Advice

Ok. I need some serious advice. 😢
(This is going to be long but I would so appreciate anyone willing to read it and give feedback.)

I have been at my job for 3 1/2 years now. Not to toot my own horn, but I'm the most efficient and competent one in my department. I always get excellent reviews - this year I even got the highest raise (which was still pathetic, but whatever.) I've been very flexible with them since they have been with me in the past with my school schedule. I'm always available when they call me in. They flip my schedule around almost every week, I never complain.

When I first started I was hired fulltime. I always got overtime. But with the decline of the economy, they were cutting everyone's hours and STILL I was very understanding and never complained once about my hours.

Well, recently one of my co-workers decided to take 2 months off to go to Europe. He normally does this every year around the holidays (which is a whole other issue in-itself considering he dominates everyone else's vacation time,) but this time he sprung it on everyone that he was leaving for July & August like 2-3 weeks before hand.
So needless to say, my bosses were pissed and denied his vacation. He still goes, so they talk all this shit about how he's not going to have a job when he comes back - they were basically considering it a resignation.


I was the only person left that was available to work full-time, as everyone else had found other jobs and were working part-time now due to them cutting hours... So they were seriously considering working me 6 days a week and making me leave earlier on certain days just so they wouldn't have to pay me overtime (fucking skanky, but that's how they do here.) I NEVER complained...

Eventually they hired two new people. One came from another hotel, good to go, didn't even have to train her. The other, completely fucking incompetent, dumb as shit.
They started taking my hours to give to them?! I ignored it because they only cut me from 40 to 32 at first so it wasn't that big of a deal...

(cont.)

So then the co-worker who left comes back....AND BACK ON THE FUCKING SCHEDULE the week he gets back. :/
I had a talk with my manager and was like look, I've never complained, I didn't even say anything recently when you cut me from full-time to give hours to the new girls even though I've been here 3 years and they've been here 2 weeks...
But now C is back and I know you're going to try and take more of my hours to give to him and that's not fair.

She says: well you were only getting full-time because you were covering.
I was like YEAH covering for you guys, doing you a favor...I was loyal to you, but you can't be loyal to me? I'm not going back down to 24 hours, that's not fair to me!

She basically just tried to calm me down and was like don't worry you're not going back down to 24 hours.
I told her I was fine with 30.

I take 3 days off to go visit my future college...

This week I come in, 24-fucking-hours!!!!!!!!!!!!
The co-worker that left and was allowed to come back: 32.

No one has full-time but it's still fucking BULLSHIT & I'm about to go postal.




So now I'm standing here, so pissed I'm shaking, debating if I should just walk out or not.
1. I call her and tell her I think it's bullshit
2. I write her a letter to get first thing Monday morning.

I decided I'm going with the letter probably cause I don't think I can remain calm enough to speak to her professionally. I just don't know what to say. I need advice. 😢

I really don't want the letter to sound angry. But I do want to be clear if they're going to give him full time and not me that they can consider the letter my notice.

Fuck them. They're dirtbags.

Don't walk out. That's bad regardless. Start looking for a new job if you haven't already. If you have been in it for three years you'd be valuable to their competitors as well. Bite your tongue and bide your time until you get a new job. You have reason to be upset but don't hurt yourself in the fallout. Three years is a long time to burn a reference.

*sigh* everyone told me I should have said stuff earlier because now they're under the impression they'll get away with it.

We just switched managers kind of - our GM is now like "area manager" so the AGM moved into his spot so-to-speak.
I'm thinking about saying something to her, but then also calling him and letting him know what's going on because he would have never let the co-worker come back...she only did because she's hot for him.

I guess what pisses me off even more is the fact that the co-worker who left HATES it here and always purposely does not do his job...He doesn't give a shit. He has his real estate and broker's license but is too lazy and unmotivated so he works here and resents this place as he sees it as a joke.

SO WTF :/ I'm ready to punch him out too

Thanks everyone. How about I write the letter and paste it here and you can tell me if I should leave it for her or not??

