LIBRA ROLLERCOASTER OF EMOTIONS

Am I the only Libra that finds myself liking people too soon?
Like I??ll really like someone one minute, then the next I don't like them anymore I like someone else, then I might start liking the other person again.
I be feeling like I'm going in circles. I hate it.
Of course I have friends that say —take your time?? how do you know you like them already—

Ways that I can tell I'm starting to like someone??_

I get tinges of jealousy
I wait for them to text back
I start over analyzing and thinking stuff.
I start thinking the negative what if??s
I get scared so I begin acting nonchalant so as not to look weak
I blush when I hear their name
I blush even harder when they call
I try to avoid being available so I wont get too attached (this part usually doesn't work too well, unless they make me mad; because I always wanna be around the person I like)

What's up? Anybody else go through these series of emotions? Maybe it's because I haven't had a relationship in over 3 years. IDK

Posted by GG
#piscesmoonproblems

OMG YES! LOL. How'd you know i had a pisces moon? I'm embarrassed lol.

No, I will literally be infatuated with someone for a long time and then get over them like that about 3 or 4 months later lol. :\

Then I have this damn Leo in Venus so when I like someone, that Pisces and Leo combo is not exactly a good in my opinion. I'm emotional and sensitive but to prideful and too busy protecting my own ego to admit to a crush just how much I like them. Here are my placements, somebody break —me?? down for —me?? lol. Seems as though I have a lot of fire in my chart O_0

Rising Sign is in 18 Degrees Sagittarius
Sun is in 00 Degrees Libra
Moon is in 01 Degrees Pisces.
Mercury is in 25 Degrees Libra
Venus is in 17 Degrees Leo.
Mars is in 06 Degrees Aries.
Jupiter is in 06 Degrees Gemini.
Saturn is in 26 Degrees Sagittarius.
Uranus is in 27 Degrees Sagittarius.
Neptune is in 07 Degrees Capricorn.
Pluto is in 10 Degrees Scorpio.

My moon is also in Pisces, Venus in Libra.

Posted by GG
When people make Gemini threads, I investigate. Not sure when I found out but I've always known.

Investigate huh? lol. You are a trip. lol

Posted by HeatherRain
No, I will literally be infatuated with someone for a long time and then get over them like that about 3 or 4 months later lol. :\

Thank goodness. Thought I was nuts for a minute.lol
This happens to me too. My friends have started teasing me when I say I like someone. They be like —For now??. SMH. That's so not cool. I just read about my other placements and one part about my Leo being in Venus stuck out like a sore thumb. It said —Be careful of only dating those that make you look good,---the powerful, flashy, and well known?? I often attract these types. I only go for them because they are a challenge. In the past I found out they are not worth the challenge they pretend to be. My friends say I often go for the —pretty boys?? the ones that dress really nice, good hair, pretty eyes, or great body. I will admit I'm attracted to them, but HONEST??_They are normally attracted to me first. Not the other way around.
Not that I don't go for the quiet and stand offish type, I??ve gone for them too because I see it as a conquest to get them out of their shell.
Normally in grade school though, I didn't go for the popular boys they came after me. I usually didn't see what all the other girls saw. Not right away anyway.

PinkLibra, I go through the same emotions and actions when I really like someone. Almost all of my planets are in Libra and Sag so I don't think it is a Pisces moon problem only.

No, I'm not like this. I first analyze and think why I feel the way I do. I need to distinguish if it's mere infatuation or something deeper. It takes me 3 months or more before I actually accept I'm feeling something deeper. Next, I check for consistency about my feelings. By then it's around 6 months. Next, I observe if I don't feel suffocated around the person and not needing a lot of alone time. By this time, it's around the 8th month already. For me, if I need more alone time instead of spending it with that person, it's a huge red flag. Then finally, I wait a year to see if my feelings have changed or not. Basically, I wait for the rose colored glasses to come off before I let anything serious happen and before I let him meet my family.

You're guilty of that lovely Libran quality of, "OOOH SHINY AND NEW PROSPECT."

And then you're over it. And then, "OOH, LOOK. SHINY AND NEW!" ...and over it again.

All the games you play and that internal confusion you cause for yourself is so Leo influence, haha.

