Should I dump my libra boyfriend for good?

Hi,

I started a relationship with a Libra man but I'm so confused with his actions. I'm a Cancer female.

When we're together he says that he loves me and treats me like a princess but lately he doesn't message me or communicate as much as he used to. I've asked him if everything is fine and he says yes and that he would never leave me without an explanation.

On Friday he showed me that he loved me with his actions. We always meet after work but I told him that day I wasn't available because I had to go to my aunt's house and he went all the way there to see me for a bit. She lives really far so he made that sacrifice for me. He even sent me love songs that night. So I took that as a proof of his love.

Well today (Sunday) he's totally changed. Last night when I texted him good night he didn't respond. And today he hasn't communicate ALL DAY with me and it's 3 pm already (my local time).

I sent him a text early around 11 am which he never responded but I saw that he was on Facebook so he has access to his phone! 😕😡

So his actions confuse me because he tells me he loves me but other times ignores me and acts like he wants to break up or something. Is it normal that he doesn't communicate with his girlfriend the entire day and takes hours to reply to my texts? Yet, he has told me he can't live without me, that the day he leaves me he will do it in person. How should I behave with him? I'm not going to chase him anymore but if he comes back pretending nothing happened what should I tell him? I read that Libras are indecisive. Could this be the issue? If he continues driving me crazy I feel like I will have to dump him.

You’re being needy and, sure, go ahead and dump the guy. If you need constant reassurance and he is unable to text you 24/7 then definitely leave.

Just let him breathe.

You wouldn’t dump him.

You would release him...

Somebody seems needy like a cookie monster.

I don't think I'm being paranoid. I feel ignored by him when I text him and he replies like 5 hours later. Yes, there's been times that it feels like he forgets about me.

I just feel like I give 100% of myself to him and he gives less. And I've told him I'm sensitive and to try not to do this and he still does it. I just don't know how to treat him anymore. Sometimes I don't know if I should just stop texting him and treat him the same way

Wow, all of you are attacking her, why? Because she want some respect.

I mean, if someone is ignoring you, then there is something wrong, it’s not just her being clingy, it’s something about him and her not being compatible with each other.

It’s so clear to me that there is something not normal about this relationship.

Posted by Haruuka

Wow, all of you are attacking her, why? Because she want some respect.

I mean, if someone is ignoring you, then there is something wrong, it’s not just her being clingy, it’s something about him and her not being compatible with each other.

It’s so clear to me that there is something not normal about this relationship.

I think like this also. If she was with someone who had the same expectations as her, then all would be fine. Expectations of others can be a killer of relationships.

How long have y'all dated? He just sounds comfortable to me, but if you are feeling some way about it try to communicate it in a way where it doesn't sound like you have Andy all of his time. Square relationships aren't impossible but they are relationships where people have to communicate and learn from each other and there needs to be safe space to talk about those things. Also this could be a sign that you are spending too much time looking for him. Keep yourself busy girl. I know easier said than done because I am a busy woman and can still be thinking about someone I care about, but if I'm being cardinal somewhere else I don't feel the need to be cardinal in my relationship as much.

To take*

Sounds pretty normal for a Libra man. I have had 4 libra bfs.

Posted by angie2080

Hi,

I started a relationship with a Libra man but I'm so confused with his actions. I'm a Cancer female.

When we're together he says that he loves me and treats me like a princess but lately he doesn't message me or communicate as much as he used to. I've asked him if everything is fine and he says yes and that he would never leave me without an explanation.

On Friday he showed me that he loved me with his actions. We always meet after work but I told him that day I wasn't available because I had to go to my aunt's house and he went all the way there to see me for a bit. She lives really far so he made that sacrifice for me. He even sent me love songs that night. So I took that as a proof of his love.

Well today (Sunday) he's totally changed. Last night when I texted him good night he didn't respond. And today he hasn't communicate ALL DAY with me and it's 3 pm already (my local time).

