daron76
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I still love my libra ex, what should I do?
When I got down stairs, I handed her the phone and asked her if there is anything she wanted to tell me. She said no. As we walked to the metro, I tried to calm myself. I then asked if she was sure she didn't want to talk to me about Person A. Her face turned white. I walked away. She said can we talk about this, to this I responded "why? you already said you had nothing to tell me about this". A couple days later I did listen to what she had to say, which was that he was someone she used to date but no longer saw a future with but he was convenient and offering her the attention she felt she was missing. So we broke up. I was so hurt that I realized the only way I was going to get past this was to forgive her and move on. So I did. A couple of weeks later (early October) we agreed to meet up and talk. After a few heart to hearts we both decided that there was something worth fighting for and we gave it another try. I asked her to be patient with me because, while I had forgiven her, trust and intimacy are going to have to be rebuilt and I was going to do everything I could to rebuild it on my end. She agreed.
Obviously it was struggle to be affectionate to her right away. She was understanding at first, but soon she began to complain about it. I told her that I wouldn't be here if she didn't mean the world to me, just please give me and us time to work through this space. It was now xmas and after spending time with my family and recharging, I felt my getting that passion back for her. When we both got back in town, things were fine for a week or two. Then in Feb she comes to see me and says she isn't sure she wants to be with me and maybe we should take a break. We did, but the absence only seemed to make us grow fonder- we talked every day all day, we just didn't see each other. After 3 weeks we started seeing each other again (in March) and the passion was intense. Everything seemed to be great. A few weeks later (the end of March) we got out for dinner and the convo turns serious in regards to here finding a new apt. I suggested that she give some thought to moving in with me if she really needed to get out her place badly. She then said that she still wasn't sure if she saw a future with me. I told here that I was there for her but I f I don't make her happy then she should go. We kinda broke up- before I made it home she had already started txting me. So I called when I got home and just asked her "are you sure you want to walk away". She said she wasn't- that she was just concerned that she was losing her self in the relationship and not having time for herself. I told her she can have what ever time she needs. This worked great for a month (April), until I asked her how she was feeling. She said she was happy then I asked how I was and I said I'm not the biggest fan of seeing you once or twice a week but if this is what you need right now I will support it.
Obviously it was struggle to be affectionate to her right away. She was understanding at first, but soon she began to complain about it. I told her that I wouldn't be here if she didn't mean the world to me, just please give me and us time to work through this space. It was now xmas and after spending time with my family and recharging, I felt my getting that passion back for her. When we both got back in town, things were fine for a week or two. Then in Feb she comes to see me and says she isn't sure she wants to be with me and maybe we should take a break. We did, but the absence only seemed to make us grow fonder- we talked every day all day, we just didn't see each other. After 3 weeks we started seeing each other again (in March) and the passion was intense. Everything seemed to be great. A few weeks later (the end of March) we got out for dinner and the convo turns serious in regards to here finding a new apt. I suggested that she give some thought to moving in with me if she really needed to get out her place badly. She then said that she still wasn't sure if she saw a future with me. I told here that I was there for her but I f I don't make her happy then she should go. We kinda broke up- before I made it home she had already started txting me. So I called when I got home and just asked her "are you sure you want to walk away". She said she wasn't- that she was just concerned that she was losing her self in the relationship and not having time for herself. I told her she can have what ever time she needs. This worked great for a month (April), until I asked her how she was feeling. She said she was happy then I asked how I was and I said I'm not the biggest fan of seeing you once or twice a week but if this is what you need right now I will support it.
She's unsure about something about you or your relationship. But I think she hangs around because you treat her so well.
I had gotten used to her being somewhat distant by this point but then she really went M.I.A. We used to chat back and forth all day on gchat and via txt, and then hangout/ talk all night. Now it was the one customary check-in phone call before bed and that was about it. Unfortunately as she withdrew, I read it as that's how she wanted things to be so I gave her the space. Then she started being disrespectful- she wanted us to bail on plans I had made with us and my friends so we could have a quiet night together and then wanted to bail on me that night to go out with her friends. At this point, (May) I figured she was acting out of character and something deeper was going on. So after a week of her being kinda mean and distant, I told that it seems she is trying to drive me away and that if she wanted out I was no longer going to fight her on that. If she wanted to stay I was willing to work through this. She said she wanted out. We broke up (May).
