slonce5
@slonce5
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
These guys tend to jump in fast, and move on as equally as fast.
When someone is in love with the idea of love, they get a little too excited when someone new comes along, get all gung ho about it, and then after they have you, they start to question whether you truly are the one. Then they distance themselves, reconsidering everything. It's why they "suddenly" take off and friend zone you when they decide that you aren't the one.
It sucks because the other person's feelings are never considered in the matter. You're suffering from the actions of an inherently self centered, immature individual.
Consider them as someone who constantly suffers "buyers remorse" when dating.
The really immature ones are notorious for this behavior.
Good luck with talking to him. He gets a gold star if he's actually honest with you and gives you the real reasons as to why he's backing out. They tend to sugar coat to the point of a thick glaze when it comes to this type of stuff.
Btw, when a guy uses that "scared" bullshit line as an excuse not to get close, they're full of shit. If a guy truly is into you, "scared" isn't going to keep him away from you. And if they really are supposedly "scared" they shouldn't be dating and should be focusing on solving their issues before they date.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
These guys tend to jump in fast, and move on as equally as fast.
When someone is in love with the idea of love, they get a little too excited when someone new comes along, get all gung ho about it, and then after they have you, they start to question whether you truly are the one. Then they distance themselves, reconsidering everything. It's why they "suddenly" take off and friend zone you when they decide that you aren't the one.
It sucks because the other person's feelings are never considered in the matter. You're suffering from the actions of an inherently self centered, immature individual.
Consider them as someone who constantly suffers "buyers remorse" when dating.
The really immature ones are notorious for this behavior.
Good luck with talking to him. He gets a gold star if he's actually honest with you and gives you the real reasons as to why he's backing out. They tend to sugar coat to the point of a thick glaze when it comes to this type of stuff.
Btw, when a guy uses that "scared" bullshit line as an excuse not to get close, they're full of shit. If a guy truly is into you, "scared" isn't going to keep him away from you. And if they really are supposedly "scared" they shouldn't be dating and should be focusing on solving their issues before they date.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Consider them as someone who constantly suffers "buyers remorse" .


Posted by slonce5Posted by rockyroadicecream
These guys tend to jump in fast, and move on as equally as fast.
When someone is in love with the idea of love, they get a little too excited when someone new comes along, get all gung ho about it, and then after they have you, they start to question whether you truly are the one. Then they distance themselves, reconsidering everything. It's why they "suddenly" take off and friend zone you when they decide that you aren't the one.
It sucks because the other person's feelings are never considered in the matter. You're suffering from the actions of an inherently self centered, immature individual.
Consider them as someone who constantly suffers "buyers remorse" when dating.
The really immature ones are notorious for this behavior.
Good luck with talking to him. He gets a gold star if he's actually honest with you and gives you the real reasons as to why he's backing out. They tend to sugar coat to the point of a thick glaze when it comes to this type of stuff.
Btw, when a guy uses that "scared" bullshit line as an excuse not to get close, they're full of shit. If a guy truly is into you, "scared" isn't going to keep him away from you. And if they really are supposedly "scared" they shouldn't be dating and should be focusing on solving their issues before they date.
I am still not whether being scared or not is just an excuse. I used to be afraid of commitment because of many traumas from my past, so I know that a person can be afraid of closeness. It is also scary to me that feelings can just change so easily and rapidly without any apparent reason.click to expand


Posted by aquarius09Posted by rockyroadicecream
These guys tend to jump in fast, and move on as equally as fast.
When someone is in love with the idea of love, they get a little too excited when someone new comes along, get all gung ho about it, and then after they have you, they start to question whether you truly are the one. Then they distance themselves, reconsidering everything. It's why they "suddenly" take off and friend zone you when they decide that you aren't the one.
It sucks because the other person's feelings are never considered in the matter. You're suffering from the actions of an inherently self centered, immature individual.
Consider them as someone who constantly suffers "buyers remorse" when dating.
The really immature ones are notorious for this behavior.
Good luck with talking to him. He gets a gold star if he's actually honest with you and gives you the real reasons as to why he's backing out. They tend to sugar coat to the point of a thick glaze when it comes to this type of stuff.
Btw, when a guy uses that "scared" bullshit line as an excuse not to get close, they're full of shit. If a guy truly is into you, "scared" isn't going to keep him away from you. And if they really are supposedly "scared" they shouldn't be dating and should be focusing on solving their issues before they date.
True story! That's how immature Libras usually function. You really need to find that one in a million mature libra man who wouldn't do things like that.
I also totally agree with Rocky on the scared part, but that applies to everyone, especially air signs. We feel scared and take flight when we aren't into someone.
He didn't just stop having feelings for you. There's two things that either happened:
1) you did something really bad or you both have been fighting for a while (this sounds like a pure one sided story); or
2) he found someone else who he considers better than you. The emergence of this new person has provided him with a source of comparison. Hence, second guessing or change of mind.click to expand