I sent him a text early around 11 am which he never responded but I saw that he was on Facebook so he has access to his phone! 😕😡

So his actions confuse me because he tells me he loves me but other times ignores me and acts like he wants to break up or something. Is it normal that he doesn't communicate with his girlfriend the entire day and takes hours to reply to my texts? Yet, he has told me he can't live without me, that the day he leaves me he will do it in person. How should I behave with him? I'm not going to chase him anymore but if he comes back pretending nothing happened what should I tell him? I read that Libras are indecisive. Could this be the issue? If he continues driving me crazy I feel like I will have to dump him.

"that he would never leave me without an explanation."

"Yet, he has told me he can't live without me, that the day he leaves me he will do it in person"

why are you and him talking about him leaving repeatedly?

Find something else to do other than waiting for him to respond to your texts.

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Posted by black773

You’re being needy and, sure, go ahead and dump the guy. If you need constant reassurance and he is unable to text you 24/7 then definitely leave.

This is literally all y'all say to EVERYBODY that has this issue. No simple goodnight text or anything? What drugs are you smoking? Just do yourself a favor and stop giving relationship advice, because you are WAY too naive.

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I will continue to give advice how I want to give it and if that upsets your fragile ego, I really don’t care. You’ll need to work that out yourself.

Posted by angie2080

So his actions confuse me because he tells me he loves me but other times ignores me and acts like he wants to break up or something. Is it normal that he doesn't communicate with his girlfriend the entire day and takes hours to reply to my texts?

Not responding to texts is NOT acting like he wants to break up with you.

People get busy. They have work, school, family.

Slow down with the entitlement. Its not ALWAYS all about you.

Posted by Haruuka

Wow, all of you are attacking her, why? Because she want some respect.

I mean, if someone is ignoring you, then there is something wrong, it’s not just her being clingy, it’s something about him and her not being compatible with each other.

It’s so clear to me that there is something not normal about this relationship.

In a 'normal' relationship people respect that their partners may not be able to drop eveything at work to answer texts.

Posted by angie2080

Well today (Sunday) he's totally changed. Last night when I texted him good night he didn't respond. And today he hasn't communicate ALL DAY with me and it's 3 pm already (my local time). I sent him a text early around 11 am which he never responded but I saw that he was on Facebook so he has access to his phone! 😕😡

Is it normal that he doesn't communicate with his girlfriend the entire day and takes hours to reply to my texts?

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Like she's mad she texted him at 11am and its 3pm and he hasn't answered back. Ummm its monday. He's at work and trying to focus on doing his job.

Its not like he's ghosting her for days. Lets be real, most of us wouldn't be mad if we text our SO during business hours and he doesn't respond for a few hours. Its called being a responsible adult and focusing on work so you get that paycheck.

Angie, do you work?

If not maybe start looking for a job so you can focus on something other than your phone.

In order for someone to ghost you, by definition more than 4 hours need to pass.

Calm down.

Or just dump him if this triggers you this much. Find someone who will be all up your ass with the texts.

yawn, she's always on here whining about stupid stuff

Posted by Haruuka

Wow, all of you are attacking her, why? Because she want some respect.

I mean, if someone is ignoring you, then there is something wrong, it’s not just her being clingy, it’s something about him and her not being compatible with each other.

It’s so clear to me that there is something not normal about this relationship.

if she is being ignored. do we know if she is being ignored?

has he been in contact op?

Hi

Thanks for your advice. Yes, he finally contacted me yesterday. It was Sunday by the way when everything happened. Not a day during the week. He told me he has been busy.

I understand that but at least he could've told me he had things to do.

I will try to work on being more understanding.

I completely understand that we don't have to be texting 24/7 but in the beginning he would talk to me more so I've been confused that he changed and talked to me less.

I really hope things get better and he also tries to understand my needs.

All I want is for him to communicate and if he has things to do he can tell me.

This relationship won't last..just a heads up.

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Posted by Gemitati

You wouldn’t dump him.

You would release him...

That is the dumbest shit I've ever heard.

