Hey hey hey

Last week I got a new BF who is libra with Gemini moon and Scorpio Venus and Mars....so I'm part of the family now.

We're taking it really slow atm, we need to because I'm a very insecure person and I know libran all to well.

Since we've been together I've been getting really jealous but I've been overcoming my insecurities and it's something I never thought I could do.

I know he likes looking at tumbler cock pics and porn and the whole shebang and constantly gets snapchats of polls dicks all he time, something I'm not usually equipped to handle from a partner but instead of making him feel bad about it I've learnt to accept it and I'm ok with it and I trust that he won't try and damage me intentionally.

Last night we were watching a movie together and this guy messages him and he opens his phone and it was this guy trying to instigate a three way with him and his BF and I tried playing it cool even though my heart was beating so fast and I was choking up in my throat.

I read the messages (he opened in front of me) and I found that he already told him that he's seeing me and that I wouldn't like it, then the other guy keeps going on like an asshole because he's not getting what he wanted, so I took the phone out if his hands saying that if my guy goes with him I'll break his legs, and he took it well and backed off, my libra seemed to like that because he kissed me hard and we had the best sex.

He's always gonna flirt with guys and it's something I need to get used to because it's a part of who he isso I have to accept that, but the thing is it's helping me become less insecure.

He does something that makes me question our relationship then he will do something more amazing that overshadows the insecurity.

My last relationship left me so scarred and jaded the thought of someone cheating on me Is something I associate with dental pain, but being with this libra is healing me and I'm forgetting the manipulative control freak asshole my last BF brought out in me, I thought I developed transference from him, where I apply his face to every guy I meet and don't trust anyone, but this libra is healing me in an unconventional way.

We're also life path 11.

If u guys have any insight to this if I'm doing it wrong let me know because I'm flying blind and just going with it.

You "got" a boyfriend? Like you went shopping?

Just teasing, but it's always amused me when people say "I just got myself a new bf/gf," like they just went out to Target and got one on a whim.


In regard to your situation, simmer the hell down. If you're going to end up struggling with all your baggage, it's not fair to the Libra or yourself to force another relationship when you should be taking down time to get over your shit.

But if you're seeing yourself calming down and feeling less threatened due to insecurities, I'm not sure what answers you're looking for, seeing as how things seem fine. It seems as if you're looking for something wrong to stress over and that's just unnecessary.

So your Libra bf loves looking at cock pics and porn, and you're ok with this? Or learning to be ok with this because being with him is helping you overcome your insecurities? Hm... trying to wrap my head around that. But if you are absolutely ok with it as you say and it's a very healing relationship, then it does sound like it's going well.

Your bf's placements are same as mine, except I'm female and straight. I do understand that Gemini moon very well, especially when paired with the Scorpio venus and mars (crazy!).

If on the other, you're actually not ok with him watching porn and cock pics, then by all means tell him that. Be honest that it upsets you and makes you jealous. If he really cares about you and respects you, then he should at least make some effort to reduce his porn habit.

And yeah, if my husband says he'll break off the legs of a guy who's hitting on me, I'd kiss him hard and give him the best night of his life too...

about the flirting, what is his rising sing? Mine is Scorpio, and I don't technically flirt. But my hubby has said I'm sometimes too friendly with people, that it can come off as flirting, especially if it's with the opposite sex. I explained that I'm being friendly and there is absolutely no intention to flirt, at all. He accepted my explanation but since I know it upsets him, I've toned down the friendliness. But if your BF is blatantly flirting with other people in front of you, that 's simply disrespectful, and you need to put your foot down.

I'm just so happy guys at the moment, is it normal to cry all the time because I'm so happy, he gave me a back massage yesterday and bit my neck and shoulders really hard and kissed them and it's like all the tension in my shoulders came out in tears and I was crying lol, I had to tell him because of the massage not because I was emotional but it was sort of emotional because I was letting go of a lot of stress.

We both watch porn together and at separate times, it's fine he just lookes at it out of boredom and he comes to be and shows me too lol. It's just sometimes I get insecure.

