Libra man stood me(Gemini) up

i m a Gemini (from Hong Kong ^^) and m dating a libra guy. I have known him just for a month. The first week when we were together, it was great. He would spend the whole night and day with me. However, there were also few nights he was extremely late (more than 30 minutes), but i was still willing to wait. I tried to be as patient and sweet as possible as i thought thats what I have to do to be with a Libra. But I guess i was wrong as i have started to feel I have given in too much and he has become lazier and lazier.So I've stopped making myself available for him and started to hang out with others more and try to get busier. 2 days ago, I called him (the only time i ever called) and he seemed rather happy to hear from me but he was also talking to me in a rush. He asked me when we would meet again. He said the day after or friday would be fine. I said then how about the day after. He said okay, I will call u after work and let you know , and gave me a biggg kiss. But he never gave me a text or a call on that day. I never texted or called him to ask about that either. Today I got a message from him, simply asking me " how are you today", which i ignored. He truly truly upset me for standing me up and not doing what he had promised. He told me before that he wanted to be more serious with me and wanted to meet my parents . Now I found that these are just total BS. I just dont understand why some women would suffer so much to be with a libra and let the guy play hot and cold with them. I m a gemini and I do like challenges and space. But this libra guy has pushed my limits way too far. He had been late (almost all the time). He is often quiet and cold in text. He seldom calls. He stood me up. My emotions are too much affected by him these days. Hes already 30 and I m 23. But hes really immature and seems like he still wants to play. I talked to my Gemini and Aquarius male friends. The only advice they gave was "dump him", "leave him". My question is: Should I? Or should I wait for the miracle? LOL (I stll have a bit of feelings for him)



btw, he just called and I did not pick it up.

I tend to be late just about everywhere I go, at least when it relates to life stuff (job wise I am almost always early or at the very least exactly on time). If a party starts at 6 pm early for me is showing up at 8 pm. Now, when it comes to date related stuff or a woman I'm trying to impress, on time every time. Have you told him it upsets you that he's constantly late? The funny thing about us is, if we care about you and you say something we do bothers you....we stop doing it. If we don't then we probably don't care as much as we said and you should probably move on.

In your case you have a few options. 1. tell him exactly what's upsetting you and that you won't put up with it. 2. go no contact and at some point you might get an apology or he'll just move on 3. not say anything and continue to communicate as you have which says you're cool with how he acts

Only other piece of advice I'll give you is perhaps you should initiate a little more. I absolutely hate when I have to be the first for everything all the time. If I invited you out every time and you've never once did so in return...I figure you don't like me. I say this because you stated you never contacted him before. We'll chase, but you gotta throw a bone out there as well.

Posted by theGrinch
I tend to be late just about everywhere I go, at least when it relates to life stuff (job wise I am almost always early or at the very least exactly on time). If a party starts at 6 pm early for me is showing up at 8 pm. Now, when it comes to date related stuff or a woman I'm trying to impress, on time every time. Have you told him it upsets you that he's constantly late? The funny thing about us is, if we care about you and you say something we do bothers you....we stop doing it. If we don't then we probably don't care as much as we said and you should probably move on.

In your case you have a few options. 1. tell him exactly what's upsetting you and that you won't put up with it. 2. go no contact and at some point you might get an apology or he'll just move on 3. not say anything and continue to communicate as you have which says you're cool with how he acts

Only other piece of advice I'll give you is perhaps you should initiate a little more. I absolutely hate when I have to be the first for everything all the time. If I invited you out every time and you've never once did so in return...I figure you don't like me. I say this because you stated you never contacted him before. We'll chase, but you gotta throw a bone out there as well.

I got your point. I initiated contacts too. Sometimes I would send him messages and pics. There was one time I sent him a very sweet message and his response was just "Good." Thats it. It really started to piss me off. And what about he standing me up? Thats way too much, right? he said he would call me and see me, but he didn't! The last thing I want is to become a doormat and constantly let everything to be on his terms, not mine. I told him before about his issue with punctuality. He told me similar things you said. He said he always has problem with time management. But at least the first time we hung out, he was quite on time. So why couldnt he be like this more consistently? Then i feel he started to take me for granted for sure! But whenever i spoke to him, I would not raise my voice and create drama because i know what he hates and i hate drama too ...

btw, he just sent me a text: "why you havent answered me" and gave me a call. I picked it up and talked to him in a light-hearted way as if what he had done didnt affect me much. he sounded so innocent and told me " oh i thought we would

Posted by Sugarfoot
If he is still pulling stuff like this at 30, he's undateable. There's only worse to come if you keep seeing him. That's coming from experience.

from the chat we had on phone just now, he didn't seem to be sorry for what he had done. I still have feelings for him so I would probably see him soon if he managed not to piss me off again. I doubt we will last very long though

Posted by tiziani
Sounds like he's just messing you about. Confronting is always better than waiting.

I told me what I don't like already. I won't keep telling him the same thing. If he still doesn't get that, his problem, not mine.