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At your age I promise you’ll hear dumber shit than that.

I also want to add that it's true when I posted that he was "the one" because he kept telling me he wanted to get serious with me.

But I honestly can't predict anything and how our relationship will go.

I'm hoping for the best.

Posted by angie2080

Hi

Thanks for your advice. Yes, he finally contacted me yesterday. It was Sunday by the way when everything happened. Not a day during the week. He told me he has been busy.

I understand that but at least he could've told me he had things to do.

I will try to work on being more understanding.

I completely understand that we don't have to be texting 24/7 but in the beginning he would talk to me more so I've been confused that he changed and talked to me less.

I really hope things get better and he also tries to understand my needs.

All I want is for him to communicate and if he has things to do he can tell me.

yeah, that's not going to work in the long run. keep him on such a tight leash and he'll eventually break free.

Hey ill make this quick.

Dont dump him yet.

Yes you are being a little overly sensitive and clingy.

I had a similar issue with my libra i dated, not in the fact he didn't text me enough, bit he never told me what he was doing. In retrospect i guess he isnt obligated to,but im a curious person.

We would go a day or two without talking and when he would call he'd be like "oh, i was at a friends, went to the movies, hingoit with my brother, played the guitar yadda yadda" and id be like oh...why wouldnt you share that with me?

I dont care about every detail but like you went to the movies?! ...fun. but he was so innocnet and nonchlant about it. Like he just didn't even think it was odd not to tell me.

Eventually we broke up, because that line of communication wasnt conpatible for me.

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Posted by Gemitati

At your age I promise you’ll hear dumber shit than that.

I'm exaggerating, I say that about anything I consider pretty damn dumb. I've definitely heard loads worse, I was just emphasizing as a guy that you thinking we're concerned with freedom as much as women are is pretty naive of you. Men that run from obligation and commitment aren't men, they are little girly cowards.

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I am still insist that you will hear dumber shit. Just keep growing up.

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Posted by black773

I will continue to give advice how I want to give it and if that upsets your fragile ego, I really don’t care. You’ll need to work that out yourself.

Lmao what? Fragile ego? All I did was call you out on your unrealistic/exaggerated standards.

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Get help little white boy. I imposed no unrealistic standards or exaggerated standards. If you’re the annoying kid with no life who has to text your love interest all day, then that’s your issue. I don’t agree with the clingy behavior. You can disagree little guy, your disapproval doesn’t invalidate what I originally mentioned. Tough luck.

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Posted by black773

Get help little white boy. I imposed no unrealistic standards or exaggerated standards. If you’re the annoying kid with no life who has to text your love interest all day, then that’s your issue. I don’t agree with the clingy behavior. You can disagree little guy, your disapproval doesn’t invalidate what I originally mentioned. Tough luck.

Again, your idea of "clingy" is just having any sort of attachment whatsoever. So you're batshit insane. You're also either a deliberately deceptive male trying to play this off as if the dude ISN'T chasing pussy elsewhere, or you're an incredibly naive woman with a high likelihood to get cheated on. Good jeb.

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Bye now. Converse with someone who cares. My opinions aren’t debatable.

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Posted by Haruuka

Wow, all of you are attacking her, why? Because she want some respect.

I mean, if someone is ignoring you, then there is something wrong, it’s not just her being clingy, it’s something about him and her not being compatible with each other.

It’s so clear to me that there is something not normal about this relationship.

In a 'normal' relationship people respect that their partners may not be able to drop eveything at work to answer texts.

Posted by angie2080

Well today (Sunday) he's totally changed. Last night when I texted him good night he didn't respond. And today he hasn't communicate ALL DAY with me and it's 3 pm already (my local time). I sent him a text early around 11 am which he never responded but I saw that he was on Facebook so he has access to his phone! 😕😡

Is it normal that he doesn't communicate with his girlfriend the entire day and takes hours to reply to my texts?

Like she's mad she texted him at 11am and its 3pm and he hasn't answered back. Ummm its monday. He's at work and trying to focus on doing his job.

