CrabbieCakes
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How to apologize to a libra
Say everything you want to say and then walk away and let them think is all you can do, then possibly go back a week later and ask if they have had time to think and do they want to discuss it?
If it is a romantic relationship, it may take longer and may not end well if they have decided to walk and not turn back. Some will not want to talk at all and some will want to know that there is no hatred or ill feelings and that might not be what you want, which will make them less likely to enter into confrontation.
If it is a romantic relationship, it may take longer and may not end well if they have decided to walk and not turn back. Some will not want to talk at all and some will want to know that there is no hatred or ill feelings and that might not be what you want, which will make them less likely to enter into confrontation.
Maybe 2014 isn't a good year for Libras & water signs but I have seen lots of Libras fall out of favor with their water sign counter-parts. Friends, relationships - even some family members.
And what seems to make it ever more difficult is how tough it is to repair, specifically because of the libra's way.
How does someone get back on good terms w a libra? I know how they usually react to tension on a interpersonal basis.
But what can you do to actually repair the relationship?
I've read, you can keep trying until they completely cut you out of their life and avoid all contact with you. Straight up ignoring you because you've annoyed them into hating you.
Or to wait for them to be over it and come back to you (because that will be proof they really care).
I've seen Libras accept apologies, but still given the while relationship the axe.
And I've seen that some times these things happen with Libras and an apology isn't part of the equation. They just needed space or there was a misunderstanding or they just fell out of favor. How can you get over this speed bump?
Where's the middle ground? How can you take the initiate to repair a relationship (with a libra) without being too persistent to the point of burdensome and annoying?
To what extent can you be honest and open with a libra without chasing them away or bugging them with your emotions?
How do you get a libra hear you out and then move on to the next step in your history?
Because sometimes you just don't want to give up on a friendship just because someone is being moody.
Again, this is all relationships: friendships, romantic relationships - any type.
And what seems to make it ever more difficult is how tough it is to repair, specifically because of the libra's way.
How does someone get back on good terms w a libra? I know how they usually react to tension on a interpersonal basis.
But what can you do to actually repair the relationship?
I've read, you can keep trying until they completely cut you out of their life and avoid all contact with you. Straight up ignoring you because you've annoyed them into hating you.
Or to wait for them to be over it and come back to you (because that will be proof they really care).
I've seen Libras accept apologies, but still given the while relationship the axe.
And I've seen that some times these things happen with Libras and an apology isn't part of the equation. They just needed space or there was a misunderstanding or they just fell out of favor. How can you get over this speed bump?
Where's the middle ground? How can you take the initiate to repair a relationship (with a libra) without being too persistent to the point of burdensome and annoying?
To what extent can you be honest and open with a libra without chasing them away or bugging them with your emotions?
How do you get a libra hear you out and then move on to the next step in your history?
Because sometimes you just don't want to give up on a friendship just because someone is being moody.
Again, this is all relationships: friendships, romantic relationships - any type.
Appealing to their logical side and being direct is the best bet. I know water signs, especially crabs like to do the passive dance and that can get annoying sometime because its like you are asking the person you wronged to take the initiative to mend the relationship when it should be the person who did the wrong to take the initiative to heal the relationship.
Being a Fire sun and Air Moon I can tell you this is what it feels like in MOST relationship with water signs. It's not that you are persistent but you dance around the issue expecting someone stronger to step up and say something when you should very simply apologize. This can be very tiring for any fire or air in any kind of relationships with a water. It's makes it SEEM like you are not trying at all when really you are at a lost at what to do.
The best way to fix this? State the facts, simple truth of the situation, no accusations... maybe a little assuming, be empathetic (and this is where the assumption comes in). Just be real. None of this passive coupled sugar coating and persistent shit
Being a Fire sun and Air Moon I can tell you this is what it feels like in MOST relationship with water signs. It's not that you are persistent but you dance around the issue expecting someone stronger to step up and say something when you should very simply apologize. This can be very tiring for any fire or air in any kind of relationships with a water. It's makes it SEEM like you are not trying at all when really you are at a lost at what to do.
