Tisk Tisk

So previously I posted under my, friend Cataleya a post but after reading so many people post I decided to join to vent too. So here goes in my previous post I was asking if my libra guy was gay. Well here goes. So I went on a trip with him and his bff (Chris). The first night, well nothing big the second night well the BFF kissed my Leeb not once but twice. I'm so hurt why didnt he just tell me. Well maybe he didnt know. The BFF then had s talk with me about how the reason girls don't come around is because he is attracted to men. Including my Leeb
My Leeb was sleep but what do I do now?

I mean how do I go about things as if I didn't notice what was going on. The next day we all acted as if if didn't matter but it makes me kinda mad. Do I have a right to be mad. No there were no Titles nonstrings however, I think you being bi sexual of whatever should be known. Me and him used to go out all the time, having fun and such. Just me and him now there this person whom came along and boom.

What I want to know is why you've stuck around with a situation like this for so long? If you can handle such a casual arrangement, by all means. But you're clearly having an issue with it, especially now that dude's sexuality is coming into play.

A lot of women get sucked into similar situations like this- lack of titles and confusing grey areas because they didn't clarify prior. However, most well adjusted individuals eventually grow tired of the crap and move on since everything becomes blatantly obvious. Unfortunately, some women stick around due to desperation and being scared of being "alone."

I mean part of me doesn't feel bad for you because you tolerated his behavior toward you for so long, and unfortunately a lot of guys take advantage of that and run with it. They tend to do a lot of taking when it comes to "give and take." In your situation, it's a lot of take and using you as a cover and that's SO not fair to you.

But at the same time, if dude also liked other dudes, he should have been up front with that. It's not fair to you to leave that snippet out along with keeping you around for shits n giggles until someone else came along.

Posted by femmefatale
Oh wow, just be careful! The correlation
between down low men and the spread of HIV/AIDS
is staggering. It seems as if there's a lot you
and this Libra need to discuss, without the presence
of the bestie, of course. You won't get the answers
you need by "acting as if it didn't matter" then venting
to a forum full of strangers. I wish you the best, girl!

+1 Didn't even think of that aspect.

Posted by femmefatale
Oh wow, just be careful! The correlation
between down low men and the spread of HIV/AIDS
is staggering. It seems as if there's a lot you
and this Libra need to discuss, without the presence
of the bestie, of course. You won't get the answers
you need by "acting as if it didn't matter" then venting
to a forum full of strangers. I wish you the best, girl!

+1 thanks a lot. I needed to hear that. It's strabge that immediately my feeling went from I would love to be with this man. To Hmm my assumption was right. Then my dumb butt started that Sick "maybe I'm not good enough is that why he won't go with it. Then I realized UMM hell no it's not my fault Im good enough he just maybe like men. The issue is trying to get him away from the bestie. And my Leeb doesn't open up at all it's so hard to talk to him he gets red in the face and all. Any suggestions? As far the std's your right but we haven't banged in almost a year (I guess in the time frame no wonder what he was doing.)

Either confront him about the entire thing.

Or tell him you're not happy and break it off and go no contact.

So...he's gay and you're still trying to figure out how to make it work?!

Grow a dick?

Maybe that's a little harsh...

Yeah it sucks. You been trying to make it work. You been looking past things that bothered you. You been getting less than you need. You invested a lot, it's part of why you're still going. It's hard to cut your losses and walk away. You want some return on your investment.

I hate to be the one to tell you but the bank has shut down, you ain't getting a return on this one.

just walk away. The guy is gay, you're a woma... it ain't gonna work. Maybe he can go shopping with you sometime?

At least now you can go find a guy who is interested in women and won't make you question yourself like he did.

The sad thing is that this hasn't been a real relationship. She's perceived it as someone who she has a "thing" with, something that has NO title. Not only has she accepted some convenient farce from him, she's also been ignoring these blatant signs.

Like I've asked before, why does the OP allow this to happen?