Its not like he's ghosting her for days. Lets be real, most of us wouldn't be mad if we text our SO during business hours and he doesn't respond for a few hours. Its called being a responsible adult and focusing on work so you get that paycheck.

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Maybe you’re right.

But I was saying that there is something wrong about their relationship.

Posted by angie2080

Hi

Thanks for your advice. Yes, he finally contacted me yesterday. It was Sunday by the way when everything happened. Not a day during the week. He told me he has been busy.

I understand that but at least he could've told me he had things to do.

I will try to work on being more understanding.

I completely understand that we don't have to be texting 24/7 but in the beginning he would talk to me more so I've been confused that he changed and talked to me less.

I really hope things get better and he also tries to understand my needs.

All I want is for him to communicate and if he has things to do he can tell me.

He told you from the beginning he’s not big on texting. Either you accept him as he is, or you move on.

Posted by angie2080

I'm a Cancer in a relationship with a Libra man. He's amazing in every way! Fun, romantic, a gentleman, and passionate. Whoever I'm starting to realize that he's also detached most of the time. For example, he confessed that he doesn't like texting too much but sometimes he could go hours without texting me and it drives me insane.

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Posted by black773

Bye now. Converse with someone who cares. My opinions aren’t debatable.

This response is pretty much a tutorial on a surefire way to be wrong in a single step.

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Whoever you are...you are annoying af with your smart annoying language. Mr. Perfert Wannabe. 🤮

Posted by angie2080

Hi,

I started a relationship with a Libra man but I'm so confused with his actions. I'm a Cancer female.

When we're together he says that he loves me and treats me like a princess but lately he doesn't message me or communicate as much as he used to. I've asked him if everything is fine and he says yes and that he would never leave me without an explanation.

On Friday he showed me that he loved me with his actions. We always meet after work but I told him that day I wasn't available because I had to go to my aunt's house and he went all the way there to see me for a bit. She lives really far so he made that sacrifice for me. He even sent me love songs that night. So I took that as a proof of his love.

Well today (Sunday) he's totally changed. Last night when I texted him good night he didn't respond. And today he hasn't communicate ALL DAY with me and it's 3 pm already (my local time).

I sent him a text early around 11 am which he never responded but I saw that he was on Facebook so he has access to his phone! 😕😡

So his actions confuse me because he tells me he loves me but other times ignores me and acts like he wants to break up or something. Is it normal that he doesn't communicate with his girlfriend the entire day and takes hours to reply to my texts? Yet, he has told me he can't live without me, that the day he leaves me he will do it in person. How should I behave with him? I'm not going to chase him anymore but if he comes back pretending nothing happened what should I tell him? I read that Libras are indecisive. Could this be the issue? If he continues driving me crazy I feel like I will have to dump him.

Yes you should. You probably have incompatible venus signs or something. Do yourself a favor and find someone more suited.

I'm a scorp Venus and if I don't get respect back in what I put in then its cord cut and move the hell on 😄 😄

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Posted by Haruuka

Wow, all of you are attacking her, why? Because she want some respect.

I mean, if someone is ignoring you, then there is something wrong, it’s not just her being clingy, it’s something about him and her not being compatible with each other.

It’s so clear to me that there is something not normal about this relationship.

Good point

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I agree that is why she needs to break it off.

Hi

This is just an update. Apparently my Libra boyfriend is done with me for good and even though you all attacked me I was right. Yesterday he didn't talked to me all day again and he hasn't text me today either.

I knew something was wrong! The last text I sent him was yesterday saying "good morning" which he never responded and basically i was ignored the whole day.

I'm just really upset that he didn't had the balls to break up in person instead of stop talking to me abruptly. This is so wrong!

I already know he doesn't want to be with me anymore. He's actions tell me everything. So I'm definitely not pursuing him but it hurts when I see my phone because I was used to texting with him on a daily basis since September. And it also hurts that I don't have an explanation of why he stopped all communication. I don't know if he was ever sincere or he changed his mind about me but he should've acted like an adult and told me he wanted to end our relationship.

