Libra Female/Cancer Male

Oh, Oh........When I was 16 - 19 years old I had a relationship with a man born July
18, 1959...It was a positive relationship for the most part......the problems were
evident when it came to my independence. I was not at all the cheating type....I
played in a Blues band and was friends with all the band members....these guys were
married or otherwise spoken for....and I had no interest in "being" with
them......after nearly three years of a relationship, Cancer Male said that I had to
choose between him or the band......this ultimatum came from out of no where...I
never missed a date with him.....I never lost interest in him...but here he was telling
me that he couldn't understand why I wanted to play in a band......couldn't he
understand that I spend my whole childhood playing music....and that I always
dreamed of being in a band......I was perfectly happy working full time during the day
and playing some weekend nights in the band....socially Cancer Man could not mingle
and handle the social life I was
leading and he couldn't believe that I would still lead that life if he did not want to
participate......the crowd was not scarey or intimidating......they were 10+ older than
us and practically old enough to be my parents.......and the weekend nights playing
out were more of a hobby and fun experience than anything else....SEX was the last
thing on my mind...I was trying to keep up musically with the musicians...it was a
musical challenge for me....and he really spoiled my concept of him by witnessing
how much he missed the mark on this.....well now it is 20 years later and I recently
met a Cancer Male June 27, 1961...I am a Libra Female October 05,1961....and I
am attracted to this guy but I fear the whole same scenario will play itself out...and I
can't afford to relive that whole thing......any takers on cooling my fears...or
validating them.....~b~

I can understand that the first experience with a cancer was not a pleasant one but you can not put all cancer males in the same category. This one maybe more secure with himself. And from the experience I had with a cancer male was pleasant at first then it turned tramatic for me but this happened also when I was a teenager (15 - 16) (oct 16, 1968). I don't really think that Libras are compatible with cancers. The reason I say this is because my father dated a cancer female and it did'nt work out. My honey's father is a cancer and his mother is a libra and it didn't work out.(my honey is a Sag.) I think we are attracted to their affectionate nature but after that I don't know what happens. Overall, I think it depends on the person you are dealing with and not so much the zodiac sign. You know, if your judging him, as far as sign it all depends on rising sign etc. and how he was raised. But if this relationship is meant to be it will be no matter what sign he is but I do believe from my own experience that signs play a significant factor. So try to give him a fair chance, go with the flow and try to pay attention to his character. If he treats you the way you are suppose to be treated then go for it. And if not you know what to do. You are No. 1! Good Luck and I hope this will help you!
Happy Libra

Thanks for the response....I will try to keep an open mind and see how it goes......

I agree from the previous message that Libras and Cancers do not mix well. They ususally don't. You could give this guy a try but if it doesn't work out, don't be surprised.