LS- my boss is a Scorp too.

"J,
I am very disappointed to see that you have me scheduled back down to 24 hours this week, especially after we talked about this a couple weeks ago and you assured me this would not be happening. I feel like after working here for over 3 years, always having been flexible and loyal, I should receive the same type of loyalty from this company.

I have never been one to complain, but I feel this is completely unjust. It doesn't make sense that an employee would be denied vacation, leave for 2 months, and then come back and get all of his hours back. Meanwhile, those who were here, getting their schedules jerked around and working extra hours to cover shifts now have their hours shaved away since he has been allowed to come back. You already know what type of an employee I am. I am rarely late, I never call off, I cover for every one else when they don't show up and/or take vacations. I have always been loyal to this company and most of all to you. I am sincerely offended by this. As I told you previously, I'm not expecting 40 hours anymore. I would be happy with 30. But 24 hours, to me, is unacceptable. If this is going to continue, I will be forced to seek out other employment."

??Good start—

I advise you to channel your anger into more vocaroo rapping!

Also, don't threaten to seek out other employment unless you don't care if you get fired. Threats like that give them only a few options... either they cave in to your demands or they replace/fire you before you quit and leave them short.

Posted by Tahlia
ok that is good!!! and u don't have to listen to me, but can i just add my 2 cents....

"Meanwhile, those who were here, getting their schedules jerked around and working extra hours to cover shifts now have their hours shaved away since he has been allowed to come back."

^^^ instead of saying 'getting our schedules jerked around', i think u should say: "I was very accommodating to this company when Mike (whoever) abruptly took his vacation. I now feel my efforts have gone without appreciation, and I am very disappointed to see the direction this company is going. I am punctual, reliable, loyal, hard working, and I cannot help but to lose trust in you, and this company after this incident."

then u can add the last part like "I sincerely hope we can come to a mutual agreement on this issue; otherwise I will be forced to seek out other employment."

and u should def send it

Oooh I like that. haha you're way more professional than me. I'm just like this is BULLSHIT

Bri, i would shorten that letter bigtime and actually leave out as much emotion as you can. Stick to the facts, not how the facts make you feel. Finally, my focus of that letter would be that you had agreed on the 30 hours.

Posted by LibraSid
I advise you to channel your anger into more vocaroo rapping!

Also, don't threaten to seek out other employment unless you don't care if you get fired. Threats like that give them only a few options... either they cave in to your demands or they replace/fire you before you quit and leave them short.

They won't fire me. They don't fire people here... and I'm not kidding.
She's either going to have a meeting with me and try and smooth things over or she's going to tell me to get over it and thats the way it is... "that's the way it is everywhere" her famous response.

I don't just want to tell her I'm offended, I want her to know there will be a consequence if I don't get what I asked for, and what I deserve (in the very least.)
Is there a better way to say it maybe?

& thanks TV 🙂

LS help. What do you think I should write then?! I don't know how not to sound pissed I guess

I've been looking for a new job since I saw they put him back on the schedule. But there's not much advertised :/
I might end up just going around to hotels in the area.



If she just brushes me off, I will probably write my GM an email or call him at the other hotel and let him know that I gave my Scorp boss the letter & expressed my concerns...
I know he will agree with me. He's an asshole gemini, but he likes me for some reason and he doesn't like the co-worker...he was against him coming back in the first place...if it was up to him he wouldn't still be here.
As much as I hated working for him, I'd do it for hours....maybe he'd transfer me over there. The sales mgr there loves me too & fought for me to get a sales coordinator position that the Scorp declined because I'm leaving in 8 months (understandable.)

:/ I always liked her. She's always tried to accommodate everyone up here.

I know she's under a lot of pressure right now with the switch, and I feel bad for her - she's doing like 3 peoples jobs right now. But I can't let them get away with this. It's bullshit & it's not fair. I'm loyal, I'm reliable, and I'm the best one here doing what I do. If they aren't going to return the respect and loyalty...I don't even want to work for them anymore. I will find other employment and I will do the bare minimum in the meantime...