The worst thing is that now I will have a hard time trusting another man after this experience. How will I know if someone is being real? I guess I got attached too soon. He was a gentleman and very romantic so he made me fall for him. And my self esteem is damaged because when a guy calls me "beautiful" from now on I don't know if he really means it.

This man used to take me to Starbucks and now I literally feel like I don't want to walk in there. It will just remind me of him and how he bought hot chocolate for me 😢

I don't understand how he can forget about everything from one day to the other.

Posted by angie2080

I already know he doesn't want to be with me anymore. He's actions tell me everything. So I'm definitely not pursuing him but it hurts when I see my phone because I was used to texting with him on a daily basis since September. And it also hurts that I don't have an explanation of why he stopped all communication. I don't know if he was ever sincere or he changed his mind about me but he should've acted like an adult and told me he wanted to end our relationship.

The worst thing is that now I will have a hard time trusting another man after this experience. How will I know if someone is being real? I guess I got attached too soon. He was a gentleman and very romantic so he made me fall for him. And my self esteem is damaged because when a guy calls me "beautiful" from now on I don't know if he really means it.

This man used to take me to Starbucks and now I literally feel like I don't want to walk in there. It will just remind me of him and how he bought hot chocolate for me 😢

I don't understand how he can forget about everything from one day to the other.

Go on with your life.

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Posted by angie2080

Hi

This is just an update. Apparently my Libra boyfriend is done with me for good and even though you all attacked me I was right. Yesterday he didn't talked to me all day again and he hasn't text me today either.

I knew something was wrong! The last text I sent him was yesterday saying "good morning" which he never responded and basically i was ignored the whole day.

I'm just really upset that he didn't had the balls to break up in person instead of stop talking to me abruptly. This is so wrong!

Sorry, you got ghosted! He probably didn't want to spend money on a Christmas gift. That sucks! Now, what is your plan of action?

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Still doesn't count as ghosting. He talked to her yesterday and told her he's crazy busy and thats why he didn't respond back. Now she's mad he didn't respond to her gm text the following day.

Posted by angie2080

Yes, he finally contacted me yesterday. He told me he has been busy.

I understand that but at least he could've told me he had things to do.

Posted by angie2080

And it also hurts that I don't have an explanation of why he stopped all communication. I don't know if he was ever sincere or he changed his mind about me but he should've acted like an adult and told me he wanted to end our relationship.

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Posted by angie2080

Hi

This is just an update. Apparently my Libra boyfriend is done with me for good and even though you all attacked me I was right. Yesterday he didn't talked to me all day again and he hasn't text me today either.

I knew something was wrong! The last text I sent him was yesterday saying "good morning" which he never responded and basically i was ignored the whole day.

I'm just really upset that he didn't had the balls to break up in person instead of stop talking to me abruptly. This is so wrong!

Sorry, you got ghosted! He probably didn't want to spend money on a Christmas gift. That sucks! Now, what is your plan of action?

Still doesn't count as ghosting. He talked to her yesterday and told her he's crazy busy and thats why he didn't respond back. Now she's mad he didn't respond to her gm text the following day.

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this.

he doesn't text for you one day = we've broken up. he never loved me. i'll never trust again.

oh the dramatics of cancer. op, you're being mental.

even if you haven't broken up, i think you should break up with him anyway. find another cancer. then you can both be 100% devoted to each other 100% of the time.

Geeze, im clingy AF and even this is making me cringe.

I would prob freak out if i didn't hear from my bf in 24 hours. But if he said "hey im crazy busy" i would relax...

And i also wouldnt assume hes "done". I would first wonder if hes okay, got into an accident or was hurt...than think his feelings for me are a sham.

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Posted by angie2080

Hi

This is just an update. Apparently my Libra boyfriend is done with me for good and even though you all attacked me I was right. Yesterday he didn't talked to me all day again and he hasn't text me today either.

