Libra man went cold

I've been seeing a Libra man for almost a year. It's been a bit complicated to say the least. Long story short, after we started seeing each other, he went back to his ex gf after she was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer to take care of her. Sadly, she passed a couple months ago. I fully supported him during this time and she knew about me.

It's been a bit of an emotional rollercoaster since then. I know he's grieving, he cared for her even though the romance was over. He made it clear he wanted no commitment and made no promises. Told me to do whatever I wanted to do and that he's not the jealous type. I was tolerant of this until a week or so ago and had a talk with him. I gently told him I cared about him, all I wanted from him was for us to be exclusive, and that the thought of someone else hurt. And, to be as honest with him as he has with me, I wasn't sure how much longer I could hang on without being on the same page. I gave him some space after this, not texting as often, etc. I know Libras need time after something like that. I should also note the chemistry between us is intense. Other than lacking being exclusive, we completely gel.

Saw him about a week after my talk, and he was a bit melancholy. Things were definitely different. The music was relationship type stuff and he was more romantic than usual. Typically, there's little music and he can't keep his hands off me. We end up in the bedroom within minutes. But this time was more like caressing me, passionate kisses, arms around me almost the entire time, told me he missed me, and that he just needed to see me that night. Again, he was a bit melancholy. Later in the evening he told me he claimed me, I took that to mean he didn't want me seeing anyone else, and I claimed him back.

Fast forward a few days and I've barely gotten a peep out of him since then! I called and he seemed distant. I text and his replies are short responses, and last night I told him I'd love to see him if he wasn't busy, and his reply was only "tonight's not good." And then nothing more. No response to my last couple of texts. Usually he has some type of response.

Can someone give me some insight? Is this a typical Libra taking time to balance the scales after too many emotional feels?? He had been drinking a bit, that's not new, but I'm wondering is if he's rethinking things because he acted in a moment of weakness or something. Or if he's testing how I handle him getting a little cold. I honestly don't know what's up and could use some insight. 🤷

I am going through almost the same thing as you. No commitment, not exclusive,

although I know that for the 3 months we have been together I am the only girl

he is sleeping with. But he also knows I am basically committed to him, as I am not the permiscues type. He knows how I feel about him, I never held that back, nor kept it from him. Hard to when he is always asking me to reaffirm my feelings for hin and why I am with him. However, he refuses to tell me how he feels for me. Sinlky says "it's just sex for me, sex is all I can give you". I broke up with him 2x already because of something he did, and both times he came back for me. Always playing love songs. Different love songs every time we meet, played on repeat the whole time we are together. Songs that talk of love that can not be, should not be, should be confessed, or not. Before he would just have sports playing on tv but not really watching it. And he sometimes will quietly to himself "this isn't forever, this can't last". While cuddled up to me.

After our second breakup, he started opening up more, he showed me vulnerability while going through something emotional, leaned on me for a week. Which caused the dynamic of our cassualI relationship switch just a tiny bit. Then a week after he told me to stop calling him baby, "it's too cheesy", but he has used the term on me before as well. A few more good things happened.

Then nothing. Just silence. It's been 3 days now. I haven't contacted him. Just waiting.

For you I say wait it out. Because he has confessed his feelings already. Give him time. I heard Libras can disappear for weeks and months. But always comes back.

If you really believe in his feelings for you. Then be patient.

op, your post is a month old. what happened with your guy?

Hi Jeane. I have read a lot of your comments. Wondering if you can also give some of your 2 cents. If you don't mind going over to "ask me questions about a libra man". I have written my story there.

Thank you.

" I heard Libras can disappear for weeks and months. But always comes back. "

Oh my goodness your story resonates with me it feels like I'm going through the exact same thing. Especially the part about asking me to reaffirm why I'm with him. He came back after 3 weeks to the day he went cold, but it still feels like there are ups and downs. One minute he seems really into me and the next he seems cold. I should add that when we're together he's always into me and does the sweetest things. I'm honestly not sure how much more I can hang in there. The other day he mentioned something about him not being my "territory" while at the same time referring to himself as my bf or SO. I like him a lot, very much, but sometimes I feel like I'm just an option to him. I know my value and my worth and deserve better than someone who makes me feel like he could take it or leave it and says things to give me that impression. I can't descide if he needs me to make some big play for him, although I haven't the slightest idea how to do it. Lol That just feels like a game to me. I'm of the mindset of if two people want to be together they will and games demonstrate insecurity. I'm at the point where I'm going to tell him about things I'd like to do and leave the planning up to him instead being the one to ask him to do things, or ask if he has plans, tell him I want to see him, be the one who mainly texts first, etc. I need to see him put in some effort at this point.

Oh my goodness your story resonates with me it feels like I'm going through the exact same thing. Especially the part about asking me to reaffirm why I'm with him. He came back after 3 weeks to the day he went cold, but it still feels like there are ups and downs. One minute he seems really into me and the next he seems cold. I should add that when we're together he's always into me and does the sweetest things. I'm honestly not sure how much more I can hang in there. The other day he mentioned something about him not being my "territory" while at the same time referring to himself as my bf or SO. I like him a lot, very much, but sometimes I feel like I'm just an option to him. I know my value and my worth and deserve better than someone who makes me feel like he could take it or leave it and says things to give me that impression. I can't descide if he needs me to make some big play for him, although I haven't the slightest idea how to do it. Lol That just feels like a game to me. I'm of the mindset of if two people want to be together they will and games demonstrate insecurity. I'm at the point where I'm going to tell him about things I'd like to do and leave the planning up to him instead being the one to ask him to do things, or ask if he has plans, tell him I want to see him, be the one who mainly texts first, etc. I need to see him put in some effort at this point.

