Confused About What Libra Wants

Hi there,

I'm cancer and have feelings for a libra lady. We have/had a relationship for 3 months.
As a typical cancer, I was protective and possesive. We had some quarrels and I realized that it because of my possessive nature. But I didn't know or realize it when it was happening.
As I know libras need space and love their freedom, I tried not to be possesive. I think it was a little late when I decided it cause she was already hold back.

I tried to communicate and tell her I understand what she needs. I can give her space but I also want the things/relationship to be as it was before. She told me that I use 'my love' as an excuse for the things I've done (which is to be possesive, to be jealous, etc..)..To be sure I asked "is our relationship over?" and she replied "if it's done we didn't communicate now" but also said "She has no time for anyone, She has her problems and everyone wants her to do something, everyone around her is selfish and expect something" (that everyone includes me, especially me..)

After this conversation, I told her I won't call her unless she call me. Cause when I call her and she don't/can't pick up phone, I was calling again and again (in a day) or texting her, and asking why she don't call back or text back. As she always right, I was the one who makes problem cause what could happen to her? Why I'm calling her so much, it was because of my jeaolusy even if it wasn't the truth. As a cancerian it's important for me to hear her voice, know that I'm loved by her..
Anyway I also knew that she don't like this kinf od things, that was the way I find.

I know she loved me but not sure she's still love me. I can't ask her about her feelings, cause I know she will reply that "I don't feel anything for anyone,ANYONE. includes my family or lovely sister etc.." Our relationship is always different, we don't have any common friends. We live in different cities. I know she can't see her dream guy when she looked at me. But it's just awareness of the situation, I don't feel bad about it. I can change myself and be the one she wants cause I love her and it dosen't crush my feelings, it will make me happy as it makes her happy. But I don't know what she want..I don't know whether our relation is over or not..I don't know she make me waiting till she finds someone she like or run across her dream guy..I wan't to try for her but I'm not sure what to do..I know that I wrote is little but I want some advice from libra girls, shoul

Uh, her attitude sucks ass. Why would you want to try for someone who's so tacky and selfish?

If you know you have a lot to offer, she clearly can't appreciate it. Find someone who's more deserving of that.

Btw, Libra women don't do well with clingy. I'm amazed that some of them end up in relationships with how cold, callus, and selfish they are toward those they supposedly love. Not all are like that, but the type that fall into this category are terrible people, tbh. I don't understand how someone can treat someone so flippantly when they supposedly care and love them. But a lot of air sign people are like that and it's something water signs can never grasp because it's such a cold way to go about living life.

In regard to what you should do- do you and go live life. You told her where things stand on your part, so the ball is in her court. If she actually wants you and wants this to happen, she'll be back around. These silly bitches always come back, whether it's because they miss the attention or they realize what idiots they've been.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Uh, her attitude sucks ass. Why would you want to try for someone who's so tacky and selfish?

In regard to what you should do- do you and go live life. You told her where things stand on your part, so the ball is in her court. If she actually wants you and wants this to happen, she'll be back around. These silly bitches always come back, whether it's because they miss the attention or they realize what idiots they've been.

You can call it as "infatuation, Love, Obsession" but it's like I can't lose her..I've known her for 8 years..There was times I haven't called her for months as I thought she didn't care my feelings or I felt like she dosen't love me as I love her..As you wrote she come back, I knew that she's hurt but I didn't wnat to interfere and she didn't tell me anything about what makes her unhappy..She knew that I love her and I'll be support..She sincerely told me that She trust me more than anyone..

I knew that water signs don't like clingy people, nobody likes..We just have more tolerance than them..They just think that we'll be spoiled if they show their love..I don't think they understand our needs..I don't care about my needs..I just wan't to be with her and make her happy..That's why I need libra's help cause I don't want to regret something not doing it

I'm sorry but this makes no sense, is this another dumby account

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Uh, her attitude sucks ass. Why would you want to try for someone who's so tacky and selfish?

In regard to what you should do- do you and go live life. You told her where things stand on your part, so the ball is in her court. If she actually wants you and wants this to happen, she'll be back around. These silly bitches always come back, whether it's because they miss the attention or they realize what idiots they've been.

