known for holding friendships close to their heart and this is one thing that is important to me.

As far as pursuing this man, the last time I asked him to call me was when he went on a 5+ hour ride out to PA to the Flight 93 Memorial. He did call me and we talked for about 45 minutes about his experience and what the memorial was like. That was over a week ago and I have not texted or tried to contact him in any way.

I have friends of the opposite sex and yes, they are all platonic. Some married, some single and some with girlfriends. I've never had an experience like this where it seemed so tiring to try to just talk about something or get a conversation going. I was also surprised by his rudeness with no appreciation for signing him up at the club nor acting like a man (let alone a gentleman) offering me a drink after I already paid for his.

He is acting totally opposite of what is being said of the libra. Also, as mentioned in another reply in regards to maybe he does not like me...We are going to an out of state rally in December via tour bus and we will be sitting next to each other for the whole trip. If this was true, I'm sure he would not be going.

I'm looking for insight for this particular situation and instead, I have been judged by my current relationship status. Can someone please overlook this, now that you have more information and help me with some insight please?

So no one has any advice?...And no, I am not leaving the friendship..just looking for some insight.

It just doesn't seem like much of a friendship.

You had to ask him to call you. He wont on his initiative.

He doesn't make any effort to engage you in conversation.

You think he is not a "gentleman". He doesn't show you appreciation or buy you things.

You are hopeful that he does like you because in three months you're going to sit next to one another.

I guess personally there doesnt seem like the current description of what you are calling a friendship is much to hang your hat on but you are because he makes your fanny flutter. Now you are looking for depth where it seems there is none.

If that's the case, no amount of considered reflection is going to have much impact on trying to get you to see a different possibility.

You're going to do what you want to do.