PandasRule
@PandasRule
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Attention seeking boyfriend
Why is this even bothering you? Ignore it! As long as he's sympathetic to your issues and not immediately turning it back around to him. Or you could joke about it. "Oh, so YOUR knee hurts now?" "Oh, it's YOUR time of the month now?" and then go on to say why this has been annoying you. And finally context - is everything else ok in your relationship? Then let it go. It seems that now you're aware of it, you're hyper-focused on it.
People want everything perfect. It's not. If he's a good person and everything else is going well and this is all you've got. Sorry, but not sorry.
Haha! I thought of that, too!
Why attention seeker....? Are you one, since you started it?
He is most likely a super empath, who feels what you are feeling. His pain is as genuine as yours. It's the opposite of a narcissist, by the way.
Some people just can't be pleased, and find any fucking reason to complain...
*eye roll*
He is most likely a super empath, who feels what you are feeling. His pain is as genuine as yours. It's the opposite of a narcissist, by the way.
Some people just can't be pleased, and find any fucking reason to complain...
*eye roll*
TBH, your reaction to his pain lacks any form of empathy. It's like you are the only person in the world entitled to voice it!
What sort of attention did he get from you, anyway? Reading how dismissive you are, most likely negative! Yeah, he's probably a sucker for it! Carry on, and you'll be single soon.
What sort of attention did he get from you, anyway? Reading how dismissive you are, most likely negative! Yeah, he's probably a sucker for it! Carry on, and you'll be single soon.
He's a water sign. He "feels" your pain lol You can't be the only victim here, he's one too ya know! 😆
As a Cancer moon, I just wanna wrap a blankie around him and make him a cup of herbal tea.
🤣funny how he's feeling everything you're feeling too all of a sudden. What's going on with us gems lately. I spraint my knee too and moving around on one crutch too. Coincidence I would say.
Sorry for your lost.
I'm not sure what answer you're looking forward to with this though.
Sorry for your lost.
I'm not sure what answer you're looking forward to with this though.
Posted by _elle_
You know, you could really use this to your advantage.
Start flipping these things to really positive experiences and see if he matches those too.
Like....
I got a promotion at work!
I won the lottery!
I can run a mile in 4 minutes!
I found a $ 20 on the sidewalk!
I won a free spa day!
🤣😂🤣😂
I found a new boyfriend!
😅😂
That sounds super annoying. Nope, he is not empath, just a narcissist who can’t help anyone be the center of attention. A guy who is comparing period pain with “something wrong he ate a few days ago”? Wow. Drop him. You deserve better. One of my exes was like this. At first I didn’t mind but then...I mean, let’s imagine you are giving birth. He will be supportive or he will have some other imaginary pain lol? I would say, he would try to pull the card “I suffer even more”.
Posted by _elle_
lol that is really annoying.
I just read the OP
So annoying ..... I’ve a friend like this, if ever (which is rarely) mention anything about my health, she’s onto with “yes I have that too”
etc etc. I just don’t mention anything like that now.
She calls herself an empath 🤣🥴
Posted by goldenfish
That sounds super annoying. Nope, he is not empath, just a narcissist who can’t help anyone be the center of attention. A guy who is comparing period pain with “something wrong he ate a few days ago”? Wow. Drop him. You deserve better. One of my exes was like this. At first I didn’t mind but then...I mean, let’s imagine you are giving birth. He will be supportive or he will have some other imaginary pain lol? I would say, he would try to pull the card “I suffer even more”.
Exactly ! My pain is worse than yours 🙄
Yes, Imagine if they had a baby together?
Lol
I don't think you should drop him because of it. Just call him out on the behavior or tell him this is your time to complain about something, he can complain tomorrow 😆
You needing time to grieve over an ex by yourself would've annoyed me. I'm surprised he gave you the time by yourself. I wouldn't of.
You needing time to grieve over an ex by yourself would've annoyed me. I'm surprised he gave you the time by yourself. I wouldn't of.