Posted by BethM

Oh my goodness your story resonates with me it feels like I'm going through the exact same thing. Especially the part about asking me to reaffirm why I'm with him. He came back after 3 weeks to the day he went cold, but it still feels like there are ups and downs. One minute he seems really into me and the next he seems cold. I should add that when we're together he's always into me and does the sweetest things. I'm honestly not sure how much more I can hang in there. The other day he mentioned something about him not being my "territory" while at the same time referring to himself as my bf or SO. I like him a lot, very much, but sometimes I feel like I'm just an option to him. I know my value and my worth and deserve better than someone who makes me feel like he could take it or leave it and says things to give me that impression. I can't descide if he needs me to make some big play for him, although I haven't the slightest idea how to do it. Lol That just feels like a game to me. I'm of the mindset of if two people want to be together they will and games demonstrate insecurity. I'm at the point where I'm going to tell him about things I'd like to do and leave the planning up to him instead being the one to ask him to do things, or ask if he has plans, tell him I want to see him, be the one who mainly texts first, etc. I need to see him put in some effort at this point.

stop being a doormat. the best thing is just to say "listen i like you. i can understand you might still be reeling from the death of your ex-girlfriend so sort that out and get in touch when you are ready. no pressure."

and then get on with whatever you were doing before you met him. don't wait around, stop accepting the breadcrumbing.

the harsh reality is he probably can take or leave you. be the same - mirror his emotions. he will either come to his senses and realise he has to come up to where you need him to be in order to have a respectful relationship or he won't. and if he doesn't then he can go and you'll be just fine.

With my guy, I never initiated contact. And all day everyday we were talking. Except for the times I broke up with him.

But when he was going through his emotional thing, I was texting him everyday checking on him. But kept it simple. I never ask him to do anything, he always asks me. Except our last meet, because for 2 days he "needed" me and could not go to him because of work. So I felt bad, and offered to see him. It was an amazing night. The best part, I didn't put out. The next day he was still communicating the same way, even the next. I got a text at 5 am, and since I was sleeping, I replied late. That's when he disappeared.

As you said you know your self worth.

Move on, and show him you do well without him. Libra apparently hates that, knowing you are ok without them. But at the same time wants you to be independent.

Posted by BethM

I've been seeing a Libra man for almost a year. It's been a bit complicated to say the least. Long story short, after we started seeing each other, he went back to his ex gf after she was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer to take care of her. Sadly, she passed a couple months ago. I fully supported him during this time and she knew about me.

It's been a bit of an emotional rollercoaster since then. I know he's grieving, he cared for her even though the romance was over. He made it clear he wanted no commitment and made no promises. Told me to do whatever I wanted to do and that he's not the jealous type. I was tolerant of this until a week or so ago and had a talk with him. I gently told him I cared about him, all I wanted from him was for us to be exclusive, and that the thought of someone else hurt. And, to be as honest with him as he has with me, I wasn't sure how much longer I could hang on without being on the same page. I gave him some space after this, not texting as often, etc. I know Libras need time after something like that. I should also note the chemistry between us is intense. Other than lacking being exclusive, we completely gel.

Saw him about a week after my talk, and he was a bit melancholy. Things were definitely different. The music was relationship type stuff and he was more romantic than usual. Typically, there's little music and he can't keep his hands off me. We end up in the bedroom within minutes. But this time was more like caressing me, passionate kisses, arms around me almost the entire time, told me he missed me, and that he just needed to see me that night. Again, he was a bit melancholy. Later in the evening he told me he claimed me, I took that to mean he didn't want me seeing anyone else, and I claimed him back.

Fast forward a few days and I've barely gotten a peep out of him since then! I called and he seemed distant. I text and his replies are short responses, and last night I told him I'd love to see him if he wasn't busy, and his reply was only "tonight's not good." And then nothing more. No response to my last couple of texts. Usually he has some type of response.

Can someone give me some insight? Is this a typical Libra taking time to balance the scales after too many emotional feels?? He had been drinking a bit, that's not new, but I'm wondering is if he's rethinking things because he acted in a moment of weakness or something. Or if he's testing how I handle him getting a little cold. I honestly don't know what's up and could use some insight. 🤷

What sign are you and what placements if you know them.

As far as the love songs are concerned I have love songs (on repeat) all the time but each one is played to remind of previous relationships with exes of mine. I do this even though I am married to someone else now. My last marriage was to a Libra and when they want you they will commit and want to marry you. It seems he likes you a great deal but you may be just filling a spot in his heart that was broken when his ex died. Are you sure he feels the chemistry you speak of or are you feeling it and thinking that if you are feeling the intensity that surely he must be feeling it too?

I happened to read description of the Libra man by just googling it and it was worse than I expected to see.

I was very surprised.

And now I read every bit of it.

Strange. 🤷‍♀️

What did you read that was so eye opening and surprising?

Posted by DonnaLibra

What did you read that was so eye opening and surprising?

That they are shit! Google it.

Posted by stillstillwater

" I heard Libras can disappear for weeks and months. But always comes

You saying like it’s a good thing...

Do they come back and being waited for? I hope they come back to find their replacement...

Ooookey...

So are you saying everyone who dating Libra man supposed to think about their exes?

His ex was an EX...

So why is everybody talking about ‘loved ine’?

Was OP a rebound? That’s what you all implying?

Libra is cold. Haven't you heard?