Puzzled by Libra woman

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Libra woman tells me that she misses me calling and texting her. Wants me to come around more often to cheer her up. When I try, she doesn't engage me or ignores my texts. I told her that her actions tell me otherwise. She says, "if you're bugging me, I'll tell you..." WTF? What kind of game is this? I don't understand this push/pull. "Come spend time with me" then declines my attempts or acts uninterested. Now I just wait for her to come to me, I don't bother putting myself out there until she engages first. She seems to have people compartmentalized depending on her immediate mood. She might need to be "cheered up" at 8am, but by noon, you are no longer needed. She has selected someone else for her current mood. I'm more of an option than a true friend. Is this typical libra behavior? I can't get away from this spell she has cast on me. Manipulative and cruel.
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Posted by mtbtio
Libra woman tells me that she misses me calling and texting her. Wants me to come around more often to cheer her up. When I try, she doesn't engage me or ignores my texts. I told her that her actions tell me otherwise. She says, "if you're bugging me, I'll tell you..." WTF? What kind of game is this? I don't understand this push/pull. "Come spend time with me" then declines my attempts or acts uninterested. Now I just wait for her to come to me, I don't bother putting myself out there until she engages first. She seems to have people compartmentalized depending on her immediate mood. She might need to be "cheered up" at 8am, but by noon, you are no longer needed. She has selected someone else for her current mood. I'm more of an option than a true friend. Is this typical libra behavior? I can't get away from this spell she has cast on me. Manipulative and cruel.
i don't know if it is typical. it's certainly not unheard of.

drop her like she is hot. you deserve better.
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Libra woman tells me that she misses me calling and texting her. Wants me to come around more often to cheer her up. When I try, she doesn't engage me or ignores my texts. I told her that her actions tell me otherwise. She says, "if you're bugging me, I'll tell you..." WTF? What kind of game is this? I don't understand this push/pull. "Come spend time with me" then declines my attempts or acts uninterested. Now I just wait for her to come to me, I don't bother putting myself out there until she engages first. She seems to have people compartmentalized depending on her immediate mood. She might need to be "cheered up" at 8am, but by noon, you are no longer needed. She has selected someone else for her current mood. I'm more of an option than a true friend. Is this typical libra behavior? I can't get away from this spell she has cast on me. Manipulative and cruel.
i don't know if it is typical. it's certainly not unheard of.

drop her like she is hot. you deserve better.
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Libra woman tells me that she misses me calling and texting her. Wants me to come around more often to cheer her up. When I try, she doesn't engage me or ignores my texts. I told her that her actions tell me otherwise. She says, "if you're bugging me, I'll tell you..." WTF? What kind of game is this? I don't understand this push/pull. "Come spend time with me" then declines my attempts or acts uninterested. Now I just wait for her to come to me, I don't bother putting myself out there until she engages first. She seems to have people compartmentalized depending on her immediate mood. She might need to be "cheered up" at 8am, but by noon, you are no longer needed. She has selected someone else for her current mood. I'm more of an option than a true friend. Is this typical libra behavior? I can't get away from this spell she has cast on me. Manipulative and cruel.
i don't know if it is typical. it's certainly not unheard of.

drop her like she is hot. you deserve better.
🙂 hi jeane
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own all too many. This shitty type tends to be users and keeps options around for a reason.

You are an option and she's nothing but a cock tease to keep you around for when she wants to use you for her emotional needs.

You'll have some here deny this is how Libras are, but sorry, many are. I've even had some openly admit that they keep people around as options and it's sad as fuck they see NOTHING wrong with this.

This bitch is one of those. Stop wasting your time and fawning over a total asshole. Cunty McCunterson can go find someone else to use because it won't be you.