Posted by saggurl88
I don't think you should drop him because of it. Just call him out on the behavior or tell him this is your time to complain about something, he can complain tomorrow 😆
You needing time to grieve over an ex by yourself would've annoyed me. I'm surprised he gave you the time by yourself. I wouldn't of.
...but it’s not just an ex, it’s an ex who passed away. That’s a huge thing to deal with.
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88
I don't think you should drop him because of it. Just call him out on the behavior or tell him this is your time to complain about something, he can complain tomorrow 😆
You needing time to grieve over an ex by yourself would've annoyed me. I'm surprised he gave you the time by yourself. I wouldn't of.
...but it’s not just an ex, it’s an ex who passed away. That’s a huge thing to deal with.click to expand
She would've had to go through it with me by her side. She can stay in bed all day at MY HOUSE and grieve lol
"been seeing a Pisces man for quite a few months now... The last person I was in love with died a few years"
Around that time, I asked for space for that week, I needed to be alone with my thoughts & family. He checks in that week & when I ask him how he was, he tells me he's been feeling low & depressed for that week also... No reason, just did. Which kind of annoyed me because I'm already grief strikken, I don't need the weight of his sadness on my shoulders too."
Maybe he was depressed to have a girlfriend who disposes of him for days when she wants to concentrate exclusively on a dead lover that she claims was last person she was in love with??
Have you tried putting yourself into his shoes for a change? How do you think it makes him feel? Why the fuck are you stringing this person along, that you clearly neither appreciate nor respect? Feeling lonely? Attention seeking? Huh?
Around that time, I asked for space for that week, I needed to be alone with my thoughts & family. He checks in that week & when I ask him how he was, he tells me he's been feeling low & depressed for that week also... No reason, just did. Which kind of annoyed me because I'm already grief strikken, I don't need the weight of his sadness on my shoulders too."
Maybe he was depressed to have a girlfriend who disposes of him for days when she wants to concentrate exclusively on a dead lover that she claims was last person she was in love with??
Have you tried putting yourself into his shoes for a change? How do you think it makes him feel? Why the fuck are you stringing this person along, that you clearly neither appreciate nor respect? Feeling lonely? Attention seeking? Huh?
Posted by Undine "been seeing a Pisces man for quite a few months now... The last person I was in love with died a few years"
Around that time, I asked for space for that week, I needed to be alone with my thoughts & family. He checks in that week & when I ask him how he was, he tells me he's been feeling low & depressed for that week also... No reason, just did. Which kind of annoyed me because I'm already grief strikken, I don't need the weight of his sadness on my shoulders too."
Maybe he was depressed to have a girlfriend who disposed of him for days when she wants to concentrate exclusively on a dead lover that she claims was last person she was in love with??
Have you tried putting yourself into his shoes for a change? How do you think it makes him feel? Why the fuck are you stringing this person along, that you clearly neither appreciate nor respect? Feeling lonely? Attention seeking? Huh?
Actually, I would agree on that one. I think, noone is obligated to deal with another person baggage. Me, personally, I would not proceed with anyone who has to take grief time (with all due respect). But my earlier comment is still valid.
Lol as someone who’s chart at first glance can come off as emotionally void, I actually like how Pisces can be emotional sponges and all. Sometimes it feels good to have someone to rant to who can really empathize from the core. You should also get pissy at him and see his response, it’s very interesting. I don’t think I would like them at all for long term relationships tho. They can be depressing too when they’re too in their emotions.
Posted by GC11_
This thread makes me so glad I've never liked the soft-boy type. 🤮🤮🤮
That is called generalization, hard types aren't perfect either.
If you ever get pregnant he will be one of those dudes who gains 35pds to the gut and experiences phantom labor pains lmao
Posted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88
I don't think you should drop him because of it. Just call him out on the behavior or tell him this is your time to complain about something, he can complain tomorrow 😆
You needing time to grieve over an ex by yourself would've annoyed me. I'm surprised he gave you the time by yourself. I wouldn't of.