The best way to fix this? State the facts, simple truth of the situation, no accusations... maybe a little assuming, be empathetic (and this is where the assumption comes in). Just be real. None of this passive coupled sugar coating and persistent shit
At the end of the day if the crime was not huge then an apology should do fine. And after you apologize the ball will be their court and you just have to let the chips fall where they may after that.
Posted by CrabbieCakes
Maybe 2014 isn't a good year for Libras & water signs but I have seen lots of Libras fall out of favor with their water sign counter-parts. Friends, relationships - even some family members.
And what seems to make it ever more difficult is how tough it is to repair, specifically because of the libra's way.
How does someone get back on good terms w a libra? I know how they usually react to tension on a interpersonal basis.
But what can you do to actually repair the relationship?
I've read, you can keep trying until they completely cut you out of their life and avoid all contact with you. Straight up ignoring you because you've annoyed them into hating you.
Or to wait for them to be over it and come back to you (because that will be proof they really care).
I've seen Libras accept apologies, but still given the while relationship the axe.
And I've seen that some times these things happen with Libras and an apology isn't part of the equation. They just needed space or there was a misunderstanding or they just fell out of favor. How can you get over this speed bump?
Where's the middle ground? How can you take the initiate to repair a relationship (with a libra) without being too persistent to the point of burdensome and annoying?
To what extent can you be honest and open with a libra without chasing them away or bugging them with your emotions?
How do you get a libra hear you out and then move on to the next step in your history?
Because sometimes you just don't want to give up on a friendship just because someone is being moody.
Again, this is all relationships: friendships, romantic relationships - any type.
I'm a fire sag with lots of water in my chart so I feel so connected to this situation. We broke u early april just before easter holidays. It wasn't a bad break up and he said he wanted us to remain friends. Call called me a week after and we just spoke like normal. I was having a bad day one night so gave him a call but he didn't want to speak to me and wanted to cut communication. I thought this was unfair and I was really hurt. Messages him a few times to ask him to come and collect his clothes before he moved back home. I didn't think this would be a big deal but he still refused to talk to me. Last week he was at a friends birthday party and I had no idea he would be there. It was all good, we spoke a lo
t and laughed a lot but i tried to keep my distance. didn't want to smother him or bring up feelings again but that night I got a little too drunk and he ended up coming home with me. He blames this on me but I'm pretty sure he was as eager as i was to jump in the cab with me. we were just laughing like idiots really. got home and I kicked off about something. got into an argument (cannot remember what about)and woke up the next morning really confused. We kept talking about the previous night, but before he left he told me we shouldn't be communicating again. I really want to apologise but how do you do that to someone who won't even listen to you ?
Say everything you want to say and then walk away and let them think is all you can do, then possibly go back a week later and ask if they have had time to think and do they want to discuss it?
If it is a romantic relationship, it may take longer and may not end well if they have decided to walk and not turn back. Some will not want to talk at all and some will want to know that there is no hatred or ill feelings and that might not be what you want, which will make them less likely to enter into confrontation.
If it is a romantic relationship, it may take longer and may not end well if they have decided to walk and not turn back. Some will not want to talk at all and some will want to know that there is no hatred or ill feelings and that might not be what you want, which will make them less likely to enter into confrontation.
Maybe 2014 isn't a good year for Libras & water signs but I have seen lots of Libras fall out of favor with their water sign counter-parts. Friends, relationships - even some family members.
And what seems to make it ever more difficult is how tough it is to repair, specifically because of the libra's way.
How does someone get back on good terms w a libra? I know how they usually react to tension on a interpersonal basis.
But what can you do to actually repair the relationship?
I've read, you can keep trying until they completely cut you out of their life and avoid all contact with you. Straight up ignoring you because you've annoyed them into hating you.
Or to wait for them to be over it and come back to you (because that will be proof they really care).
I've seen Libras accept apologies, but still given the while relationship the axe.