Posted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by aquarius09Posted by rockyroadicecream
These guys tend to jump in fast, and move on as equally as fast.
When someone is in love with the idea of love, they get a little too excited when someone new comes along, get all gung ho about it, and then after they have you, they start to question whether you truly are the one. Then they distance themselves, reconsidering everything. It's why they "suddenly" take off and friend zone you when they decide that you aren't the one.
It sucks because the other person's feelings are never considered in the matter. You're suffering from the actions of an inherently self centered, immature individual.
Consider them as someone who constantly suffers "buyers remorse" when dating.
The really immature ones are notorious for this behavior.
Good luck with talking to him. He gets a gold star if he's actually honest with you and gives you the real reasons as to why he's backing out. They tend to sugar coat to the point of a thick glaze when it comes to this type of stuff.
Btw, when a guy uses that "scared" bullshit line as an excuse not to get close, they're full of shit. If a guy truly is into you, "scared" isn't going to keep him away from you. And if they really are supposedly "scared" they shouldn't be dating and should be focusing on solving their issues before they date.
True story! That's how immature Libras usually function. You really need to find that one in a million mature libra man who wouldn't do things like that.
I also totally agree with Rocky on the scared part, but that applies to everyone, especially air signs. We feel scared and take flight when we aren't into someone.
He didn't just stop having feelings for you. There's two things that either happened:
1) you did something really bad or you both have been fighting for a while (this sounds like a pure one sided story); or
2) he found someone else who he considers better than you. The emergence of this new person has provided him with a source of comparison. Hence, second guessing or change of mind.click to expand
3)Or he just realized this isn't what he wanted and has decided to re-prioritize her/the situation. It happens, especially when people


Posted by slonce5
We just talked on the phone. He said that he is confused and flaky. I did nothing wrong. He enjoyed spending time with me and he would love to stay friends. He feels bad that he put me through it.



Posted by slonce5
We just talked on the phone. He said that he is confused and flaky. I did nothing wrong. He enjoyed spending time with me and he would love to stay friends. He feels bad that he put me through it.


Posted by tiziani
You should do what you want to do, but just remember that you've seen talk is cheap. People show you how they really feel by how they spend time with you.

Posted by Shruikan
Remain friends with him!!! Stay close... have you seen the episode of Game of Thrones where Joffrey dies? Yes... stay close to him... your time will come.

Posted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by slonce5
We just talked on the phone. He said that he is confused and flaky. I did nothing wrong. He enjoyed spending time with me and he would love to stay friends. He feels bad that he put me through it.
And number three it was!
I'm sorry. It sucks. Been there a few times with these idiots. Is this solely a Libra thing? No. But many are very guilty of it (just check out the post history on this forum), and it's also an immature guy thing. ANYONE who moves in uber fast is one to watch out for because they will be gone just as quickly as they rushed in. It's a huge red flag of an immature/emotionally unbalanced individual.click to expand

Posted by tiziani
People show you how they really feel by how they spend time with you.

Posted by tiki33
+1 Spicity
For the record--I love librans! Aqua's and Libra's get on well.
Remaining friends with a guy that has lost romantic interest is futile. When a man friend zones a woman of any sign it's the end, the "let's be friends" extended suggestion is to soften the blow.
If he can dump me as his girlfriend--someone who meant something to him then surely he can easily dump me as a friend.

Posted by JBG
I beg to differ a tad as to why they want you around for "friendship". Although softening the blow could be a reason. IMO more likely I think it is a selfish attempt to keep you around and under their nose so you don't completely move on IF he doesn't find anything better out there.
He wants the option to do his thing, all the while knowing you're still around to comfort him & possibly run back to in case he falls on his face out there. Especially if you were a good girl.
I wouldn't offer friendship, but do what feels right for you.
GOOD LUCK 🙂
You'll figure it out with Gods help & the good sense he gave you. Pray about it.

Posted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by JBG
I beg to differ a tad as to why they want you around for "friendship". Although softening the blow could be a reason. IMO more likely I think it is a selfish attempt to keep you around and under their nose so you don't completely move on IF he doesn't find anything better out there.
He wants the option to do his thing, all the while knowing you're still around to comfort him & possibly run back to in case he falls on his face out there. Especially if you were a good girl.
I wouldn't offer friendship, but do what feels right for you.
GOOD LUCK 🙂
You'll figure it out with Gods help & the good sense he gave you. Pray about it.
Puhlease, it's softening the blow AND keeping you around as a potential option/emotional safety net. That's how these manchildren function.click to expand
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