...but it’s not just an ex, it’s an ex who passed away. That’s a huge thing to deal with.
She would've had to go through it with me by her side. She can stay in bed all day at MY HOUSE and grieve lolclick to expand
Sometimes you need to be alone to grieve too...although i’m sure your bed is a lovely place to be 🥰
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88
I don't think you should drop him because of it. Just call him out on the behavior or tell him this is your time to complain about something, he can complain tomorrow 😆
You needing time to grieve over an ex by yourself would've annoyed me. I'm surprised he gave you the time by yourself. I wouldn't of.
...but it’s not just an ex, it’s an ex who passed away. That’s a huge thing to deal with.
She would've had to go through it with me by her side. She can stay in bed all day at MY HOUSE and grieve lol
Sometimes you need to be alone to grieve too...although i’m sure your bed is a lovely place to be 🥰click to expand
Maybe I'm just not that understanding then
Posted by Undine
Why attention seeker....? Are you one, since you started it?
He is most likely a super empath, who feels what you are feeling. His pain is as genuine as yours. It's the opposite of a narcissist, by the way.
Some people just can't be pleased, and find any fucking reason to complain...
*eye roll*
I was going to say maybe he’s an empath. I’ve had it we’re I’ve felt shoulder pain no injury only to be told my ex had injured said shoulder.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88
I don't think you should drop him because of it. Just call him out on the behavior or tell him this is your time to complain about something, he can complain tomorrow 😆
You needing time to grieve over an ex by yourself would've annoyed me. I'm surprised he gave you the time by yourself. I wouldn't of.
...but it’s not just an ex, it’s an ex who passed away. That’s a huge thing to deal with.
She would've had to go through it with me by her side. She can stay in bed all day at MY HOUSE and grieve lol
Sometimes you need to be alone to grieve too...although i’m sure your bed is a lovely place to be 🥰
Maybe I'm just not that understanding thenclick to expand
Did you lose many people?
Posted by Undine
"been seeing a Pisces man for quite a few months now... The last person I was in love with died a few years"
Around that time, I asked for space for that week, I needed to be alone with my thoughts & family. He checks in that week & when I ask him how he was, he tells me he's been feeling low & depressed for that week also... No reason, just did. Which kind of annoyed me because I'm already grief strikken, I don't need the weight of his sadness on my shoulders too."
Maybe he was depressed to have a girlfriend who disposes of him for days when she wants to concentrate exclusively on a dead lover that she claims was last person she was in love with??
Have you tried putting yourself into his shoes for a change? How do you think it makes him feel? Why the fuck are you stringing this person along, that you clearly neither appreciate nor respect? Feeling lonely? Attention seeking? Huh?
Yeah I was thinking op is not ready to be in a relationship
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88
I don't think you should drop him because of it. Just call him out on the behavior or tell him this is your time to complain about something, he can complain tomorrow 😆
You needing time to grieve over an ex by yourself would've annoyed me. I'm surprised he gave you the time by yourself. I wouldn't of.
...but it’s not just an ex, it’s an ex who passed away. That’s a huge thing to deal with.
She would've had to go through it with me by her side. She can stay in bed all day at MY HOUSE and grieve lol
Sometimes you need to be alone to grieve too...although i’m sure your bed is a lovely place to be 🥰
Maybe I'm just not that understanding then
Did you lose many people?click to expand
An ex being gone for years and my current partner needing time to grieve the loss, year after year, BY HERSELF, is what I don't have the understanding about.
I would leave her by herself everyday, if that was the case. Why take just the one day to grieve, when she can have forever. 😄
She can grieve silently. I wouldn't have any problems with that, but grief interrupting the current relationship would be a problem. This is an ex, not a beloved family member.
You can even take time off to grieve a pet, and I'll be understanding. But not for an ex 😒 Go cry in the shower real quick.
"I'm not really sure how to approach it... "
You approach it the same way you do anything that is bothering you in the relationship. You communicate with your partner.
