confusing libra friend

hey whats up my name is mallory and of course im a leo girl.I have a delima with a libra friend of mine!!!!She is very flaky and I notice that she avoides confrontations with me.She knows that I'm out spoken and I say whatever is on my mind.The problem is she'll get mad at me for no reason in which I don't know of and then will give me the silent treatment like i'm non existent or something.But she never speaks her mind to me!She'll curse out her sister her other friends her mom but never me.She lashes out when she gets mad and I guess she does it indirectly to me.But I feel like if she can't be woman enough to say whatever is bothering her to my face than our friendship don't mean a thing.I feel like being a natural born leader(leo)i have to constantly play my position.Like even when were supposed to go out I make the decisions where to go it's like I wanna tell her sometime to get a backbone!!!!!!!And I love her to death and I admire the fact that we got different attitudes but hers is to the extreme.I just want her to be more open instead of talking behind my back.And then when I address her she like no it anit like that and so forth.I don't know I guess when her scales are balanced she'll be back to normal whenever that is!!!!I need some advice!!!help on what to do with this bipolar libra chick!!!

Cherie

Welcome, welcome. Sit down.

Given your dilemma a bit of thought. Couple of thought ? couple of thoughts.

People are different and handle things differently. I, for one, don?t like pushy people. I also don?t like people who are drama ridden and constantly need to *have* confrontations. Sometimes to get through life and get along ? you need to let it go.

You can?t change people. People are who they are and will do what will make them happy. Having confrontations serves little purpose but get everyone worked up for nothing.

Every time you have a confrontation, you run the risk of ending the friendship/relationship. Always ask, is this the hill you want to die on?

Once you start thinking this way, then you will begin to understand your libra friends better.

One thing to remember is you can confront someone without the drama. You can say what you need to say in one sentence that gets straight to the point and is devoid of emotional antics. And if you start to do that, you begin to understand the difference between being a lady and being woman enough.

I don't think it has to do with her sign. She's probably still very young and needs to grow up a little.

Honesty will work best here. Sit her down and tell her what's on your mind straight to the point. If she still wants to play cat-and-mouse, call her attention to it and tell her you don't like it and tell her it's not FAIR.

The word "Fair" carries a heavy weight with people.

Keep us posted, good luck dear

This comment is for little sparrow first off I do try to talk to her even when my libra friend has an attitude and she still gives me the cold shoulder.Let me also rephrase what I meant when I said "she avoides confrontations with me, meaning that when I try to confront her she acts as if nothing is wrong.Also I do notice that she will approach her sister and who ever else she needs to confront but never me!!!!!!And were friends it's possible for us to get on each others nerves but, she never tells me about myself.She will say things that I did"to make her mad"with me and say it to others.But I feel like this if we friends then why she can't come and be a woman and talk to me.I mean if she got the balls to disrespect her mom then she should have no problem with telling me "why I made her mad" feel me!!!!!!!!For the record I never approach my friend with an attitude.I have much repsect for her.

A couple of thoughts

1) other people are causing strife and gossiping (unlikely)
2) wasn't that big of a deal, she needed to vent and is done
3) she really likes, admires, or respects you and although she was ticked about something cost/benefit annalysis suggested it just wasn't worth risking the friendship. (Okay ... so that was more of an expansion on point 2)

What was it that she said?