Libra man causing confusion

Hello lovely people,

I've been dating a libra man for about 4 months now. He's always been nice to me and showed much interest. I really thought that we were gonna have a relationship soon.

However, last month it came out that he's got a girlfriend who moved away to her home country a while ago (2 years) and since then they have been having this long distance relationship.
I immidiately backed off and told him to keep distance to me. He told me that my reaction is understandable but he would like to continue seeing me. He said that their relationship is very complicated. His girlfriend is being clingy and not leaving him. He doesn't love her anymore but respects her, he is afraid of breaking up with her and making her cry. He doesn't want to hurt her. We have mutual friends and he's telling them the same that it's just very complicated and he doesn't know what to do. He's very confused.

After this conversation he kept messaging me and asking to meet up again. I stopped talking to him but then we met once again. I told him that I don't want to be the third wheel and I wanna stop this what is going on between him and me since he is seeing me as a second option. Told him that I'm not clingy and it's totally okay if he doesn't to be with me. He was very sad and still messaged me the next days. He still tried to make it work and asked me out to dinner but I told him that I was serious about having distance right now. He was like okay I see I get it. Since then he stopped messaging me.

I'm very confused. He's been very nice and really into me. The past months, he always tried to make it work everytime we had trouble but this issue is not easy to be ignored. I don't get why he's not breaking up with her if he's not happy with her. I stopped talking to him and backed off hoping he would realise that he has to make a decision. Either keep being with her or breaking up and having a relationship with me. But he said he doesn't know what he wants.

Do you think he will be able to make a decision? Why are Libra men like that? I thought you don't like clingy women and thi kind of exhausting relationships?

I would like to know too. Like they cant let go.of an ex or situation. And its been 2 yrs?

He's not going to break up with her. Save your dignity and move on.

He kept another girl from you for months? Girl, MOVE ON. He is not worth it. He isn't going to break up with her, he's going to try to have his cake and eat it too. You are worth way more than that.

Thanks a lot for the replies!

Yeah they have been having this long distance relationship going on now for two years. Before that they have been together for around 8 months. And she told him that she won't leave home and he is also not thinking about visiting her there so it's just a very strange situation.

That's what I told him. I know I'm worth a serious relationship. I'm an aries and I'm very decisive. I know what I want but he doesn't so this says a lot to me as well. But I just don't get it. You cheat on her so you obviously don't love and respect her that way anymore. Then you beg for my attention, make me feel flattered everytime, make me meet your friends and then tell me you don't know what to do and what you want..?

Doesn't matter if he breaks up with her or not. RUN!

Why? Because he's a douchebag - don't fall for his BS. Just RUN!

Whaaaaat! He has a long distance girlfriend and is dating you? This is so messed up. He has SERIOUS baggage that he needs to sort out. Do you know his girlfriends sign? And how old is he... he sounds immature and unevolved.

I hate people who play nice guys and play dumb without taking other people's feelings into account I feel like I should teach them a lesson, I'm all about life lessons and it really gets my goat when I meet people of a certain age who haven't learnt the basics like leading people on and gaining someone's trust without any intention of loving them.

This guy is an asshole, he said he understands why you wouldn't want to be with him but did he even apologise for making you feel cheap when he surprised you with the news?

If I was you I would play the crazy girlfriend and fuck his brains out then tell his girlfriend all about it then dump his ass, hopefully he learns from his mistake and grows the fuck up

No, I unfortunately don't know the girls sign. He's 25 years old. But mentally not mature enough to make such vital decisions. And yeah I haven't messaged him and I won't since I decided to keep distance. He also hasn't messaged me since our last conversation.

When I got told that he has got a gf he was at mine I freaked out and kicked him out of my house. The reason he didn't tell about her is, he said he didn't care about her or didn't feel like explaining her what he was doing because she left him and he was also not thinking about being serious with me in the beginning but then he told me this changed he fell for me and started liking me very much that's why he thought he should tell me about his gf. He was being sorry and telling me that he is very unsure about what to do since he actually likes both of us. And doesn't want to hurt anyone. I don't know what kind of a sick realtionship they have got. This libra man just sucks.

Don't even analyze it - just RUN!

And if you will have trouble saying no to him in the future, then just put yourself in his girlfriend's shoes. That could be you... Think about that a little, and then you won't have any problem to RUN! away from him anymore.