You approach it the same way you do anything that is bothering you in the relationship. You communicate with your partner.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88
I don't think you should drop him because of it. Just call him out on the behavior or tell him this is your time to complain about something, he can complain tomorrow 😆
You needing time to grieve over an ex by yourself would've annoyed me. I'm surprised he gave you the time by yourself. I wouldn't of.
...but it’s not just an ex, it’s an ex who passed away. That’s a huge thing to deal with.
She would've had to go through it with me by her side. She can stay in bed all day at MY HOUSE and grieve lol
Sometimes you need to be alone to grieve too...although i’m sure your bed is a lovely place to be 🥰
Maybe I'm just not that understanding then
Did you lose many people?
An ex being gone for years and my current partner needing time to grieve the loss, year after year, BY HERSELF, is what I don't have the understanding about.
I would leave her by herself everyday, if that was the case. Why take just the one day to grieve, when she can have forever. 😄
She can grieve silently. I wouldn't have any problems with that, but grief interrupting the current relationship would be a problem. This is an ex, not a beloved family member.
You can even take time off to grieve a pet, and I'll be understanding. But not for an ex 😒 Go cry in the shower real quick.click to expand
Grief is a very personal thing
We all do it differently
💙
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88
I don't think you should drop him because of it. Just call him out on the behavior or tell him this is your time to complain about something, he can complain tomorrow 😆
You needing time to grieve over an ex by yourself would've annoyed me. I'm surprised he gave you the time by yourself. I wouldn't of.
...but it’s not just an ex, it’s an ex who passed away. That’s a huge thing to deal with.
She would've had to go through it with me by her side. She can stay in bed all day at MY HOUSE and grieve lol
Sometimes you need to be alone to grieve too...although i’m sure your bed is a lovely place to be 🥰
Maybe I'm just not that understanding then
Did you lose many people?
An ex being gone for years and my current partner needing time to grieve the loss, year after year, BY HERSELF, is what I don't have the understanding about.
I would leave her by herself everyday, if that was the case. Why take just the one day to grieve, when she can have forever. 😄
She can grieve silently. I wouldn't have any problems with that, but grief interrupting the current relationship would be a problem. This is an ex, not a beloved family member.
You can even take time off to grieve a pet, and I'll be understanding. But not for an ex 😒 Go cry in the shower real quick.
Grief is a very personal thing
We all do it differently
💙click to expand
Of course, I can understand that, which is why I would let them grieve by themselves without me if this was the case 🙂
Posted by Purplesky
@saggurl88 Took me 5 years to grieve my ex, it's taken me two years to grieve my grandma...wish I would of told the Virgo this. Spilled milk now.
You grieved your ex LONGER then your Grandma!—?
Posted by PurpleskyPosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88
I don't think you should drop him because of it. Just call him out on the behavior or tell him this is your time to complain about something, he can complain tomorrow 😆
You needing time to grieve over an ex by yourself would've annoyed me. I'm surprised he gave you the time by yourself. I wouldn't of.
...but it’s not just an ex, it’s an ex who passed away. That’s a huge thing to deal with.
She would've had to go through it with me by her side. She can stay in bed all day at MY HOUSE and grieve lol
Sometimes you need to be alone to grieve too...although i’m sure your bed is a lovely place to be 🥰
Maybe I'm just not that understanding then
Did you lose many people?
An ex being gone for years and my current partner needing time to grieve the loss, year after year, BY HERSELF, is what I don't have the understanding about.
I would leave her by herself everyday, if that was the case. Why take just the one day to grieve, when she can have forever. 😄
She can grieve silently. I wouldn't have any problems with that, but grief interrupting the current relationship would be a problem. This is an ex, not a beloved family member.
You can even take time off to grieve a pet, and I'll be understanding. But not for an ex 😒 Go cry in the shower real quick.