I just wish I had a tactful way to tell her this. Tact is not my expertise

THANK YOU LS ♥

Let everyone here on DXP sign it. Petition for 60hrs a week and $ 20 raise. 😛

Haha Beers ♥
But I'm not even asking for that much!!


I don't think I'm being a whiner or a premadonna. I don't have this delusional inflated view of myself as an employee. I just want the loyalty and respect returned! That's fucking all. :/

30 vs 40 hours, or even 24 vs 30 hours is a matter of like $ 100 or less. To them that's nothing. That's not even a room night here.

To me, $ 100 is a big deal! That's $ 200 a paycheck I'm short...
I'm bad at math, but is that not like 30% of my fucking income?!

Lol thank youuu

It's hard to leave him out of it because he is the reason there is a problem!

He planned his trip, bought tickets, etc. KNOWING that the Scorp had her own personal vacation planned for a week during this period (which she never gets to do btw,) as well as the fact that our GM was leaving and the Scorp would have to be going to trainings and having a double workload and would not be able to cover the Front as she was doing before...

They denied his vacation and he was told if he went anyways, it would be considered a resignation. He went.
They ran their mouths to everyone that he would not be returning.

Other employees were reluctant to help out and take extra shifts or switch their schedules because they were worried that she would do what she's now doing.

That left me to cover for everyone. I never complained. I did a lot of extra shit to help her out as well...some of her reports, dealt with travel agents, dealt with some meeting room shit, etc.

If he had not left, they would not have hired new people.
If he had not come back, I would still have my hours covering his...

She literally told me and several others that if he did come back, he would be "taking what he can get" hours wise.



SURE FUCKING LOOKS LIKE IT

He has told her he will not take less than 32 hours. & he got just that.
I will tell her the same thing. Why the fuck not?

I think the fact that the guy is the problem is obvious, no?

My main problem: she told me it wasn't going to go down like this. Basically lied to my face.

& she tells me everyday she wishes she could clone me and she doesn't know what she's going to do when I leave and blah blah blah... I just want to scream fuck you now

LS's letter rocked hardcore. It oozes confidence and strength.

Posted by Shadows
I think the fact that the guy is the problem is obvious, no?

Right. So it's hard to "leave him out of it" when I address the situation. Because he is "it" essentially.

But thats why i feel you should leave it out. It just has kind of a petty feel to it and i think the main reason you want to include it is because it pisses you off so much..and rightfully so.

*Screams*


How did I miss this!

Okay, let me read ...

See, there are so many factors that are contributing to the problem...people taking vacations, maybe not as much work, not enough money coming in to pay the salaries. BUT, your boss still agreed to 30 hours a week knowing all of the factors. Nothing has changed since that conversation as far as you know.

Therefore, the bitch owes ya!

It wasn't a request-agreement conversation.

I just told her I was fine with the fact that she cut me from 40 to 30 because I was starting classes again anyways. Not a big deal. But I was concerned that when the other employee returned I would get cut back further to 24 or less - which would not be right because I had been covering everyone elses asses.

She said that would not happen. That's exactly what happened.

FWIW the Scorp is really not like that. She really cares about people. This is not an easy job for her. She started here when this was a family run hotel...now it's corporate and she really isn't corporate material. They know she's not too. That's why she was not offered the GM position and instead our GM was made "area manger" for both hotels.

I feel bad for her honestly. But she needs to grow a pair & have some fucking loyalty for someone who has covered her ass more times than I can even count.

She can't even bring herself to fire the new chick who has less intelligence than a fucking sea sponge just because "she has a lot of personal problems"

Okay, maybe I'm the outside opinion here but I don't think that calling your boss is the answer but I don't think writing a later to her is the answer either.

