@Walk_on_by
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Are there any Fathers on DXP?
Libra4rmTX for sure.
Posted by Saturn_Returns
That alone should tell you something about dxp.
100%
That's because we men do not like to talk about that type stuff. We keep our family business off the interwebs. What stays home stays home. A lot of y'all don't know I'm a grandfather too. I want my personal business and life to stay off the site. I'm private like that.
I think Ands did say he will be a father soon
Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
That's because we men do not like to talk about that type stuff. We keep our family business off the interwebs. What stays home stays home. A lot of y'all don't know I'm a grandfather too. I want my personal business and life to stay off the site. I'm private like that.
True, thanks!
Posted by IceStorm
Men don’t make family the center of their lives the way that women do and men also tend to compartmentalize and I think that’s why they don’t talk about their kids the way that we do. MBut I highly, highly, HIGHLY doubt that it means that there are more mothers than fathers on dxp, unless all the men are kids. Lol
Purely speaking for myself I am a manchild.
I certainly don't know many fathers who's kids aren't the center of their world.
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Posted by FValentina
I think Ands did say he will be a father soonLOL! Even if that were the case, one solitary dad isn't going to readdress the 'imbalance' overnight. 👶
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He will leave DXP, watch.
Posted by Saturn_Returns
Posted by IceStormMen don’t make family the center of their lives the way that women do and men also tend to compartmentalize and I think that’s why they don’t talk about their kids the way that we do.
Wrong.
Children are basically narcissistic extensions of women. Theoretically, that's why only children experience unconditional love from women (and pets don't count because they can't talk back).
That's why many mothers always act like their kids shit gold...
Also, society places far more importance on mothers being present in the child's life than men. That's why the courts are so heavily biased in favour of women, when it comes to custody disputes.
But, of course, let's sweep such truths under the carpet, and concoct alternative excuses that place women in a better light and throw some shade on men.
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Ffs why take the bait, here comes the shit storm. It'll keep my thread bumped at least.
Narcissistic parent's don't love their children unconditionally, they love them based on how much value they provide to the parent.
Based post otherwise...
Posted by Som
Libra4rmTX for sure.
I think he has a little boy and seems like a good dad 👍
Posted by poppyflower
Posted by Midnite_Riser
Posted by Som
Libra4rmTX for sure.Gah damn way to throw him under the bus
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How so?
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I’ve no idea what that meant either, poppy 😏
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Posted by Som
Libra4rmTX for sure.Gah damn way to throw him under the bus
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How so?
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Maybe Libraman didn't want to contribute to the thread.
Posted by LaGenereuz
Posted by Walk_on_by
Posted by IceStorm
Men don’t make family the center of their lives the way that women do and men also tend to compartmentalize and I think that’s why they don’t talk about their kids the way that we do. MBut I highly, highly, HIGHLY doubt that it means that there are more mothers than fathers on dxp, unless all the men are kids. Lol
Purely speaking for myself I am a manchild.
I certainly don't know many fathers who's kids aren't the center of their world.
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What you said reminded me of this scene from fight club
I was hoping for the scene where he cry's on meatloafs titties.
Posted by Walk_on_by
I know every other lass on here is a single mum but are there any dads? I've never heard any of the men mention it, like ever, never ever.
Every other women on here is a mum?
Posted by Jade_Alexander
Posted by Saturn_Returns
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Posted by Saturn_Returns
Posted by IceStormMen don’t make family the center of their lives the way that women do and men also tend to compartmentalize and I think that’s why they don’t talk about their kids the way that we do.
Wrong.
Children are basically narcissistic extensions of women. Theoretically, that's why only children experience unconditional love from women (and pets don't count because they can't talk back).
That's why many mothers always act like their kids shit gold...
Also, society places far more importance on mothers being present in the child's life than men. That's why the courts are so heavily biased in favour of women, when it comes to custody disputes.
But, of course, let's sweep such truths under the carpet, and concoct alternative excuses that place women in a better light and throw some shade on men.