Grief is a very personal thing
We all do it differently
💙
Of course, I can understand that, which is why I would let them grieve by themselves 🙂
I like what you said because I could probably grieve and lament forever because it's not (idk about op) like I fell in love with a dream, he was an awesome man 🤍
Only MINE, MY MAN 🙂click to expand
So the Virgo isn't only yours huh? smh
Posted by PurpleskyPosted by saggurl88Posted by PurpleskyPosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88
I don't think you should drop him because of it. Just call him out on the behavior or tell him this is your time to complain about something, he can complain tomorrow 😆
You needing time to grieve over an ex by yourself would've annoyed me. I'm surprised he gave you the time by yourself. I wouldn't of.
...but it’s not just an ex, it’s an ex who passed away. That’s a huge thing to deal with.
She would've had to go through it with me by her side. She can stay in bed all day at MY HOUSE and grieve lol
Sometimes you need to be alone to grieve too...although i’m sure your bed is a lovely place to be 🥰
Maybe I'm just not that understanding then
Did you lose many people?
An ex being gone for years and my current partner needing time to grieve the loss, year after year, BY HERSELF, is what I don't have the understanding about.
I would leave her by herself everyday, if that was the case. Why take just the one day to grieve, when she can have forever. 😄
She can grieve silently. I wouldn't have any problems with that, but grief interrupting the current relationship would be a problem. This is an ex, not a beloved family member.
You can even take time off to grieve a pet, and I'll be understanding. But not for an ex 😒 Go cry in the shower real quick.
Grief is a very personal thing
We all do it differently
💙
Of course, I can understand that, which is why I would let them grieve by themselves 🙂
I like what you said because I could probably grieve and lament forever because it's not (idk about op) like I fell in love with a dream, he was an awesome man 🤍
Only MINE, MY MAN 🙂
So the Virgo isn't only yours huh? smh
You're asking me. I know my ex who passed away was mine, he didn't play those kinda games. 🤍click to expand
I know what you mean! Games are terrible, hope you find one who doesn't play them!
Posted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88
I don't think you should drop him because of it. Just call him out on the behavior or tell him this is your time to complain about something, he can complain tomorrow 😆
You needing time to grieve over an ex by yourself would've annoyed me. I'm surprised he gave you the time by yourself. I wouldn't of.
...but it’s not just an ex, it’s an ex who passed away. That’s a huge thing to deal with.
She would've had to go through it with me by her side. She can stay in bed all day at MY HOUSE and grieve lol
Sometimes you need to be alone to grieve too...although i’m sure your bed is a lovely place to be 🥰
Maybe I'm just not that understanding then
Did you lose many people?
An ex being gone for years and my current partner needing time to grieve the loss, year after year, BY HERSELF, is what I don't have the understanding about.
I would leave her by herself everyday, if that was the case. Why take just the one day to grieve, when she can have forever. 😄
She can grieve silently. I wouldn't have any problems with that, but grief interrupting the current relationship would be a problem. This is an ex, not a beloved family member.
You can even take time off to grieve a pet, and I'll be understanding. But not for an ex 😒 Go cry in the shower real quick.
Grief is a very personal thing
We all do it differently
💙
Of course, I can understand that, which is why I would let them grieve by themselves without me if this was the case 🙂click to expand
Naw naw naw naw nawwww grief is a personal thing that should be taken personal and be respected. Everybody in the world ain't like you. I'm definitely one who grieves alone. I don't want nobody nowhere around me in time of griefs. Im a very private person and totally a hundred percent introvert. Understand nobody have to have anybody grieving with them if it's their choice to grieve alone. I can understand grieving for an ex. What's suppose to be wrong with that?
Posted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88
I don't think you should drop him because of it. Just call him out on the behavior or tell him this is your time to complain about something, he can complain tomorrow 😆
You needing time to grieve over an ex by yourself would've annoyed me. I'm surprised he gave you the time by yourself. I wouldn't of.
...but it’s not just an ex, it’s an ex who passed away. That’s a huge thing to deal with.
