I give up with Libras

Surprise! Another Libra problem I'm having. For those of you that have been here long enough, I've posted 2-3 things about libra girls...and yet I'm having another problem with another libra. This was one of the libras I considered a good friend. I've known this one since she was 19. So two years. I did not try to ask this one out or do anything serious with her. Just be good friends. She's obviously very pretty and very Christian and hangs out with model looking guys...to which I'm not..I've gained some weight but I'm trying to fix that.
It did cross my mind a couple times to possibly ask her if she wanted to date but I never did after what I went through last year with another libra. This Libra has been treating me like I don't exist for the past two months nearly. And to me that's worse than treating me like your rival. She didn't wish me a happy birthday....that hurt since I thought she was a good friend. She didn't say hello or smile at me when I walk by. What gives? So me being a cancer I'm left confused and after learning some lessons dealing with some other libras. I left this one alone and treated her the same way back. Now the past two weeks she's being friendly again but NO WHERE NEAR as she was before. I approached her today and asked nicely "is there something wrong between us?" I've gotten a vibe that there is, so I've backed off and left you alone. She came back and just said "oh no, everything is fine nothing is wrong.".....didn't say anything else so I left it at that.
Can someone please tell me why this libra has suddenly changed towards me? I just don't understand and I'm pretty upset about it.

You come across as needy, and that's probably the #1 thing women hate next to insecurity. I could be wrong though.

Stop putting so much value on them and the way they treat you. Or seeking validation

I guess I need to be more cold to them...I'm too nice is probably another issue and that comes off maybe as you said needy.

How do you see fake or weird vibes? That's what I'm trying to understand. Ive gotten along with so many libras.....and after awhile things start to go south without any notice or warning. They start acting cold towards me and act I don't exist anymore. For the one I dealt with last year. I understand why she did. But I don't understand why this one did.
I've seen everywhere Cancer and Libras are hit or miss, 50/50. Not worst match. My worst match by far is Gemini and Sagittarius. But I hear a lot of similarities between Gemini and Libra.

I've read also Libras think Cancers are mentally weak. That's stupid. Mentally weak is James Holmes, or the guy that shot and killed 4 marines in Tennessee. Can't tell the difference between right or wrong. Giving up easily when things start to get tough, lying continously. All which I don't do.

What this Libra doesn't enjoy about Cancers is the tendency to obsess and complain and dwell in the past. No thank you! Moving forward please..

It is a weakness of mine I'm trying to get better at duchesslibro. I'm sorry. I'm trying to get better, so I understand.

Plus if you know that you didn't do anything wrong, why would you even ask her if there was a problem? To a Libra that is another sign of someone that is emotionally needy. Are you just attracted to Librans? I don't think I would continue any kinda relationship with a group of folks that bring me this much turmoil. In fact, I would stay as far away as possible from a Libra. I have Cancer friends and one of my Cancer friends and I have been close for 42 years. We met when we were about 6 years old and have been close every since. Yeah, she can be very emotional and dramatic at times..(Lord knows she can) even at this age, but she's one of the sweetest people I know and will go to the end of the earth for you. I love her and would do the same for her.

I don't know your ages so maybe that has a lot to do with it, but in time if you're that drawn to Libra's and must have them in your life, then adjustments will need to be made. Now that you have experience under your belt dealing with Libra's, don't take everything so personal and DON'T ALLOW ANYONE TO TREAT YOU LESS THAN YOU WOULD TREAT THEM. If the feelings and respect is not being reciprocated, and that goes for any sign, fuq'em..feed'em fish! Move on with your life, but you shouldn't base all your experience with a few Libra's as the be all to end all. You have a responsibility in your actions as well because you keep allowing this too happen. Get your back bone and be upfront when things are not going as fairly as you would like. You have to be upfront with a Libra no matter how bad it hurts their feelings. If their wrong, they will see your point no matter how stubborn they are.