I didn't speak to her for about a month, but I wanted to clear the air and not leave it with this bad taste in my mouth. So I called her around 10am on a Sunday, and we literally talked (with out any negativity or animosity) until 10pm- when she asked if she come by my place cause she was tired from driving home from out of town. I said ok if this was necessary (she had anxiety attacks while driving on highways). She ended up make it to her place. Over the next week we texted back and forth with the occasional phone call. We went to happy our on that Friday and caught up. We ended up hanging out until late that evening, then I went home. She said she was available for anything I needed. We had dinner the following Thursday (with constant convo in between and then I stayed the night at her place . Nothing happened. But we did fall asleep in a very loving embrace. I caught my flight the next morning (had to go home for a funeral) and we continued talking. When I got back, I sent her cupcakes to her job as a thank you for being supportive. However, she became really flaky. I never called her on it- she doesn't owe me anything- it just struck me as odd. So I went about my business and hit her up when I felt like it. Something in me didn't feel right. So I got to work on figuring out what I was feeling. I had to accept the fact that I love her and I am still in love with her- that- that she was still the center of my world. After I got back from my next trip, we went to dinner and I told her how I felt and that I wanted to give us another try. I told her to take what ever time she needed to think about it. She seemed a bit shocked, and to about floored to hear that. We hung out for a bit after that and had some light hearted convo. She called me a few days later because she didnt want to wait to talk after her vacay. She told me that she couldn't really picture how that would work. I said ok, so you have moved on- she said no I wouldn't say that.
I didn't speak to her for about a month, but I wanted to clear the air and not leave it with this bad taste in my mouth. So I called her around 10am on a Sunday, and we literally talked (with out any negativity or animosity) until 10pm- when she asked if she come by my place cause she was tired from driving home from out of town. I said ok if this was necessary (she had anxiety attacks while driving on highways). She ended up make it to her place. Over the next week we texted back and forth with the occasional phone call. We went to happy our on that Friday and caught up. We ended up hanging out until late that evening, then I went home. She said she was available for anything I needed. We had dinner the following Thursday (with constant convo in between and then I stayed the night at her place . Nothing happened. But we did fall asleep in a very loving embrace. I caught my flight the next morning (had to go home for a funeral) and we continued talking. When I got back, I sent her cupcakes to her job as a thank you for being supportive. However, she became really flaky. I never called her on it- she doesn't owe me anything- it just struck me as odd. So I went about my business and hit her up when I felt like it. Something in me didn't feel right. So I got to work on figuring out what I was feeling. I had to accept the fact that I love her and I am still in love with her- that- that she was still the center of my world. After I got back from my next trip, we went to dinner and I told her how I felt and that I wanted to give us another try. I told her to take what ever time she needed to think about it. She seemed a bit shocked, and to about floored to hear that. We hung out for a bit after that and had some light hearted convo. She called me a few days later because she didnt want to wait to talk after her vacay. She told me that she couldn't really picture how that would work. I said ok, so you have moved on- she said no I wouldn't say that.
I told her I accepted her decision. We stayed on the phone for hours just talking. I wished her the best and we haven't spoken since. Yet, her I sit still drawn to this woman. I'm nut sure if its me or the events that took place (or both) that have her where she is at. I wonder what is there on her end. But us Cappy's love hard and obstacles are not deterrents for us lol.
Thank you for reading this. Sorry for the long post. Any insight is well appreciated.
Thank you for reading this. Sorry for the long post. Any insight is well appreciated.
I get what you're saying Red in re compatibility, however I do think there is a link there because the both offer what the other needs. The trick, I believe, is getting the to value each others apporach
Thank you moonincap. I am patient, and time will certainly tell all on this. I'm kinda stuck cause this is the first time I have fell in love with someone who filled in the my weaknesses and (so I thought) vice versa. Have I had easier relationships? yes. But the highs of this one were indeed the highest, and its not even close.
The highs were the highest because the lows were the lowest. That's not love. It's the kick you get from putting your ass on an emotional roller-coaster. Get off and stay off.
What you had was going nowhere. It was a shamble. Take your rosa tinted glasses off and see this woman for who she is. Nothing worth of your time. Stop going back to kiss her ass.
When you'll find a better match, it will feel like coming home from an exhausting journey. You will feel content almost every day and certainly every week / month.
