Have a great weekend...

I hope to. 😉

"I hope to. "

We hope you do, too! And a very, merry, happy birthday! (and lots of things you can't tell us about 😉)

🙂

Happy Birthday, although I did write to ya last night 🙂......am assuming its been an awesome weekend 😛

It was a good weekend. I'm home now, doing some much neglected cleaning.

Friday night was relaxing, but we still got to bed rather late. He had an outing he needed to be at by 8 am Saturday morning, so he set his alarm for 6 am. I didn't hear the alarm go off and he let me sleep at his place. He left me a sweet note and then sometime shortly after he left, he took a picture of the sunrise and sent it to my phone and texted "Hope you slept well". I do remember him kissing me goodbye on my forehead.

So I stayed that afternoon until he got back from the outing he promised his buddies, cleaned his kitchen for him. He gets home and I tell him he's a sweetheart for letting me sleep rather than making me get out of bed and go to my own place to sleep. He says "well you were asleep and wouldn't wake up, so I had to let you sleep". The way he said it made it sound like he would have preferred that I had gone home but felt he "had" to let me sleep.

Either way, the way I see it is if he really didn't trust me to be left alone in his house, he would have made sure I didn't stay while he was away.

Saturday night was nice. We went to a pierside restaurant on the Bay and had dinner with a few friends as we watched sailboats and yachts float by and the weather was amazing...sunset was beautiful.

After dinner, he drove me out to the beach and we walked in the waves. I was acting abit goofy in the sand (that was his word "goofy"). I asked if he wanted me to stop and he said "No, I laugh hearing you laugh, don't stop"...

blah blah...fast forward to this afternoon. We just spent the day in bed being lazy...I think we probably just laid around for 10 hours, not doing one darn thing and it was nice because I needed sleep!

One of my girlfriends emailed me earlier today and asked me to take it easy with this guy because he's barely out of a divorce (8 months since it was final) and didn't want to see me get hurt. I don't know what to take about that...I do know that a few of us left the table to go to the restrooms and it was just him and her left, so not sure what was said that made her mention that to me.

I don't know...we shall see. He's cooking me dinner tomorrow night. Also have another gift from him on May 3rd.

It was a great weekend over all, but I do think I need to slow things down.

*"No, I love hearing you laugh, don't stop"

well it sounds like an ok weekend and nothing to worry about....mmmm gotta love those sleep ins for hours on end 😛 8 months out of a divorce? well Im sure its not like you guys are going to get married soon so what's her problem? although it is nice for friends to look out for us isn't it? 8 months isn't long but it sounds like he has his head together 🙂

oh no...not wanting to get married...just wanting to slow things down.

slowing things down is good 🙂

But you seem happy to be with your man....wonder what your pressie will be *is nosey*

LOL

oh i know what it is..we're going to see the comedian i want to see

fantastic!!!

He's a good man!!

chatz, you've got mail.

Happy Birthday HP, sounds like you had a great weekend!!!! 🙂

A divorce from a Libra is a slow process and one that includes healing (on the Libra part) as it happens. A lot of time is spent feeling and therefore healing. So healing takes place in parallel.

Friends are also jealous sometimes.

Oh, and we're shallow, unemotional and cannot go deep - what a lovely advantage when getting over someone!

Thanks, Libra.

I'm dealing with something else at the moment.

After him saying that he wanted to cook me dinner for my special day, he sends me a message saying that he made plans with his best friend to work out and then off to another function, which he would be home around 9 pm. When I asked if he meant monday night, he said yes. So i said "I guess I'll have to make plans for my birthday dinner with someone else". He claims he forgot, yet I find that hard to believe since he has been talking about doing something on my birthday...yet he goes and pulls this?

He made these plans less than 5 hours ago with these people when he and I made plans at least 2 weeks ago. It does hurt my feelings and I just don't know how to feel about this.

He tried to make things right by saying he could reschedule with his best friend and the other people but I told him he should go ahead and go and I would get over it.

TO top things off, he also said he scheduled an oral surgery on Thursday, the same day he said he's taking me to see the comedian I like. I told him that he's going to be knocked out on pain meds and won't feel like going to the show, but he assures me he will be up for it. I've already prepared myself that he's not going to be up to going. Of all days in May, he choses the day he told me he was taking me out. Again, he claims he "forgot".

It seems similar to CHatz' situation with her guy cancelling on her Saturday dinner.

OK. I can see why this worries you and I would be equally worried.

Personally, I would be upset INSIDE but I would not show it that I felt let down. I would pretend that I am fine with all of it.

Consider it PMS. Give him a little space to manoeuvre. If you make waves you have to deal witgh the waves. Swallow it for now and see where it leads. Sometimes things have a way of working out without you having to do too much.