Sorry I did get emotionally upset when I started this. I don't want to give up on Libras. I want to get along with them better. I've always had things start off well and they ended badly...some without warning. Which is the case here. I don't think I did anything wrong and she's been acting so cold to me for the past month and a half. Last time I hanged out with her she took me out to lunch and we took so many selfies. Everything was rosy and beautiful. But just as friends. We talked about going indoor rock climbing, never happened. We have not text, snap, or talked on the phone since then. I only see her at work a few times. I teased her a little today and she snapped! Act like it was a big deal but wasnt. I wish I could date her, but I'm not ready to date a libra obviously plus I don't want to ruin the friendship. So I have not made any aggressive moves.

@Cancer2448, Cancer and Libra's get along well for 6 months, after that, it goes downhill. I'm Libra female, I've found Cancer men to be boring and inconsiderate. Maybe it's because of a needy nature, which we like, for a short while only. Seems like you are very attracted to this girl and she does not feel the same way. She most likely knows you "like" and does not want to hurt your feelings and/or lead you on. BTW... don't change for someone else, do it for you... Good luck 🙂

I wouldn't say I'm inconsiderate though. Because I care a lot about people's feelings. Hopefully not all cancers are inconsiderate. I do like her but as I said....after what happened last year with another libra, I'm not going to make a move on this one. I just want things to be peaceful and friendly between us. She's a great libra gal with so many great qualities...I would be lucky to have her. But I see the guys she hangs out with and they're all good-looking, model shaped guys. I would say I'm good-looking but not model shaped. Too much competition to fight over for this one. I guess I'll leave her alone and pray things get better.

Oh boy...now I've found she's blocked me on Instagram and Twitter. But still friends on Facebook. Everyone please believe me I have not messaged, snap, or anything to her. I don't get it. I guess really need to think hard that I possibly did something wrong. I'm pretty torn right now.

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I guess you need to "THINK" hard that you possibly need to let her go, so you can be free from pain, and to find your own happiness. It's not hard, time will change you🙂

I can't believe this is happening again Lust. I never made a move on this one. But I know you're right

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Oh boy...now I've found she's blocked me on Instagram and Twitter. But still friends on Facebook. Everyone please believe me I have not messaged, snap, or anything to her. I don't get it. I guess really need to think hard that I possibly did something wrong. I'm pretty torn right now.

all you need to know is she is inconsistent and causes you upset. why would you persist in having that in your life? walk away until she can prove that she can be a friend to you.

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Oh boy...now I've found she's blocked me on Instagram and Twitter. But still friends on Facebook. Everyone please believe me I have not messaged, snap, or anything to her. I don't get it. I guess really need to think hard that I possibly did something wrong. I'm pretty torn right now.

all you need to know is she is inconsistent and causes you upset. why would you persist in having that in your life? walk away until she can prove that she can be a friend to you.

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Is it worth saying anything to her? Calling her out for lying to me? Otherwise I agree 100% .

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Is it worth saying anything to her? Calling her out for lying to me? Otherwise I agree 100% .

what is your intention for doing that? to feel better? so that she will change?

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Is it worth saying anything to her? Calling her out for lying to me? Otherwise I agree 100% .

what is your intention for doing that? to feel better? so that she will change?

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I see why you are asking that. But no my intention is for her to understand what she is doing is rude and hurtful. I let a libra last year get away with stuff like lying to me...it started out being little white lies and then grew to bigger ones. I've read posts you have to let a libra know in a calm manner, that what they are doing wrong, if they are upsetting you. It's not right, and that should make their scales back even. That's what I'm saying. Should I do that?

Basically if they don't understand what they are doing. They'll keep making the same mistakes. Not just to you, but other people.

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Is it worth saying anything to her? Calling her out for lying to me? Otherwise I agree 100% .

what is your intention for doing that? to feel better? so that she will change?

I see why you are asking that. But no my intention is for her to understand what she is doing is rude and hurtful. I let a libra last year get away with stuff like lying to me...it started out being little white lies and then grew to bigger ones. I've read posts you have to let a libra know in a calm manner, that what they are doing wrong, if they are upsetting you. It's not right, and that should make their scales back even. That's what I'm saying. Should I do that?

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and what response do you expect? or do you even expect response?