You can call it as "infatuation, Love, Obsession" but it's like I can't lose her..I've known her for 8 years..There was times I haven't called her for months as I thought she didn't care my feelings or I felt like she dosen't love me as I love her..As you wrote she come back, I knew that she's hurt but I didn't wnat to interfere and she didn't tell me anything about what makes her unhappy..She knew that I love her and I'll be support..She sincerely told me that She trust me more than anyone..

I knew that water signs don't like clingy people, nobody likes..We just have more tolerance than them..They just think that we'll be spoiled if they show their love..I don't think they understand our needs..I don't care about my needs..I just wan't to be with her and make her happy..That's why I need libra's help cause I don't want to regret something not doing it

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Uh, you're a water sign and YOU'RE clingy and that does not do well with Libras (air sign).

The only thing you need to regret right now is wasting 8 goddamned years of your life on this chick who clearly doesn't see you more than a friend. If anything, she may just be keeping you around for the ego strokes.

Posted by DRCAlex
Funny, she must be a young libra. No one should have to deal with a wishy washy person for that long of a time. I am a Libra and yes, we don't like clingyness and can't stand to be boxed in, and we do love our space especially the older a Libra gets, but it seems to me that she is just taking advantage of your love and loyalty. We don't normally string folks along if we really like them, and 8 years is a long time to be unsure if someone genuinely cares for you or not. Seems that she is dragging you alone until something better comes along. In spite of what is said about Libra's, we are not as indecisive as people think we are..especially in relationships. If we want you, trust me, we want you and you will know it. It is true that it takes us a long time to express our emotions verbally, but we will be good at showing you better than we are at telling you how we really feel, and we are generally very loyal when in love. I think that maybe it's time for you to let go and move on. She needs to know that you are not so loyal and committed that you will compromise your dignity. Don't ever let anyone treat you like that regardless of how much you think you love her.

She's not young but she was thinking that I'm not suitable for her and would make me sad..As she like to be spoiled, her attitude would be careless or shallow..You said right she love my loyalty even if she never tell that to me..I wasn't sure till 3 months ago she love me..All of those years we haven't seen eachother so often..We talk once in a 4-6 months..As I said, I didn't want to let my feelings gain control over my attitudes..
Actually you wrote something about I want to learn " In spite of what is said about Libra's, we are not as indecisive as people think we are..especially in relationships. If we want you, trust me, we want you and you will know it."..I was thinking that she was weighing our relationship..I don't know what to do..Should I move one and stop seeing her and answer her calls..or Should I wait for what will happen till she fell good about life..

"Don't ever let anyone treat you like that regardless of how much you think you love her." I think I already cross that line..She also told me that you want to take back what you offered/promised before, like I'll never make her sad, I'll do anything make her happy etc..

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Uh, you're a water sign and YOU'RE clingy and that does not do well with Libras (air sign).

The only thing you need to regret right now is wasting 8 goddamned years of your life on this chick who clearly doesn't see you more than a friend. If anything, she may just be keeping you around for the ego strokes.

I can change my attitudes cause I understand that she need her space and she likes people attention. We weren't together all those years. I know that when she felt very bad and couldn't find anyone to talk or didn't want to talk people around her, she called me. I don't think she wan't hurt me, she just need to know she's special and precious

Thanks for your comments DRCAlex.
Today I met her and something I did made her crazy. It wasn't so important but she brought some other quarrels to the table. As I understand I abused her trust, she felt like that at least. She thought that I was like robin hood or something like that and When she realized that I'm one of other people around her, it broke her heart. As she go through hell because of family problems, she told me that she have no plan for anything including me.
I tried to explain myself but she stopped me by saying it won't change anything even if I talk her 8 hours or wrote 800 pages about my attitudes. The important thing is what I've done shouldn't be done in first place.
She didn't add anything, I didn't say anything as it wouldn't change anything. It wasn't a seperation cause she told me that she will think. So there is only three option for me now ;
- To talk her when she call me and see what happens in the future (indefitine time, We don't know when she feel good or when she solve her problems with her family)
- Want her to give a chance to us (not me) to see whether it will be ok or not (cause I'm not possessive or persistent anymore as I know it made her feel restricted)
- To tell her if I make her sad, it would be more appropriate not to see her anymore

As a libra, what do you think about these options, DrcAlex? Would it be oppressive to say something above?

