Libra only interested in me

Ok, heres the latest with what is going on with my libra. He has been stressed all week with work and came up for air this weekend. He so far has been very interested in what is going on with me and nothing else. He won't answer any questions about how he is doing and avoids the topic on how he is doing. I am assuming he is still stressed about work and or his personal life. Conversations with him are all about me. How should I take that? For those of you that don't know and if it matters any, I'm a leo woman.

It is his way of showing he is interested in you.

Men, Libra or not, tend to internalize their stresses and problems, to better work it out on their own. He is not talking about it because he does not WANT to talk about it. He doesn't want to share, he doesn't want advice or opinions or help. He wants to work it out on his own (MEN!!! LOL) and talking to you about YOU gives him that little bit of distraction so he doesn't drive himself nuts over whatever's going on. And hey - you've actually got a bit of a bonus here.. MOST guys in the middle of a work-stress-disconnect-shutdown pull away from their women while they work it out. He's still connecting with you and talking with you - he just doesn't want to talk about the stressful stuff cuz he's NOT a woman! Enjoy it! He sounds like a keeper for sure! LOL

The caveman sitting on his rock pondering....leave him be he'll be back when he's done.

ok, now I'm melting. hope its true. He is absolutely a keeper and I've fallen hard for him after I put up a thick wall. When he came around that wall came down so fast. We connect well together both emotional and physical but I do know that he seems to get scared and then backs away then comes back. Is that a Libra trait? I need to keep him interested with me since I've fallen and I think he knows it.

I meet a Libra guy, on the middle of my divorce, the idea of a relationship or men in general was not in my mind,

When he saw me he approached me, and we got to talking, and he grabbed my phone and added his email on it, but he stole my pin for the blackberry, texted me the same day, he kept asking why I had to be married, (I didnt tell him I was spliting up w him already)

He kept in touch, saw him a couple of times after that, always told me he didnt want to get in the middle of anything, and that we have time,

He started to back out, and came around, told me he IS interested in me, wants to get to know me, and that if he felt it was the right time he would want a lot more, asked me to hang out this week, that he will reach out to me when, however he never did,

He told me "well the deal was done with you, so If I found out you were still going thr"u your marriage, I just didnt wanna know that" I didnt understand that..

But what should I expect of this?

I am so unsure on his feelings, or what he wants expects from me,

He said his has been thru what I am going thru, and he has been trying to be there for me, BTW he has, I too feel, we only talk about my problems and my life, he wants to know a lot of my situation, he would ask me all the time, and he is very supportive, caring and he said its because he trusts me..

Please help

yes, someone help us. Its confusing that this is happening.

Amyl - I'm not sure exactly what you are asking of us here. What do you need help with? Seems to me the guy is interested in you, but doesn't want to get in the middle of a relationship. (Like he said.) And until you're actually divorced.. well, you aren't actually divorced. Plenty of people get hurt in the whole "we're separated/getting a divorce" thing, especially if the married couple suddenly decides to try working it out, or don't get divorced for a long time, or the divorce gets ugly. He doesn't want to be one of them, probably. Or he might just be hoping for sex, like a lot of guys are, Libra or not.

jshark - the back and forth IS a common Libra trait - they call it "hot and cold" and my beloved Libra's got it in SPADES! They especially do it while they're still in their "deciding phase" of the relationship (I've noticed a marked trend of @2 mos and also @5 mos)... when they're immersing themselves into you, being Mr. Wonderful, you falling head over heels... and he's still weighing everything in his mind, trying to see if you ARE indeed The One. Problem is, you can't really tell if they're being so awesome because they've decided, or they're being so awesome while they're still deciding, because it's all the same. The hot and cold tapers off once your Libra DOES decide to become fully and completely committed to you, but no, it never stops completely. (GRRR!)

As my best friend of 20 years once said, "Don't chase the horse round and round the corral - it won't stop running scared. Just stand quietly in the middle and WAIT. Eventually, the horse will approach YOU." Now, don't take that advice to mean that you always sit back and wait for him to make every move, because that will backfire. Men (especially Libras!) DO like to chase a bit.. but they DO get tired of constant chasing and they DO get tired of always being the initiator. All it means is do not senselessly chase and push, give a little space when they need it. Have patience. Don't be clingy and needy and insecure. Trust that he will bounce back. When my Libra gets a bit distant (as guys do, Libra or not) I busy myself with other stuff. HE is not solely responsible for MY emotional well-being. And soon, he bounces back better than before, closer and more loving. And I make this easier for him because I am never hurt or angry or make him feel guilty for needing to pull away once in awhile. He's secure in the knowledge that *I* will not flip my cookies if he needs space and time, which makes it easier (and quicker!) for him to return to his loving self the next time!

