STONED by a LIBRA!

We started dating last March, after he pursued me relentlessly. Everything was fantastic physically, mentally, so many things in common,chemistry was 150% . I wasn't even that interested in seeing him in the beginning, but the dude totally won me over. Hook, line and sinker. Well, come May, he started acting a little strange...he would run off into his "hole" and cancel plans that we had for the weekend. Then, he would turn around a few days later and ask to see me. This continued to happen, the "push and pull" until August, when he broke things off to get back with his ex-girlfriend (who, by the way, is supposedly crazy, manipulative, and would hit him, berate him, etc.)He had dated her for 3 yrs. and there were still unresolved feelings there, and so I let him go. September through December, he would send me these random text messages saying "I Miss You", things like that, and would call sometimes. I wouldn't always answer, because, let's face it, I didn't want him to lure me back in again. It hurt enough the first time. I was also feeling good again, dating other men, and moving on with my life. So, here comes the first of January, he calls to say that he'd broken up with his ex again, and that it was totally over with her. He asked to see me and I agreed. (Doh!- as Homer Simpson would say...) After that date, he called me every single night for 2 weeks. This was more than he had done the last time we dated. He went on and on about how well we get along, how beautiful I am, blah, blah, blah, and how much he loves being with me. Now, the calls have stopped. And I mean cold. So I just mimick him, ya know, I mean, I DO NOT call him or text. I got a Valentine's Day text from him, trying to get back on my "good side" I guess? He will try and "explain himself" to me with these random texts, disappear for a while, and then come back. I DO NOT UNDERSTAND THIS. I totally believe in giving a man his space, I'm a pro at it, but this is nuts. He has the abilty to make me feel so beautiful and wanted, and then turn around and make me feel so ugly and un-wanted. SO this has gone on for almost exactly a year with this guy, and I am at a loss on what to do. I would drop out of his life for good, pleading INSANITY, but there's one big problem: I am in love with him. STONED in love.

You should read my post on "Understanding the Libra man" If it doesn't help I'll comment on this.

Posted by ALibra
You should read my post on "Understanding the Libra man" If it doesn't help I'll comment on this.

Hello, ALibra! Babe, I've read your post about 3 times...and it's DEAD ON. But I don't know...do they really love you when they act this way? When they disappear? Why would he keep coming back?

LOL. See there, I stated that when they drop in and out like that its because they are either purposely or subconsciously taking advantage of the fact that YOU let them. I stated that a libra sometimes need a partner that challenges them, this includes putting your foot down and let him know why his actions are unacceptable and also unfair. Since the libra male or female is all about fairness, he will definitely be tuned in on how he is being unfair. Don't curse him out, but let him know you mean business. If you DO curse him out while he's in out, he will just stay out thinking you need time to cool off, it all depends on how badly you cursed him out. Even when they deserve it, they wont tolerate it. "There is a way to respect a person while talking to them while your mad, and if your that mad talk to me once you calm down" will be his attitude. He will push away. So talk firm, listen, and watch his actions. I wish I could tell you that it will stop him from dropping in an out, but really with a libra theres no telling. If they are dropping in and out, chances are they are not so sure if you or the situation is right for them anymore, and they bouncing in and out because one minute they think it is, then the next they don't. It takes a libra ages, decades to make a decision. I've loved this Taurus for 3 years and the whole 3 yrs I've been in and out of his life mostly because he lets me, but mainly because I know he care and loves me, but im just not sure if he's THE ONE for me, and i'd hate to lead him on by sticking around all the time.

Thanks! Haha...oh, but man, it ain't funny...I am at a total IMPASS.

I mean, this dude is 38. Is he gonna wait 'till he's too old to even move before he decides who he wants?
It's sad, really, because he's the one who mentions how I'm the perfect woman for him, how great we are together...but he STILL drops off my radar. This is the first time I've "let him back in" after our initial 5 month dating period last year. You mentioned "fair" but treating people this way, swinging in and out is anything BUT fair. I haven't cursed him out, and I haven't "put my foot down"...yet. Just trying to decide in what way I should do that.

I would like to be a challenge for him, but what kind of "challenge" does a Libra need? I have shown him some Leo attitude, and he responded with apologies and tries to salve the situation by giving me various excuses, and calling me by the "pet names" he has for me.

But alas, ALibra, he's trotted off into his hole again...I don't know if I should write him a letter or just wait until we're in person again...whenever he "comes back"? I am getting WHIPLASH.