I knew something was wrong! The last text I sent him was yesterday saying "good morning" which he never responded and basically i was ignored the whole day.

I'm just really upset that he didn't had the balls to break up in person instead of stop talking to me abruptly. This is so wrong!

Sorry, you got ghosted! He probably didn't want to spend money on a Christmas gift. That sucks! Now, what is your plan of action?

Still doesn't count as ghosting. He talked to her yesterday and told her he's crazy busy and thats why he didn't respond back. Now she's mad he didn't respond to her gm text the following day.

Hm where did she say he talked to her yesterday? I thought she said he didn't reply either yesterday or today.

"Yesterday he didn't talked to me all day again and he hasn't text me today either.

I knew something was wrong! The last text I sent him was yesterday saying "good morning" which he never responded and basically i was ignored the whole day."

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Im curious why she used the word "basically"...thats vague. Did he or didnt he ignore her?

Sounds like he responded just not to her liking...maybe a one word response?

Fuck his friend

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Posted by angie2080

Hi

This is just an update. Apparently my Libra boyfriend is done with me for good and even though you all attacked me I was right. Yesterday he didn't talked to me all day again and he hasn't text me today either.

I knew something was wrong! The last text I sent him was yesterday saying "good morning" which he never responded and basically i was ignored the whole day.

I'm just really upset that he didn't had the balls to break up in person instead of stop talking to me abruptly. This is so wrong!

Sorry, you got ghosted! He probably didn't want to spend money on a Christmas gift. That sucks! Now, what is your plan of action?

Still doesn't count as ghosting. He talked to her yesterday and told her he's crazy busy and thats why he didn't respond back. Now she's mad he didn't respond to her gm text the following day.

Hm where did she say he talked to her yesterday? I thought she said he didn't reply either yesterday or today.

"Yesterday he didn't talked to me all day again and he hasn't text me today either.

I knew something was wrong! The last text I sent him was yesterday saying "good morning" which he never responded and basically i was ignored the whole day."

Im curious why she used the word "basically"...thats vague. Did he or didnt he ignore her?

Sounds like he responded just not to her liking...maybe a one word response?

Yeh not sure. She said he didn't reply to her good morning text that she sent yesterday so I thought it meant he never replied her at all but maybe he did but just not to that specific text.

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Thats what im thiking. I dont think he completely hasnt been talking to her. Just prob not as much as he was. I think the story is a little exaggerated perhaps

Listen i have cancer mars...i can get dramatic and say "you never call me anymore or text me" when i literally got a phone call the day before...

Also why dont you try calling him and doing a thing called "communicating?"

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Posted by angie2080

Yes, he finally contacted me yesterday. He told me he has been busy.

I understand that but at least he could've told me he had things to do.

Posted by angie2080

And it also hurts that I don't have an explanation of why he stopped all communication. I don't know if he was ever sincere or he changed his mind about me but he should've acted like an adult and told me he wanted to end our relationship.

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@timon

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Listen i have cancer mars...i can get dramatic and say "you never call me anynore or text me" when i literally got a phone call the day before...

my bull has cancer mars too.

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Either way. Something tells me she is right because to be honest the libra board is filled with girls being ghosted by a libra. 😛

When there is a change in someone's behavior usually something is up. If your significant other sends you a good morning text at least you can say good morning back or something. It's not that time consuming to send a good morning back lol. If you're interested in someone I bet you would. I'm not saying reply immediately but more than a day and no signs of life and its a libra. Yeh something is up lol.

You might be right.

But libras when unbalanced i know they can't focus on more than one task, so if work or family is out of balance they might be focusing on that over their relationship.

My ex has this issue and he didnt realize it until i mentioned it.

But i guess you would know better than i.

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Posted by Boots1313

Listen i have cancer mars...i can get dramatic and say "you never call me anynore or text me" when i literally got a phone call the day before...

my bull has cancer mars too.

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As does mine...double dose of cancer Mars...

*How do u insert gifs?*...

Eh this works too... 🙄