What is up with this Libra man?!

So I've been dating this Libra guy for a couple of months or so. Until 10 days ago I didn't question if he was interested in me and in literally the space of 3 hours he went from chatting all the time to seeming a bit distant.

We still talk loads but he seems a lot less affectionate and when I asked if he wanted to meet up next weekend he said he hadn't planned that far ahead yet...3 week ago he would of bitten my hand of saying yes.

He hasn't been asking about my life and keeps on forgetting stuff...this just seems like a really sudden switch

I have just been getting on with my own life but is this normal Libra behaviour? And what's the best way to handle him?

nope. not normal. something is troubling him. sit him down and try to have a frank discussion with him about how you both think the relationship is going.

I asked him the other day what was wrong and that if he had lost interest or I had done something to upset him he should just say. He said I hadn't upset him but he also didn't say that he was/wasn't interested.

A couple of days later he did open up a bit some stresses at work but other than that nothing, I'm thinking the best thing to do is just back off for a bit. It's clear something has changed and if he doesn't want to talk to me about it then there's not much I can do

I'll will just add that he did say he didn't mean to be off with me

Posted by boop84
I asked him the other day what was wrong and that if he had lost interest or I had done something to upset him he should just say. He said I hadn't upset him but he also didn't say that he was/wasn't interested.

A couple of days later he did open up a bit some stresses at work but other than that nothing, I'm thinking the best thing to do is just back off for a bit. It's clear something has changed and if he doesn't want to talk to me about it then there's not much I can do

you can do that but speaking personally, if i am left alone with my thoughts, very bad things can be concluded. if i was fresh into a relationship and starting to distance myself and become unaffectionate, then my mind is whirling. in my experience, i need to touch base again, express my thoughts, get the other person's point of view. my thoughts begin the downward spiral, left to them, i can become incredibly erratic.

I think the best thing to do is if he wants to contact me and talk then be responsive but otherwise let him have some space. I just feel like I'm setting myself up.

Takes a lot for me to open up to someone and just when I feel I could with him he backs off, I do want to see if it can get fixed but I have to protect me too

Plus everyone is worth more than this odd behavior, beginnings of relationships should be fun and if he really wanted to be here I can't help think it wouldn't be like this

Posted by boop84
I think the best thing to do is if he wants to contact me and talk then be responsive but otherwise let him have some space. I just feel like I'm setting myself up.

Takes a lot for me to open up to someone and just when I feel I could with him he backs off, I do want to see if it can get fixed but I have to protect me too

Plus everyone is worth more than this odd behavior, beginnings of relationships should be fun and if he really wanted to be here I can't help think it wouldn't be like this

ok, so you're choosing the stalemate position and you think deep down he is a bastard. so yes, you're right. best to not talk to him unless he contacts you first.

I don't think he's a bastard but I do think he's confusing. I've tried to discuss the issue with him but he doesn't want to talk. Relationships are impossible when one person won't communicate. I really like him but I'm not going to force my feelings on him. I'm not cutting contact with him but I am reducing the amount I talk to him and if/when he wants to talk I'll be there in a heartbeat. But until that happens I have to protect myself too...he knows how I feel and when he's ready I'm here I'm just not going to chase him anymore

Posted by boop84
I don't think he's a bastard but I do think he's confusing. I've tried to discuss the issue with him but he doesn't want to talk. Relationships are impossible when one person won't communicate. I really like him but I'm not going to force my feelings on him. I'm not cutting contact with him but I am reducing the amount I talk to him and if/when he wants to talk I'll be there in a heartbeat. But until that happens I have to protect myself too...he knows how I feel and when he's ready I'm here I'm just not going to chase him anymore

you can't be in a relationship if your primary thought is "i have to protect myself" by implication you believe that he is going to intentiionally hurt you ie is a bastard.

being in a relationship means trusting the other person to the point where you could get hurt. people get hurt in relationships. it's part of the deal.

yes, your communication is shit at the moment so is the solution to then stop communicating as well? that's not logical. you don't try once and stop, you try util you resolve the problem.

you know what else is not logical? starting a thread, asking for a point of view and then just doing what you intended to do all along. but then again, welcome to dxpnet.

Actually Jeane you make a very good point there but I must stress again I don't think he's a bastard, if he's not into me he's not in to me.

But the sudden personality change has taken me back a bit and makes me feel nervous about putting myself out there, as I think it would anyone! I also didn't say I was going to stop communicating with him, I just meant take a bit of a step back let him have a bit of space to work things through. he knows I'm always here to talk and I will always check in, I'm just not going to chase anymore.

Libsizzler - I'm a Gemini so communication is a big thing and it was perfect between us until 10 days ago, he literally changed in the space of a few hours, hence the confusion.

I have asked him if he wants to hangout next weekend but he hasn't said yes or know to that yet, I've put the offer out there so it's up to him

Of course, I wanted to hear what he had to say which was very little! I could tell he didn't want to talk about it, he just said that he hadn't meant to be off with me

He has opened up to me a bit about other things since then...Just not about why he's changed, which is why I was thinking giving him a bit of space would help

I just don't ever like to push someone to talk about something they're not ready to discuss...hate it when people do it to me