What the Heck is up with this Libra?!?!

So I posted a few days back about me and my Libra friend with whom I think there is a mutual attraction. She has asked me to get together with her on a few of occasions. The first one she said she wanted to go out and we planned a general date and time. Said she would let me know, and never heard from her until the next time we had work together.

The next time we planned something she changed the plans completely and then showed up late.

This time she once again asked to go out, we planned a day but no time. She said she would call. No call. Yet last night when we worked together, she kept purposely getting into my line of sight, smiled sly little smiles (new), stared at me quite a bit, but I was talking to a mutual female friend earlier in the night and she got noticeably agitated. Still seriously.

I have to say as well that I have NOT asked her to go anywhere. It is always her doing the asking, so that is why this really makes no sense to me.

I can tell you I am hurt. She could at the very least call to let me know she cannot make it. My birthday is this coming week and I was looking forward to going to do this activity together. I went ahead and went on my own, and it was still a lot of fun, but it would have been nice for her to have the courtesy to say she couldn't make it.

Is this typical for LIbras? Why do Libras do this if it is?

Posted by thatlibralife

Posted by LeonineCharmer

So I posted a few days back about me and my Libra friend with whom I think there is a mutual attraction. She has asked me to get together with her on a few of occasions. The first one she said she wanted to go out and we planned a general date and time. Said she would let me know, and never heard from her until the next time we had work together.

The next time we planned something she changed the plans completely and then showed up late.

This time she once again asked to go out, we planned a day but no time. She said she would call. No call. Yet last night when we worked together, she kept purposely getting into my line of sight, smiled sly little smiles (new), stared at me quite a bit, but I was talking to a mutual female friend earlier in the night and she got noticeably agitated. Still seriously.

I have to say as well that I have NOT asked her to go anywhere. It is always her doing the asking, so that is why this really makes no sense to me.

I can tell you I am hurt. She could at the very least call to let me know she cannot make it. My birthday is this coming week and I was looking forward to going to do this activity together. I went ahead and went on my own, and it was still a lot of fun, but it would have been nice for her to have the courtesy to say she couldn't make it.

Is this typical for LIbras? Why do Libras do this if it is?

It seems she is just being friendly. Flaking out in the end when she changes her mind. I have been guilty of this myself not saying its right. I can be lazy and change my mind and stay in instead. She should have at least let you know so rude on her. But when I am attracted to someone (when I was single) and wanted to get something started I would never miss the opportunity to meet up. Not sure why you believe she is purposely getting in your line of sight. Seems like you are watching her every move. If I make eye contact with someone I will smile back with no intent. Could you be reading more into this relationship?...

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No I was literally involved with other things, and then boom there she was. Each time I looked up she was in front of me across the room looking at me and that is why I say line of sight. Either way its fine. No harm no foul. Its just pretty rude.

Posted by mudra_

Make sure the next time she tries to make plans, you mention this to her. Like "Is this for real? Or are you going to flake again? It's getting pretty annoying now" Just because Libras are guilty of this trait dosen't make it ok for them to always do expecting people to brush it to the side. Let her know about herself.

Because remember... people are there when they wanna be there.

I do sht in my own little world and don't even try to form plans with people anymore unless I'm asked. When i would make plans back in the day and flake out... it would always be my leo or aries friend telling me about myself and i really appreciated it like "yea, you know what? That is fcked up" integrity of your words are important.

That is exactly what I am planning on. Because it is. Its not ok and its not like we are kids, she knows better common courtesy than this.

Posted by mudra_

Make sure the next time she tries to make plans, you mention this to her. Like "Is this for real? Or are you going to flake again? It's getting pretty annoying now" Just because Libras are guilty of this trait dosen't make it ok for them to always do expecting people to brush it to the side. Let her know about herself.

Because remember... people are there when they wanna be there.