Sorry you had to go through this!

Thanks for all the advices. Yeah true! I told him that I really feel sorry for his gf and asked him if he even cares. He couldn't say much, he only shook his head and looked down. Well, he knows what he is doing and is unhappy about it but he doesn't change anything. I'm out.

I can't deal with this kind of drama. It's just exhausting and such a waste of time. I'm very sad about how everything went. I hope and wish that his gf figures his unfaithfulness out soon and that she meets someone in her town who loves and cares about her.

@OP- man what a douche, and this is why I am single and we can't even do anything about it. Guys flirt, tease, and even make words sound great.

Hope you keep your head up, and I know there were red flags before you got to deep with him. From the pit of your stomach and choose to ignore it.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
@OP- man what a douche, and this is why I am single and we can't even do anything about it. Guys flirt, tease, and even make words sound great.

Hope you keep your head up, and I know there were red flags before you got to deep with him. From the pit of your stomach and choose to ignore it.

Aww. Don't go bitter. All guys are not like that. Just stay away from the ones who are. 🙂

He had 4 months to get to know you. If he still can't decide between you two, he never will.

Well most people wait longer than expected to know if someone is right for them. Like a year or so...but people nowadays have a short attention span and can decide in a month..Even first two days. Lol

@HappyCapper- Yeah I know it shouldn't take that long to weed through people and their intentions right. Right now people just want to jump right in and usually have a few hard bumps along the way. And people should ask the right type of questions and first date what their intentions are..

I really do know there are many bad apples and someone is for them but some people lie so much you can spot it MAybe not right away but eventually if shit seems twisted then something is twisted.

@OP- how did you know exactly he had a gff and now that you know. You leave him be right?

Yea dont b like me waiting giving a year thats bs

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
@HappyCapper- Yeah I know it shouldn't take that long to weed through people and their intentions right. Right now people just want to jump right in and usually have a few hard bumps along the way. And people should ask the right type of questions and first date what their intentions are..

I really do know there are many bad apples and someone is for them but some people lie so much you can spot it MAybe not right away but eventually if shit seems twisted then something is twisted.

@OP- how did you know exactly he had a gff and now that you know. You leave him be right?

Imo, listening to their words is great, but their actions are so much more telling. I'm not saying I'm right, but I never ask any questions like that in the beginning to put them at ease - good for the good apples, bad for the bad, as they tend to show their true nature at that. And then I observe the crap out of them. And I've got plenty of patience. That usually works for me. Not saying it would work for you or anyone else, just that it's what I do and what has worked so far.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
@HappyCapper- Yeah I know it shouldn't take that long to weed through people and their intentions right. Right now people just want to jump right in and usually have a few hard bumps along the way. And people should ask the right type of questions and first date what their intentions are..

I really do know there are many bad apples and someone is for them but some people lie so much you can spot it MAybe not right away but eventually if shit seems twisted then something is twisted.

@OP- how did you know exactly he had a gff and now that you know. You leave him be right?

Bitterness is like drinking poison and hoping it will affect someone else.

No one whether pure intent or not cannot promise you their heart forever. They can't promise that they will wake up the next day and fall out of love. That is life. Nothing can be guaranteed.

“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.” - bob marley

@HappyCapper- Yeah I argee take the time to observe, be patient, friends, and make sure intentions are clear from the beginning. I normally do that too just take my time and see..

I am not bitter I am being realistic and pragmatic outlook towards the OP situation.

I know what she is going through I've been through it. And many have too. So I am not sugar coating any of it. I am not putting emotions to it. That may be why you think it's bitter. Compassion and sincerity is what I am saying. We all need it.

Girl I'm single too but I don't have a negative view like you do of men. If you were really realistic you'd realize both men and women flirt and tease and lead people on. It has nothing to do with realism.

Your idea of realism sounds more like denial.

Just being honest.

It has nothing to do with gender **

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
@HappyCapper- Yeah I argee take the time to observe, be patient, friends, and make sure intentions are clear from the beginning. I normally do that too just take my time and see..

I am not bitter I am being realistic and pragmatic outlook towards the OP situation.

I know what she is going through I've been through it. And many have too. So I am not sugar coating any of it. I am not putting emotions to it. That may be why you think it's bitter. Compassion and sincerity is what I am saying. We all need it.

