Disappearance

did someone post on here not too long ago about how Libra's can pull disappearing acts?

my boyfriend decided on Sunday that he was going to go out of town for a week and visit family. We went out Saturday night; I spent the night at his house and then that afternoon he calls and says "Oh by the way, I'm going out of town for the week".

I'm not upset he's out of town; just found it odd that he just decided to do it out of the blue.

Im Libra, but sometimes i just dont understand them at all. This is something i'd never do personally. I always want my partner with me in everything, and i would never announce im just going to up and leave without mentioning it beforehand. Sorry Peach, cant help you here 😢

Im a Libra to and never did anything like that. Did something happen were he feels he needs to go away for a while?

He's starting a new job on Monday and hasn't seen his parents in a while. So like I said, I'm not upset he's away...it was the approach.

I was off last Thursday and Friday, so part of me just wondering why he didn't plan on going Thursday and Friday of last week and perhaps invited me. BUT I can understand that this isn't about me, because I'm not as possessive as I've been accussed on here. Still, the thought crossed my mind.

Oh ok, well when im in a relationship I love to be around the person all the time, taking trips etc. Maybe he just felt like he needed some alone time with his family since he hasnt seen them in a while. I wouldnt read to much into it though.

Has he called u since he's been gone?

Not reading much into it. Was just an inquiry on if it's a Libra trait.

We spend a lot of time together - most of the time it's me who needs a slight break. Yes, he has called and emailed. Definitely not worried that he's up to no good - he's a good egg.

He might have had a dawning realization that with starting a new job and everything going on it might be his las opportunity to see them for a while. This is especially true if he hasn't seen them in a while and feels a little guilty. Sometimes we make snap decisions like this. I do it more frequently but for a much shorter duration. If you are in with the family it does surprise you that he didn't invite you though.

I commend the not reading to far into it. That is hard to do but the right thing I believe. If he brings it up I would just let him know that it caught you off guard but you have no worries. There is the remote chance he is watching your reaction for some reason to validate something within himself but Libras aren't usually like that.

Nic,

He "jokes" at times that he is testing me.

Maybe he needed to get away and think things through. I have a weird feeling that he is discovering how much you mean to him and needs to reasses come to terms with that.

I sometimes pull up stake for no reason. Often it has nothing to do with the person I am involved with ... just need to go off and think.

Don't think it is anything to be worried about at all.

He'll be back.

hm I think that it could have something to do with fact that we libras (in fact harmonious people) dont like to hurt others, or even just come up with bad news which we know the other person wont like (such as he ll be out for a week), and solution? postpone and come up with it at last moment..

Not worried. Just asking if it's a trait.

Not sure how this thread has to do with hurting others or breaking bad news. I never said I didn't like it. This got turned around quick, didn't it?

I'm not mad, upset or hurt that he is out of town. Only wanted to know if this was a trait so I can adjust myself to expect things like this again in the future.

Adjust myself - meaning to understand that it is a trait and it is something to continue not to worry about.

"I sometimes pull up stake for no reason. Often it has nothing to do with the person I am involved with ... just need to go off and think."

I am the same way. One of the many awesome things about being with another Libra is that we can actually do this together. We can both just go off and think. We can talk about what we are thinking about or we can both just silently keep it to ourselves and each understands exactly what is going on and that it is not threatening in any way.

I had this intense urge the other night to just get out, do something physical and do some thinking. Well, she felt the same exact way. We packed up my jeep with the guns, headed out to a secluded spot in the desert. Practiced some double tap drills and drawing our weapon and firing. Then set a blanket out on this rock cluster and just laid under the stars silently thinking. It was pretty nice to see that can happen without a barrage of "what are you thinking about" or "what's wrong". Nothing was wrong, just some thinking needed to be done. The ironic thing with a Libra is that if your not pushing to find out what is going on in our heads we will randomly break the silence with a statement of what is going on in our heads. What we are mulling over. People with us need a good amount of trust that everything is ok and patience to know that we will talk, but not after it has been thought through. We think about it like "whats the point of bringing up something we haven't figured out ourselves yet?"

"We packed up my jeep with the guns, headed out to a secluded spot in the desert"

Most women would be petrified!!!! LOL just kidding

I love the thinking thing, needing space but not because one needs to get away, just silently thinking to oneself.....Im not a LIbran but I do get that BIG TIME!!! and detest somebody trying to get something out of me before Im ready - grrrrrrr. This is why I understand my LIbran friend quite well...its just the thinking then making a decision and then the process starts again that gets to me LMAO

* We think about it like "whats the point of bringing up something we haven't figured out ourselves yet?"

You get us! You REALLY get us! (weeps)

My honey will be home tomorrow! 🙂

He has called me every day and sent me an email last night saying that he missed me.

Where has QS been these days—

Nice Houston.

I was thinking about this last night and had another thought about it. Remember how I say we/I am a bit cut off from my emotions and what I feel. Sometimes I don't know what I want till I know. Maybe he had an urge to get out of town and suddenly realized it so went out of town. Sometimes it is harder for us to know what we want and need so it may seem like it is out of the blue.

Life has been keeping me busy. Hey HP, glad someone is getting some love.... Nice. Lonely...

my honey is back! 🙂 we spent all weekend together. almost like we didn't skip a beat despite him being away for a week. We went to a football game Saturday. We had a great conversation driving home after the game. Talked about our relationship, his divorce, his new job, my new job, etc. One of his questions was "You've never been married, but have you ever lived with someone? In a way, it's what we're doing because we see each other everyday and we're at one or the other's house each day." Threw me off, but I guess he's right. We do almost have this psuedo definition of living together.

QS is right - they do put you in their future in indirect ways.

***QS is right - they do put you in their future in indirect ways***

Yes they do my dear, yes they do.

geminifox - where are you getting this zodiac stuff you are posting everywhere? What site?

You have to love immature spite.

Okay people who is being spiteful. We aren't having any of that on this board. Nice board, nice board...

This is not out of the blue for him, only for you. He did not tell you until the very last moment. Big cowards we are at times...

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