I've been in your shoes actually and that's why I say this. Its just my opinion but I think you should look for another job BUT don't quit this one until you find one and you are surely employed first. Then you get give the ones you are with 3 weeks notice and then you are out. I say this simply because of what you wrote in your OP -- yes, you've never complained and you've alwways gotten the best reviews and you always do the 'right thing' on the job. Unfortunately, most of the time (not all the time) but people like that seem to be the ones who are always getting the short end-of-the-stick. Why, because knows that they can always count on you regardless because ... you don't complain.

Once that impression is made, they feel that reagardless to whatever ever changes are made, you will find someway to work through it. This is good because it establishes loyality but bad because you are seen as the 'good old girl'.

Do you see what I mean? Without including other details, I think you shouldn't say a word (because you have already spoken to her about this, so she already knows, right? What else is there to talk about?) and just gone on working the job WHILE looking for another form of employment -- giving your 3-weeks notice speaks volumes.

She does hate when people go over her head. The other girl did that...when they first started cutting hours.
The GM had a crush on her I think, so he talked to the Scorp and the girl was eventually given the hours she wanted.

But the Scorp got her back eventually by scheduling her only on the specific days she asked off.

& shrugged when confronted...she was like "she wanted extra hours"

*cue evil cackle*

Like I said, everything else aside here, this is my opinion. If you want to write the letter, then do it but I honestly don't think it will help the matter. All it will do is let your boss know what you were thinking ... but that was alread established when you spoke before.

To do it again would make it seem as if you are angry and if your boss has already given you 24 hours after you said you wouldn't take 24 hours, I can see where things will end up with writing that letter.

Yes, work the job until you are able to get out of there -- with another job that is.

Thanks Domi and Cappie

That bitch just called to have me do some dirty work for her...

Posted by brianafay
Thanks Domi and Cappie

No problem 🙂 Like I said, I only purpose the letter will serve is to get out your anger but if you've already referenced this to her already and your schedule will still put on 24 hours and extra hours were given to the other guy, than I don't think you should be revising a letter but revising your resume.

I didn't bring it up because I could hear she was with her family in the background. I was just really short with her.

I'm only going to leave her the letter so I feel at ease that I have properly communicated my concerns with her. It's like giving her a last chance. & now I'll have written proof that I requested something specifically and was ignored.

*shrugs* I don't really care if she responds or not.

Posted by brianafay
I'm only going to leave her the letter so I feel at ease that I have properly communicated my concerns with her. It's like giving her a last chance. & now I'll have written proof that I requested something specifically and was ignored.

*shrugs* I don't really care if she responds or not.

Ok 🙂 If thats what you need to do then do it but just remember not to expect anything to change. If it does, great but I wouldn't bank on it.

You're upset right now and I don't blame you, I would be pissed off too.

Yeah, and conveys a message to her: I'm serious & I'm not going to be quiet about it anymore.

They might see this position as completely and easily replaceable...but I don't think I'm easily replaceable. They'll go through a dozen before they get another like me.

(that's not an inflated ego, that's me knowing my worth.)

Posted by domino_O

Posted by brianafay
That bitch just called to have me do some dirty work for her...

lol. Just do it. And request pay for it (i've never filled in for someone, but I've heard that you don't get paid for it?).

Start searching for a new job. You are at a hotel right? Lol, you'll easily find a new job with 3.5 years of experience.

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I agree with Domino, just do it and get paid for it. Search for a new job soon, I wouldn't hang in there because what you want from the company you are working for may not be what they have planned for you.

Just keep that in mind.

And when I come in on Monday she'll have already read the letter and know where I stand. It's up to her if she wants to talk to me about it or not.

Right.

Hey, I spent nearly 8 years with a company until I just got tired 😉

Damn ... nearly 8 years ....

Shit I was way to young to be with them anyway lol. I knew I should've got the hell out of there a while ago but loyality kept me there. hahaha, I was still a teenager when I was with them ^_^. OMG, a teenager around all those old battle-axes and bastards.

No wonder I feel so damn old but I'm barely in my mid-twenties lol.