Libra man broke with Scorpio Female

Hello All. I'm very new to forums and things but here it goes...

3 weeks ago my libra man that I've been together with for 5 years breaks up with me. I was devastated...we had been through so much together(good things and bad things) and its still hard for me to that he could just let all if those years go so easily. I haven't seen him/heard from him since I had to move out 2 weeks ago. We had dogs together. I'm hoping that one day soon I could at least walk them or something. I still have mail going there since i just changed my address. To make matters worse while we were breaking up i gave him back the promise ring that he bought me and he just lost it...i couldnt understand why he was so upset when this was his choice. Also while i was movin out he tried to have sex with me but i shot him down. What I'm asking for from you fellow libra men is how is it for you guys when you decided to leave...was it easy/hard? Is there any hopes of being civil when it comes to these matters(will he let me see our dogs)? What is going in with all I those mixed signals? Do you guys believe that nc will help him? I am doing my best to give home his space(which is what he asked for) I haven't texted,called,facebooked(I deleted him as well)...no communication at all, but at the same time since we lived together we have lots of things in our names when it comes to finances. We have so much unfinished business...but i feel that nc is what he wanted so I want him to have that...this is just so stressful.

I would love to get back with him...but there's a part of me saying "if he loved you so much how could he let you go so easily..." I miss him because he was such a great part of my life. But in my heart if hearts I'm still hesitant...I don't want to be hurt like that again.

I appreciate your thoughts and ideas

Thank You. 🙂

Posted by CluelessCancer
What would a scorpio find interesting about a Libra?

Clueless. Idiot.

Sorry tradwingds. I can't answer because I'm in a frighteningly similar early-stages situation. Of course I'm paranoid and overcompensating against what you just described.

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/libra/question-to-libras-scorpio-here-4062689/#4079073

If you can summarize it into not being too personal to share, could you say... if it was a bunch of little things, or one big thing (any Libras feel free to give realistic examples too), that drove him away? If it lasted for 5 years he had to have been able to accept a lot of the typical differences, so it shouldn't have been that? Or did he himself just change and lose interest? I've read somewhere that certain types of men, once they finally snag someone who feels 'just right', don't know what to do with that, and may stop showing affection.

I cannot give you answer as to what drive him away...that answer is with him. What he told me is as follows:

" I feel like we should go our separate paths...they will meet again."

I think what you said about some men finding what they want and not knowing what to do with it. But I say that like its a coping mechanism...a wa of assuring myself that he'll come back...but I doubt that. The only reason he has contacted me is for some knives and a rice cooker he bought that need up with my stuff...he is very cold towards me now. If you feel like you're in the same situation...all I can tell you is that if you really love him...Tell him everyday like I did with my ex. And don't regret the good times and the bad times. 🙂

Honestly it depends on what the two of you broke up for and how it went which will determine the Libra??s attitude towards you. They love peace and harmony and are all about fairness, this goes even when they break up with you. If the dogs are equally yours as well as his, I don't see him being a butthead about it. He will let you see them. Just ask. As far as his attitude towards you in general it didn't sound like a nasty breakup, he might??ve just outgrown the relationship, or felt too comfortable and needed a change. Some men want to see what life is like without the woman they??ve been with for years, to see if life is better or worse, or even the same. If it's worse they will come back and then it's your choice to forgive him for leaving in the first place.

You have every right to be cautious of him, you??d be wise not to wear your heart on your sleeve anyway.. I'm not a male Libra, but when I leave nine times out of ten I??ve weighed out all my options and have pretty much gave it my all, and I'm ready to leave. I don't take breaks in relationships. If I made you my boyfriend, then I picked you above all my others. (That sounds bad) but I'm very sociable by nature and a lot of guys one that number one spot, I'm often looking for the one that makes me forget the others even exist. If he can do that, then he can be my man. If I dump you, it's over for good. Hope this helps.

To me it sounds like he is wanting to see what else is out there.

Also I looked at your age you're only 23 years old (if that's correct). So to me you guys started dating at 18? That's REALLY young. He's an air sign and ill be honest (I am also air with libra placements) we don't like being tied down very much. Not to say we can't be committal we can we just don't want to be reminded about it constantly.

Libra/Aqua/Gemini's we don't like smothering or overly emotional types. Don't hound us with the clinging and the L word every single minute either. I get REALLY turned off by that. I have a Leo right now with a Cancer moon and water placements who is smothering the shit out of me and he is now friend zoned because of it.

Scorpios sometimes are too much for the unevolved air types. He's young too I am guessing? Maybe around the same age? 23 isn't an age to really get serious, talk about marriage and kids. Probably wants to date others and see what else is out there before he gets super serious with you.

Sounds to me like a Libra who was pretty upset about something. I won't say it was you, but anytime I got like that it was because I was upset about something. Usually, it's the person I'm seeing or trying to see, but things happen in life as well. If I were to guess, he lost his balance and is trying to get it back. I'd suggest going no contact for awhile because if he's trying to sort things out a daily reminder won't be helpful.

Honestly, what you need to ask yourself is this worth trying to save? Throwing five years away with a "our paths will meet again" doesn't make a lot of sense to be. We're logical and that is anything, but logic. That's why I tend to think he is very unbalanced (in the Libra sense, not mentally).

His mid life crisis started early

Xin: he's actually 26. He was 21 when I met him and we were friends for a year before we started on a romantic level.

The grinch: I've been doing nc for a good while. When we were talking about us. He said he lost a lot of motivation for things that he lived to do(which I didn't stop him from doing) I think he's trying to find his balance just like you said.

Geminidude: I'm thinking so too.

I've been in this situation a few times. A long and seemingly great relationship and *poof* I can cut ties in an instant
Truth is, I will hang onto something for a while even if I'm unhappy. So if I were to hazard a guess, he would have been prepping for this for at least 6mths if not longer
And I won't break it off with a partner completely (Like n/c) until I have found 1 or 2 eligible suitors
Its a gross thing but once someone else has caught my attention there are no feelings left for a pervious lover at all
If you were to ask mutual friends of yours he most likely has someone in the wings he's cultivating a relationship with. And I've never even considered getting back with an ex
Move on scorp..you're too good to be mooning over a fickle Libra (and this coming from one)
xx