She would've had to go through it with me by her side. She can stay in bed all day at MY HOUSE and grieve lol
Sometimes you need to be alone to grieve too...although i’m sure your bed is a lovely place to be 🥰
Maybe I'm just not that understanding then
Did you lose many people?
An ex being gone for years and my current partner needing time to grieve the loss, year after year, BY HERSELF, is what I don't have the understanding about.
I would leave her by herself everyday, if that was the case. Why take just the one day to grieve, when she can have forever. 😄
She can grieve silently. I wouldn't have any problems with that, but grief interrupting the current relationship would be a problem. This is an ex, not a beloved family member.
You can even take time off to grieve a pet, and I'll be understanding. But not for an ex 😒 Go cry in the shower real quick.
Grief is a very personal thing
We all do it differently
💙
Of course, I can understand that, which is why I would let them grieve by themselves without me if this was the case 🙂
Naw naw naw naw nawwww grief is a personal thing that should be taken personal and be respected. Everybody in the world ain't like you. I'm definitely one who grieves alone. I don't want nobody nowhere around me in time of griefs. Im a very private person and totally a hundred percent introvert. Understand nobody have to have anybody grieving with them if it's their choice to grieve alone. I can understand grieving for an ex. What's suppose to be wrong with that?click to expand
Extended years for a a long amount of time, like a week, is what I have a problem with.
Either way, for me it wouldn't even last long in a relationship. I know myself. I like to be made a priority, so this is my preference.
Take a day, go visit the site, cry, mourn, whatever. But if a person expects me to be there year after year, being neglected for a week while they mourn an ex, no Thanks. I pass.
We aren't compatible.
I'm selfish with my spouse and I know that and freely tell whoever I'm dating. It wouldn't be anything new to find out about me.
I don't know your communucation style , but if I were you, I'd comment about it jokingly first when he says he's feeling sick/in pain/whatever he's complaining about after you expressing it. If he didn't pick up on it, then I will talk to him about it directly.
Some men just don't get the hint
On a side note, I stopped complaining about anything in life. It feels better to me and ppl around me I believe.
good luck x
Some men just don't get the hint
On a side note, I stopped complaining about anything in life. It feels better to me and ppl around me I believe.
good luck x
Yeah who wants to compete with a ghost of a lover
Water people are so… different🥴
It’s annoying and you have every right to be annoyed. You want a rock, someone who can be strong when you are weak. And that’s not to say there cannot be a balance. Like when they are weak, you can be strong for them.
During those times, was he at least nurturing and strong for you? A shoulder to cry on?
If you ever got pregnant I hope he wouldn’t start that BS. That would probably make my eye twitch personally
It’s annoying and you have every right to be annoyed. You want a rock, someone who can be strong when you are weak. And that’s not to say there cannot be a balance. Like when they are weak, you can be strong for them.
During those times, was he at least nurturing and strong for you? A shoulder to cry on?
If you ever got pregnant I hope he wouldn’t start that BS. That would probably make my eye twitch personally
Posted by saggurl88Posted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by saggurl88
I don't think you should drop him because of it. Just call him out on the behavior or tell him this is your time to complain about something, he can complain tomorrow 😆
You needing time to grieve over an ex by yourself would've annoyed me. I'm surprised he gave you the time by yourself. I wouldn't of.
...but it’s not just an ex, it’s an ex who passed away. That’s a huge thing to deal with.
She would've had to go through it with me by her side. She can stay in bed all day at MY HOUSE and grieve lol
Sometimes you need to be alone to grieve too...although i’m sure your bed is a lovely place to be 🥰
Maybe I'm just not that understanding then
Did you lose many people?
An ex being gone for years and my current partner needing time to grieve the loss, year after year, BY HERSELF, is what I don't have the understanding about.
I would leave her by herself everyday, if that was the case. Why take just the one day to grieve, when she can have forever. 😄
She can grieve silently. I wouldn't have any problems with that, but grief interrupting the current relationship would be a problem. This is an ex, not a beloved family member.
