Is it just me or ........

Well first of all I'm a libra so I'm a HUGE flirt. I flirt because its fun.. entrainment more than anything else. I have a couple of guys after me but nothing really serious (platonic) or even something I see going anywhere. I don't like that yet I can't seem to bring myself to say stop it you're wasting your time.. because I think I will be hurting their feels. I hate feeling like I'm the cause of distress plus I don't really know why they even like me to begin with since I was just being friendly. Guys, I notice often mistake a girl friendliness for interest ( it baffles me!) and so more often than not my guy friends are after more than friendship. I do martial arts so obviously I'm quite confortable with guys.

Some people laugh because I complain about it but its tiring when you have to come up with excuses. My lastest adventure with a cute guy ended up by him asking me to be his girlfriend. I was really taken back and I'm so anxious.. afraid of commitment! I mean I don't know if he's the guy I really want to settle for : he's gentle, kinds, and very loving but then again we don't know each other that well. But my problem is that we have a lot of chimestry and we ended up kissing and making out.. and then he just asked me to be his girlfriend.. I wasn't thinking I said ok.. now that I'm thinking clearly I'm freaking out. I'm a libra but once I decide that I'm with someone then I have no eyes for any body else.. yet I'm anxious.

Sorry if I'm not making sense... I'm off balance I guess :p

You make complete sense to me as I'm exactly the same! I am always "leading people on" without even realising it. I always also find myself falling into relationships that I dont really want to be in, my last one almost ended up with me being married before I realised i needed to get out!

It's something im working relly hard on at the moment to stop doing. the fact you said "I dont know if he the guy I want to SETTLE for" to me says you dont want to be with him. Do not SETTLE for anybody. I have spent my whole life settling.

If he is the right person for you, you will know, there will be no guessing or settling 🙂

Posted by libra sun
You make complete sense to me as I'm exactly the same! I am always "leading people on" without even realising it. I always also find myself falling into relationships that I dont really want to be in, my last one almost ended up with me being married before I realised i needed to get out!

It's something im working relly hard on at the moment to stop doing. the fact you said "I dont know if he the guy I want to SETTLE for" to me says you dont want to be with him. Do not SETTLE for anybody. I have spent my whole life settling.

If he is the right person for you, you will know, there will be no guessing or settling 🙂

OMG..Isn't weird that someone totaly understand and isn't thinking like we create this sort of drama because we like the attention.. don't get me wrong I LOVE feeling attractive but that's about it. I'm not seeking to date when I'm flirting like I said its more fun to keep it light and fluffy! lol And your make complete sense to me too. specially the part that you keep falling into relationships that you don't really want... its all because we're too afraid to say no! or that we talk our selfs into thinking that yes, we do actually want it. I'm curious now.. how did you stop the wedding!? I mean, i see myself doing that going along until I realize "holy cow this is real.. I can't back down now" then that's when I run.

I know right.. I admire people that can just say NOOOOO or HECKS NO! But I can't seem myself being that rude or mean. I mean it baffles people but I just can't. He's a cuttie but I don't know yet if he's the one I want to have as a boyfriend. I mean we were making out like I said ( I was just having fun) when he said "you're my girl right, I don't want you to say we're kind of dating.. I like you alot so be my girlfriend" I felt like oh no... I felt drag to it. So how are you working on your No techniques!? I want to find out myself...

Yes im currently learning to stop myself at the beginning when its easiest. Once I am in a relationship I stay there and try and make it work even if i am completely uncompatable with the person and am very unhappy. I a now waiting for Mr right and refuse to settle for less 🙂

@hello i didnt leave him at the alter lol but didnt make me feel any better. Staying in the relationship sent me into severe depression and it wasnt until i hit this point that I was actually able to leave him, it sounds crazy but its only because the depression was making me act out of character that i had the guts to do it. almost got back with him when I was feeling better but then realised that for the first time in my life I had made decision that I was going to stick to.

Now I am just concentrating on me, i have learned to not even date guys im not interested in, and I have also learnt a million different ways of saying NO without actually saying the word lol. I dont know why i find it so hard, but i just feel so mean doing it! but i have come to realise that a "fake" relationship is much more mean and destructive