Why Do People Try to Change Your Mind?

Fellow Libras, I need to vent. Long story short, I know a friend is interested in me and the feelings aren't mutual. Our mutual friends are trying to push it a bit, but I'm not having it. It really amounts to we've know each other for years and while sometime ago I might have been interested (I'm talking years) that time has passed. Thankfully, I don't see this group of friends often so it's not something constantly thrown in my face, but at the same time there have been snips.

This group is planning a vacation and initially I was down for it. But two months passed and I realized a few things. One, with a new job coming I wasn't sure I could get the time off and even if I could I felt it would look bad. Two, I've been to the place their going once before and while fun, I wasn't gung-ho to do it again. Finally, it will basically be a pain in the rear to get up there for a weekend. Talking about 5 hours of travel which really amounts to me staying all day Saturday and early rising Sunday to leave (not my idea of a vacation).

I told the friend who likes me when she sent the details to put me in the no pile. She flips, goes "we all have work" and "it's not expensive" etc. While I realize we don't make decision easily, once I have it's done. I also disliked that she choose to go to dinner with the friend who I see most often and bitch about me not going (mind you we've never really talked that much to begin with). Monday I get a message from another friend within the group saying, "while I know you said you can't, you can still come and stay on the floor for the weekend". What really burned me was again it was said "friend x and I were talking." Why can't people just leave us alone sometimes? I gave the honest answer, I'm not interested in going, why continue to push? They wonder why we disappear....

Because you allow yourselves to be easily swayed in just about anything, despite you not wanting to do it. You bottle it in, then freak out and/or disappear.

Then you wonder why people think you suck and/or are crazy for suddenly flying off the handle.

Simple solution- say no and stick with it. You'll avoid problems like this in the future. This is what happens when you're so easygoing with people and allow yourselves doormat status.

That aside, stupid people are huge fans of peer pressure. I have occasions where people bother me about wanting to do something idgaf about. But I stand my ground and they pretty much learn that once I say no, I say no and fuck off already.

^ this. I had that happen with the ex. My friend (mister matchmaker) supposedly wanted to hang out a lot, but it was because the ex was interested in me at the time. But when we split, suddenly he didn't want to hang out as much anymore. What a shocker.

People just need to mind their own business. I've never understood why losers want to be matchmakers. The hell is wrong with you??

I think this is a combination of that, and any past instances where they think they can harass you into going (if you've caved in other situations, they're going to assume they can get you to cave now if you're hassled enough).

Thanks all. I'm definitely sticking to my guns on this one. One thing I deplore is people attempting to make plans behind my back when I made my decision. In regards to being interested at one point a long time ago, she didn't know that. While I don't doubt overall they do actually want me there, I am happy with the current situation and don't want to rock the boat with something I don't think will work out anyhow. While I only see these friends every once in awhile I also don't want to ruin the few times I do see them because of something I didn't want in the first place.