Need serious help!

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miss.sag.
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9 Years

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Hi everyone! I came across this website trying to look for relationship helps. I am a 28 year old Sagittarius woman - I have every quality that any horoscope blog writes about a sag woman. I met a Libra guy - 3 months ago. He's 33 and British. We met accidentally at a work conference overseas although we stay in the same city and had a good connection with each other. After our initial connection, the Libra guy kept on texting me and chasing me in a subtle way until I met him for a date. And since then, our chemistry flew off the charts, we couldn't keep our hands off each other and met the next day and I had two very wonderful days of my life. He then went on a vacation for 3 weeks and our 2 night stand grew into a relationship over hours long skype chats everyday and texting all the time. He would be so romantic and charming, talking about future trips and being exclusive to me - he literally charmed me into falling for him deep. But at the same time, his immediate boss and kind of friend, was trying to chase me also. And the 3 weeks away from my Libra after those 2 nights was didn't help! So, the boss asked me for dinners, movies, cooked for me, got me coffees, fancy dinners and shopping and you name it all.. but, me being an attention seeking sag woman - gave into the attention from the boss and hung out with him. All the while I was talking to my libra man but i was going out with his boss. One night i accidentally slipped and slept with my guy's boss but i told him it was a mistake and it will never happen again. But by then I had fucked up things for myself by being in two places.. by telling libra that i am deep into him and by going out with the capricorn boss and telling him yes, i like him but do not want anything with him except being friends. Ofcourse, the capricorn boss kept up the chase and I would be talking to both of them all day - one as a relationship and the other as a flirtatious fling. Then when my libra guy came back from his vacation, his boss went the same night for his vacation for 3 weeks. I know its so ironic! But these 3 weeks with my libra guy, I almost moved in with him - spending 5 nights and weekends together - but would still text his boss and talk to him once in a few days (although more like friends now and less flirtatious). I guess its very mean to say, but both these guys were as different as chalk and cheese - I was maybe at that time testing the waters to see who is a better guy for me. When the boss came back from his vacation, my Libra guy tells him the first day itself that he is seeing me as well as sleeping with me. The boss who knew i that fancied his colleague, but was taken aback that I was now into a relationship with his colleague while I was talking to him. But he took it sportingly, and told me he would not like to talk to me or see me one and one and I should forget what he was trying earlier. I guess i felt so bad for hurting him that I now tried to call him, text him everyday,
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miss.sag.
@pana
9 Years

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asking to meet me and even called him twice on my date night with my libra guy. In my mind, i was only trying to make sure he was fine because the boss had become quite a close friend in the process. Meanwhile, the libra guy and my relationship was kind of going down the drain - as I felt that he was not being as romantic or giving the attention as before and I had a serious of rows and arguments with him - always questioning his feelings and he would always tell me to go steady. I had to travel for work again and then disaster struck. The libra guy broke up with me on phone when i once again questioned his feelings for me. and he said he doesnt feel that this relationship is right for both of us - due to the arguments, and his work keeping him busy and ofcourse he cant keep the thought out of his head that i was hanging out with his boss when he was home. Guess he and his boss had also spoken about me but i dont know to what extent they had been transparent about it. After breaking up, the libra guy wanted space from me - but i kept calling him everyday asking for another chance. everyday for 6 days and i would keep pleading, and he would say no and we would always end up in an argument. He told me that i am not listening to what he wants, or respecting his decision and giving him space to think. When i got back after 14 days on a weekend (okay, we had a weekend stay cation planned with candles and wine which obviously didn't happen), he had my stuff packed - a few clothes that i used to keep at his place and other girl stuff and asked to drop me home. He didnt want to talk about us or anything at all and we had a horrendous argument where i cried and asked him for another chance and tried to even tell him to take it slow and tried to kiss him - and he responded to none of that. Today, its been 1 week that i have seen him after the last argument and i realize that i love him deeply and want him back. He doesnt want to talk to me, read my texts but doesnt reply and yesterday sent me a message saying that "100% he doesnt want to try again because he knows it wont work and he think we are not suited or meant because of those ugly argument that we had that made him feel like shit and loose control of himself. He said that he doesnt want to become that guy he becomes, when i was fight with him. he also said that he would like to be friends in some month's time but right now he wants to distance himself from me so that he can move on and forget this relationship and keep himself happy." I dont know what to do as i really really want him back.. Should i chase him or leave him loose or how much time / space should i give him or accept that he wont ever come back? (PS - I told his boss that i really love my libra guy, and i am sorry for being misleading in the early days - but i only want to be friends with him and be serious with my libra guy. yes, that was after the break-up and since then i have not contacted the boss and vice versa.) Help needed!!
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LadyNeptune
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It's fine that you were dating two guys at once. It's fine that you slept with both of them.

