Libra & Sex?

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It's been quite a few years since I've found myself on this forum...and sure enough I'm back and of course with a different Libra. I swore them off after the last one so I'm not quite sure how this one wiggled his way in but here we are.

So anyways, I was in a relationship when we met and started hanging out. Like, actually hanging out. He respected the fact I was in a relationship and told me he didn't want to be the reason I ended things with the other guy. Things with the other guy were on their way out anyways. So far out, I'm pretty sure I was just existing in that land for no reason.

Anyways...I slept over one night and we ended up kissing and one thing led to another and self control goes flying out the window 2 hours later. It was my decision, I didn't want to be the woman who started something while still being involved with someone else in case we ended up in a relationship ourselves, I didn't want him having any doubts or worries that would happen with him as well.

I broke things off with the other guy within that week and ever since that first night at Libras house, I haven't actually left. Now, I go out and have a life but I'm also always here, he prefers it that way. So it's been over a month since I've actually slept in my own bed. If I go out or go home, he always wants me to come back.

So things were going great and then two weeks ago (tomorrow night will be two weeks exactly) we stopped having sex. At first I was like okay, I'm a Scorpio, my sex drives been in hybero mode, blah blah blah. He also had some pressure from that Thursday until the following Friday at work. I choked it up to that and other things being on his mind, I get it. Now we're going on to week 2. He's very affectionate and attentive but no intimacy. Pecks on the lips and that's it. WHAT IN THE WORLD?! I know sex isn't everything but I kind of need that physical connection here cause I'm starting to feel like there's distance between us. I brought it up the other night and he said it wasn't an issue in his other relationships (but the two I know about cheated on him soooooo.......). I also asked if it was me, did I do something, or was something bothering him. He replied no, mumbled the stuff about work, it's only been a few days since then and that was it. Now I'm in limbo because I'm not one to make the first move...he's very dominate in bed too, almost like WHERE THE HECK DID THIS COME FROM?! (Split personality from his everyday character...blame it on the Gemini Rising). So what now?! I'm at a loss on what to think or do...and can't analyze his chart even more and only know so much about him as he's military and not from here. YET, we have plans of me meeting his family first week of June, the rest of the year figured out between our schedules when he moves and he's talking about 2017 already! AGHHHH. FRUSTRATED.

If it matters for chart information --
Scorpio, Leo moon, Aquarius Rising

Libra, Libra moon, Gemini Rising

TIA.
-Sincerel
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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
What's your stuff?
Scorp
Leo Moon
Aqua Rising
Venus - Sag
Mars - Libra

Posted by jane84
Stress kills my sex drive. If I'm over thinking/over analyzing about work it's so hard to get things going. But my sex drive is high. Only when I'm really stressing will it take a toll. My Sag noticed this about me too. But it returns full force once I'm not as stressed.

I'm a Libra sun/libra moon/venus in Scorpio..but my Mars is in Sag. And I'm a female.
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Aside the work issue, I don't know what else could be stressing him. We're together a majority of the time so I hear about everything...Not sure if he's an over thinker. I am for sure and he told me he just shuts his brain off and falls asleep...in record timing of hitting the pillow. There should be a class on that...

He just told me he wanted to last night but I was on the laptop, fair point. Naturally when we go to bed though, he's on his phone looking at videos and I'm watching them over his shoulder. I'm more of a reader than video watcher so sometimes I just pull out the laptop. How was I supposed to know?! We'll see. Thanks for your feedback. Similar charts, different parts.
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Posted by DollyLuxe
Libras are moody too. One minute we're so horny, next minute we're living inside our heads. Also, we're not as highly sexual as Scorpios but we do love intimacy
Never realized they lived inside their head so much. Thanks for the insight.

Posted by Plagued
EH, we have our moments. Just give him time, not everything revolves around sex. That seems to be a common occurence with females, upset when the dog barks up the tree worried when the dog stops barking. Male libras are their own sorts, especially considering each individuals own personality alone.. so I guess my advice is null on that lol

Now Tiz, lest that not be entirely true. I do enjoy a good romp often.
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I agree, not everything revolves around sex. I just find it odd so early on in a relationship for it to go from every day to nothing for two weeks. You make a solid point about the barking up a tree, my ex sag used to do that and it would irritate me to no end. I believe this is karma for him humping my leg every night and me ignoring it after so long.
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Posted by tiziani
I don't share any of those placements other than being a Libra, but yeah I'm not a big fan of sex either.