Dude, you have issues.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Dude, you have issues.

I know that..That's why I'm here..If I could move on, I wouldn't be here, asking for help and trying to understand her and myself..

As a Libra myself, I know that when I am done with something--I'm done. That doesn't mean that I won't revisit it--talk to an old friend, ex bf, etc (old times sake) all the while knowing that it's done. It sounds like she has reached that "done" mark. She is blaming everything on you which is an easy way to not feel guilty about not providing you with what you need in a relationship. Do yourself a favor and let her go. My grandfather always told me that the best way to get someones attention is to ignore them. The more you pamper and give attention to her, the more she will take and only see you as a week doormat. It sounds like she's feeding off of it--I'm sorry 😢 Nobody deserves to be treated that way.

Posted by sweetlibra34
As a Libra myself, I know that when I am done with something--I'm done. That doesn't mean that I won't revisit it--talk to an old friend, ex bf, etc (old times sake) all the while knowing that it's done. It sounds like she has reached that "done" mark. She is blaming everything on you which is an easy way to not feel guilty about not providing you with what you need in a relationship. Do yourself a favor and let her go. My grandfather always told me that the best way to get someones attention is to ignore them. The more you pamper and give attention to her, the more she will take and only see you as a week doormat. It sounds like she's feeding off of it--I'm sorry 😢 Nobody deserves to be treated that way.

Thanks sweetlibra34. That's actually what I need to learn, you really explained it well. I was just thinking that if it's done, she shouldn't see me anymore cause we do like that..As you wrote, she started to blame that I'm the one who is responsible for everything happened..

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Dude, you have issues.

I know that..That's why I'm here..If I could move on, I wouldn't be here, asking for help and trying to understand her and myself..

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And you were given answers and just shrugged them off because you want to keep trying. Don't you think that 8 years getting to know someone and seeing there is no romance happening is indicative enough to let that go??

I hate what a relationship with an air sign does to cancers. They become delusional and can't face facts.

Posted by rockyroadicecream

And you were given answers and just shrugged them off because you want to keep trying. Don't you think that 8 years getting to know someone and seeing there is no romance happening is indicative enough to let that go??

As I was helplessly,deeply fall in love and had a chance to be together, I really wanted to be sure if it's possible for relationship. People who wrote about this gave me another perspective..Maybe it will come to what you said/indicate (maybe not) but nothing will reach where it is supposed to be until the time comes.
You want me to give a logical decision, but I'm saying there is no logic in this soul in these days.

I say if someone wants to keep hitting their head against a brick wall, let them

They won't learn until they knock themselves out, with a bloody forehead a knot the size of texas, to get the picture

Amen to all that, especially the bolded part.

The girl has tried several different ways to tell you she's done. First, she said she's stressed and doesn't have time for anyone. You kept at it. So then she tried something different, bringing up your betrayal of her trust and blaming you for why she doesn't want to be with you. If she came back, it was only because she knows you're always there to make her feel better if she's down. When she feels better, then she off on her merry way.

Drop contact. Ignore her for a while if she comes around. If she keeps coming around tell her what you want from her. Force her to decide. If she doesn't want what you want, then be done with her. And let her know that you will be done with her. You won't be her little toy anymore.

You can't let people keep yanking your chain.

Thanks for your advice. It helps me to understand what I should do in a more suitable way for me and her..

Posted by TaurusNikki
I say if someone wants to keep hitting their head against a brick wall, let them

They won't learn until they knock themselves out, with a bloody forehead a knot the size of texas, to get the picture

Right?

I had a friend who was tied up with a guy for SEVEN YEARS, even though the red flags were painfully obvious by the 3 month mark and it all should have been dropped then.