"@OP- man what a douche, and this is why I am single and we can't even do anything about it. Guys flirt, tease, and even make words sound great."
^^^This wasn't bitter? Sorry. Can't help but thinking it sounded that way. Doesn't matter. What matters is that you're not bitter and if you say you aren't, I don't want to doubt you.

Compassion and sincerity is truly what we need - I totally agree! 🙂

To each their own actions and if they get stuck just come to dxp and see if anyone can relate without sugar coating men and woman are douches and now we have to take control in our own behavior single or not.

And really pay attention to signs that a person isn't into to or being inconsistent with behavior so sit back and observe.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
To each their own actions and if they get stuck just come to dxp and see if anyone can relate without sugar coating men and woman are douches and now we have to take control in our own behavior single or not.

And really pay attention to signs that a person isn't into to or being inconsistent with behavior so sit back and observe.

lol Yes, definitely! 🙂

Thanks for helping me and supporting me! It's just keeping my mind busy you know when you have spent weeks and months with someone who actually showed so much interest that made you think great this is gonna be something. I was just wondering if it's a zodiac sign thing. Him being a Libra man.

I'm just mad and frustrated. I read that Libra men tend to be indecisive and afraid of breaking up. I try to believe and trust him but it doesn't work. I'm emotionally done. There are more negative aspects than positive ones. How can he even think that I'm gonna be comfortable with being his side chick?
He is so mature and immature at the same time. I won't wait for him I already wasted enough time. It's mostly his loss.

This guy is just a selfish cunt.

Posted by ariesk
No, I unfortunately don't know the girls sign. He's 25 years old. But mentally not mature enough to make such vital decisions. And yeah I haven't messaged him and I won't since I decided to keep distance. He also hasn't messaged me since our last conversation.

When I got told that he has got a gf he was at mine I freaked out and kicked him out of my house. The reason he didn't tell about her is, he said he didn't care about her or didn't feel like explaining her what he was doing because she left him and he was also not thinking about being serious with me in the beginning but then he told me this changed he fell for me and started liking me very much that's why he thought he should tell me about his gf. He was being sorry and telling me that he is very unsure about what to do since he actually likes both of us. And doesn't want to hurt anyone. I don't know what kind of a sick realtionship they have got. This libra man just sucks.

This is what selfish fuck guys do. It's been going on for aaaaages. "Oh, woe is me. Our relationship sucks. Pity poor me who is 'stuck' in this relationship. I'll leave her at some point to be with you, but I need you to be the mistress in the meantime while that happens."

Yet silly bitches fall for it aaaalll the time. I don't get why you're analyzing this shit. This guy has no intention of leaving her. He's only thinking about his emotions here, not hers. Even if he were to leave her for you, what makes you think he wouldn't do the same to you?

This guy is a selfish twat and deserves to be kicked out on his ass. I know it's totally wtf of him to do, but do your best to ditch this pathetic piece of shit.

Posted by ariesk
Thanks for helping me and supporting me! It's just keeping my mind busy you know when you have spent weeks and months with someone who actually showed so much interest that made you think great this is gonna be something. I was just wondering if it's a zodiac sign thing. Him being a Libra man.

I'm just mad and frustrated. I read that Libra men tend to be indecisive and afraid of breaking up. I try to believe and trust him but it doesn't work. I'm emotionally done. There are more negative aspects than positive ones. How can he even think that I'm gonna be comfortable with being his side chick?
He is so mature and immature at the same time. I won't wait for him I already wasted enough time. It's mostly his loss.

Exactly. His loss.

I'm sorry that you're hurting and unfortunately I know exactly how you feel. For the record, if a man has another woman he is always going to downplay the other relationship -typical male behavior! It sounds to me like you're having a hard time with following the decision that you know is inevitable. It's not an easy decision to make it's not an easy process to go through. Many women have been where you are and I'm here to tell you that if you choose to walk away, one day it's simply not going to hurt anymore.

Walking away saying "don't ever speak to me again!"....makes the breakup very difficult - I would encourage you to break up gradually; gradually decrease how many texts or phone calls you accept or make. Tell him something like you need to process your feelings and you'll get back in touch with him once you have a clear state of mind and just keep in your mind that you're going to keep him as a friend.