If it becomes a problem then I don't see why you both have to be together, you have to find someone who can give you what you want.

Libras are great in bed about once a year. Then you're on your own.
I don't know why, but it makes me feel better to hear this coming from you! My fella isn't one who needs it all the time either and I tend to take it personally. (I'm doing better though!) 😄
He says that he feels the need to dominate every so often as usual, but aside from that, he isn't overly sex driven.

As others have said, I too notice that stress effects this.. But how early on in the relationship is this OP?
There was always an abundance of sex in the beginning of our relationship.. Like ALOT! So if it fizzled out this early on, he must be under a lot of stress in his life at the moment.

What about you Tiz? Do you find that there is more sex in the beginning stages of a relationship, even though you are not an overly sexual person?
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Started dating right after Easter. Slept together 3 weeks after that. Last 3 weeks this has been going on. .
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Posted by tiziani
I don't share any of those placements other than being a Libra, but yeah I'm not a big fan of sex either.

If it becomes a problem then I don't see why you both have to be together, you have to find someone who can give you what you want.

Libras are great in bed about once a year. Then you're on your own.
I don't know why, but it makes me feel better to hear this coming from you! My fella isn't one who needs it all the time either and I tend to take it personally. (I'm doing better though!) 😄
He says that he feels the need to dominate every so often as usual, but aside from that, he isn't overly sex driven.

As others have said, I too notice that stress effects this.. But how early on in the relationship is this OP?
There was always an abundance of sex in the beginning of our relationship.. Like ALOT! So if it fizzled out this early on, he must be under a lot of stress in his life at the moment.

What about you Tiz? Do you find that there is more sex in the beginning stages of a relationship, even though you are not an overly sexual person?
Started dating right after Easter. Slept together 3 weeks after that. Last 3 weeks this has been going on. .
Hmm, that is sort of early for it to fizzle out I think. What sort of issues is he dealing with? Stress can definitely kill anyones sex drive.
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I have no idea, he seems fine most of the time. The road rage is unreal and he'll get a bit snippy on certain things but I choke that up to his Gemini rising. I texted him earlier --

"I miss being more intimate with you. Is everything okay with you lately?"
-- "I'm sorry you feel that way hun. What do you want me to do? To me I feel we are intimate... obviously not so much physically but as in emotionally and mentally. I don't view it as only physical. And everything is ok, alot on my mind as normal but nothing crazy or out of the ordinary that IK of. Sometimes im just not extremely physical 😢"

I just said OK, Im gonna take a nap xo. I didn't know what else to say. .
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Posted by tiziani
He sadface smiley'd you into submission.


You know, no matter how low someone's drive might be you're better off both feeling like you can talk about it. It's a good sign he's asking you "what do you want me to do?" rather than him just being closed or defensive about it.

To Lilprinces.
At least I got a smiley face. I didn't know what to say back. He just got home and asked what was wrong and I said I think the sex thing is getting to me. He didn't say anything, just went about what he was doing next to me and is now laying down on his phone. I don't know what to even say to approach it.
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Posted by blackphase

Nah, most Libras who lack maturity seem to have anger issues, so I'd really chalk it up to that.

But his response was pretty reassuring. And as Tiz said, some fellas are just not a sexual as others. I know my fella is like this as well. But it's nice that your fella views intimacy as something aside from just sex. He places importance on emotional intimacy as well, that is sort of rare. Don't sweat it too much at this point and don't pressure him about it. I used to put pressure in that area as I am a highly sexual person, as you are, but it only pushed him further away as he felt that it was something that he HAD to do to keep me happy instead of something that he enjoyed and wanted to do with me. Once I released the pressure there, he was wanting it much more often.. he was also stressed out with work and such which decreased his sex drive, but I took it personally. So if he is telling you that he is just stressed and all, don't fret too much, just be there for him.
I've took the pressure off since I originally posted this, we had sex that night ironically and I haven't put pressure on him since then or brought it up. I chalked it up to him being under stress which I knew he had...but now it's Tuesday and the it's the same scenario. I'm trying not to take it personally but it's difficult if you're poking me with a boner before bed and then tuck it in a different position so it's not sticking me in the back. I DON'T UNDERSTAND, obviously penis thinks it's go time?

I appreciate your response and the comparison. I've been searching google and this forum like a nut of course trying to find something reassuring with no luck.