Libras relentless when pursuing?

So I met a very sweet Libra man recently. The connection was almost immediate kinda freaked both of us out a little. Have a lot in common and both on the same page as to what we are looking for in life. We have only been out once, but the night we went out,he dropped me off at home and then didn't stop texting for hours after. He is making no secret about how he feels and has said several times "We are going to be good together" and "I think there is a lot here for us". He also said at one point "I think you are the woman I have been looking for" . He has made it clear he is ultimately looking for a wife. He has been telling me all weekend he is falling for me. We have only went out once, simply because he lives 5 hours away from me. This weekend all he kept saying is how much he wanted me there with him and how much he misses me.

He has asked me to come up next weekend for new years and I have managed to get an extra couple days off work, but I have to admit I am a bit nervous.

I guess my question is does a libra get relentless when he is pursuing and genuinely interested...or do they play games and sweep you off your feet with no intention of following through?

Also if they are truly interested in someone would distance matter? With both of our jobs it won't be easy to get together as often as we both might like. Would that be a deal breaker? He has actually already mentioned to me that I should move there, that I would find a good paying job with no problem, but in the meantime he would take care of us until I found something...he has a great job. I mean really this almost sounds to good to be true. And he has said the same thing. I told him I was a little freaked out at how well things were going between us and he said he was as well. He said "Where did you come from? I don't know how we found each other but I am loving it!" I want to believe this is genuine an sincere, but I am a little afraid of getting hurt....

You're very right in being a bit wary. He's moving too fast and making sweeping declarations too fast.

He will be gone as fast as he came in.

However, that doesn't mean drop it per se, but definitely tamp the brakes a bit and let things play out naturally. Just don't allow yourself to get emotionally swept up in his pretty words.

I guess my question is does a libra get relentless when he is pursuing and genuinely interested...or do they play games and sweep you off your feet with no intention of following through?

They get VERY relentless when interested. They get all swept up in pairing off and finding "the one" and get way too hasty, and generally, fucking stupid about it. They may MEAN well, but they really have no idea what they want until shit gets real and then they second guess and start backing off. It's not necessarily intentional, especially if it's someone who makes themselves very clear in their interests (those who are hard to tell if interested or not are usually the ones intentionally playing games).

For Libras like this, the swept off the feet thing is total fantasy. This is where the other person gets burned. You see it all the time from women who come to DXP about Libra dudes. You're going to have to be the one who controls the speed of how things progress, because this guy is just being a silly bitch.

How old are you both?

We are late 40's. He has been divorced for 10 years and me 2 years

Posted by Shannon50
We are late 40's. He has been divorced for 10 years and me 2 years

Hmm, I would be cautious. After being alone for 10 years and nearing 50, I'm not surprised that he is on the hunt for a wife.

I agree with everyone here. Slow it down. Go to your pace. Are you looking to get married again?

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Posted by Shannon50
We are late 40's. He has been divorced for 10 years and me 2 years

Hmm, I would be cautious. After being alone for 10 years and nearing 50, I'm not surprised that he is on the hunt for a wife.

I agree with everyone here. Slow it down. Go to your pace. Are you looking to get married again?

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Yeeah, when people this age act like this, it's really ridiculous tbh.

While I am not looking for it I am not opposed to it with the right person

I ended up reconnecting with a Libra that I knew from high school. We hit it off immediately. He was talking babies and tattoos but just like that...he backed off. He blamed it on issues with his kids mother and focusing on getting his life together. So I think they are relentless in the beginning but not so much if something else gets their attention.

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I ended up reconnecting with a Libra that I knew from high school. We hit it off immediately. He was talking babies and tattoos but just like that...he backed off. He blamed it on issues with his kids mother and focusing on getting his life together. So I think they are relentless in the beginning but not so much if something else gets their attention.

Dear, he had no idea what he wanted in your situation. This is the most frustrating thing about this type of Libra. Stupidly impulsive, which is laughable coming from a sign notorious for fretting over what color socks to wear for the day and what they want for dinner. So the fact that they run around making such sweeping declarations so prematurely is a big red flag, despite the sign.

This sign tends to live in fantasy. These dudes that go around, sucking poor women into the same fantasies, are not ones to take seriously. Not until those actions match words, nobody should take this type seriously whatsoever. They are not capable of adulting properly when they prefer to live in lala land for a living.

I think take it slow. I mean it's funny because your story is quite similar to mine with my libra in terms of being 'too good to be true.' In our case he is a genuine person, but it was challenging to believe in the early stages.

Keep communicating is what I'll say.

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Posted by miimii
I ended up reconnecting with a Libra that I knew from high school. We hit it off immediately. He was talking babies and tattoos but just like that...he backed off. He blamed it on issues with his kids mother and focusing on getting his life together. So I think they are relentless in the beginning but not so much if something else gets their attention.

Dear, he had no idea what he wanted in your situation. This is the most frustrating thing about this type of Libra. Stupidly impulsive, which is laughable coming from a sign notorious for fretting over what color socks to wear for the day and what they want for dinner. So the fact that they run around making such sweeping declarations so prematurely is a big red flag, despite the sign.