Your misstep here was after you got into a relationship with the Libra you CONTINUED to talk to the Cap. This was the moment you cheated. Your not loyal.

Even after the Cap graciously conceded you to the Libra you still felt compelled to continue communication with him.

You subconsciously felt some guilt that you were playing both men, this is why you kept harassing the Libra for validation.

Recognize that you lost both of these men because of your NEED for drama.
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miss.sag.
@pana
9 Years

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Hi guys,

Thanks for your replies and i totally respect your opinions about me and how i went about all this. We are all human at the end of the day.. emotional fools and are prone to make mistakes. The important thing is that we learn and pick up ourselves that it doesn't happen again.

To clarify, I didn't want to sleep with the Capricorn boss. A heavy alcohol night made me give in to his advances and i immediately regretted it. I never even touched the boss again. And my reasons to keep talking to the boss.. well, he was going through some troubles on family side and add to that what i had done. I somehow felt guilty and responsible for everything. I just wanted to make sure he was okay. I am a person who always wants to ensure that i keep everyone happy around me.. I thought i could forge a genuine good friendship with the boss and move over that past.

With regards to my libra, I am not sure if the boss has told him that we slept together. I don't think so. He has obviously told him a few things, but not this i think. The boss is well aware of how i feel for the libra and how much i want him in my life.

I was only validating and questioning his feelings for me because i didnt want to lose him. I was scared and anxious and it got the worst of me by arguing it out with libra and not giving him space to come out of it.

As for my loyalty, I fucked up..yes. But i care and love my libra to world's end and i think he knows that too. He knew that i will always put his happiness over mine. I would have never left his side.

But now he's only broken up with me. Its been 10 days that i have last seen him and a week since i last heard from him. I do want him back and i miss him every moment. I dont know how to approach this. I wrote him an email a week ago confessing my behavior and feelings and all that happened with his boss (except the part that i slept with him) and he never replied back. I sent a picture of his favorite food telling him that everything around me reminds me of him, but he didnt reply back. He had last told me he wants to distance himself to move on.. but i dont want to lose him.

If he forgives me, i will always love him truly and and get a chance of correct my mistakes..

Guys, please tell me what you think i should do? Should i try to meet him (he doesnt want to) or should i leave him be for some more time.. or should i send him a message telling him what i feel.. I dont want to push him more away or to think I am clingy..
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miss.sag.
@pana
9 Years

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Thanks guys. I didn't want to hide more things from the libra so i went ahead and confessed the sleeping part also via email and also gave my reasons of why i didn't tell him earlier. I know loyalty and trust are broken here but i do love him a lot.

I am not sure if he feels the same way anymore or even if he thinks about me everyday. I do really want his forgiveness and want to get a chance to rebuild that beautiful relationship again. Do libras forgive? If he thinks I still feel the same a couple of months down the line, will he agree to meet me again? He had said that he wanted to stay as friends but after some time but do libras have a change of heart or do they move over relationships very quickly.
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NobleSag
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He told you that he 100% doesn't want to be with you. Just accept it and maybe in the future if you want to be with a man don't sleep with another man especially his boss lol.


Seriously... Bad choice... Honestly I know men are not all angles but these days I just see women messing up lately... Like this maybe if is a cycle...

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I don't like to laugh at other's misery but her story just made me go..wtf. 😛

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All I see is that scene in Office Space where dude has a dream about Jennifer Aniston screwing his boss. He's holding his coffee cup. I'm about to watch office space now.
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hera
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11 Years

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I dont think that has anything to do with libras, but.. If someone plays my trust, cheets on me, its over.. And you need to move the mountains, and do impossible to win me back..