And I've seen that some times these things happen with Libras and an apology isn't part of the equation. They just needed space or there was a misunderstanding or they just fell out of favor. How can you get over this speed bump?
Where's the middle ground? How can you take the initiate to repair a relationship (with a libra) without being too persistent to the point of burdensome and annoying?
To what extent can you be honest and open with a libra without chasing them away or bugging them with your emotions?
How do you get a libra hear you out and then move on to the next step in your history?
Because sometimes you just don't want to give up on a friendship just because someone is being moody.
Again, this is all relationships: friendships, romantic relationships - any type.
And what seems to make it ever more difficult is how tough it is to repair, specifically because of the libra's way.
How does someone get back on good terms w a libra? I know how they usually react to tension on a interpersonal basis.
But what can you do to actually repair the relationship?
I've read, you can keep trying until they completely cut you out of their life and avoid all contact with you. Straight up ignoring you because you've annoyed them into hating you.
Or to wait for them to be over it and come back to you (because that will be proof they really care).
I've seen Libras accept apologies, but still given the while relationship the axe.
And I've seen that some times these things happen with Libras and an apology isn't part of the equation. They just needed space or there was a misunderstanding or they just fell out of favor. How can you get over this speed bump?
Where's the middle ground? How can you take the initiate to repair a relationship (with a libra) without being too persistent to the point of burdensome and annoying?
To what extent can you be honest and open with a libra without chasing them away or bugging them with your emotions?
How do you get a libra hear you out and then move on to the next step in your history?
Because sometimes you just don't want to give up on a friendship just because someone is being moody.
Again, this is all relationships: friendships, romantic relationships - any type.
I'm just about ready to end a friendship with a water sign and the main reason is because I don't see the problems in the friendship getting any better.
Typical example:
1) I speak honestly about what I think or feel about a person or issue.
2) For whatever reason, the water sign is hurt, offended, or both, by my words.
3A) The water sign expresses disappointment/disapproval/anger by "icing" me. No conversation, no explanation, no willingness to communicate. Day 1 we're tight as ticks. Day 2, I'm treated like a big nobody for however long it takes for the water sign to process his feelings and pull it together. Sometimes it's a few hours. Sometimes it's a few days. Sometimes it's weeks.
3B) Meanwhile, I'm doing what I can to communicate love/empathy to the water sign. I'm clued in to the fact that I've somehow "gotten to him." I feel terrible about it, but it's impossible to address and resolve the issue because the water sign refuses to engage in any meaningful communication. It's a double whammy -- I feel horrible for upsetting my friend BUT I also resent the power imbalance where I don't even get a real chance to make things right. Half the time I'm not even sure what I've done to offend him so badly.
4) Water sign shows up one day, all smiles and ready and willing to be friends again until I commit the next "infraction."
Do I love the guy? Yes I do, more than the waking world. But I'm fast approaching my limit for how much drama and powerlessness I'm willing to tolerate in a relationship.
Remember, Libras LOVE relationships. ALL of them: friendships, family connections, romantic pairings, professional partnerships, etc. We DON'T GIVE UP on our relationships UNLESS we're convinced that the problems in the relationships are not salvageable. If we've given up on you, it's because we honestly don't see how to make it work. If we feel like that, no amount of apologies will change our minds.
Typical example:
1) I speak honestly about what I think or feel about a person or issue.
2) For whatever reason, the water sign is hurt, offended, or both, by my words.
3A) The water sign expresses disappointment/disapproval/anger by "icing" me. No conversation, no explanation, no willingness to communicate. Day 1 we're tight as ticks. Day 2, I'm treated like a big nobody for however long it takes for the water sign to process his feelings and pull it together. Sometimes it's a few hours. Sometimes it's a few days. Sometimes it's weeks.
3B) Meanwhile, I'm doing what I can to communicate love/empathy to the water sign. I'm clued in to the fact that I've somehow "gotten to him." I feel terrible about it, but it's impossible to address and resolve the issue because the water sign refuses to engage in any meaningful communication. It's a double whammy -- I feel horrible for upsetting my friend BUT I also resent the power imbalance where I don't even get a real chance to make things right. Half the time I'm not even sure what I've done to offend him so badly.