This sign tends to live in fantasy. These dudes that go around, sucking poor women into the same fantasies, are not ones to take seriously. Not until those actions match words, nobody should take this type seriously whatsoever. They are not capable of adulting properly when they prefer to live in lala land for a living.

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Lol. Guilty.

Love bombing is an emotional manipulation tactic where the guy bombs their target with love. They bomb them with constant communication and compliments.

The goal is to secure the target into a whirlwind situation. There are three components of love-bombing;

1) Constant communication - texting, talking, for hours... usually very fast.

2) Soulmates, they never felt this way before, marriage - this happens within the first week.

3) Future-faking... we are going to build a life with each other. This happens within the first week

Whirlwind situations are never healthy it moves to quickly so we are not thinking straight. You might know on the first date that there is great potential here but then you slow things down to where he proves his trust honesty and time through getting to know this person.

How Codependents Respond To Love Bombing 12:22

When a codependent person experiences love bombing; they feel relief; they feel they have finally met the perfect mate. They feel it's so amazing, refreshing, whirlwind romance. It feels too good to be true... love bombing feels intense and uncomfortable. It feels so good that you are not going to want to stop.

3 signs you are in a problematic situation - Is this Libra moving too fast?

1. confusion

2. introspection

3. Justification.

It's an over the top situation because it's not real.

How a Healthy person views love bombing 26.22



They are going to view it as problematic from the beginning. They are not going to feel relief, they will view the love bomber as a problematic partner who is smothering and controlling and has no life. They will interpret the fast speed as immaturity and mental issues.They think "this person doesn't even know me and within a week he's talking about marriage. It comes across as very strange and bizarre. They don't get caught up in an whirlwind situation - if the love bomber starts to love bomb they hold their boundary and stop constant nonstop communication from a stranger. They are not starved so it's a lot easier for them make healthier decision. Because this person is not empty they don't have 2 to 3 hours a day to deal with a new person......

Fill your emotional bucket, then you won't need that love bombing.. you could be addicted to the love bombing and healthy people may feel flat.

Love bombing is a huge redflag.. if you can see it for what it is, you can avoid this situation. It happens fast.

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Posted by Ninjagirl
I think take it slow. I mean it's funny because your story is quite similar to mine with my libra in terms of being 'too good to be true.' In our case he is a genuine person, but it was challenging to believe in the early stages.

Keep communicating is what I'll say.

Lmfao..Wow I think it's just odd I've been told 'im too good to be true' a million times in my life also but majority of American woman suck lol.

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yes and a majority of American men suck too - so that is why the good ones that are still single get told that ... you are too good to be true lol ...

cherish that and don't give it away and don't be like the other 99% - be that 1% !!!

Male - Libra Sun, Libra Venus

Typical Libra player moves - he wants to get laid for New Year's Eve. After sex, you will be ghosted.

If a Libra man is into you - he would be talking less and by your side more! A Libra man in love will move mountains to be next to the woman we so-call want to marry. For instance, he has seen you ONCE!!!

You wrote. "This weekend all he kept saying is how much he wanted me there with him and how much he misses me." Yeah? Did he make it happen? All he had to do was drive down to see you or take an hour plane flight. A man will move mountains, flip worlds to be next to the woman he so-calls wants to marry. We will find the money to get there!

More than likely you are too transfixed from the mind-altering effects of the bullshit to hear anything but his words. I will be waiting for your post about the Libra ghosting you soon after he hits it. I know you think you are the exception but you are actually like every other woman that falls for our bullshit and gets played.

Posted by Shannon50
We are late 40's. He has been divorced for 10 years and me 2 years

I am proud you have a community here with us at dxpnet so we can warn one of ours from making a grave mistake.

As a Libra man, I love a challenge. Women give it up to us really fast; it's rare a woman will hold out at least with me. And I get bored super fast unless I have gotten to know her over time, she makes me wait and I respect her.

It's extremely unhealthy and an indication of serious childhood wounding to move as fast as he is move. Normal people don't engage so quickly - we know we can forge attachments without knowing the person and that's irresponsible and childish. OP you need to talk with a professional cuz something ain't right.

I know you can't hear what I am saying, because the Libra has you drunk in the Venusian charm. But after he has sex with you, he will devalue your ranking because you are too easy. After sex this weekend, next week the texts will start to dwindle, the calls will be less frequent, and he will begin to fade. Right now, you do not believe us, you are in one of our hypnotic trances - so you need to see for yourself. I agree...

I just did a reading - you two are definitely going to have sex and by next weekend the communication will drop significantly, then by the fourth week I get the Hermit. Completely over.

If you are horny and just want to get some.. go for it, but if you really like this guy, don't have sex just yet. B

Thank you! Confirms what I have been thinking myself.....

Posted by Librasetting
I'm also libra sun and Venus..I guess we're all different because this just sounds like to much work for some ass. I'm just saying cuz to me I would just skip the bullshit and ask if I can fuck you but in a much more charming way maybe it's just that Aries rising in me lol. I wouldn't do any of this unless I was actually serious.

Every Libra I know talks shit like this in the beginning.. it may be your Aries ascendant. No matter she is going to do whatever she wants to do, I think the guy just really wants to screw her.