Needless to say, there was a point in time where all of us (mutual friends) threw our hands up and just wouldn't listen to this crazy bs anymore. There was NO talking common sense into this guy. :/

it sounds like at this point you will take what you can get from this girl, but even if you COULD get something from her, it would be completely unhealthy and probably hurt you more than you are hurting now. if she has serious family and trust issues, at the very least leave her alone until she has some of it sorted out rather than trying to push her into a relationship- but really she just sounds weak in character and willing to abuse you. Please try to see past all your emotions and realize that you should never want something that has to be so forced and painful.

I'm interested in the outcome.....

Not only you are confused about what Libra wants, but also Libra is confused in general about what they want !

Posted by MissLibra
I'm interested in the outcome.....

After we had a quarrel and she said "it won't change anything even if I talk her 8 hours or wrote 800 pages about my attitudes" and told me about what she thought which was "I'm no difference than others"..
She dosen't want to live what she had lived before. If she will be sorry/sad in future with me, as she think this way, she tries to move away from me.

I called her last week and gave me busy tone then text me that "don't worry I'm alive"..I texted back "I wonder how she is and wan't to meet her and talk"..Then she wrote "What's the matter? You'll throw up what you throw into, won't you?"..That's a new thing cause I didn't know I have that kind of impact on her..She was thinking that I'd put pressure on her..
I texted "That wasn't my intention. If you wan't we can talk but I think it wasn't good time"
and I let things to follow its natural course..I'm just keep thinking about her but I can't call her.Just trying to give her sometime..

How many times does she have to reiterate that she's not into you like that?

She's clearly told you where she stands. Why do you keep bothering her about it?

Reading this thread feels like banging my knee caps. UGH!!!

Crab do whatever it takes to get this woman off your mind.
Whenever her face pops up in your head think of stinking rotting trash.

Posted by LunarMaiden
Reading this thread feels like banging my knee caps. UGH!!!

Crab do whatever it takes to get this woman off your mind.
Whenever her face pops up in your head think of stinking rotting trash.

+1

Dude are you really that desperate

Don't you value your self worth

THE GIRL IS NOT INTO YOU, HELL SHE DOESN'T WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOU

What part of that aren't you getting

Posted by TaurusNikki
Dude are you really that desperate

Don't you value your self worth

THE GIRL IS NOT INTO YOU, HELL SHE DOESN'T WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOU

What part of that aren't you getting

She is like the one. Actually I don't see any other option. People can say that I'm crazy as I don't think/behave as they think..

Actually there isn't any part I couldn't get..The part you couldn't get is my heart..It dosen't give up..It gives me very much pain..Every single time when I'm alone thinking about her. The moment I wake up, her name is blinking in my mind..

Posted by Sugarfoot
OP,

You're the type who only wants what he can't have. Being persistent and patient to get libras to do what you want doesn't work. That girl's mind is made up. It's a done deal.

You need to accept that for what it is and move on.

You may be right..But I had lots of things that I couldn't have and it never hurts my heart..I moved on..
Today She called me and chit-chat with me..I don't know what she is thinkin but I think she'll call again..I just don't want to miss that chance..I know than I can change so you can write what works on libra women except beign persistent and patient (which isn't work as you wrote)

Good luck

If she ever gives you a chance you'll be put in the famous libra cycle, when she gets bored

Posted by TaurusNikki
Good luck

If she ever gives you a chance you'll be put in the famous libra cycle, when she gets bored

Libra cycle? Is that the one where we like something about you, so we keep you in our life, but we don't see a real future with you? Or the one where you serve a purpose so we keep you around?

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Posted by Sugarfoot
OP,

You're the type who only wants what he can't have. Being persistent and patient to get libras to do what you want doesn't work. That girl's mind is made up. It's a done deal.

You need to accept that for what it is and move on.

