Love in Paris

So, here I am - another woman confused by the Libra man behavior 🙂 Nothing new, but I would really appreciate some of your thoughts on the topic...

Well, we've been working together for almost 2 years in Paris, yet during the last 5-6 months I developed a strong crush on him. It's more than a lust, more than an instant desire - it's rather a feeling of having a soulmate next to you; he is a person who understands me at one glance; who finishes my words after me; who gives me lots of care and protection... Somehow I believe it is mutual (maybe at a different degree though). I know that he always has an eye on me, listens to what I am saying even when he is far away, remembers everything and anything I ever mentioned to him, takes my feedback (both professional and personal) close to heart and tries to follow. He says that I definitely have a positive influence on him and that some of the changes is a result of that. As a Virgo, I am quite reserved but open up fast when I know that I can trust people. With him I enjoy being myself: I can be serious, I can be childish, I can be charming, I can be sad, I can be different... I know he will accept me in any mood or state of mind.

He likes a lot a tactile contact. In fact, he is super 'touchy-touchy' with me, it is important for him to touch my hand/arm/shoulder, give me five on the go, pull softly down my ponytail... Whatever he does - he takes his time, it is never a quick action (when he gives five, he locks his fingers with mine for some time). Once he saw me crying, so he gave me a big hug and then kissed me on my temple. Whatever it means... Needless to say, I truly enjoy all these small touches. I also truly enjoy any conversation with him. He just makes me smile and laugh non-stop. He also notices ups and downs of my mood, so tries to cheer me up if needed or to understand what happened. As we work a lot together, I know that he will always try to dedicate to me more time than needed for business. (Two weeks ago he had an important presentation to deliver... 50 min before the meeting, instead of finishing the slides that were half-cooked, he sat with me in the huddle for 20min just to talk my *non-urgent* stuff only because it was important to me). Once I was talking to my best friend and it came to my mind haphazardly, that if there were a guardian angel for me on this Earth, it would be him. ...That much care and attention he gives me.

(part 1)

We traveled for a while together this month for business meetings, and clearly bonded a lot!!! A LOT! He opened up, talked a lot about his family, friends, showed photos & videos; showed me where his mom went to school and where he spent his childhood (happened to be in the same city). He always made it clear, that messages he received non-stop on his phone during the trips were from his buddies as they all live in different countries so they communicate non-stop (he even showed some of them). He told me after each call who was that. I think he wanted me to be clear that he is single. (He knows that I am single as well. When my team member started saying at the party what if we two... he cut her off immediately though). During the trips (trains / plains / long car rides ) he was amazingly attentive: carried my suitcase, picked up my staff after the security check in the airport, gave a hand on the stairs as I was wearing heels etc. He learnt which coffee I like, making a comment that he is learning things about me. I mentioned once that I need to sleep 7hrs per day to be adequate, so he insisted I sleep "missing" part in the car as our agenda was quite intense. When I was falling asleep, he asked me if he can smoke... I said yes, so when he was smoking later, he opened a window but switched on a heating for me, so I don't freeze during my nap. This level of attention makes me speechless.

However, that's basically it. I am not sure if I can say that our bond is steadily progressing or if it is happily flat. In none of the trips - even though it was just two of us, we stayed in the same hotels, were both tipsy after the events - there was a sign, a hint, a gesture that he would like to move forward.

Sometime he mentioned though, that after these trips I will be his girlfriend, that it is important for him to have me next to him. I proposed a bet on a random thing and asked what he will do if he looses, he immediately said he will marry me... In the airport, when the check-in machine proposed our two tickets together (because I booked us together, no miracles), he was so excited: 'Look, you, me, we...' There are always these type of hints (jokes?) that i do not know how to react on. Quite often, I just turn them into jokes, because I know that every time I say smth with a double-meaning, he disappears...

(Part 2)

(He texted once that I looked great in the dress and asked if I had drinks with anyone... I said no, and actually went to the gym after work, but I added that next time I wear a dress he should take me for a drink... he replied with five smiley faces and changed the topic... Or he was helping me to choose a new washing machine. Replied to every text I sent, but when I asked if he knows anyone to fix the door for the machine at my place, he disappeared... i was so annoyed, so i came back to this topic in the office in a very light and easy manner. He said don't worry - we will fix it. Never did.)

I don't want to idolize him... I believe I gave him quite a few chances to pick up and make a move... But he never starts any conversations via sms / mails... clearly, never calls... The only interaction we have is in the office, plus random business travels together...

The problem is that he keeps a huge distance between work and private life. He is very open about it: rarely hangs out with colleagues, has no one on Facebook etc.

So I am bit confused, if it will move anywhere, giving his 'work-life' split. Or, is this a normal behavior that Libra man exudes on women? Do I need to let it flow? Do I need to take any steps? Anything I should be doing differently? Or maybe there is nothing special in what he does? (doubt though)

The thing is that I am the least patient person in the world. Well, I am Virgo, but was born on the first day of the sign, so I am a bit Leo as well. To give you a better background, I am 29 y.o, Russian, Virgo; he is 31 y.o, French, Libra. We speak mix of English and French and seem to have learned to understand each other (his English is not fluent, but he does his best to speak to me, and so do I in French... He is actually the one who can patiently help me to prepare for my presentations in French, helping to adjust sounds and replace the words I cannot master🙂.

Well, above all, he is a person of a rare charm in our not-that-big office, everyone likes him, no girl can resist his smile; our intern told me today that he is so handsome that he can clearly change girls every day... So maybe he is just a player?

(Part 3)

Don't entertain work and dating if you can help it. It's a pain in the ass.

Will be back later to read the rest.

Ok he clearly likes you. I don't know how serious but he does.

What kind of move do you expect from him ? Are you expecting a talk or a kiss ??

Maybe he is waiting for the work to be over to make a move because it's not ethical to make a move on your business partner.

Although.. libras can be tricky 😛

Some libras I know are pretty popular with the ladies and are generally like this with a lot of girls. Some treat girls well if they think they have a chance to have sex later on.

But you're good. Taking things slow is always good.

Posted by Sonrisa4ka
So, here I am - another woman confused by the Libra man behavior 🙂 Nothing new, but I would really appreciate some of your thoughts on the topic...

Well, we've been working together for almost 2 years in Paris, yet during the last 5-6 months I developed a strong crush on him. It's more than a lust, more than an instant desire - it's rather a feeling of having a soulmate next to you; he is a person who understands me at one glance; who finishes my words after me; who gives me lots of care and protection...

Hate to break it to you, but this is how a lot function. They make you feel like this because that's how they roll. It doesn't necessarily mean he's interested. That girlfriend/marriage bs talk? Flirting and being stupid. Everything you've allowed yourself to get swept off your feet over- common courtesy and consideration.

The fact he doesn't initiate anything or call you outside of work is also a pretty big indicator that he's not into you as much as you'd hope. If he wanted more out of your work relationship, he'd be in touch more without you having to initiate, and he'd have made a move by now. I think your tingly bit feelings are clouding your judgement and you're hoping some of these snippets is a clear sign he's into you.

You're "confused" because you've fallen for the classic Libran charm. I'm sorry. Hopefully you'll break free of this spell and move on to something more logical... like not getting involved with someone at work.