IAmMystified
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Why is she acting this way?
"I'm a controlling sister that makes her feel like shit for her bad life choices."
Posted by inmercury
Yeah, Libras can't face even the possibility of criticism. If they are feeling bad about themselves they will be likely to take anything as an offense. I had a Libra boyfriend who was unemployed for a year before he really got his act together. In my case, (and I'm not saying this is the same as yours) I had allowed him to get comfortable living in my apartment and yet I would nag at him about finding a job. After a while I could see that it was really hard for him to get out of a codependent mode. They really need a healthy balance of life and work. When one is not working, the other won't work as well. When they get used to the way any type of relationship is going, and something changes, it takes them a while to reconfigure their lives.
Eventually something just clicked. I could not support him and so he found a new way. I think Libras thrive when people aren't trying to look after them. When they feel a bit spoiled they tend to indulge in it and take advantage of it because they can't help it.
I don't know why she is shutting people out though and just not speaking to anyone. No one is bugging her about the job front or even telling her what to do or nagging her. We've all left her alone and if she asked us for advice (which she did in the beginning) we answered her questions but something happened to her maybe in the past 3-4 weeks where she just randomly started getting an attitude with everyone, not speaking to anyone, staying home all day every day and just getting an attitude if anyoen tries to talk to her about anything. It's weird.
When I started noticing this pattern of her shutting ppl out lately i just been doing my own thing. I don't even try and initiate conversation. So when she feels like being nice to ppl, she can do so.
out the subtle bs that may be bothering her, shall we?
Posted by IAmMystified
She makes a lot of what I call bad choices throughout our life.
She knows you think this. I'm sure she's picked up on you and the family disapproving or noting her shitty life choices. Do Libras have a tendency of doing this? Many I know do, that's for sure.
In my head she shouldn't have quit her job in the first place. That was two months ago, she is having a hard time finding a job. She's already spent alot of money buying new things she shouldn't be buying.
Again, she's likely to have picked up on this attitude of yours. "God, she's such a fuck up. Here are more reasons why I think so and look down on her."
The past month or so she's been very hard to deal with (more than she normally is) becuase she's defensive all the time, b.itchy, secretive and anytime you ask her anything normal regarding the job front...she gets irritated. She's been quiet for days, isn't saying much to anyone. Isn't answering calls from family. I had a talk with my parents few days ago about it and they said she's probably just upset about her situation.
That's because they're right. Libras tend to get all moody, weird, withdrawn when life leaves their scales unbalanced. They can turn into strange trolls of individuals depending on the personality.
But for me, there's no reason whys he should get upset and keep to herself when no one is being hard on her, or anything like that. I just ask her basic questions like "How come you are home early?" Just a curious question but she'll get an attitude right away.
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Says the chick who just wrote an entire post about what a fuck up her sister is and points out all the bs that comes with her fuck ups. Are you reading what you write? And psst, in case you didn't realize, asking her why she's home so early is a loaded, shitty question to ask someone in her situation. It practically screams "OMG YOU SHOULD BE AT A JOB, YOU'RE HOME EARLY WHY?? GET BACK OUT THERE AND MAKE MONIES."
So why is she really acting this way and what can any of us do to get her to understand what she's doing to herself...or do you think we should just leave her be and let her learn her own lesson?
She's an unbalanced Libra who's trying to figure her shit out. I don't know how old she is, but if she's younger, this is kinda a stage some immature Libras go through. She needs to learn her lesson and not have you harping on her.
I understand where you're coming from as a sibling dealing with another sibling being a fuck up. I've been there with my brother. However, just based on your post alone, it's understandable why she's acting the way she is. Your post tells me that you reek of this attitude toward her and she's picked up on it for sure and is withdrawing. She feels bad enough as it is. She needs space and will come to you all when she's ready.
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She took a job that a temp agency found her (term was 6 months) but the company they placed her and other temps with let them all go after a month. In my head she shouldn't have quit her job in the first place. That was two months ago, she is having a hard time finding a job. She's already spent alot of money buying new things she shouldn't be buying. She's only getting interest from jobs that are paying 4-6 dollars and hour less than what she used to make and it isn't enough for her to build a life for herself.
The past month or so she's been very hard to deal with (more than she normally is) becuase she's defensive all the time, b.itchy, secretive and anytime you ask her anything normal regarding the job front...she gets irritated. She's been quiet for days, isn't saying much to anyone. Isn't answering calls from family. I had a talk with my parents few days ago about it and they said she's probably just upset about her situation.
But for me, there's no reason whys he should get upset and keep to herself when no one is being hard on her, or anything like that. I just ask her basic questions like "How come you are home early?" Just a curious question but she'll get an attitude right away.
The other thing is she shouldn't be shutting people out like that becuase I'm leaving in about 8 months whether she can support herself or not. The smart thing to do is ask for my help or help from others and actually listen to it, because at this rate she's just only making it worse for herself by making even more poor decisions that she keeps making that's not helping her at all.
So why is she really acting this way and what can any of us do to get her to understand what she's doing to herself...or do you think we should just leave her be and let her learn her own lesson?