You may be right..But I had lots of things that I couldn't have and it never hurts my heart..I moved on..
Today She called me and chit-chat with me..I don't know what she is thinkin but I think she'll call again..I just don't want to miss that chance..I know than I can change so you can write what works on libra women except beign persistent and patient (which isn't work as you wrote)

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Have you asked her DIRECTLY what SHE wants from you? We are usually brutally honest about our feelings. Are you hearing her words? Cancers and Libras communicate differently. If she's contacting you sporadically it's because you've been friend zoned. That doesn't usually change.

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Posted by TaurusNikki
Good luck

If she ever gives you a chance you'll be put in the famous libra cycle, when she gets bored

Libra cycle? Is that the one where we like something about you, so we keep you in our life, but we don't see a real future with you? Or the one where you serve a purpose so we keep you around?

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Sounds like the examples you just gave are the same to me

You libbs could never make up your mind which way you wanna go, JMHO, you libbs recycle more ways than you care to admit

Posted by narbil
What are examples of these possessive, protective, jealous traits? What did you do.

Nobody asked?

An example? hmm I'll write major one..
As she trusts me and wanted me to see her Fb profile, gave her psswd. I don't use fb much so when we're together and her cellphone battery low, I was using my mobile to allow her to connect her fb profile. So her fb is always active on my phone.A few weeks later one night I heard lots off buzz and when I checked,I saw she was messaging another guy which I don't know, but it was like he was hitting on her and she was letting him. I don't even think a few second to call her to ask what she was trying to do.. That was the biggest mistake I've ever done to her according to her..She claimed that I abused her trust by reading her messages, I had no right to that. What I was thinking when I was reading her messages and Was I bringing her to account? etc..That night and the day following, she never stopped and mad at me..When I was trying to say my argument, she was becoming more furious..I've never ever seen her so angry
I interfered her personal life and Even if it's normal for me, it was an assault her independence..

Posted by DRCAlex
Sorry for the late reply FUNNY, but I'm not sure what you've done to betray her trust or her so called broken heart, but again, it sounds like she really has some serious personal issues that really don't have anything to do with you UNLESS you are not telling the full story. It just seems to me that you all are not compatible with each other and it's time to move on. Sorry I couldn't be more positive, but there is nothing positive about a one sided relationship,

You're right about what I didn't write whole story. Cause it's too confusing and long story..I just made it short.
In these days, she's like she made her mind..Cause she called and told me that she will go to gym and begin a new course (which is related human resources..In these days she calls me every day and talks me 20-30 minutes..
I'm trying not to push her about her life..I just listen and tell her about how much I like/appreciate what she's doing to change her life..

What I learned from the posts and websites about libras, it's a chance for me. She gave me another chance to see how I'll react..I've known her for years, I don't behave according to horoscopes but what I wrote about libras help me to understand happenings or what she's doing or why she's doing..

One, she's an idiot.

Two, she's mad she got caught.

Three, you came across insanely overbearing for calling her right after about it.

It sound like you both are nuts.

Posted by tiziani
I should rephrase that...

You should detach from this woman and leave her be, if you're serious about doing what's best for you.

I'm just trying to be happy with her and make her happy..Firstly I was thinking that, relationships should be flawless, ther shouldn't be any quarrel,etc..But real life is different, there can be problems, quarrels, jealousy..I don't want to do what's best for me..I just don't want to feel regret not doing what I could do, if there is a chance to be together, I'll find it..

You're one of those "nice guys."

You're trying to manipulate this into what YOU want and have zero interest in her well being. It's all about you and what you want, even if it means forcing it to happen by manipulating or weaseling your way in somehow. You say you're not looking out for what's best for you, but you really are. If you weren't worried about what was best for you, you'd detach and leave her be. But you're not because you're revolving this around your feelings and emotions and not giving hers a second glance.

You're going to be single for awhile, sweetcheeks. Guys like you have some serious life learning to do before you'll settle down with the ideal woman. Until then, you're gonna learn the hard way that being "nice guy" is just detrimental to yourself overall.

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Posted by tiziani
I should rephrase that...

You should detach from this woman and leave her be, if you're serious about doing what's best for you.

I'm just trying to be happy with her and make her happy..Firstly I was thinking that, relationships should be flawless, ther shouldn't be any quarrel,etc..But real life is different, there can be problems, quarrels, jealousy..I don't want to do what's best for me..I just don't want to feel regret not doing what I could do, if there is a chance to be together, I'll find it..