Someone has been listening to angry men podcasts. Lolz
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No, that's the reality.
It's funny how you didn't say the same thing about IceStorm's post. Oh, silly me, I know why...
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Because Ice Storm comment makes sense. I dont discuss my children at work unless relevant. I also feel a healthy masculine presence in a woman’s life is extremely important.click to expand
It doesn't make sense. Perhaps in your world it does, but not in mine, I do not know a lot of fathers who's kids aren't their world. It also is a fact that there are more mothers on dxp than fathers, maybe that is skewed by there being much more women. But over the years, generally there just hasn't been many dads. .
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Posted by IceStorm
Men don’t make family the center of their lives the way that women do and men also tend to compartmentalize and I think that’s why they don’t talk about their kids the way that we do. MBut I highly, highly, HIGHLY doubt that it means that there are more mothers than fathers on dxp, unless all the men are kids. Lol
Purely speaking for myself I am a manchild.
I certainly don't know many fathers who's kids aren't the center of their world.
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What you said reminded me of this scene from fight club
I was hoping for the scene where he cry's on meatloafs titties.
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Here enjoy lol
Perfection
Posted by Bumboklaat
I'll be your daddy, if you want
How many are fathers vs how many are daddy’s 😳👀😏
People around 30 aren’t really having kids nowadays. The teen pregnancy trend has stopped for both sexes.
Lots of the younger generations don’t want to be straddled to a kid unless they actually have help from a spouse.
Unlike the previous generations where we thought we could do it with or without one parent.
I’m glad to see the decline of it and happy that the younger generations are actually living their lives without making it unnecessarily complicated by adding kids when they aren’t ready for them.
Also,
People don’t bring kids up on the site much because there is always someone willing to talk crap about the kid, to get under the parents skin.
Hmm?
Posted by Midnite_RiserGah damn way to throw him under the bus
Wow
Posted by Jade_Alexander
Posted by Saturn_Returns
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Posted by Saturn_Returns
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Posted by Saturn_Returns
Posted by IceStormMen don’t make family the center of their lives the way that women do and men also tend to compartmentalize and I think that’s why they don’t talk about their kids the way that we do.
Wrong.
Children are basically narcissistic extensions of women. Theoretically, that's why only children experience unconditional love from women (and pets don't count because they can't talk back).
That's why many mothers always act like their kids shit gold...
Also, society places far more importance on mothers being present in the child's life than men. That's why the courts are so heavily biased in favour of women, when it comes to custody disputes.
But, of course, let's sweep such truths under the carpet, and concoct alternative excuses that place women in a better light and throw some shade on men.
Someone has been listening to angry men podcasts. Lolz
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No, that's the reality.
It's funny how you didn't say the same thing about IceStorm's post. Oh, silly me, I know why...
Because Ice Storm comment makes sense. I dont discuss my children at work unless relevant. I also feel a healthy masculine presence in a woman’s life is extremely important.
It makes sense to you but it doesn't mean it's completely correct.Just because you can't face certain home truths, it doesn't mean you have to direct derogatory remarks towards someone who has their eyes wide open.
I know you're a Libra but drop the passive-aggressive bullshit. I have zero tolerance for it.
Cool. I’m digging the macho man act. Are you going to tell me sexual market value is 0 as well?And thanks vey much for showing everyone why you ended up being a single mother.
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Yeah, must have been that.In all honesty, you should take a second to recognize people are far more complex. I left a cult and an abusive marriage. My ex’s mental health spiraled after his 30’s. So my choice to be single was to protect my kids, also to force him to get professional help and heal my family unit. He was willing to pull a shot gun on my face while I was pregnant in front of my child. I better have fucking left.
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And people judge women for being single parents not realizing that at times it’s to literally save their children’s’ lives ….