4) Water sign shows up one day, all smiles and ready and willing to be friends again until I commit the next "infraction."
Do I love the guy? Yes I do, more than the waking world. But I'm fast approaching my limit for how much drama and powerlessness I'm willing to tolerate in a relationship.
Remember, Libras LOVE relationships. ALL of them: friendships, family connections, romantic pairings, professional partnerships, etc. We DON'T GIVE UP on our relationships UNLESS we're convinced that the problems in the relationships are not salvageable. If we've given up on you, it's because we honestly don't see how to make it work. If we feel like that, no amount of apologies will change our minds.
Libras forgive easily and are very tolerant people, but they need lots of reassurance that you still care about them. You should be able to get back in their good graces by being sincerely apologetic and proving to them that you care.,
Posted by tizianiPosted by CreoleGeisha
3A) The water sign expresses disappointment/disapproval/anger by "icing" me. No conversation, no explanation, no willingness to communicate. Day 1 we're tight as ticks. Day 2, I'm treated like a big nobody for however long it takes for the water sign to process his feelings and pull it together. Sometimes it's a few hours. Sometimes it's a few days. Sometimes it's weeks.
3B) Meanwhile, I'm doing what I can to communicate love/empathy to the water sign. I'm clued in to the fact that I've somehow "gotten to him." I feel terrible about it, but it's impossible to address and resolve the issue because the water sign refuses to engage in any meaningful communication. It's a double whammy -- I feel horrible for upsetting my friend BUT I also resent the power imbalance where I don't even get a real chance to make things right. Half the time I'm not even sure what I've done to offend him so badly.
I think when someone wants to be alone it's best to just respect them and leave them alone. Not cross their boundaries by showing them more "love and empathy". Sometimes it's really not a power game, it's just basic respect and boundaries.click to expand
Well yes. That's what I meant. I don't chase after the guy. I just sort of sigh sadly and back off. And yes, it is a power game.
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Libras forgive easily and are very tolerant people, but they need lots of reassurance that you still care about them. You should be able to get back in their good graces by being sincerely apologetic and proving to them that you care.,
This is so true. As long as I believe the relationship has value and benefits all involved, I'll hang in there. Make me feel like my time/love/attention is only valuable subject to impossible conditions or expectations, just forget you even knew me.
Posted by tizianiPosted by CreoleGeishaPosted by tizianiPosted by CreoleGeisha
3A) The water sign expresses disappointment/disapproval/anger by "icing" me. No conversation, no explanation, no willingness to communicate. Day 1 we're tight as ticks. Day 2, I'm treated like a big nobody for however long it takes for the water sign to process his feelings and pull it together. Sometimes it's a few hours. Sometimes it's a few days. Sometimes it's weeks.
3B) Meanwhile, I'm doing what I can to communicate love/empathy to the water sign. I'm clued in to the fact that I've somehow "gotten to him." I feel terrible about it, but it's impossible to address and resolve the issue because the water sign refuses to engage in any meaningful communication. It's a double whammy -- I feel horrible for upsetting my friend BUT I also resent the power imbalance where I don't even get a real chance to make things right. Half the time I'm not even sure what I've done to offend him so badly.
I think when someone wants to be alone it's best to just respect them and leave them alone. Not cross their boundaries by showing them more "love and empathy". Sometimes it's really not a power game, it's just basic respect and boundaries.
Well yes. That's what I meant. I don't chase after the guy. I just sort of sigh sadly and back off. And yes, it is a power game.
I don't understand. If you back off then why would you feel you don't get a chance to make things right? Your chance is to back off and respect their feelings and space. Even if it were a power game, you're giving them all the power by trying to fix how you look in their eyes rather than just letting it play out naturally. Not that I'd recommend playing games anyway, but on both counts you're frustrating yourself unnecessarily.click to expand
Good words. Thanks.