We air signs are very charming and words are so easy to say but actions are hard to fake. He is still with that woman for whatever reason! Tell him to get that situation wrapped up and prove to you that it's over and then perhaps you guys can have a future but until then I think it's best that the two of you just be friends.









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True true. Thanks a lot again! I appreciate your help. I feel better, I'm moving on.

Posted by Shrewdsharp
I'm sorry that you're hurting and unfortunately I know exactly how you feel. For the record, if a man has another woman he is always going to downplay the other relationship -typical male behavior! It sounds to me like you're having a hard time with following the decision that you know is inevitable. It's not an easy decision to make it's not an easy process to go through. Many women have been where you are and I'm here to tell you that if you choose to walk away, one day it's simply not going to hurt anymore.

Walking away saying "don't ever speak to me again!"....makes the breakup very difficult - I would encourage you to break up gradually; gradually decrease how many texts or phone calls you accept or make. Tell him something like you need to process your feelings and you'll get back in touch with him once you have a clear state of mind and just keep in your mind that you're going to keep him as a friend.

We air signs are very charming and words are so easy to say but actions are hard to fake. He is still with that woman for whatever reason! Tell him to get that situation wrapped up and prove to you that it's over and then perhaps you guys can have a future but until then I think it's best that the two of you just be friends.









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What the fuck kind of pussy advice is this?

Blah. Blah. Blah.

You are the bit on the side. It doesn't matter what he says. He has a girlfriend and is unavailable.

Rocky road, I was able to see your comment for the first time in months because I came to the site without being logged in.

but now that I have successfully logged into my account all I can say to you is thank God for the block user option at dxpnet.

f.y.i to all new users! there are a few users whose commentary just didn't fit my upbringing and if you find yourself in the same position you can select their name and simply block them.

the block option has enhanced my experience a hundred times here in this forum. I didn't know until today but apparently the users who have been blocked can still read my post. the good news is I get no notification if I come back and reread the thread I don't see anything that they selected and if I see something that's rude I just block the person and I just enhance my experience again. so special shout out for the block user option.

I dealt with one for a month. They are the womanizers of the zodiac smh

He messaged me a couple of times the last days and what he was mainly asking for was if we could stay friends. Told him that I have no problem being friends and keeping it peaceful but nothing more is gonna happen between him and me anymore.
He said that he's very sorry and is understanding me and repeated the same stuff that he doesn't want to hurt me and her either, he had bad relationships in his past and did hurt too many people.

Posted by Shrewdsharp
f.y.i to all new users! there are a few users whose commentary just didn't fit my upbringing and if you find yourself in the same position you can select their name and simply block them.

the block option has enhanced my experience a hundred times here in this forum. I didn't know until today but apparently the users who have been blocked can still read my post. the good news is I get no notification if I come back and reread the thread I don't see anything that they selected and if I see something that's rude I just block the person and I just enhance my experience again. so special shout out for the block user option.

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Posted by Elle77
I dealt with one for a month. They are the womanizers of the zodiac smh

BIG TIME

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The other day, I was looking up the guy who was the male lead in Breakfast at Tiffanys." I've forgotten what his name was, but while I looked up his info, it stated he'd been married like 4 times.

He was a Libra.

I loled. I wasn't surprised.

...it's sad I wasn't surprised.

>>but now that I have successfully logged into my account all I can say to you is thank God for the block user option at dxpnet.

You're welcome! I originally requested in many, many, many years ago to block this troll of an Aqua-guy. (Although it says I am a new poster. I took many years off and can't find my password.)

Posted by littlesparrow
>>but now that I have successfully logged into my account all I can say to you is thank God for the block user option at dxpnet.

You're welcome! I originally requested in many, many, many years ago to block this troll of an Aqua-guy. (Although it says I am a new poster. I took many years off and can't find my password.)

I thought that was you, but the lack of posting history made me wonder haha.

It is true! It is I!

I feel the need to flourish a cape. I wasn't sure if you remembered me but very honoured that you do.

LOL. Please run...lol...please.

He's very good at what he's doing, and I know this well. He's not dumping that girl, if he was going to do it he would've done it already.

And dont fool yourself into thinking you can be friends with him, while you still have romantic feelings for him. You'd be playing yourself. Move on with your life, the feelings may linger but it's so much better than worrying if the guy you like is really into you or has your best interest at heart, which this guy clearly only cares about himself.