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Not to be mean here, but you headed into the " stalker territory "

Then in order for that libra to get rid of you, she will put a restraining order on you, just for you to get how serious she is about her not being interested

This poor libra try'd to be your friend, but you keep wanting more when she clearly doesn't, you beating a dead horse here

You better detach now, before she either gets a orders of protection against you, or her boyfriend, either one of those options are not good

Posted by rockyroadicecream
You're one of those "nice guys."

You're trying to manipulate this into what YOU want and have zero interest in her well being. It's all about you and what you want, even if it means forcing it to happen by manipulating or weaseling your way in somehow. You say you're not looking out for what's best for you, but you really are. If you weren't worried about what was best for you, you'd detach and leave her be. But you're not because you're revolving this around your feelings and emotions and not giving hers a second glance.

You're going to be single for awhile, sweetcheeks. Guys like you have some serious life learning to do before you'll settle down with the ideal woman. Until then, you're gonna learn the hard way that being "nice guy" is just detrimental to yourself overall.

That's quite good analyze. You're right I say I can change somethings about myself for her and it dosen't bother me. Cause I figured that the things make me angry at her is because of my ego/personality. The problem is whether I can accept/handle the consequences if the things don't go as I wan't..It's not fair to blame someone when the things dosen't go as you want cause nobody asks it. Am I sure to do that?
My heart says "yes", My mind says "are you crazy?"

Posted by TaurusNikki
Not to be mean here, but you headed into the " stalker territory "

Then in order for that libra to get rid of you, she will put a restraining order on you, just for you to get how serious she is about her not being interested

This poor libra try'd to be your friend, but you keep wanting more when she clearly doesn't, you beating a dead horse here

You better detach now, before she either gets a orders of protection against you, or her boyfriend, either one of those options are not good

When we're together I clearly said that I wouldn't be her friend zone anymore. There won't be any other option cause if we break up I can't handle with the situation being friend as I'm sentimental..it's a probability that I'll speak her sarcastically and hurt her with my words , which I really don't do something like that..

As she know that, I don't think she still trying to be friend. I don't want anything from her, I'm just waiting to see what she'll do..I know if I push her, she'll go..

I know I'm beating a dead horse because you don't seem to be listening and I'm starting to think your lying about being a cancer, and you might be a bull headed Taurus. Your being down right stubborn, and hard headed, and you also seem to be in denial too. But say my piece anyway,

Dude she is NOT the one. I know you think she is, but she's not. A woman that's the one for you would not treat you this way. Please stop getting caught up on her words, and watch her. You want to know things a Libra will do to show they are interested here you go??_

She will shower you with affection and love (especially if you??re showing it to her)

She will damn near spoil you rotten, if her money is right (as long as she knows you wouldn't hesitate to do the same)

She will be lovey dovey so much that it might cause you to think she's insincere lol. She's supportive of your needs, and listens to your cares and your fears.
She will want to be around you at least once out of every day, depending on how long you??ve been together, she??ll miss you when you??re not around and find a way to let you know she's thinking of you. (I do this to my cancer right now. I don't smother him, but I'm always thinking of new ways to try and let him know I'm thinking about him. We are long distance)

She will try to be your bestfriend, and she will always be considerate to your feelings if only to keep the peace. She will bring up her concerns later when the heat dies down, we don't like huge blow outs. We prefer nice calm talks of reasoning, and coming to a common ground. Yelling, cursing, huge displays of emotional conflict will make her run in the opposite direction faster than you can blink (The fact that she blew up on you for going through her phone is a definite red flag. My cancer and I have only been dating for a month and if he went through my phone/Facebook/email etc it would shock me at first. But because I really like and care for him the last thing I'm going to do is blow up at him when he's already seen something that upset him. I??d be afraid I might lose him. I'm going to try and listen (as long as he's not yelling and being disrespectful) I can listen and try to understand where my actions hurt him. Your Libra didn't do that, which means she could careless about your feelings.)