@ Tiziani every comment on point.
Remember, Libras LOVE relationships. ALL of them: friendships, family connections, romantic pairings, professional partnerships, etc. We DON'T GIVE UP on our relationships UNLESS we're convinced that the problems in the relationships are not salvageable. If we've given up on you, it's because we honestly don't see how to make it work. If we feel like that, no amount of apologies will change our minds.
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Agree with "creolegeisha"..it's not about space..it's about respect. If I did something to you, then tell me! If you want space, you got that too because no one loves their space more than a Libra.... who actually NEEDS space, but please don't think that you can pop in and out of my life without explanation at some point. Now, if that's the way a fish operates, I get that, but know that as a Libra I have my way of operation as well, and if I can put my pride aside and reach out, but you can't, then guess what? F^&K'EM...FEED'EM FISH because respect is a two street. It's just that plain and simple. Don't bother me, and I won't bother you and let that be the reason for the season. I'm not saying that too be mean or hard, it's just life is too short for bullshiggity or games. Remember, it really takes the average Libra a long time to let someone into their lives on that level, so when they do, they take the relationship very serious whether it's a friend, lover or family and if the feelings are not reciprocated, then it's pretty much a wrap. We probaly won't totally exlcude you from our lives, but things won't be the same either.
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Agree with "creolegeisha"..it's not about space..it's about respect. If I did something to you, then tell me! If you want space, you got that too because no one loves their space more than a Libra.... who actually NEEDS space, but please don't think that you can pop in and out of my life without explanation at some point. Now, if that's the way a fish operates, I get that, but know that as a Libra I have my way of operation as well, and if I can put my pride aside and reach out, but you can't, then guess what? F^&K'EM...FEED'EM FISH because respect is a two street. It's just that plain and simple. Don't bother me, and I won't bother you and let that be the reason for the season. I'm not saying that too be mean or hard, it's just life is too short for bullshiggity or games. Remember, it really takes the average Libra a long time to let someone into their lives on that level, so when they do, they take the relationship very serious whether it's a friend, lover or family and if the feelings are not reciprocated, then it's pretty much a wrap. We probaly won't totally exlcude you from our lives, but things won't be the same either.
Bahaha, I am a Libra and have had a horrible time with water signs this year.
Okay, #1 never apologize over text or the internet. If you are going to apologize do it face to face (or at least skype). Why? Because if a Libra is in a bad mood everything will be read as an insult.
#2 ACTUALLY apologize. State exactly what you did wrong and why you are sorry you did it. Just saying sorry all the time means nothing and is really very irritating.
#3 Do NOT tell a Libra that they are also wrong or that they owe you an apology. Do not give a "backhanded" apology where you insult them while apologizing to them. We can see through this shit and this is often where a Libra will seem to accept your apology, but cut you off anyways. If the Libra is offended at the end of your apology you don goofed.
#4 Don't do the same thing again after you offered an apology and got back into your Libras good graces. I have met men who can look me in the eye and apologize sincerely and then back stab me as soon as I forgive them. At that point you can write the most beautiful prose and sing that shit outside a Libras window and they still wont forgive you, because they know how well you lie.
#5 If you don't know what is wrong, ASK. If they don't answer, wait a while and then ask again. Tell them that you honestly don't know what is wrong. If they tell you what is wrong and you don't know what to do about it, say that. Libras can come up with a dozen solutions to every problem. Ask them what the solution is, and then take their advice. Libras LOOVE it when someone takes their advice. Having someone take our advice and then thank us for giving the advice when it works is like candy coated crack to Libras. We love having our minds respected.
#6 If you are very confused and can't talk to the Libra directly, get a third party to intervene and ask the Libra how they feel about the situation. This does NOT mean asking a third party for advice. They literally need to get the entire story from you, then go talk to the Libra and get the entire story from them, then tell you what the Libra said. Whatever you do, do not go around complaining about the situation to others and then listen to random advice from strangers, and then confront the Libra saying "People agree with me that you're crazy." This can constitute backstabbing as well as breaking rule #3.
