How did you get over your ex libra?

Provided you loved them and thought there will be a future.

One day at a time and with no contact. Start focusing on yourself because I'm sure you've neglected yourself during the relationship. Push yourself back out there on the days you don't feel too low and except every invitation to go out and about. It's way better than staying at home and dwelling, there'll be plenty of days for that. Smile at a stranger and watch their reaction.

Posted by sweethearts
One day at a time and with no contact. Start focusing on yourself because I'm sure you've neglected yourself during the relationship. Push yourself back out there on the days you don't feel too low and except every invitation to go out and about. It's way better than staying at home and dwelling, there'll be plenty of days for that. Smile at a stranger and watch their reaction.

I'm trying...it's the loneliness of it all. He's back on dating sites like nothing has happen and I'm not ready to date not even a lil bit not sure how some can do that, but I'm just trying to be ok again.

Go to the gym.

No contact.

No visibility via social media or DATING SITES.

It makes it harder if you still have access to all that shit and can see into their lives and goings on. It won't help you try to get over dude if you know what's going on with him.

That was the one thing I hated most about dating my ex. We have a ton of mutual friends, so I always had some sort of insight going on with him. It dragged out the entire healing process so much. It's why I refuse to date within a circle of friends again. That shit will follow you. :/

Posted by rockyroadicecream
No contact.

No visibility via social media or DATING SITES.

It makes it harder if you still have access to all that shit and can see into their lives and goings on. It won't help you try to get over dude if you know what's going on with him.

That was the one thing I hated most about dating my ex. We have a ton of mutual friends, so I always had some sort of insight going on with him. It dragged out the entire healing process so much. It's why I refuse to date within a circle of friends again. That shit will follow you. :/

That had to be difficult. How long did it take you with all that being considered? Did he try to get you back

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
No contact.

No visibility via social media or DATING SITES.

It makes it harder if you still have access to all that shit and can see into their lives and goings on. It won't help you try to get over dude if you know what's going on with him.

That was the one thing I hated most about dating my ex. We have a ton of mutual friends, so I always had some sort of insight going on with him. It dragged out the entire healing process so much. It's why I refuse to date within a circle of friends again. That shit will follow you. :/

That had to be difficult. How long did it take you with all that being considered? Did he try to get you back

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I dunno. Longer than I'd have liked, considering we hadn't been together that long. My inquisitiveness always had me pondering stuff well beyond when I actually got over him. It's been awhile too since all that happened, so I don't remember the definitive moment. I kept myself busy with school at the time anyway.

He didn't try to get me "back," but he did try to hook up with me when we caught up over dinner two years post break up. He turned into even more of a weirdo after that. His poor widdle ego. 😢 He's gotten better now, though. He made things really awkward for everyone for awhile. I finally called him out on his weird, avoidant shit and he stopped. He kisses my ass now, lol.

...never again though. I refuse to date anyone within our circle, and I've had two guys attempt to approach me. Nooothankyou. Shit gets so strange when you have to keep seeing exes and their new dramas with hook ups and pseudo girlfriends. ...though it is entertaining to see he's not doing so hot after ditching me, haha. Gotta love karma. 🙂

For your case, take it day by day. It suxors. You'll do better once they're out of sight, out of mind. I had much better luck when I could just drop them cold turkey because I wouldn't have to see them again, whether it was social media, or face to face.

Keep away from all the places you went and places you might bump into him because you aren't ready. Took at least 3 months before I wanted to get out and stop mourning, you need to allow yourself some mourning time but you also will benefit from being active...it might not feel it at first because you will eat drink and sleep with him on your mind...then one day you will start to notice it gets less and less and what a relief!

Everybody has different times where they will feel ready to explore dating again, you'll probably take a while and that's why you can't understand how easy it is for him to...he just needs to be with someone but chances are there will be lots of someones...