Okay Help & ACTUALLY GIVE ADVICE

I'm In Junior High

Don't expect anything lasting until after college.

I'm In Junior High I Lost My Virginity To A 19 Year Old . He's A Libra , We Have Known Each Other For 2 Years & This Year It Got Serious . As I Said Before He Took My Virginity And Things Were Great In The Beginning ... I Love Him Very Much After A Few Months Things Got Rough.. ” We Would Talk And Then Stop Talking And Eventually We Had This Huge Fight And I Snapped On Him I Said Some Really Mean And Hurtful Things . We Just Kept Going Back And Forth Eventually He Got Tired Of Arguing With Me And Blocked Me I Begged For Him Back And He Kept Blocking Me He Said I Was Childish And He Was Cool On Us.. But He Eventually Ended Up Coming Back.. We Met Up We Ended Up Having Sex he Would Tell Me That He Loves Me But After That He Would Leave Again . I feel Like Although He Is Young I Feel Like He's Old Enough To Have Common Sense . My Mom Found Out About Him Taking My Virginity And She Threatened To Press Charges .. But She Never Did & Then My Family Keeps Texting Him Saying Things to Him . I'm grounded . And He Was Making It Seem Like Once This Situation Was Over It Was Gonna Be An "US" . But He Talks To This Girl Who Is Like 20 With A Baby . He Seems Really Into Her ” .. But She's My cousin And She Doesn't Even Know That She Is .. He Doesn't Even Know That She's My Cousin But I Don't Think It Will Make A Difference If I Tell Him. A couple Of Days Ago My Bestfriend Texted Him Cussing Him Out Cause I was Crying To Her Because I Found Out He Was Talking To Another Female.. Meanwhile I'm Grounded I Can't Go Anywhere Or Do Anything Cause Of Him... I Really Went Out My Way To Be With Him . I Just Want Him Back I Can't See Myself With Anyone Else , He Wasn't Always Like This .. And He Texted Me The Other Day Complaining Cause People Were Cussing Him Out Because Of Me . I Told Him I Basically Didn't Care About What My Family Or Friends Were Saying & I Said I Didn't Care About What My Family Did Or What He Did . I told Him Don't Text Me About Anymore Shit That I Don't Care About .. And I Told Him To Have A Nice Life .. he Read My Message And He Didn't Respond .. I thought The Key To Getting Him Back Was To Show I Didn't Care But The Worst Part Is I Really Do Care .. I Can't See Myself Laying Down With Anybody Else.. I'm So Hurt , I Just Want Him To Treat Me Like A Princess Again. I really did put my all into this relationship and I need some really good advice as to what I should do.

I am 16 Btw

Jesus too many feelings hard to read lol anyways how old are you

oh my dear, you already asked these questions, and you got the answers...you didnt like them, and you are asking again...and you wont stop till you hear only what you like...
it hurts, it will hurt, and it will pass...what you feel now is understandable...but it will pass...
you are young...and have so much to learn...

16 and in junior high?

I see your parents let you have too much freedom smh

Hey I'm just saying

Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
This is terrible. Fuck this makes me nervous to raise teenagers. Only in junior high and already screwing 19 year olds. Smfh.....

Nope. Not even. Blame the parents for being so uninvolved and failing to establish discipline.

When I was in middle school, there was this 12 year old that got pregnant by a 9th grader lol. There was also a pregnant 8th grader in one of my classes who my teacher would awkwardly care for. Some other girl had gotten 3 abortions by 7th grade (her dad would sometimes drive a lambo to school and had like 3 divorces). Tbh, these cases are disturbingly common in my state. A straight-A friend since elementary had told me she was seeing some 17 year old when she was 13 herself... and then she dropped out of middle school the following year because she got pregnant.

There's so many more stories that just makes me feel sick.

"I Can't See Myself Laying Down With Anybody Else.. I'm So Hurt , I Just Want Him To Treat Me Like A Princess Again."

Oh honey you've barely experienced anything yet. He won't come back for you. Just don't drop out of school and keep your legs closed from here on out.

I thought I said that he was manipulative douche in the other thread and could of sworn someone said you will get hurt from this but you must do what of the following for yourself? Remember I meant it by keeping your nose in the books, and getting a job, and making and saving money so by the time you graduate you will be independent...

I hope you weren't going to think about him....

This what makes me upset irresponsible adults going around having kids and don't know how raise them
While people like me who want to have kids can't have any. Life is f**k up

Keep strong you have too...Most people fooled around in high school, used protection, but also detached and went on a did other things like keep passing the classes .

Nonetheless, curious to know what it might feel like so we get in sticky situations of emotions at that age makes us head over heels with a guy's words because we can be naive and stubborn to figure out it's not even all that .

I didn't get those feelings, like after the fact, clingy or I separated my emotions... I detached, graduated, and got on birth control many years later when i had an ex bff to protect myself, and protect yourself. So do that if you can.

Posted by xXxAliciaXxX

Posted by SassyKiwi

Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
This is terrible. Fuck this makes me nervous to raise teenagers. Only in junior high and already screwing 19 year olds. Smfh.....

Nope. Not even. Blame the parents for being so uninvolved and failing to establish discipline.

When I was in middle school, there was this 12 year old that got pregnant by a 9th grader lol. There was also a pregnant 8th grader in one of my classes who my teacher would awkwardly care for. Some other girl had gotten 3 abortions by 7th grade (her dad would sometimes drive a lambo to school and had like 3 divorces). Tbh, these cases are disturbingly common in my state. A straight-A friend since elementary had told me she was seeing some 17 year old when she was 13 herself... and then she dropped out of middle school the following year because she got pregnant.

There's so many more stories that just makes me feel sick.

I mostly agree with that also, but the way society is today even the best parenting can still make you wind up with a kid who's lost like this one. You gotta factor in the fact that kids are mainly around friends and other outside influences because they go to school all day. Then they come home, stay up a few hours, and go to bed only to wake up and go back to school where they will spend the majority of their day. Its important for parents to be involved in everything their child does no matter what age they are for this very reason, but it doesn't guarantee a "fool proof" child or teenager.


In this case I do feel that the OP's parents failed her though. Like another poster said, she seems to have way too much freedom.

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The thing is, I grew up in a gated neighborhood but the school district wasn't near the best... So I've had various of friend groups ranging from some who ended up getting pregnant by 16, experimenting drugs, etc to those who are going to the same college as me at the moment considering graduate school. I strongly believe the values a child brings from home every day to school affect how influential other students can be to that child. If you come from a broken home, you'll more likely associate and feel comforted by those like you and sadly their lives can be a repeat of their parents' lives, therefore a negative influence on you. All a chain effect.

You are so much bigger than your first sexual experience!

You'll look back in a few years and see this. You'll wonder how you could have seen so much in someone who was so quick to bail on you at the first sign of adversity.