#7 Telling a Libra that they are being moody or that they are over reacting or are wrong to have feelings, or that every
Okay, #1 never apologize over text or the internet. If you are going to apologize do it face to face (or at least skype). Why? Because if a Libra is in a bad mood everything will be read as an insult.
#2 ACTUALLY apologize. State exactly what you did wrong and why you are sorry you did it. Just saying sorry all the time means nothing and is really very irritating.
#3 Do NOT tell a Libra that they are also wrong or that they owe you an apology. Do not give a "backhanded" apology where you insult them while apologizing to them. We can see through this shit and this is often where a Libra will seem to accept your apology, but cut you off anyways. If the Libra is offended at the end of your apology you don goofed.
#4 Don't do the same thing again after you offered an apology and got back into your Libras good graces. I have met men who can look me in the eye and apologize sincerely and then back stab me as soon as I forgive them. At that point you can write the most beautiful prose and sing that shit outside a Libras window and they still wont forgive you, because they know how well you lie.
#5 If you don't know what is wrong, ASK. If they don't answer, wait a while and then ask again. Tell them that you honestly don't know what is wrong. If they tell you what is wrong and you don't know what to do about it, say that. Libras can come up with a dozen solutions to every problem. Ask them what the solution is, and then take their advice. Libras LOOVE it when someone takes their advice. Having someone take our advice and then thank us for giving the advice when it works is like candy coated crack to Libras. We love having our minds respected.
#6 If you are very confused and can't talk to the Libra directly, get a third party to intervene and ask the Libra how they feel about the situation. This does NOT mean asking a third party for advice. They literally need to get the entire story from you, then go talk to the Libra and get the entire story from them, then tell you what the Libra said. Whatever you do, do not go around complaining about the situation to others and then listen to random advice from strangers, and then confront the Libra saying "People agree with me that you're crazy." This can constitute backstabbing as well as breaking rule #3.
#7 Telling a Libra that they are being moody or that they are over reacting or are wrong to have feelings, or that every
or that everyone's feelings are their own choice and therefore it is their own choice to be pissed off and has nothing to do with how you treat them SHOULD NEVER COME OUT OF YOUR MOUTH. Trying to blame the Libra for being upset and trying to convince them that they are crazy is a good way to get the velvet glove taken off of the iron gauntlet that is a Libras core self. Nothing is meaner than an out of balance Libra. The reason Libras cut people out of their lives and shut down when they are upset is because this is the way we suppress the urge to destroy you and everything you love. We are perfectly capable of ripping out your soul and destroying your fragile world view. We can have you crying on the floor curled up in a fetal position after a 15 minute conversation. We can have grow men run in terror from the power of our words. When we shut you out and go silent WE ARE DOING YOU A FAVOR. Seriously, you don't want an enraged Libra to be talking to you if you're the one who enraged them. (also don't ever tell them that you are trying to "toughen them up" 😱< )
#8 If you are living with a Libra and they get upset and silently walk away... they probably need to be alone. Don't try to talk out things when a Libra is upset. Harassing a Libra to explain what's wrong when they have gone into silent mode will only upset them more, there is nothing good to be gained from it. After a Libra has control of themselves again you can try to discuss what's going on. The mistake people make is that they think the cheerfulness that often follows the Libras withdrawal period means all is forgiven, it doesn't. Libras take note of everything and every time you piss off a Libra and don't properly apologize it's added to the internal scale. This is weighed against every time you've done something really awesome for a Libra and is how they determine your worth (which is how they determine weather or not to cut you out of their life).