I'm really interested where this air + air thing will get us, this is the first boyfriend I've had that I want to exercise or feel motivated to be better at life......like every time he looks at Instagram and shows me a hot guy I'll go straight to the weights to make me feel better, and yeh...


The truth is I wasn't ok with the online sluttyness thing but I am starting to be and its all the more empowering.....I don't want to be the person that complains every time my insecurities flare up and push him away.

So yeh I don't really know why I needed to make a status like this I guess I wanted to rub it in ya faces ;D

As long as you're happy with everything and nothing is detrimental, you really don't have much to be concerned about, dude. Enjoy it.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
I'm just so happy guys at the moment, is it normal to cry all the time because I'm so happy, he gave me a back massage yesterday and bit my neck and shoulders really hard and kissed them and it's like all the tension in my shoulders came out in tears and I was crying lol, I had to tell him because of the massage not because I was emotional but it was sort of emotional because I was letting go of a lot of stress.

We both watch porn together and at separate times, it's fine he just lookes at it out of boredom and he comes to be and shows me too lol. It's just sometimes I get insecure.

I'm really interested where this air + air thing will get us, this is the first boyfriend I've had that I want to exercise or feel motivated to be better at life......like every time he looks at Instagram and shows me a hot guy I'll go straight to the weights to make me feel better, and yeh...


The truth is I wasn't ok with the online sluttyness thing but I am starting to be and its all the more empowering.....I don't want to be the person that complains every time my insecurities flare up and push him away.

So yeh I don't really know why I needed to make a status like this I guess I wanted to rub it in ya faces ;D

i wish you all the best but there is something about this that makes me uneasy...

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Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
I'm just so happy guys at the moment, is it normal to cry all the time because I'm so happy, he gave me a back massage yesterday and bit my neck and shoulders really hard and kissed them and it's like all the tension in my shoulders came out in tears and I was crying lol, I had to tell him because of the massage not because I was emotional but it was sort of emotional because I was letting go of a lot of stress.

We both watch porn together and at separate times, it's fine he just lookes at it out of boredom and he comes to be and shows me too lol. It's just sometimes I get insecure.

I'm really interested where this air + air thing will get us, this is the first boyfriend I've had that I want to exercise or feel motivated to be better at life......like every time he looks at Instagram and shows me a hot guy I'll go straight to the weights to make me feel better, and yeh...


The truth is I wasn't ok with the online sluttyness thing but I am starting to be and its all the more empowering.....I don't want to be the person that complains every time my insecurities flare up and push him away.

So yeh I don't really know why I needed to make a status like this I guess I wanted to rub it in ya faces ;D

i wish you all the best but there is something about this that makes me uneasy...

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Yeh it's probably me 🙂 don't worry I'll keep you guys posted the second something goes down lol

Thanks people for your words

Welcome to the fam. Your dude and I are basically astro-cousins. 🙂 The differences between Mars placements are incredible though. Wow. Have fun!

Posted by duchesslibro
Welcome to the fam. Your dude and I are basically astro-cousins. 🙂 The differences between Mars placements are incredible though. Wow. Have fun!

I need you to tell me what he's thinking!?!!!? Lol just jokes, are you ridiculously clumsy as well?

Posted by rockyroadicecream
You "got" a boyfriend? Like you went shopping?

Just teasing, but it's always amused me when people say "I just got myself a new bf/gf," like they just went out to Target and got one on a whim.


In regard to your situation, simmer the hell down. If you're going to end up struggling with all your baggage, it's not fair to the Libra or yourself to force another relationship when you should be taking down time to get over your shit.

But if you're seeing yourself calming down and feeling less threatened due to insecurities, I'm not sure what answers you're looking for, seeing as how things seem fine. It seems as if you're looking for something wrong to stress over and that's just unnecessary.

I got myself the Gucci of boyfriends.....I think it's normal to be a little insecure at the start of a relationship but I feel it's lifting

I'm actually quite clumsy but most people perceive me as very graceful and seem surprised when my clumsiness is revealed. When I was young I clearly recall my ballet teacher saying, "You look lovely and graceful warming up, like you should be a wonderful dancer but you just aren't pulling it all together." Haha, oh well.