What you had was going nowhere. It was a shamble. Take your rosa tinted glasses off and see this woman for who she is. Nothing worth of your time. Stop going back to kiss her ass.
When you'll find a better match, it will feel like coming home from an exhausting journey. You will feel content almost every day and certainly every week / month.
Posted by LuckyLibra979This. Insulting, off base and all of it unnecessary. At the very least I hope it made you feel better about yourself.
Capricorn are too boring for Libras. No wonder she wont commit she's out ya league saturnite. Get u a slutty Virgo they'll listen to your whining
This made me so sad to read you deserve the best this woman is definitely not a whole being and she's going to continue to treat you this way you have to break away from her it is toxic. Who knows maybe she will mature later and figure out exactly what she wants but right now she don't know for the simple fact that she said she wasn't sure about a future with you think about it you are ready for her to move in and she is not even sure she was a future with you at this point in life or the way I see it at least I am too old to be Dayton people who don't have potential for marriage or a lifelong partnership No everybody's different but it seems that you want some serious and she just ate it right now The bad thing about holding onto people which I know personally is that you close yourself off for something greater that energy that can attract the right person is not flowing within you because your focus is stuck in a toxic bubble on this person I really hope she get some clarity in her life I have been there he'll I'm there all the time but when it comes to matters of the heart I don't play around with that because I know just how bad I can be hurt
Posted by daron76I happen to love Capricorns they normally move too slow for me but it seems like you did everything right in the situation and she just wasn't being the highest version of herself she could bePosted by LuckyLibra979This. Insulting, off base and all of it unnecessary. At the very least I hope it made you feel better about yourself.
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Posted by daron76Cappies do love hard, we give it our all and then wonder why it isn't reciprocated - knowing that other person felt it too - had to - said they did ... so what to do ? - I know nothing else than try to make it through the pain of forgetting and moving on ... she doesn't sound all that mature to me; doesn't know what she wants; tells you one thing, does another - not a good way to be treated - yet you kept on as we do ... I have been dating a Libra male, and it is difficult that he doesn't know what he wants yet we get along so well - I understand your pain and I just wanted you to know that you are not alone ...
I told her I accepted her decision. We stayed on the phone for hours just talking. I wished her the best and we haven't spoken since. Yet, her I sit still drawn to this woman. I'm nut sure if its me or the events that took place (or both) that have her where she is at. I wonder what is there on her end. But us Cappy's love hard and obstacles are not deterrents for us lol.
Thank you for reading this. Sorry for the long post. Any insight is well appreciated.
Posted by UndineI agree, I believe that Cappies love the feeling of solid security as much as Taurus - I'm triple banged with it all and I hate flakiness ...
The highs were the highest because the lows were the lowest. That's not love. It's the kick you get from putting your ass on an emotional roller-coaster. Get off and stay off.
What you had was going nowhere. It was a shamble. Take your rosa tinted glasses off and see this woman for who she is. Nothing worth of your time. Stop going back to kiss her ass.
When you'll find a better match, it will feel like coming home from an exhausting journey. You will feel content almost every day and certainly every week / month.
Posted by tctaThank you! The whole "getting along so well" part, that was us-- as long as the discussions weren't serious. Its like you see a harmony, a sync, that is so clear-- that you feel it must be obvious to them too. Yet they remain indecisive- which is difficult for us. Too bad my libra never came around. I hope yours does, for I'm sure it will be beautiful when you guys get on the same page.Posted by daron76Cappies do love hard, we give it our all and then wonder why it isn't reciprocated - knowing that other person felt it too - had to - said they did ... so what to do ? - I know nothing else than try to make it through the pain of forgetting and moving on ... she doesn't sound all that mature to me; doesn't know what she wants; tells you one thing, does another - not a good way to be treated - yet you kept on as we do ... I have been dating a Libra male, and it is difficult that he doesn't know what he wants yet we get along so well - I understand your pain and I just wanted you to know that you are not alone ...
I told her I accepted her decision. We stayed on the phone for hours just talking. I wished her the best and we haven't spoken since. Yet, her I sit still drawn to this woman. I'm nut sure if its me or the events that took place (or both) that have her where she is at. I wonder what is there on her end. But us Cappy's love hard and obstacles are not deterrents for us lol.
Thank you for reading this. Sorry for the long post. Any insight is well appreciated.