#9 Sometimes it's not you. This is why it's good to have lots of honest discussions. Every now and then a Libra will be upset because they have a life that doesn't revolve around you. If a Libra suddenly doesn't respond to any texts from you, it's quite possible they aren't responding to anyone's texts. It's also possible they are only spending time with very certain people because they know those people will help them balance themselves. In these cases they aren't mad at you and they aren't trying to offend you, they are simply dealing with
#8 If you are living with a Libra and they get upset and silently walk away... they probably need to be alone. Don't try to talk out things when a Libra is upset. Harassing a Libra to explain what's wrong when they have gone into silent mode will only upset them more, there is nothing good to be gained from it. After a Libra has control of themselves again you can try to discuss what's going on. The mistake people make is that they think the cheerfulness that often follows the Libras withdrawal period means all is forgiven, it doesn't. Libras take note of everything and every time you piss off a Libra and don't properly apologize it's added to the internal scale. This is weighed against every time you've done something really awesome for a Libra and is how they determine your worth (which is how they determine weather or not to cut you out of their life).
#9 Sometimes it's not you. This is why it's good to have lots of honest discussions. Every now and then a Libra will be upset because they have a life that doesn't revolve around you. If a Libra suddenly doesn't respond to any texts from you, it's quite possible they aren't responding to anyone's texts. It's also possible they are only spending time with very certain people because they know those people will help them balance themselves. In these cases they aren't mad at you and they aren't trying to offend you, they are simply dealing with
Enada nailed it on the head! I'll add that you shouldn't assume what the issue is because that will just make us more mad. Recently I was ticked while hanging out with a "friend" because I learned she was not honest with me when it came to a plan that we had. I didn't show it merely gave her a hug and said good bye. The next day the apology I received was for something I could have cared less about. Very infuriating when someone close to you knows they did something wrong and are honestly hoping that it's a simple thing no one would ever get mad about.
Both. Depends on how much they want to avoid problems.
Apologizing? Just buy them something shiny and all will be forgotten.
Apologizing? Just buy them something shiny and all will be forgotten.
We'll, if a Libra cuts you off, then you probably put the scissors in their hand. It usually takes MOST, not ALL Libra's a long time to disengage a relationship with someone they consider a good friend, so if that happens just let it go for a while. They may come around or they might just write off the relationship forever. From my own experiences, once I'm done with someone, I'm just done. Personally, I have always tried yo choose my words and actions carefully, so it's rare that I have to ever apologize, but have no problem doing so if warranted.
Even though I socialize with a lot of people, doesn't mean by any stroke of the imagination that I am friends with all of people I interact with, which is a misconception with Libra's. We are friendly by nature, but we generally don't have a lot of friends, so when I let someone into my circle I expect the same respect and consideration that I extend too them. If those gestures are not reciprocated within reason, then the relationship will not work. I probably won't abruptly stop talking too or treat you foul or ill but you will notice the difference. However, if it's something really bad, then it's pretty much a wrap and the relationship is over.
If I were you, I wouldn't worry too much about apologizing unless you know for a fact that you did something to piss them off. If it was just a simple misunderstanding your Libra friend will come around, but don't force it because it will only annoy them. Libra's are thinkers, and require a lot of space and freedom to dwell..lol
Even though I socialize with a lot of people, doesn't mean by any stroke of the imagination that I am friends with all of people I interact with, which is a misconception with Libra's. We are friendly by nature, but we generally don't have a lot of friends, so when I let someone into my circle I expect the same respect and consideration that I extend too them. If those gestures are not reciprocated within reason, then the relationship will not work. I probably won't abruptly stop talking too or treat you foul or ill but you will notice the difference. However, if it's something really bad, then it's pretty much a wrap and the relationship is over.
If I were you, I wouldn't worry too much about apologizing unless you know for a fact that you did something to piss them off. If it was just a simple misunderstanding your Libra friend will come around, but don't force it because it will only annoy them. Libra's are thinkers, and require a lot of space and freedom to dwell..lol
@lib4life and enada..I couldn't have said it better than you two..it runs true for me..everything mentioned
I think xtina's advice is very valid but she admitted she's not a water sign so she doesn't get it.
We don't do any such dancing - we are cautious. We know how it feels to be wronged and cannot find words with enough depth to convey our apologies, so we complicate things out of consideration for all the pain we assume you've gone through.