I do sht in my own little world and don't even try to form plans with people anymore unless I'm asked. When i would make plans back in the day and flake out... it would always be my leo or aries friend telling me about myself and i really appreciated it like "yea, you know what? That is fcked up" integrity of your words are important.

this. i used to do it too when i was much younger. absolutely call her out on it. sometimes being made to feel bad forces us to stop being so self absorbed.

Called her out. She felt really bad. Everything else with our day is going the same as normal. So IDK. We will see.

Posted by Timon

Like someone mentioned earlier. If I really like someone I would not miss the opportunity to spend time with them. So canceling is the last thing I would do. Could be that she isn't sure about this and hesitating if it's such a good idea considering you're both in relationships. I don't remember but do you know if she's bi and does she know that you are? Maybe that could also be why she is hesitant. Either way flaking out on you several time is not ok.

No neither of us know for sure about the other. One thing I did not mention in this post but did in the other is that we have known each other for at least 9 months, closer to a year probably. She only started to really put on the charms about 4 or 5 months ago. We are both flirty, but I am in the way of complimenting and building people up. She is more in the way of wanting attention. So I get that about Libra's. But yeah, flaking out is not a good trait.

I came on here as I recently met a Libra but I am out of practise. I’ve dated three before but I’m out of practise. Libras are absolutely beautiful really and I’m already impressed with this new one. The thing is; they always put others first and are always charming and making others feel good. The problem is, there is only so long before they can do this and they get burnt out. They need down time, or time for themselves but they feel bad about it.

Whenever this happens, don’t push or chase them, just give them space. And don’t take it personally. I’m some ways it’s a test, she has every right to change her mind (as a women, all women change their minds) and you have to be ok with it. I am fairly certain they sleep loads too, I know Libra friends they have overslept and not met theirs dates.

But also, they do set people up for an easy let down, they compliment and put kisses only cos they are going to let you down and they don’t want you to feel bad.

Wait omg, I’ve read the other responses now. Do not call her out. Do not act like you are hurt. Do not act like you are emotionally invested already. Libras are very good at engineering situations when they want to meet, so let her do the work. As a guy, never show you are invested. I see a lot of guys, they are easily offended, they say she’s done something rude, but who cares, maybe she has maybe not, but do you really want to show you are upset about it. Do you really want to be that guy with the big ego who gets bruised easily cos things didn’t go how you expected, do you really want to show a total lack of confidence. Libras are awful like this, they test. You want to be the challenge for her, she will charm you, but don’t act bothered, don’t give in. She’ll be asleep, and you’ll tell her you’re upset lol

Posted by AriesJo

Wait omg, I’ve read the other responses now. Do not call her out. Do not act like you are hurt. Do not act like you are emotionally invested already. Libras are very good at engineering situations when they want to meet, so let her do the work. As a guy, never show you are invested. I see a lot of guys, they are easily offended, they say she’s done something rude, but who cares, maybe she has maybe not, but do you really want to show you are upset about it. Do you really want to be that guy with the big ego who gets bruised easily cos things didn’t go how you expected, do you really want to show a total lack of confidence. Libras are awful like this, they test. You want to be the challenge for her, she will charm you, but don’t act bothered, don’t give in. She’ll be asleep, and you’ll tell her you’re upset lol

I did call her out on it and she did feel bad. I am female also, not that it would make a difference in this case, but I need to be true to myself as well. While I am attracted to her and I do care for her, I can't open the door for her to treat me like a doormat as I walk on eggshells hoping not to make her upset and leave.

Know what I mean?

Posted by LeonineCharmer

Called her out. She felt really bad. Everything else with our day is going the same as normal. So IDK. We will see.

Good for you! Don't ever let someone treat you any kind of way.

Yeaaa like someone said earlier, sometimes I’ve flaked but not bc of how I felt for the person, I was just lazy and felt like staying in last minute. Or overall poor time management. But I at least let the person know, even if it’s last minute. Or if I saw you the next day at work, some apology geez! I’m glad you called her out on it. I hate it when it happens, but respect it in the end. Leave with your dignity.