When I'm not into a guy I care about him to a certain extent only because I hate burning bridges and coming off cold or mean. So I may check on a person, call for small talk but it goes no deeper than that. I can chit chat with a bum on the street and really be intrigued by the conversation, it in no way means I want him romantically. I'm simply being true to my Libra nature, being sociable. We are people persons, even with our ex??s. In general we want everyone to love us, but we are realistic enough to know that not everyone will. I have no desire to be with any of my ex??s but I??ve been guilty of calling them up just to see how life is going for them. They also, just like you are doing; take that as a green light and over analyze it thinking I must??ve been thinking about them romantically hard enough to call out the blue and I must want to re-kindle. Sadly mistaken. When we are done, that's it. No going back. We are nice, so we may not cut you out completely unless you deliberately tried to harm us. But don't get it twisted, if a libra wanted to be with you, she wouldn't have let you go in the first place, unless you wanted go. TRUST ME.

Posted by pinklibra
When I'm not into a guy I care about him to a certain extent only because I hate burning bridges and coming off cold or mean. So I may check on a person, call for small talk but it goes no deeper than that. I can chit chat with a bum on the street and really be intrigued by the conversation, it in no way means I want him romantically. I'm simply being true to my Libra nature, being sociable. We are people persons, even with our ex??s. In general we want everyone to love us, but we are realistic enough to know that not everyone will. I have no desire to be with any of my ex??s but I??ve been guilty of calling them up just to see how life is going for them. They also, just like you are doing; take that as a green light and over analyze it thinking I must??ve been thinking about them romantically hard enough to call out the blue and I must want to re-kindle. Sadly mistaken. When we are done, that's it. No going back. We are nice, so we may not cut you out completely unless you deliberately tried to harm us. But don't get it twisted, if a libra wanted to be with you, she wouldn't have let you go in the first place, unless you wanted go. TRUST ME.

I see. It could be the way you wrote. As she has known me for a long time, she probably dosen't want to lose me, maybe she try to remain as friends. I'm not sure what she wants cause she didn't tell me anything what she expect from me. She just calls me and talks about what she did in her working day and plans about changing (like begin fitness class, a new language course etc..)

If she wants to remain friend, I won't let her to do this not to upset anybody. I know I have to talk to her and be direct what I want. I just don't want to rush it cause what happened between us happened very fast and still trying to understand what we did wrong (at least I try 🙂, I'm definitely sure she also think about it)

Posted by narbil
OP needs to realise he's on the OBLiGaToRY list. She is doing all she can to placate and eliminate her problem. And she's doing it wrong.

If you're right, She definitely do it wrong. I hope it isn't the way you think..

Yup, I'm convinced you either cannot read, or your just hard headed. BRO!! SHE??_IS??_.NOT??_INTERESTED??_IN??_A??_.ROMANTIC??_RELATIONSHIP! Sorry but you are not listening.

IF??_and I DO MEAN IF she was, you would know, you would not have to ask her! That's what I'm telling you. A libra man or woman never likes the one they love or truly like to ever wonder about how they feel about them. We shower them with love and affection, and set them on this pedestal and we would dare anyone to try and take them off. Our romantic love interest is the one thing we are sure about at least until they start throwing up red flags of jealousy, lies, negativity, or possessiveness (DON??T YOU DARE TAKE THOSE THINGS AND START SAYING YOU??LL FIX THEM TO HAVE HER, BECAUSE IT??S too LATE, Sorry to be brash but you need it. Once a Libra see's any of those things, she's likely to place you on the friend zone, PERMANTELY.)

There is no IT COULD BE the way I'm saying it, IT IS the way I'm saying it. I'm trying to help you out, help you not get your heart chopped up when she pops up on the scene with her REAL MAN, and look at you with a face that says —Why you mad—? AND she will really wonder why you are mad, because in her mind she has made it clear through her actions that she doesn't want you romantically, if you haven't gotten it, she will think that's your problem not hers Especially if you haven't been straight up and clear with her that you want her back as your woman and with no one else. This may sound mean, but that's why I tell people not to really LISTEN to a Libra but, WATCH a Libra.