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The very best of luck to you
Posted by daron76thank you but I am losing hope as you did - going on for too long, no end is sight - it is so difficult because it is so harmonious when we do get together - for the next year or so I will be trying to sell my house and moving so not being stable I have no intention of seeking relationship elsewhere - and by then of course I will be even more attached ... oh my ...Posted by tctaThank you! The whole "getting along so well" part, that was us-- as long as the discussions weren't serious. Its like you see a harmony, a sync, that is so clear-- that you feel it must be obvious to them too. Yet they remain indecisive- which is difficult for us. Too bad my libra never came around. I hope yours does, for I'm sure it will be beautiful when you guys get on the same page.Posted by daron76Cappies do love hard, we give it our all and then wonder why it isn't reciprocated - knowing that other person felt it too - had to - said they did ... so what to do ? - I know nothing else than try to make it through the pain of forgetting and moving on ... she doesn't sound all that mature to me; doesn't know what she wants; tells you one thing, does another - not a good way to be treated - yet you kept on as we do ... I have been dating a Libra male, and it is difficult that he doesn't know what he wants yet we get along so well - I understand your pain and I just wanted you to know that you are not alone ...
I told her I accepted her decision. We stayed on the phone for hours just talking. I wished her the best and we haven't spoken since. Yet, her I sit still drawn to this woman. I'm nut sure if its me or the events that took place (or both) that have her where she is at. I wonder what is there on her end. But us Cappy's love hard and obstacles are not deterrents for us lol.
Thank you for reading this. Sorry for the long post. Any insight is well appreciated.
The very best of luck to you
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much love and luck to you ... we both need to find someone we deserve because we are such good people!
It's funny to me, Earth Signs and Air Signs compliment each other perfectly but we can never figure things out because it's a constant battle between personalities.
I'm a Virgo and the two women I've loved the most in my lifetime was a Gemini and Libra.
They don't usually figure out what they want until they are older, but I applaud you my friend, your patience will pay off but it may not be with her.
I'm a Virgo and the two women I've loved the most in my lifetime was a Gemini and Libra.
They don't usually figure out what they want until they are older, but I applaud you my friend, your patience will pay off but it may not be with her.
What a user, attention whoring cuntbag.
You LOVE this bitch? What exactly are you in love with here? The illusion you think she is?
You need to run away from women like this, not toward.
You LOVE this bitch? What exactly are you in love with here? The illusion you think she is?
You need to run away from women like this, not toward.
Posted by VirgosRcoool92I agree man, the way we compliment each other is great. Sad part is I'm 36, she is 35. Not sure how much older she needs to get to figure out what she wants lol. In the mean time, I will keep on moving on.
It's funny to me, Earth Signs and Air Signs compliment each other perfectly but we can never figure things out because it's a constant battle between personalities.
I'm a Virgo and the two women I've loved the most in my lifetime was a Gemini and Libra.
They don't usually figure out what they want until they are older, but I applaud you my friend, your patience will pay off but it may not be with her.
best of luck out there man
Posted by rockyroadicecreamI get where you're coming from. On a quick analysis you are right. However, I dont believe relationships happen in a vacuum. That doesnt excuse her for her mistakes (nor me from mine) but I think keeping that in mind allows you to take in the whole picture of what happened. This, I feel, allows one to make more informed decisions and pick up broader lessons to be learned that can help not just (possibly) the current situation, but certainly any new endeavors. It would truly be a waste to put all that effort and time in to something and not learn from it.
What a user, attention whoring cuntbag.
You LOVE this bitch? What exactly are you in love with here? The illusion you think she is?
You need to run away from women like this, not toward.
Posted by daron76When you start using "thinking" for your logic and less "feeling," maybe I'll take you seriously.Posted by rockyroadicecreamI get where you're coming from. On a quick analysis you are right. However, I dont believe relationships happen in a vacuum. That doesnt excuse her for her mistakes (nor me from mine) but I think keeping that in mind allows you to take in the whole picture of what happened. This, I feel, allows one to make more informed decisions and pick up broader lessons to be learned that can help not just (possibly) the current situation, but certainly any new endeavors. It would truly be a waste to put all that effort and time in to something and not learn from it.
What a user, attention whoring cuntbag.
You LOVE this bitch? What exactly are you in love with here? The illusion you think she is?
You need to run away from women like this, not toward.
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Learning experience is one thing, sticking around out of desperation for someone who doesn't deserve you is idiocy.
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