I hope you are now safe from the wielding gun man …
Posted by saggurl88
People around 30 aren’t really having kids nowadays. The teen pregnancy trend has stopped for both sexes.Lots of the younger generations don’t want to be straddled to a kid unless they actually have help from a spouse.
Unlike the previous generations where we thought we could do it with or without one parent.
I’m glad to see the decline of it and happy that the younger generations are actually living their lives without making it unnecessarily complicated by adding kids when they aren’t ready for them.
Also,
People don’t bring kids up on the site much because there is always someone willing to talk crap about the kid, to get under the parents skin.
This is why Republicans in America want to make abortions illegal. If people especially those in low income homes stop having kids, who will fill all the low paying jobs in places like our factories and warehouses? They want more low paid wage slaves.
Rather then the slogan "Make Ameica great again." They should just make it "Making more babies that live fruitless lives to throw into a meat grinder to fule the economy."
Posted by Bumboklaat
I'll be your daddy, if you want
Man this comment took way too long
Posted by IceStorm
Posted by Walk_on_by
Posted by Jade_Alexander
Posted by Saturn_Returns
Posted by Jade_Alexander
Posted by Saturn_Returns
Posted by IceStormMen don’t make family the center of their lives the way that women do and men also tend to compartmentalize and I think that’s why they don’t talk about their kids the way that we do.
Wrong.
Children are basically narcissistic extensions of women. Theoretically, that's why only children experience unconditional love from women (and pets don't count because they can't talk back).
That's why many mothers always act like their kids shit gold...
Also, society places far more importance on mothers being present in the child's life than men. That's why the courts are so heavily biased in favour of women, when it comes to custody disputes.
But, of course, let's sweep such truths under the carpet, and concoct alternative excuses that place women in a better light and throw some shade on men.
Someone has been listening to angry men podcasts. Lolz
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No, that's the reality.
It's funny how you didn't say the same thing about IceStorm's post. Oh, silly me, I know why...
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Because Ice Storm comment makes sense. I dont discuss my children at work unless relevant. I also feel a healthy masculine presence in a woman’s life is extremely important.
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It doesn't make sense. Perhaps in your world it does, but not in mine, I do not know a lot of fathers who's kids aren't their world. It also is a fact that there are more mothers on dxp than fathers, maybe that is skewed by there being much more women. But over the years, generally there just hasn't been many dads. .
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You’re not the brightest crayon in the box.The point of my comment was you can’t say that it’s a fact that there are more mothers than fathers on dxp unless you have actually taken a poll and gathered data. Have you taken a poll? 🤔 Or are you only basing this on who has mentioned their kids on the forum?
My only point was just because you don’t see as many men talk about their kids on dxp means absolutely nothing.
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I'm tryna gather data you silly sausage. Meanwhile you're making a statement that there are the same amount of dads as there are mothers. Hilarious.
I have a kid and I'm a guy, but this isn't my dxp account.
She isn't really mine and she's horrible.
-Chris, but people call me Hayden
PS I can understand why people might not want to talk about kids on a place like this. Some of you are desperate with value problems.
Posted by Saturn_Returns
Posted by IceStormMen don’t make family the center of their lives the way that women do and men also tend to compartmentalize and I think that’s why they don’t talk about their kids the way that we do.
Wrong.
Children are basically narcissistic extensions of women. Theoretically, that's why only children experience unconditional love from women (and pets don't count because they can't talk back).
That's why many mothers always act like their kids shit gold...
Also, society places far more importance on mothers being present in the child's life than men. That's why the courts are so heavily biased in favour of women, when it comes to custody disputes.
But, of course, let's sweep such truths under the carpet, and concoct alternative excuses that place women in a better light and throw some shade on men.
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weird. when I was watching that Chris watts case, they said there were studies about men killing not only their wives but little kids as well coz exactly as you phrased, that they are deemed extensions of the woman so if the man had to get rid of her, he tends also to get rid of her 'extension(s).'
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Posted by Saturn_Returns
Posted by IceStormMen don’t make family the center of their lives the way that women do and men also tend to compartmentalize and I think that’s why they don’t talk about their kids the way that we do.
