Cancer.f
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he doesnt express his feelings
Hi,
I am in a relationship with a Cancer, but I think this approach that I write baout works with people in general. In a nutshell:
What worked with me was leaving...
We had a "relationship" that would not go to the next level. So I basically got tired of what became the status-quo and I moved on. It was a rather "textbook" approach but I guess it happened unintentionally.
One day, I just said that I was moving back to my country and that I had made the arrangements, planned where to live, etc. He was stunned.
I just told him it was time for me to move on, that's all. I wasn't emotional, I didn't make it look like I was setting him up to force a decision on his part. I just told him, matter of factly, that I felt the need to move on but that I would like us to keep in contact and stay friends.
Force yourself to stay busy. Force yourself to stay away from him for longer periods of time then normal. You will win either way.
Look, by finding other means of keeping yourself occupied, you will have your mind off of him. This will work both ways.
If he comes around and starts wondering why you changed, he will act differently towards you and try to get back the attention. If he just stays away, well, then by that time you'd probably be so used to being apart that it wouldn't effect you.
Being in limbo is no place to be.
I really do not advise mental games because it just creates a bad pattern that you can't get out of. But what I normally do advise to people is either to put your cards on the table and tell the person exactly how you feel; or to find something to occupy your time while the hard part passes.
In your case, I would recommend the latter.
Libras typically like challenges and unfortunately do not value things that they feel come easy. This can apply to most people in general as well.
Keep your distance. Keep yourself busy with other things. Laughter is great. Watch funny movies, go out with entertaining friends. Try to keep your mind busy. Guaranteed that he will wonder what's up.
And don't go back to "normal" quickly. Keep on with keeping yourself occupied. Don't just drop what your doing the first time he questions you.
But STICK to it. You are NOT playing games, you are simply finding other ways to occupy your time and better enjoy life rather than mooning over him and his actions. Do it for the betterment of yourself.
I am in a relationship with a Cancer, but I think this approach that I write baout works with people in general. In a nutshell:
What worked with me was leaving...
We had a "relationship" that would not go to the next level. So I basically got tired of what became the status-quo and I moved on. It was a rather "textbook" approach but I guess it happened unintentionally.
One day, I just said that I was moving back to my country and that I had made the arrangements, planned where to live, etc. He was stunned.
I just told him it was time for me to move on, that's all. I wasn't emotional, I didn't make it look like I was setting him up to force a decision on his part. I just told him, matter of factly, that I felt the need to move on but that I would like us to keep in contact and stay friends.
Force yourself to stay busy. Force yourself to stay away from him for longer periods of time then normal. You will win either way.
Look, by finding other means of keeping yourself occupied, you will have your mind off of him. This will work both ways.
If he comes around and starts wondering why you changed, he will act differently towards you and try to get back the attention. If he just stays away, well, then by that time you'd probably be so used to being apart that it wouldn't effect you.
Being in limbo is no place to be.
I really do not advise mental games because it just creates a bad pattern that you can't get out of. But what I normally do advise to people is either to put your cards on the table and tell the person exactly how you feel; or to find something to occupy your time while the hard part passes.
In your case, I would recommend the latter.
Libras typically like challenges and unfortunately do not value things that they feel come easy. This can apply to most people in general as well.
Keep your distance. Keep yourself busy with other things. Laughter is great. Watch funny movies, go out with entertaining friends. Try to keep your mind busy. Guaranteed that he will wonder what's up.
And don't go back to "normal" quickly. Keep on with keeping yourself occupied. Don't just drop what your doing the first time he questions you.
But STICK to it. You are NOT playing games, you are simply finding other ways to occupy your time and better enjoy life rather than mooning over him and his actions. Do it for the betterment of yourself.
I heart Librat.
thanx for your sincere advice. i will act upon it and then tell u the results. me myself has abusy schedule as im doing higher studies but that person made me to divert my attention. i will try to focus myself again.i always try to keep distance but i cant control and as soon as he asks me where i am i reply him atonce thinking that he will be waiting. but now i will stick to my behaviour. i have noticed twice that he try to come towards me when i dont notice him. but as soon as i try to come near he slips away. anyway thanx again
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im cancer(female) i got engaged 1yr back with libra guy. he didnt make any contact with me for months and then one day he called me. now the situation is that he never talks about me and himself. he never sends me messages often unless i send him some. he calls me regularly but talks a few minutes only. he talks abt me he listens to me. he does everything i want him to do. never criticise me.never gets annoyed with me no matter how much i tease him. stare at me secretly when im infront of him but he never ever says that i love you. never asks me abt my likings and dislikings as if he is nt concerned. never express his own feelings. im so confused plz tell me does he really love me——?wat should i do to make him open— help plz