My advice to you: work on yourself, be a better person, dont do to others what you dont want to be done to you.. Think before anything.. You beeing drunk is not an excuse.. At all.. If you know you cant handle drinking, dont drink.. Simple..

Give him his space, dont push.. If he wants to be friends with you, he will contact you, when he feels its time.. Show him you can change.. Its baby steps from now on.. Patience..
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PurplePeopleEater
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As a Libra I can say that if we really care about you and love you we are able to place you on a pedestal and will give you so much love and devotion. However we also want to receive what we put into the relationship. I honestly don't think you will win him back. Your relationship was a new one with not much substance behind it so I think it's best you both move on. Learn from your mistakes. I want to add a negative opinion as well I am afraid..... because despite how much you claim to love and care for him you need to ask yourself are you more hurt that you lost him or what you did to him. To me it sounds like you more into the "chase" than you are him and finding it difficult to move on from that instead of moving on from him.... a sore looser
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miss.sag.
@pana
9 Years

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I dont think that has anything to do with libras, but.. If someone plays my trust, cheets on me, its over.. And you need to move the mountains, and do impossible to win me back..

My advice to you: work on yourself, be a better person, dont do to others what you dont want to be done to you.. Think before anything.. You beeing drunk is not an excuse.. At all.. If you know you cant handle drinking, dont drink.. Simple..

Give him his space, dont push.. If he wants to be friends with you, he will contact you, when he feels its time.. Show him you can change.. Its baby steps from now on.. Patience..
Thanks so much for your kind words!
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miss.sag.
@pana
9 Years

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
As a Libra I can say that if we really care about you and love you we are able to place you on a pedestal and will give you so much love and devotion. However we also want to receive what we put into the relationship. I honestly don't think you will win him back. Your relationship was a new one with not much substance behind it so I think it's best you both move on. Learn from your mistakes. I want to add a negative opinion as well I am afraid..... because despite how much you claim to love and care for him you need to ask yourself are you more hurt that you lost him or what you did to him. To me it sounds like you more into the "chase" than you are him and finding it difficult to move on from that instead of moving on from him.... a sore looser
Yes, it was a new relationship but he was so involved until he turned a cold shoulder over night. But as for substance, he told me that he was very serious for me and is considering staying single forever because we didn't work out. All his friends, even those back home knew about me so i guess it was serious. No 33 year old behaves likes a school kid in love.

And i can understand why you are thinking that i am into the chase, but i am really not. i keep thinking about the good moments we shared, the spark in our eyes and how right it felt to hold each others hand and all the good moments. I want him back i fell in love with him so quickly as it was so right and i want to change for him because i want to be a better person for him.

But just yesterday, he removed me from all social media and told me that hes beginning to resent me that i keep trying to stay in touch with him via one or the other means.

I dont know what to do anymore..

what do you libras think about my situation?
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jeane
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Posted by pana
Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
As a Libra I can say that if we really care about you and love you we are able to place you on a pedestal and will give you so much love and devotion. However we also want to receive what we put into the relationship. I honestly don't think you will win him back. Your relationship was a new one with not much substance behind it so I think it's best you both move on. Learn from your mistakes. I want to add a negative opinion as well I am afraid..... because despite how much you claim to love and care for him you need to ask yourself are you more hurt that you lost him or what you did to him. To me it sounds like you more into the "chase" than you are him and finding it difficult to move on from that instead of moving on from him.... a sore looser
Yes, it was a new relationship but he was so involved until he turned a cold shoulder over night. But as for substance, he told me that he was very serious for me and is considering staying single forever because we didn't work out. All his friends, even those back home knew about me so i guess it was serious. No 33 year old behaves likes a school kid in love.

And i can understand why you are thinking that i am into the chase, but i am really not. i keep thinking about the good moments we shared, the spark in our eyes and how right it felt to hold each others hand and all the good moments. I want him back i fell in love with him so quickly as it was so right and i want to change for him because i want to be a better person for him.

But just yesterday, he removed me from all social media and told me that hes beginning to resent me that i keep trying to stay in touch with him via one or the other means.

I dont know what to do anymore..

what do you libras think about my situation?

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