I agree....its a bump in the road....as long as all the other stuff you have between you is ok I would just smile through it...it DOES work and ummmmm although your case is a little similar to mine, mine wasn't my birthday and he gave me 3 days notice he couldn't make dinner!!! Grrrrrr@yours though!! Maybe he'll come through for you 🙂

Have a wonderful b/day 🙂 I will have a drink for you tonight....mind you, I am still suffering somewhat from last nights' drinking session with my Libran - ouch!!!

xx

Good advice, Lee. I am going to lay off of him for a while. Chatz reminded me that there was a post somewhere that said Libras show off their ideal sides within the first 3-6 months and then show their true colors. I think I'm seeing the true colors already.

😢

He did the same thing as Chatz' Libra. He said he had plans tonight (after he made plans with me first - my special day 😢) and said he can see me after he's done with everything. I told him that I prefer to see him when there's still daylight outside and therefore I'll see him Thursday. We both have plans until then which is also why I was looking forward to him cooking for me.

I can't have everything.

Leebra that is good advice and it seems oh so true with these guys.....mine is definitely worth all of this (hopefully) lol

"But in the beginning of the sleep overs, I would always make him go home to shower and get ready for work. Also, we had spent the day together and were planning to have a wonderful dinner date, and I sent him home again so I could get ready in my leisure"

THAT is how things started with us!! He didnt like to shower at my place, he went home (thank goodness he only lives 5 minutes away), then went off to work. How long did that go on for Leebra in your situation? He's a little more comfortable these days but still a little coy about using my facilities *shrugs*

He's also a little uncomfortable with the fact I own my house and he is currently renting (he lost a lot when he split from his aqua ex and is very bitter about that I must say)...must say the who owns what isn't in the slightest what Im interested in - life is too short. Actually speaking of money? he talks a lot about money and how he wants to make more, he's quite a scrooge too but must say he likes the better things in life.

HP so how did your birthday pan out—

***Personally, I would be upset INSIDE but I would not show it that I felt let down. I would pretend that I am fine with all of it.***


***I agree....its a bump in the road....as long as all the other stuff you have between you is ok I would just smile through it...it DOES work and ummmmm although your case is a little similar to mine, mine wasn't my birthday and he gave me 3 days notice he couldn't make dinner!!! Grrrrrr@yours though!! Maybe he'll come through for you ***

It is funny how some of us perfer to bite our tongues and hide our true feelings when it comes to these guys and how they have no problem with showing and verbalizing how they feel in fear of how we may take it... It amazes me.

I do understand probably more than most that Librans are different than others however we all deserve the same treatment. Not saying that Chatz or HP's Librans deliberately did anything to hurt them, in fact HP's Libra did try to make up for him forgeting about their date, although Chatz didn't - she seems to be fine with it. However, in my past experiences with the Libras, including my present one. It is better to let them know how you really feel in the beginning, not make a big emotional deal about it, but they actually like to know how you feel about things.

Libras hate to find out they have hurt someone they care about and it is worse when they know they've been doing it and wasn't aware of it.

Although they may shy away from some things especially before comittment. Once they have committed they really want to know what makes you tick, happy or sad. So the fear of not expressing how you feel at this point should change, it really means a lot to them to know how you really feel. Remember it isn't what you say, it is how you say it.

Don't get me wrong QS....in my situation he KNOWS that I was disappointed (and that's all I need him to know) but the little conversations had in between what transpired are too hard and not to mention annoying to everybody else if I posted them....it got to the point where I even said "maybe another time, don't want you to feel obligated to rush from a family celebration to see me"..that's when I was fuming still....He took it the way I meant it and even came back and said "Im starting to get the impression you don't want me to come over at all"....he got it, he understood, he obviously didnt want to discuss it any more than I did and why would I not want him to come over at all? that would be my loss and I hadn't seen him for so long as it was.....I could have made dessert, I could have done a lot but I chose to do no more than share a couple of bottles of wine, have great conversation and all the other fun stuff.

Its all good and its meant to all be light and fun and to get upset at this? yes, I was but I can also get over things just as quick.....He has also been very patient with me in the past, again, I can't get into it too much, and he has been there for me when I needed a shoulder a couple of times and I was thankful, especially the timing of it all - he had other things he could have done but he dropped EVERYTHING to be there for me....THAT means a lot more to me than one silly date that he didn't break as such - he just turned up later and I didnt have to cook - ya gotta look at it on the funny side....life is way too short!! I do thank you for your support and hey, look, I'd probably give the same advice if it were you or anybody else.....I have my eyes open, I am aware that this can all get worse, that he can turn and be an absolute ass, but then again, so could I...who knows what the future brings...this is a ride Im prepared to keep taking and see where it goes....I have to be utterly honest with everybody but this guy does things to me that nobody else has been able to and I don't just mean physically....there's so much more to him that I want to learn about, he continually surprises me, some good, some bad but like I said, the good certainly outweighs the bad but if it were the other way? I'd have walked and yes, as you know, I almost did a few times...Leo impatience!!!

For now its all good and he's trying in his own little way and that means a lot. He could have just not wanted to come at all - the option was there!!

Maybe he's scared of my cooking— LMAO!!!

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