Would you shut down?

He's libra sun/cap rising/Virgo venus/ Aries moon...

We've connected a lot but He refuses to hang out alone together.

The first (only) time we did we slept together.

We talk ALL DAY. He tells me really deep stuff about himself. We chat and connect well in public settings but I mention just the two of us hanging out and having a fire and he shuts it down, every time... I even told him I'm not interested in the second part.

It it possible he is shutting me down because he feels too much?

He's kind of in limbo from a past relationship.

We had a long conversation about his ex.. she left about to away to college and basically told him they were on hold.

He said they don't really talk constantly and that she's out living her life (She's a gemini) And that he gets the occasional sobbing phone call about how she wishes she was here with him. He says she has a year left.

I told him I wasn't interested in being a filler and I'd rather just be his friend. I'm fairly certain there is another woman he's sleeping with doesn't bother me so much. I just don't understand why he outright refuses to hang out alone together... I took the sex off the table!

So you guys are both young and explored so move on its a while nother world now. Sometimes it's not meant to be.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
So you guys are both young and explored so move on its a while nother world now. Sometimes it's not meant to be.

I'm not seeking a relationship. I just want to be friends. I'm trying to figure out what is holding him back from us hanging out. It just confuses me.

Why hold on to a friendship friendship happen naturally. If you have hit that friendship phase just find someone else to talk to and be friends with that enjoys your company.

Libras care a hell of a lot about you no matter what you see in them that is confusing, theres always a reason behind it. the best way to be with a libra man is to be yourself, be optimistic, don't complain and don't be too pushy.. his heart will open to you in many ways. they will become moody at times, you just have to live through it and be that guidance for him. if you can't handle that then there is no point even trying. Libras demand the same respect as they give you and feel strongly about it. we are extremely deep thinkers, highly intuitive and always curious of what others think of us. if they feel you are judging them (which they know you are) they will immediately turn the other way to avoid conflict however depending on the situation some libras will fight to prove a point and will make it clear. if you treat us the way we want to be treated then you will have no problems and that will benefit you also because thats when they will show their true love and will do anything to make you happy. you may find us a bit strange and dull at times but it shouldn't be taken to heart.. theres always another side to a libra and if you show him true love then he will forever be grateful to you 🙂 - I'm a male Libra/Aries moon. MC in Cancer and Libra ascendant.

p/s for all of you that are wondering, Libras love to be social but also are very independent hence why we are so laid back and love to be alone.. we like to chill. because constant demand in conversation is not entirely our cup of tea.. so to speak. the best way to deal with that is to be chill with us : ) if you can respect that, you will experience a whole different side...and a good one. (if you like netflix and cuddles were that type of person haha. we like a sense of diversity especially in relationships one where its not so talkative all the time. - theres always a time and place for that so Just go with the flow and you will be fine ^_^

@beerus thank you! I'm giving him his space and figure he'll come around when he is ready.

The part that perplexes me is that he won't hang out privately... I can't place it and my only thought is perhaps he doesn't trust himself... where he's still in "limbo" with his ex Gemini.

I've focused on friendship... but I'd lie if I didn't say it hurts my feelings a little that he won't hang out.

I don't want to give up the friendship because it means a lot to me. So, time.. I guess.

Posted by herlimbicmind
He's libra sun/cap rising/Virgo venus/ Aries moon...

We've connected a lot but He refuses to hang out alone together.

The first (only) time we did we slept together.

We talk ALL DAY. He tells me really deep stuff about himself. We chat and connect well in public settings but I mention just the two of us hanging out and having a fire and he shuts it down, every time... I even told him I'm not interested in the second part.

It it possible he is shutting me down because he feels too much?

He's kind of in limbo from a past relationship.

he's got a lot going on besides his sun in libra ... read up on his other planets too and you might find a lead to an answer ... if he's Capricorn rising he will be very cautious - maybe he's just being cautious about jumping into something new too soon - I think you should roll with whatever and not be demanding - find ways to compromise ...

I'm a Sun Libra Cap Rising Virgo.. my point of view as a libra , don't let him talk about his ex it messin with his head... I'm currently seeing a cancer and it bothers me when she ask about my ex.

And also we like to hang out in a group because thats when he can be ourselves if he think like me he want to let you know what type of person he is , we are very shy when we are alone with the person we like , get to know him and slowly get in that circle .

Virgo Venus could be adding to it as well.

I'm a Virgo Venus as well.

I do apologize I'm kinda new to this , seem interesting

Hey, thanks everyone!

Our social circle keeps becoming smaller and smaller. I met someone at a family function last night and made plans to hang out and found out later (from him) that's she been one of his best friends for years! So, that'll be interesting today!

I've noticed that he gets super chatty with me through text for 4-5 days straight and then disappears for a few days. At first I would think it was something I said (Sag here... not much of a filter) but he comes back after a couple days chatty as ever.

I really enjoy him. He is tough for me to figure out sometimes, though, and I'm a good read of people!

Sounds like he enjoys your company & cares about you. He's definitely processing his emotions with his ex. In his mind, they're not completely over. Sounds like he doesn't want to lead you on. Stay friends with him if you can't handle that. If not, find another friend. Have you outright asked him if he wants to be more than friends with you?

About the super chatty part for a few days then disappears- I wouldn't read into that too much. The Leebs I know can be like that with friends. They need a little space & time to reflect.

When a Libra guy chat like that and non stop , u have to throw in some story of your own lol he's running out of story to tell you . When we all chatty up , we like you there no doubt but disappear afterward is the sign that we need to have space and have more story to tell you cause we afraid we might bored you out.

This guy gets me.

I asked him what was going on between us. He told me he was a loner through and through and that he hadn't given anyone an honest shot in a long while and didn't see it changing soon. We later deduced that he isn't a loner and actually does get lonely, he's hung up on his past relationship.

He is sleeping with (occasionally) a bartender at the bar he frequents and made it clear that he "has no girlfriend" when she was introduced to me today as his girlfriend. (Long story there) He wasn't present, the owner of the bar said it...

I've told him before that I don't share well with others, so if he is interested in anything happening with us again, he needs to figure his stuff out.

I also told him I didn't mind being his friend because the meaningless sec isn't filling the void and told him not to fall in love with me.

I'm just open to where it goes. I really like him, but I'm not interested in being a filler or conquest. So,,if he man's up, we could have a good thing. In the Mean time, he's a good friend.

But he STILL won't hang out with me one on one and that perplexes me.