Posted by pinklibra

Like I??ll really like someone one minute, then the next I don't like them anymore I like someone else, then I might start liking the other person again.
I be feeling like I'm going in circles. I hate it.

I'd like to understand how this happen. It's really hard for a cancer to understand this situation.
I think it's because of you love with your brain. You analyze everything you see/heard and then find something you like or you don't then it changes your feelings or thinkings.
I'd like to understand how the process work 🙂

I do jump in too quick but I don't jump out fast enough. Too much Libra in me? I start rationalizing and justifying. I have never been one to bounce from persons to person. I'm never usually long without someone I'm interested in, but I stay hooked for a while.

He didn't work with her, I thought. She was a server he was interested in.

Posted by AesmaDaeva
No, I'm not like this. I first analyze and think why I feel the way I do. I need to distinguish if it's mere infatuation or something deeper. It takes me 3 months or more before I actually accept I'm feeling something deeper. Next, I check for consistency about my feelings. By then it's around 6 months. Next, I observe if I don't feel suffocated around the person and not needing a lot of alone time. By this time, it's around the 8th month already. For me, if I need more alone time instead of spending it with that person, it's a huge red flag. Then finally, I wait a year to see if my feelings have changed or not. Basically, I wait for the rose colored glasses to come off before I let anything serious happen and before I let him meet my family.

Wow..this was me to a "T" when I was younger, but by the time the rose colored glasses came off, I was pretty much no longer interested or the guy was no longer interested. However, I soon realized it was someone that I really liked and probably could have pursued a relationship with, but most guys wouldn't stick around while I was being indecisive, and of course I didn't blame them. I would have left ME too after the first month or so.

That's why now, I say if you really like someone and interested enough to be in a relationship, just let them know how you feel and let the chips fall where they may. It's better in the beginning so you don't waste time trying to be with someone who may not want the same things you want in a relationship.
I know its easier said than done, but in the long run, you will be better off. You will immediately know if what you are feeling and what you want in the relationship is not reciprocated, then you know it's time to move on, but for most of us, this way of thinking comes with age and a little wisdom.

She was/is a server at the bar I bused to work at. Nothing ever came from it. We talked a few times but never even went out. Oh well.

Jump from person to person? Lol. Yall make it sound so bad.haha. I find that I only move on quickly if I don't feel my feelings are in balance with the other person, as in if I feel like I like them more or less than they like me, then I'm guilty of searching for a more balanced union or connection. However Funny asked what makes a Libra double back, well don't know about others, because as you can see we are all different yet similar, but I only double back sometimes to try to find out why I didn't work with that person, or why I stopped liking them. Once I have my answer I'm gone again.
That's why when I give my advice on the revolving Libra??s that have a tendency to do this, I suggest the other person keeps a close hold on the door, and be ready to slam shut on this confused Libra.

I gotta say though, when I really like someone; I'm not confused. I'm sure I like that person without a doubt. It's when the person starts to change, or when I start to analyze, I become a bit scared that I'm liking them too much too soon. I have found I can calm down once I see that it's mutual. But if not??_well then Houston we have a problem. I'm true to those damn scales, and unbalance of any kind just really ruffles my feathers. I SERIOUSLY do not like it. Also when I really like someone I do want to be around them A LOT. However I don't want to smother my partner. For some reason I think you??d get bored with someone if they are in your face 24/7 every second of every minute out of the day. Sheesh. I like that common medium, where I see you everyday, but not alll day everyday. We can go some days where we do spend the whole day together, but then there are going to be times where I need to do me (not cheat) but just do me and you do you, and at some point throughout the day we meet up and tell each other what a good day we had. Idk how to explain it. After I find out I have all that fire in my chart, I now know why I'm like that. Every fire sign I know HATES to be smothered or up under their partner too much.

@pinklibra, that's what worked for me in the end. Once I found the person that I sparked with (Capricorn)..yeah I know...I said the same thing too...LOL, but I knew immediately that he was the ONE, so there was no confusion on my end. We just connected like a magnet even if I was still a little wishy washy in the beginning. I think it worked because we both crave that free (me) time; yet, we could still have our time together without strain. During the dating scene, sometimes we could go for a few days with no physical contact or a day or so without verbal or physical contact, but then when we would meet up and it was like we were never really apart. Even though we've been together almost 30 years (January will be 27 years married), we still allow each other that space to do the things we like to do without each other. He's a retired Marine and Martial Artist and he CRAVES those activities....me, not so much, so he does his thing. I, on the other hand love to read and hangout at anything that's literary related..him..not so much, so I do my thing, but at the same time we have joint activities that we love to do as a couple, so it works for us. I am an avid believer that SPACE and COMMUNICATION is the key to any relationship.It's not always perfect, but you have to do what works for your situation.