Our actions always give away our true intentions. If you don't pull out now, I can promise you, you are going to have your heart handed to you. I'm starting to think you are waiting for someone to tell you there is hope with this girl when really there is NOT. If you need closure, then by all means HURRY your ass up and tell her what you want from her and ask her can she give it to you or not. Yes or no. The longer you wait the harder it will be on you when she's turns you down flat. Because based on what you??ve posted, I already know what her answer will be, but since you insist on getting dissed instead of cutting your losses, be my guest. DO NOT ask her what she wants from you, because she will go around the question and send you right back to us. DO NOT ask her what she's looking for, because once again, she will go around it and send you right back here. When you want something from a Libra and they are throwing mixed signals YOU must TELL THEM flat out what you want AND ask them straight out are they willing to give it, YES OR NO. You cannot give them a way out or around your question otherwise you will still be confused.

I'm dating a libra, and no matter what sex they are, it's still the same way, SHE IS NOT INTO YOU, she just wants friendship, and if she know how crazy you really are she would leave you for good

I have said this many times before, don't listen to the pretty words, look for the action, libras have this problem with not looking like the bad guy issue, when they themselves need to be direct, but most the time they can swear that by the action they give that you should know what title u stan

This libra is clearly telling you, YOU R JUST SOMEONE TO TALK TO, it can't get not clearer than that.

What you gonna do when she tells you she has a man. Then you will be heartbroken, cause you didn't listen to what everybody and I mean everybody is telling you

The libra has moved on from your fantasy , and living her life, you should do te same before you embrass yourself

Posted by pinklibra
Our actions always give away our true intentions. If you don't pull out now, I can promise you, you are going to have your heart handed to you. I'm starting to think you are waiting for someone to tell you there is hope with this girl when really there is NOT. If you need closure, then by all means HURRY your ass up and tell her what you want from her and ask her can she give it to you or not. Yes or no. The longer you wait the harder it will be on you when she's turns you down flat. Because based on what you??ve posted, I already know what her answer will be, but since you insist on getting dissed instead of cutting your losses, be my guest. DO NOT ask her what she wants from you, because she will go around the question and send you right back to us. DO NOT ask her what she's looking for, because once again, she will go around it and send you right back here. When you want something from a Libra and they are throwing mixed signals YOU must TELL THEM flat out what you want AND ask them straight out are they willing to give it, YES OR NO. You cannot give them a way out or around your question otherwise you will still be confused.

I read your posts, it was harsh and clear. it's clear that I can't say/accept that it's over.
I can't accept that truth if it's the truth..She knew that she had/has the love she always dreamed of..That's why I always have a hope in my heart that I think I can fix the things..

I was planning to wait till I read your writings..As she live in another city, Next time I see her I'll ask her straight out what I want..

If you're right, she won't say no and would tell me that "she have no plans for future and need time to think"..And it will mean "no"..

I really feel bad now..

I'm sorry I don't want to be harsh, and I'm sorry I came off that way. I know how how it is to truly love someone and all you want is for them to see what you see and feel what you feel if only for a moment. You seem like a man that loves hard, and you won't give up easily on the person you love, you deserve that in return. You are hanging onto whatever she throws at you. I only hope you will realize she is NOT the only prize in this situation; you are special in your own way and deserve someone that will love you just as strong as you love them.

If you cannot handle a friendship with her, then it's perfectly fine to let her know why. Let her know how it pains you to not have her as your own, and you simply cannot handle a friendship from her right now without knowing for a fact she will be yours, but some day you look forward to calling her up and laughing about all this, but now is just not the time. As a libra I can assure you the last thing she wants is to deliberately hurt you, so she will back off. When I say she will back off that means, she will not be mad, she will understand and she will let you come around when you have swallowed the harsh reality that it's not going to happen. Anyway good luck, and if she does make your biggest fear come true, you can always write your feelings out on here. I find it's always best to be able to vent your feelings out if only on paper to yourself, just to keep from looking psycho to the other person.