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Posted by libragirl37
Maybe she's shy and doesn't want to feel like she's bothering you?
Actually, she will call or text whenever SHE needs something. If you need anything, she ignores your text if she doesn't like the subject matter. Such a shitty friend.
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Honey, this right here is a classic example of a user.
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Maybe she's shy and doesn't want to feel like she's bothering you?
Actually, she will call or text whenever SHE needs something. If you need anything, she ignores your text if she doesn't like the subject matter. Such a shitty friend.
Wow, again my friend, as a Libra, I am usually the one that is there for others. I never ask for anything, in fact, my ex always said that I never ask for help. I don't want to bother anyone, and try to do it by myself. I think you need to let her go...
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You sound like me. I never ask for help from anyone but I'm always there for others. She knows that and plays that card when she needs it. She bitched at a co-worker, "what is it going to take for you to answer my texts?" We both laughed because she does the same shit to both of us. Relationships are a two-way street. I've been letting go more and more each year.

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Posted by Shashka
' I can't get away from this spell she has cast on me. Manipulative and cruel.'

She probably is not that cruel. You are overstating it a little maybe no?

You are coming from the point of view of your own needs. It seems to me you will always need more or want more than she sees the relationship as being.
The above is fine. You have your needs. But sometimes people are going through things that you need to put those aside as a friend for if you can. I have done it. Sometimes I can sometime I can't or simply don't want to.

The issue is here you don't want to do this. You have two choices tell her directly or let the relationship go.

In reality I suspect you are venting and this will pass.
I get what you are saying. What I find cruel is all the take and no give with a complete absence of remorse. And yes, sometimes there is nothing you can do to help someone, so you have to let them deal with it alone. I do have needs and they are not being met. But what kind of friendship is this? She is all in when she needs to exploit my good qualities. Friendship is about supporting each other to the best of our ability whenever possible, through the good times and the bad. Part of that is equal give and take. You can't expect someone to be thoughtful and kind for you and then treat them like shit when it's your turn to reciprocate. I guess our definitions of "friendship" do not match and never will.

I'm definitely venting and this will pass. Unfortunately, so will this friendship. I guess I'm pissed at the return on my investment. Complete waste of time if I review the past few years. And she wonders why friends abandon her.
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Posted by Libsizzler
You're an Aries. I've found this a common dynamic between a libra and Aries,

As a libra I'd recommend not making yourself so available and pull back all the attention you may give her when she is around.
Then what? As a Libra woman, what do you want from an Aries guy who is waiting with open arms? Why play these games? I'm infatuated with Libra but also going nuts at the same time.
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You are right. We aren’t defining friendship the same.

If a male “friend” acted this way, I highly doubt you would be posting on a message board going on about how cruel they are and how your needs aren’t being met. The truth is you don’t see this woman as a “friend” and the reason you are bitter is because she isn’t “returning your investment” by sleeping with you.

And she probably likes you as a friend and knows on some level you want more so pulls away when you start to want more because she sees you as a friend.


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Maybe she's shy and doesn't want to feel like she's bothering you?
Actually, she will call or text whenever SHE needs something. If you need anything, she ignores your text if she doesn't like the subject matter. Such a shitty friend.
Wow, again my friend, as a Libra, I am usually the one that is there for others. I never ask for anything, in fact, my ex always said that I never ask for help. I don't want to bother anyone, and try to do it by myself. I think you need to let her go...
I'm the same way
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Me too. My boss and coworkers have mentioned it as well. I sink or swim by myself.
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Posted by Goldigold
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Posted by libragirl37
Maybe she's shy and doesn't want to feel like she's bothering you?
Actually, she will call or text whenever SHE needs something. If you need anything, she ignores your text if she doesn't like the subject matter. Such a shitty friend.
Wow, again my friend, as a Libra, I am usually the one that is there for others. I never ask for anything, in fact, my ex always said that I never ask for help. I don't want to bother anyone, and try to do it by myself. I think you need to let her go...
I'm the same way
Me too. My boss and coworkers have mentioned it as well. I sink or swim by myself.
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Same. My ex husband always said.."You never needed me!" Yes, he was yelling because he was upset about it often. I don't know if that's a libra thing or how I grew up. But I don't rely on anyone. So if she's only calling when she needs you, let her go.
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Posted by littlesparrow
You are right. We aren’t defining friendship the same.