Gotta love those Libra boys... drive ya wild in more ways than one, they do! lol

Nefer-Oh yes, the Libra boys. Gotta love them. I've been seeing this guy for about 7 months now. From the beginning he was very aggressive and just had to have some sort of contact with me daily. Then he slowed down and is keeping distance but also tells me he is busy with work. We are intimate. How long with this take him to decide? For me I'm thinking wait till after the holidays and see but like you, I'm in it for the long haul since he is absolutely worth it. As a Leo in love its hard for me to stay calm and not show too much that I love him. You know leos, showy wants attention and all. Its giving me patience and teaching me to wait for him. BUT, he is worth waiting for. I do flirt with him and show that I am interested and know he likes that but trying to find a balance so that I don't appear too aggressive.

He's not happy at all with what's going on with work. Watch out for termination or he resigns or laid off, he probably wants to make sure you will be supportive no matter the outcome. So just stay strong for him and comfort him. I sense a change is coming ....

Thanks JOJOJO-what change to do sense? Relationship or with work? good or bad? I've been over 100% supportive towards everything for him and have not once questioned his decision with something nor have complained about one thing. I've been very pleasant with everything. in fact, he made a big mistake one time, I would have just flipped out with another person but with him I let it go and told him i was ok with it with a warm smile.

You're just what a libra need, someone who's non-confrontational. I'm not sure what the change will be but since you were talking about work, maybe he's looking for another job. If you cook, I think it's a nice time for a nice home cooked meal. If you don't cook, then treat him to dinner and maybe he will open up a little more. We tend to talk when we are being pampared. Tell him you are concerned about him and work, but ease into it or the minute he says something about work, try to stay on that subject.

I surely hope so-that I'm what he needs. I'm putting my 110% plus more into this since he is def worth it. He's come up for air from work a few times but still highly stressed. So bad in fact that its affecting other things. We talk, haven't seen each other but that's since I know we both need the space. I know I do. He returns my calls fairly quickly and does try and spend as much time with me over the phone. I would love to pamper him during this time but because of my schedule and our distance its hard to do that. Any other advice? I give him enough space where we will have a few days where we have no contact.

Another question. I know Libra men love beauty. At times I question mine and that is where I fear he may not thing I'm all that. Does beauty a must have for a Libra man?

Okay, Libras DO love beauty, no doubt about it. Never known one that pairs up with "truly ugly"... the thing you need to realize though - beauty is subjective, eye of the beholder and all. If your Libra's been 7 months with you, trust me, you're plenty attractive enough for him. They LOVE pretty faces, and most aren't into rail-skinny chicks. Libras don't need drop dead gorgeous, model-material... they just need to feel attracted to (and proud of) their partner. Heck, the Libras I've known, when in long term relationships, even if their partner gained quite a bit of weight, etc etc... they still stayed. They've admitted to me (as a friend, in confidence, knowing I'd never tell her) that they felt LESS attracted since she'd gained 60 or 70 lbs, but not less attracted enough to leave for such a shallow reason, or even to be rude enough to point out to her that she's "getting fat." I myself have gained about 10 lbs in the last year - he doesn't mention my clothes are getting a touch snug - *I* did.. and told him to stop making me fabulous meals full of cheese and bacon and loaded with carbs LOL (His specialty is a MOST fabulous Breakfast Skillet dish --- MMMmmmMMMMmmMMM brekkie in bed! Woo! And his spaghetti is amazing - and amazingly fattening for MY body type!)

Don't worry so much about if you're "pretty enough" for him. 7 months says you ARE!

how far is the distance?

seven months and he never talks about himself? that is odd.

Thank you! I feel much happier now.

Don't know if I've shared this but I know that he knows that I'm so into him. I would worship him if I could and I know he knows that. That said, it is so obvious that I'm in to him. He is taking his time with this and I have noticed that he is at time reserved, not showing much interest but not all the time. Typical Libra thing right? He has me in the palm of his hands, I give space and don't smother. I surely hope that it moves into something great. Stick around for him?

leokitten2-btw, LOVE the screen name!

Been together over 7 months or so. He has been distant from time to time and at times does not talk about himself. It all depends on how things are going in his life. He has opened up, just like yesterday, we talked and he told me about what is going on in his life. Last Thursday when we were together he would rather talk about me or just casual things.

well my name is from the regular old leokitten, which i was for like 3 yrs on this board.... this is the second incarnation.

i think you should hold up a little on the "worship" him bit. that NEVER goes anywhere good with anyone.

how often are you seeing him? how often does he call?

leokitten2-ok.

We spend weekends together since we both work and live far away. the physical distance but we talk/text and email during the week. He calls 1-2 times a week and I about the same. On the weekends when we don't have time for each other, I out of town or busy with work vice versa, we are constantly on text or phone with each other. Message boards we look for each other as well.