Wrong.
Children are basically narcissistic extensions of women. Theoretically, that's why only children experience unconditional love from women (and pets don't count because they can't talk back).
That's why many mothers always act like their kids shit gold...
Also, society places far more importance on mothers being present in the child's life than men. That's why the courts are so heavily biased in favour of women, when it comes to custody disputes.
But, of course, let's sweep such truths under the carpet, and concoct alternative excuses that place women in a better light and throw some shade on men.
weird. when I was watching that Chris watts case, they said there were studies about men killing not only their wives but little kids as well coz exactly as you phrased, that they are deemed extensions of the woman so if the man had to get rid of her, he tends also to get rid of her 'extension(s).'
Do you spend most of your days reaching and deflecting to complement the alternative reality swirling in your head?
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deflecting?
it's not an off-rail response
@Saturn_Returns
here ya go professor but i gotta dig up the docu vid coz there's a lot of those vids out there but the one with the specific phrasing a bit tricky to track down
"In most cases of familicide, the spouse was the primary source of the offenders' anger, where the children were viewed as supporters or extensions of their mother (Wilson et al., 1995, p.289)."
-Wilson, M., Daly, M., & Daniele, A. (1995). Familicide: The killing of spouse and children.
Aggressive Behavior, 21(4), 275–291.
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Posted by virgoOPPP
@Gobsmacked@Saturn_Returns
here ya go professor but i gotta dig up the docu vid coz there's a lot of those vids out there but the one with the specific phrasing a bit tricky to track down
"In most cases of familicide, the spouse was the primary source of the offenders' anger, where the children were viewed as supporters or extensions of their mother (Wilson et al., 1995, p.289)."
-Wilson, M., Daly, M., & Daniele, A. (1995). Familicide: The killing of spouse and children.
Aggressive Behavior, 21(4), 275–291.
You're completely missing the point.
You were triggered. So, instead of sticking to the subject matter at hand, you decided to direct the discussion to something else entirely - something that conveniently shifts the spotlight from what was being discussed in the first place.
That tactic is known as deflection and I called you out on it.
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i was addressing what you wrote, hence i quoted you specifically coz it caught my attention. and if i was commenting on what you wrote and it is within topic as you obvi believe, then logically it must mean that i AM on topic coz i simply responded but whatever i'll just get petty in this direction.
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@Gobsmacked@Saturn_Returns
here ya go professor but i gotta dig up the docu vid coz there's a lot of those vids out there but the one with the specific phrasing a bit tricky to track down
"In most cases of familicide, the spouse was the primary source of the offenders' anger, where the children were viewed as supporters or extensions of their mother (Wilson et al., 1995, p.289)."
-Wilson, M., Daly, M., & Daniele, A. (1995). Familicide: The killing of spouse and children.
Aggressive Behavior, 21(4), 275–291.
You're completely missing the point.
You were triggered. So, instead of sticking to the subject matter at hand, you decided to direct the discussion to something else entirely - something that conveniently shifts the spotlight from what was being discussed in the first place.
That tactic is known as deflection and I called you out on it.
i was addressing what you wrote, hence i quoted you specifically coz it caught my attention. and if i was commenting on what you wrote and it is within topic as you obvi believe, then logically it must mean that i AM on topic coz i simply responded but whatever i'll just get petty in this direction.
You didn't address anything - all you did was shift the discussion onto something else entirely that placed women in a better light (and vice versa for men). That's blatant deflection.
Btw, according to more recent sources than the 30 year-old, antiquated information you presented, there were more female perpetrators of child abuse, in the US, in 2021. If you do a web search, you can find the official stats yourself.
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didn't say anything otherwise tho.
and in fact, female perpetrators themselves see their own children as extensions of themselves as well.
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I know every other lass on here is a single mum but are there any dads? I've never heard any of the men mention it, like ever, never ever.