Libras are light hearted and forgiving souls so xtinas advice will work. I just wanted to clear that up because I hate to see complacent air signs ragging on about others efforts when they rarely go out of their own way to patch things up.
P.s. If you're a libra with scorpio planets, then saturn is in transit (yikes retrograde) right now. Could explain why you feel out of it.
We don't do any such dancing - we are cautious. We know how it feels to be wronged and cannot find words with enough depth to convey our apologies, so we complicate things out of consideration for all the pain we assume you've gone through.
Libras are light hearted and forgiving souls so xtinas advice will work. I just wanted to clear that up because I hate to see complacent air signs ragging on about others efforts when they rarely go out of their own way to patch things up.
P.s. If you're a libra with scorpio planets, then saturn is in transit (yikes retrograde) right now. Could explain why you feel out of it.
I don't hold grudges, but if it the situation is bad enough I'd accept your apology and rather avoid you completely, sometimes lines are crossed while I don't know if this was the case for you, when stuff like that happens I'd forgive and avoid.
So what is the line, for me?? When you do something that clearly depicts you have zero respect for me/that person..as in there was no way you could act in this way to a person you call a friend or family member. When I see that,even if the person apologizes it'll take me a while to be willing to just act like nothing happen, I'd be good with just cutting you off.
So what is the line, for me?? When you do something that clearly depicts you have zero respect for me/that person..as in there was no way you could act in this way to a person you call a friend or family member. When I see that,even if the person apologizes it'll take me a while to be willing to just act like nothing happen, I'd be good with just cutting you off.
Posted by browndiamonds
I'm a Cancer women about to end my long distance relationship with a Libra man.
The relationship is a struggle. We want the same things but take a different approach to get them and I refuse to walk on eggshells in a relationship.
I have tried my best to have open communication with him.
If we are discussing our or his plans we are happy. When we are discussing things I like to do then his mood changes
and theres an argument. I always seem to be apologizing to help get us back on track.
He refuse phone communication unless I'm in town. When I leave it's only text communication.
I've express a few times that texting is not a good form of communication in a long distance relationship.
I'm not the typical Cancer women. My emotions are in check most of the time. Im more of aloof Cancer at times.
I like my space and allow him his. When I give to much space he accuses me of cheating.
I travel a lot for work and will ask him to meet me between travel from time to time. He just says "I'll wait."
Like Libras, Cancers will show you in their actions how they feel when in love. We give each other gifts and l
romantic text messages. I appreciate, however I need to see and hear your expression.
Its true that the attraction between Libras and Cancers often have a strong attraction, however its a struggle to balance out a relationship with a Libra man. I love him and always supported him in his adventurous. No doubt we are great when we are together. But I realise i have to truly love him from a distance and let go.
A Cancer can become very codependent on a Libra is one of the main issues with the relationship. Libras can't be there for you emotionally 100 percent of the time but when they do give their time it is usually genuine which is why a Cancer will always stick around. I have also found through experience that since Libras are such social people they have to juggle many different people and they tend to give each one an equal bit of their time. Sometimes it becomes overwhelming for them and they have to recharge their batteries and Cancers will take it the wrong way if they are in the middle of their own personal crisis wanting a shoulder to cry on.
I have found it is best to keep things lighthearted with Libras. They can keep Cancers in an upbeat mood but don't expect for them to solve your emotional problems for you.
I have found it is best to keep things lighthearted with Libras. They can keep Cancers in an upbeat mood but don't expect for them to solve your emotional problems for you.
In my experience, you just need to be really sincere. In your heart. If you really mean it they'll forgive you. If you apologize because you want something, they'll pick up on it. They're good at getting what they want from people and I think they can recognize when someone tries to do it to them. Say what you mean and mean what you say. They may not want to listen, but you need to make them. Not forcefully. You need to use words and tact so that they understand. They're bad about saying they forgive and asking for forgiveness though.
We are working things out and I do find being direct with him works . I flip the script on him and just told him when I'm coming into town... when to pick me up. I just tell him what I want and keep the questions simple....we happy...
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