If a male “friend” acted this way, I highly doubt you would be posting on a message board going on about how cruel they are and how your needs aren’t being met. The truth is you don’t see this woman as a “friend” and the reason you are bitter is because she isn’t “returning your investment” by sleeping with you.

And she probably likes you as a friend and knows on some level you want more so pulls away when you start to want more because she sees you as a friend.

You're right, because guy friends don't pull this kind of shit on each other. And that's shallow, you don't have to sleep with every female friend you have. I've known her for over ten years. I guess I'm a fool for wati



@rockyroadicecream is right, she is a user. Master of manipulation. Once she notices you running away, she turns on the tears and charm. I guess i still have a lot to learn about women.


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Posted by littlesparrow
Of course men pull crap on each other, you just don't notice as much because you are not emotionally invested.

I don't think it was a shallow comment. I think it is very perceptive.
I guess what is bugging me is that I've committed many years to this friendship but I often feel marginalized. I'm not trying to get into her pants, I just miss the time we used to spend together. All this push/pull is heart wrenching after all the history we've shared. Sometimes us guys need to be vulnerable and she is an amazing listener. She challenges me to see things differently. I'm just a little hurt by her aloofness sometimes.
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Maybe she's shy and doesn't want to feel like she's bothering you?
This forum is here for advice, not enabling. Come back when you get rid of this stupid ass mentality. It's more damaging than helpful, honey.
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libragirl37 you can select rockyroadicecream name, and select block, and you never have to bothered with her rude trailer trash responses again. In fact let me do that right now.
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Libra woman tells me that she misses me calling and texting her. Wants me to come around more often to cheer her up. When I try, she doesn't engage me or ignores my texts. I told her that her actions tell me otherwise. She says, "if you're bugging me, I'll tell you..." WTF? What kind of game is this? I don't understand this push/pull. "Come spend time with me" then declines my attempts or acts uninterested. Now I just wait for her to come to me, I don't bother putting myself out there until she engages first. She seems to have people compartmentalized depending on her immediate mood. She might need to be "cheered up" at 8am, but by noon, you are no longer needed. She has selected someone else for her current mood. I'm more of an option than a true friend. Is this typical libra behavior? I can't get away from this spell she has cast on me. Manipulative and cruel.
You are correct, actions do speak louder than words. Libras are great at "softening the blow" so to speak, if she was truly interested there would be follow up. You have to know with Libras we can be quite manipulative with our words to get you to do or think a certain way (not necessarily in a bad way per se), but we do not like confrontation and would rather soften our words than to hurt your feelings or offend you by 100% honest rejection.