Posted by letterbox10
So your Libra bf loves looking at cock pics and porn, and you're ok with this? Or learning to be ok with this because being with him is helping you overcome your insecurities? Hm... trying to wrap my head around that. But if you are absolutely ok with it as you say and it's a very healing relationship, then it does sound like it's going well.

Your bf's placements are same as mine, except I'm female and straight. I do understand that Gemini moon very well, especially when paired with the Scorpio venus and mars (crazy!).

If on the other, you're actually not ok with him watching porn and cock pics, then by all means tell him that. Be honest that it upsets you and makes you jealous. If he really cares about you and respects you, then he should at least make some effort to reduce his porn habit.

And yeah, if my husband says he'll break off the legs of a guy who's hitting on me, I'd kiss him hard and give him the best night of his life too...

Ok he doesn't have a porn problem, he has a tumbler, Instagram problem, you know how you guys are superficial and drool over everyone at a dime of a hat, especially really hot guys? Well I just find that a tad superficial and I roll my eyes when he watches gorgeous Instagram guys post videos about how they had it hard in school and were bullied and he feels sorry for them.....

An ex-bf w Libra Sun, Scorp V & Mars was also clumsy. I wonder if it's the Libra/Scorp energy combined..

Why did u guys break up?

I feel as if the relationship gods sent him to me to show me that I can be normal functional person in a relationship, he's been so laid back and real, even though he acts like an air head he's so freaking smart.

If someone does something wrong I'll go apeshit but he has ways of telling people how he feels in a really nice indirect way.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11

Posted by letterbox10
So your Libra bf loves looking at cock pics and porn, and you're ok with this? Or learning to be ok with this because being with him is helping you overcome your insecurities? Hm... trying to wrap my head around that. But if you are absolutely ok with it as you say and it's a very healing relationship, then it does sound like it's going well.

Your bf's placements are same as mine, except I'm female and straight. I do understand that Gemini moon very well, especially when paired with the Scorpio venus and mars (crazy!).

If on the other, you're actually not ok with him watching porn and cock pics, then by all means tell him that. Be honest that it upsets you and makes you jealous. If he really cares about you and respects you, then he should at least make some effort to reduce his porn habit.

And yeah, if my husband says he'll break off the legs of a guy who's hitting on me, I'd kiss him hard and give him the best night of his life too...

Ok he doesn't have a porn problem, he has a tumbler, Instagram problem, you know how you guys are superficial and drool over everyone at a dime of a hat, especially really hot guys? Well I just find that a tad superficial and I roll my eyes when he watches gorgeous Instagram guys post videos about how they had it hard in school and were bullied and he feels sorry for them.....

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I don't think he's being superficial.. I bet his Scorpio parts really feel sad for them.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
Why did u guys break up?

Very different worldviews, ideas about parenting, etc. (Future parenting, neither of us had children yet.) The deal breaker was I didn't feel appreciated at all and he was irresponsible and flightly imo. He's super smart but ditzy, head in clouds too much.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
I feel as if the relationship gods sent him to me to show me that I can be normal functional person in a relationship, he's been so laid back and real, even though he acts like an air head he's so freaking smart.

If someone does something wrong I'll go apeshit but he has ways of telling people how he feels in a really nice indirect way.

Perhaps you'll be really good together. My husband is a Virgo with Aqua and Uranus both dominant in his chart. I think Scorpio placements squaring Aqua can add sexy tension to the relationship equation. Gemini and Libra energies are of course lovely with Aqua as well.

youre right he does care about their stories he just can't say no to a pretty face.

Yes I'm making sure that I show that I appreciate him, it's his birthday on Friday and were having a pool party on sat, I just got his birthday present today, he's Maori and its traditional that they wear green stone which is pretty much jade and I get him one and some bibs and bobs.

Yeh good thing u figured out parenting first with that guy

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Posted by letterbox10
So your Libra bf loves looking at cock pics and porn, and you're ok with this? Or learning to be ok with this because being with him is helping you overcome your insecurities? Hm... trying to wrap my head around that. But if you are absolutely ok with it as you say and it's a very healing relationship, then it does sound like it's going well.