Exactly, that sounds excellent. I could rock with an understanding like that. I just have yet to come across it. Lately either I??ll like the guy more than he likes me (at least that's how it feels) or I wont like him —enough?? to be his girl. Like some guys are cool, I like them but not enough to be exclusive. I??ve heard I need to switch up my taste a little, which I am always willing to do but I'm not about to settle for someone I just know I'm not attracted to enough. I mean, that's where cheating comes in at, and since I don't believe in cheating I??ll end up dumping dude, and then I look like an insensitive jerk. So I say, why waste my time or his.
I normally go for the guy that's quiet but not too quiet, silly, and strong minded. The one that doesn't have to say out loud that he's a leader not a follower, because it just naturally shows in his presence. I love a guy with a sense of humor, and he should be a little laid back, but not too laid back to where he seems nonchalant or lazy. The one that knows what he wants in life, and in his ideal woman and has the determination and ambition to have both. He's direct, with no mind games. All of the things I named balance me out. I really need my exact opposite or at least someone that does all these things without being negative all the time, or too caught up in their feelings. Overly emotional guys turn me completely off. I don't want to start crying and he starts crying too, unless it's over a tragedy. I??d be confused on who??s the woman here.
The guys I was mostly attracted to were the following??_
Aries**** (A little fast paced; If he could just try to include me more he??d be the best match)
Sagittarius *** (gives off a cheating vibe, haven't met one that didn't)
Gemini*** (plays a little too much, but the attraction was definitely there)

LOL...Well, you have your work cut out for you then 🙂
My husband is a Cap sun & Aries rising so maybe that helped because Aries is our opposite and they say opposites attract..LOL

The last few posts I understand completely. In that sense, yeah sure, if for whatever reason I'm done and no longer see it working I let go pretty quickly. I think about sometimes "how much is too much?" but it never really seemed a problem unless the relationship was already on its way down. I've only dated a little since my divorce. I think I moved further to the "slow to make a move side". Like pink said, I ain't trying to waste no one's time.

Yeah, see and a lot of you have been or are married, so you??ve been where I'm going already most likely. That's probably why I come off a little more all over the place, lol. My longest relationship was a 1 ?_ and that was with the most grimiest human on the earth, sad to say he was a Saggitarian.

Posted by pinklibra
Yeah, see and a lot of you have been or are married, so you??ve been where I'm going already most likely. That's probably why I come off a little more all over the place, lol. My longest relationship was a 1 ?_ and that was with the most grimiest human on the earth, sad to say he was a Saggitarian.

LOL..not Grimiest🙂
Well, I tell you what...it takes a whole lot of patience from both parties and you learn as grow.
The key is sticking it out even through the rough and tough times.

pinklibra I can relate. Every time I talk to my Cap bestie about how I found someone she always says "oh god, here we go again" hehe am I that bad?

LOL. I know right??_I feel the same way. I??ve just stopped telling my mom altogether. The guy has to make it through at least 3 months before I mention him to my mom or family. Because I hate hearing —Okay, which one is this— or —What happen to such and such.?? lol. Truth is somewhere between me liking the guy and him liking me, the minute I start to show I like the guy back or have genuine interest they start to get comfortable and they change, and I no longer like who they are. I be so excited though at first. My girls be like — When they switch up, just play the game back?? I swear I HATE hearing —you gotta play the game?? those words make me wanna drop out of dating altogether. I just want to like someone and feel comfortable that it's okay to —like?? them for real, and they like me back. That's all.

@'PinkLibra, and really that's the way it should be. You should never have to compromise what you want in a decent relationship just to fit in or as they say "roll with the punches". When you get a certain age, timeout for the games, so just keep doing you and the right one will come along.

@Trini1 are you from Trinidad?

Whew!! Glad im not the only one whom gets like that when liking someone, lol yay im not crazy :-P lol