That, or she's probably just being her old indecisive Libra self. It really is a curse with us... Lol.
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Maybe she's shy and doesn't want to feel like she's bothering you?
This forum is here for advice, not enabling. Come back when you get rid of this stupid ass mentality. It's more damaging than helpful, honey.
libragirl37 you can select rockyroadicecream name, and select block, and you never have to bothered with her rude trailer trash responses again. In fact let me do that right now.
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Trailer trash? Speak for your self. Most of your responses sound like they belong in a trashy reality show, so lolz.
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Sadly, this is me. Let's face it, Aries, it's just driving you nuts because you hate being ignored. Usually I do this to people that are my "last resort" when I need attention. It's pathetic to even admit this. If I know someone will drop and give me attention when I want them then I will hit them up at my convience. When I no longer need them the texting stops. It's selfish but when it happens I don't really think about about my intention or why I'm even doing it. She probably doesnt realize what she's doing or considers your feelings. It's really to fill a temporary void and when she no longer needs it she's over it. Pretty shitty but just spittin the truth.
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Posted by libralotus
Sadly, this is me. Let's face it, Aries, it's just driving you nuts because you hate being ignored. Usually I do this to people that are my "last resort" when I need attention. It's pathetic to even admit this. If I know someone will drop and give me attention when I want them then I will hit them up at my convience. When I no longer need them the texting stops. It's selfish but when it happens I don't really think about about my intention or why I'm even doing it. She probably doesnt realize what she's doing or considers your feelings. It's really to fill a temporary void and when she no longer needs it she's over it. Pretty shitty but just spittin the truth.
I've always thought that she was a little selfish. Now that the "honeymoon" phase of our friendship is over, this trait sticks out like a sore thumb. I have to say that it's a really shitty trait. Hearing it from another Libra makes the taste that much worse. This doesn't bode well for our friendship, but she probably doesn't give a shit anyway like you say. She does this with everyone eventually I've noticed. And yes, this annoys the shit out of me as an Aries because I'm usually the one she comes after when she needs to be rescued. She once said that she was a "worthless" friend because she never makes an effort to give back. So part of me thinks that she is conscious of her actions, or maybe I was being played for more sympathy and I'm a fool. Anyway, thanks for validating my observations.
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Sadly, this is me. Let's face it, Aries, it's just driving you nuts because you hate being ignored. Usually I do this to people that are my "last resort" when I need attention. It's pathetic to even admit this. If I know someone will drop and give me attention when I want them then I will hit them up at my convience. When I no longer need them the texting stops. It's selfish but when it happens I don't really think about about my intention or why I'm even doing it. She probably doesnt realize what she's doing or considers your feelings. It's really to fill a temporary void and when she no longer needs it she's over it. Pretty shitty but just spittin the truth.
I've always thought that she was a little selfish. Now that the "honeymoon" phase of our friendship is over, this trait sticks out like a sore thumb. I have to say that it's a really shitty trait. Hearing it from another Libra makes the taste that much worse. This doesn't bode well for our friendship, but she probably doesn't give a shit anyway like you say. She does this with everyone eventually I've noticed. And yes, this annoys the shit out of me as an Aries because I'm usually the one she comes after when she needs to be rescued. She once said that she was a "worthless" friend because she never makes an effort to give back. So part of me thinks that she is conscious of her actions, or maybe I was being played for more sympathy and I'm a fool. Anyway, thanks for validating my observations.
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No, I do feel bad when my friends do a lot for me but never ask me for anything. She probably does has a conscious and feels bad that she can't reciprocate the favors you've done. I ask a lot of my friends I'll admit but it's only because I'm 100% sure I would do the same for them. If you don't need her for much I bet she does feel worthless. I was kinda in the position with my friend. He basically used the shit out of me without me realizing it. I told him that I felt used, and wanted him to emotionally support me when I needed him. The problem wasn't fixed so I sent him a long text listing every reason why I wasn't going to be his friend anymore. I didn't get a response, but I mean you should at least express yourself to her.
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We used to be close but now it's all superficial small talk. I've always given her emotional support but it's rarely reciprocated. I've talked to her about it in the past but it doesn't seem to help. She can barely handle herself let alone be there for a friend. I don't bother asking her for anything, I can't depend on her so why bother. The worthlessness is a result of her lack of effort.
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Posted by balancedlibra
She likes the attention. You need to be firm with her.
OMG, I googled "attention whore" and my jaw about fell off. She fits the description so well it hurts. She only pulls this shit on men, so I think daddy gave her all the attention. She has a shitty relationship with her mom which is sad. She has not evolved into a mature woman because of it. Her inner child is still searching for validation now in her late 30s. She pulls this damsel in distress shit and watches all us foolish men come running to her aid. I feel like the puppet and she the masterful puppeteer. Really sad because I used to talk to her everyday, now I painfully avoid her because I see her true colors behind the mask.