Libra male ignoring Gemini woman

I know this Libra colleague for 4 years now and we get along really well, last year I realised I have started liking him. Shortly afterwards, I found he was married. I never told him I like him so I just tried to move on. But then things got complicated, he started being really sweet and caring and I got that he likes me too. We have a very strong connection, like we communicate without speaking, and I am falling hard for him now. The chemistry is just too much to ignore. One other colleague asked me what's the deal and I just laughed it off. He is a very reserved person. But recently he's ignoring me, as in, he'd just run from me whenever we are alone. We worked together for years, often till late...it was never like this, he is the most polite gentleman ever. But now he is just fleeing making weird excuses, talking otherwise normally when other people are around. I am ignoring him too, that's not a big deal. I would really like to know why he's ignoring me like this suddenly. Any idea? Please help.

Maybe he was just being nice and sweet (his normal self) and when people started asking what was going on he realized you liked him and that it started to look like there was something going on between you and him... So he distanced himself from you to prevent any further issues.

I have friends of the opposite sex, many who I get along really well with. It doesn't mean I feel such a connection that I would leave my marriage or relationship for them.

If a friend started to get too close to where I realized they liked me quite a bit and actually thought I'd do something with them, I'd run too and cut them out of my life. (I'm too loyal to deal with someone who likes me, that's disrespectful to my partner.) That has happened to me before. But I treat my friends like family so I do a lot for them. Again, it doesn't mean I'd do anything sexual with them. If he hasn't given you any forward reason to believe he likes you (as in tell you) then don't assume. And if he did, he's a jerk for doing that while married anyway and I'd stay away from him, because obviously he's not one to be loyal. But again, if he hasn't and was just nice to you, don't assume he likes you. He's avoiding you because he's married.

Thank you for the honest reply. I needed to hear this. Really. Thing is it's hard. And we are not 'friends'. We are colleagues. That's it. Like we talk about work, philosophy...lol...n stuff but not personal stuff. Also, he makes it a point to keep me in the loop, introducing me to his friends, clubs etc. I moved to this city after I got this job so now most people I end up spending time with are mutual friends. That's why it's hard. And probably he's a jerk. Need to pull away. Thank you again.

Thank you sagiluv. You seem to have got it exactly right. Maybe he just realised it isn't right n that he's leading me on. So that at least makes him a lesser jerk lol. Thing is when I start ignoring him he jumps in again, like you said... This has happened before n probably will happen again. I wish I could talk to him though, can't risk it, I like my work place... Otherwise talking would be best... As of now I feel trapped. Let's see if he chases me again this time when I stop communication. I am not in the dating scene for a long time now, sud start probably :p