Your bf's placements are same as mine, except I'm female and straight. I do understand that Gemini moon very well, especially when paired with the Scorpio venus and mars (crazy!).

If on the other, you're actually not ok with him watching porn and cock pics, then by all means tell him that. Be honest that it upsets you and makes you jealous. If he really cares about you and respects you, then he should at least make some effort to reduce his porn habit.

And yeah, if my husband says he'll break off the legs of a guy who's hitting on me, I'd kiss him hard and give him the best night of his life too...

Ok he doesn't have a porn problem, he has a tumbler, Instagram problem, you know how you guys are superficial and drool over everyone at a dime of a hat, especially really hot guys? Well I just find that a tad superficial and I roll my eyes when he watches gorgeous Instagram guys post videos about how they had it hard in school and were bullied and he feels sorry for them.....

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Ok, good to know he doesn't have a porn problem. So it's more of a social media addiction? I use the term "addiction" rather loosely here, no offense.

Well, Libras are venusian, we like to look at lovely things, be it people, art, clothes, animals, sceneries... and he could really feel sorry for them, while appreciating how they look...

I love Aqua and Libra couples... when they work, they work really well together. But I can also understand how things can go completely south with these two.

So is your Libra boyfriend is basically gay/bi-sexual? It’s one thing to look at heterosexual porn, but he actually takes it a step further to actually flirt with a real live other man? Wow.lol

I mean I’ve heard of straight women liking lesbo porn just because it’s softer and we have the same thing so to some women it’s more appealing than watching the hard core heterosexual porn, but to actually take it a step further and flirt with the same sex screams bi-sexual. I’d be afraid he’d cheat on me with a dude if I were in your shoes. Just saying. But If you cool with it, good luck to you. But I’ve never heard of a straight guy liking to watch guy-on-guy or googling penis particularly.

"you know how you guys are superficial and drool over everyone at a dime of a hat, especially really hot guys?"

I actually can't relate to this at all. I have never been like that.

Posted by duchesslibro
An ex-bf w Libra Sun, Scorp V & Mars was also clumsy. I wonder if it's the Libra/Scorp energy combined..

My Libra did as well. And he was also very smart and could be clumsy himself (I didn't see it, but he would tell me). He was bi. Sex was on his mind A LOT. He did not like ultimatums. Funny he always wanted me to be patient but more often that not, would hardly do the same for me and then got mad when I called him out on it. He also over-analyzed everything, and I mean even things that were trivial. For the most part however, we were highly compatible. He had a very positive way of thinking which I really liked and I really enjoyed the get up and go attitude (I think that stemmed from having the Libra sun but Scorp moon, Venus and Mercury.) Sigh...still don't understand what went wrong.

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Posted by Lyse
So is your Libra boyfriend is basically gay/bi-sexual? It’s one thing to look at heterosexual porn, but he actually takes it a step further to actually flirt with a real live other man? Wow.lol

I mean I’ve heard of straight women liking lesbo porn just because it’s softer and we have the same thing so to some women it’s more appealing than watching the hard core heterosexual porn, but to actually take it a step further and flirt with the same sex screams bi-sexual. I’d be afraid he’d cheat on me with a dude if I were in your shoes. Just saying. But If you cool with it, good luck to you. But I’ve never heard of a straight guy liking to watch guy-on-guy or googling penis particularly.

OP is a gay male and so is his bf.

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Ohhhhhhhhhh lol. Now it makes sense. I'm like huh? lol

Posted by rockyroadicecream
You "got" a boyfriend? Like you went shopping?

Just teasing, but it's always amused me when people say "I just got myself a new bf/gf," like they just went out to Target and got one on a whim.


In regard to your situation, simmer the hell down. If you're going to end up struggling with all your baggage, it's not fair to the Libra or yourself to force another relationship when you should be taking down time to get over your shit.

But if you're seeing yourself calming down and feeling less threatened due to insecurities, I'm not sure what answers you're looking for, seeing as how things seem fine. It seems as if you're looking for something wrong to stress over and that's just unnecessary.

LMAO!! Rocky, you kill me.