Do you like a person who plays hard to get?

A Libran friend of mine once said he likes elusive / distant girls. I am more matter-of-fact, so I told him (a few times) that I had a crush on him. All our friends know, too. And I've posted here about it before. I just couldn't control my emotions, and wanted him to know how fantastic I thought he was.

Anyway... I've been out of town for 6 weeks. During that time, we've had regular email contact, and thankfully my crush has simmered a little. I feel more in control of my emotions, but I still believe he and I would make a great couple. However, I'm also willing to distance myself from him a little - the six weeks away from him has been wonderful in giving me a bit of perspective.

So I'm coming home this weekend and will be seeing him. I'm not a game player, but I know I've come on too strongly for him before. He knows when I'm back. How should I approach it?

1. Let him approach me, and just remember I had a lovely time away and don't need him, deep down hoping he'll change his mind
2. Contact him and be eager, so that he knows I'm still interested if he is
3. Contact him, but just be his friend, deep down hoping he'll change his mind
4. Try to convince myself once and for all that we're just meant to be friends

Any suggestions? I feel that I'm moving towards four, but worry once we're back in the same city my emotions will sky rocket again.

Bloody Librans 😉

I would go for four and keep your options open. You really want someone who appreciates your openess and is overjoyed you like them.

You're right, Little_Sparrow. I just posted over on the gemini board, too, something similar to what you say. I'm really believing that I deserve more than he can offer. I wish he could offer more, but I know that if he can't feel for me the way I feel for him, then I deserve more. I deserve someone who feels the same way for me as I do for them.

Thanks for the reminder!

Yeah. You just aren't compatible 'cause you want a guy who is happy to have your attention. Changing for someone never works long term.

As we like to say, "Go where it is easy."

🙂

And good for you for not taking this as an ego thing! It has NOTHING to do with how great you are at all. Good for you for seeing that!

gemini16 coming from somebody who has been in a similar situation for the past 11 months I'd say go for number 4 definitely. I too have just gone through 7 weeks of not seeing mine, and then ending what we did have 5 weeks ago coz I couldn't be what he wanted me to be and he couldn't give me what I wanted from him. The distance we had, although sad in a way, but so good for us both in another way (I could see when I saw him last weekend, which I might add was wonderful coz it felt like it had been 7 years not 7 weeks LOL, he'd done a lot of thinking/soul searching).....we're better friends than before and seem to get one another so unbelievably well (hard to come by - for me anyway) so to end that would be criminal LOL.

I won't change the way I feel about mine (but he'll never know unless he were to come out with it which of course he won't so its our secret ok— LOL) as you probably won't about yours but yeah, keep your options open.......let him make the effort coz its not like they don't know how to 😛

Date others and have FUN - if he comes round, bonus!!

Dont you tell me you still love him after all this time , Chatz? I think it'd better if you accept him as a friend and nothing "romantic" involved here. It'll just complicate and put you both at stage where the break up starts and the whole thing just gets messier.An ex is an ex for a reason , especially since people hardly ever change themselves , even for love . Though there are sometimes miracles happen , but not many 🙂

Gem16 definitely number 4. If he changes his mind you will know. Librans will not be forced to make a decision one way or another though....

Passion only 6? I will be finding out soon I have a phone number hee hee.

Thanks everyone for all your advice. I'm about to head home - a 13 hour drive with my sister - road trip yay! Lots of music and singing will be happening. I promise to come back and update once I see him....

I'm defiantely leaning towards 4 :-)