You can even take time off to grieve a pet, and I'll be understanding. But not for an ex 😒 Go cry in the shower real quick.
Grief is a very personal thing
We all do it differently
💙
Of course, I can understand that, which is why I would let them grieve by themselves without me if this was the case 🙂
Naw naw naw naw nawwww grief is a personal thing that should be taken personal and be respected. Everybody in the world ain't like you. I'm definitely one who grieves alone. I don't want nobody nowhere around me in time of griefs. Im a very private person and totally a hundred percent introvert. Understand nobody have to have anybody grieving with them if it's their choice to grieve alone. I can understand grieving for an ex. What's suppose to be wrong with that?
Extended years for a a long amount of time, like a week, is what I have a problem with.
Either way, for me it wouldn't even last long in a relationship. I know myself. I like to be made a priority, so this is my preference.
Take a day, go visit the site, cry, mourn, whatever. But if a person expects me to be there year after year, being neglected for a week while they mourn an ex, no Thanks. I pass.
We aren't compatible.
I'm selfish with my spouse and I know that and freely tell whoever I'm dating. It wouldn't be anything new to find out about me.click to expand
Hahaha a week? I wouldn't consider that an ex let alone a friend. A stranger more likely.
I guess in this case it's to each their own. I wouldn't mind my fiance mourning a lost of an ex just as long as she don't come around me with that. I can't handle that sort of thing from nobody. I mean I respect it and let her have her space. I just like being around happy and joyful people.
I'm mildly amused that the OP is MIA.
Time and space aren't really real. That is why when you look at some Pisces they look to be 'floating' in their bodies in some sort of outer space way. This is also why Venus is exalted in Pisces - love carried up beyond the physical. Maybe he is helping to work out some of your karma on a deeper level. I once helped work out some of my fish friend's karma.
When in college I lived with a Pisces. One night I dreamed he rolled his Jeep and was killed. But when this happened during the dream, I began protesting, and corrected things so he wasn't killed. I forgot about the dream. The next day he rolled his Jeep. It was totaled, but he wasn't hurt......hmmm....... what is this world made of, really?
When in college I lived with a Pisces. One night I dreamed he rolled his Jeep and was killed. But when this happened during the dream, I began protesting, and corrected things so he wasn't killed. I forgot about the dream. The next day he rolled his Jeep. It was totaled, but he wasn't hurt......hmmm....... what is this world made of, really?
Posted by _elle_
You know, you could really use this to your advantage.
Start flipping these things to really positive experiences and see if he matches those too.
Like....
I got a promotion at work!
I won the lottery!
I can run a mile in 4 minutes!
I found a $ 20 on the sidewalk!
I won a free spa day!
🤣😂🤣😂
😂
Maybe he’s just really empathetic.
Posted by PandasRule
This is a weird one, I'm not really sure how to approach it... Everyone likes a bit of attention every now & again but this seems to be oddly convenient...
I'm a Gemini woman, been seeing a Pisces man for quite a few months now... The last person I was in love with died a few years back. What's worse is his birthday is 1 week after his death.
Around that time, I asked for space for that week, I needed to be alone with my thoughts & family. He checks in that week & when I ask him how he was, he tells me he's been feeling low & depressed for that week also... No reason, just did. Which kind of annoyed me because I'm already grief strikken, I don't need the weight of his sadness on my shoulders too.
Any time I complain of aches & pains (a regular occurrence because of my job), conveniently... He all of a sudden starts developing similar pains (despite being sat behind a desk all day. My job is physical. His is not). Anyway... Last month, I sprain my knee. I went to the hospital to get looked over, had to see an osteopath, & walk with a crutch for a couple weeks. Conveniently.... He starts complaining about how his knees hurt... Only now I've injured mine. For the same duration of my injury. I'm better again now, he hasn't me tioned his knee since.
Now this last one really ticked me off. I've been on contraception for the past 8 years & I'm relieved to say I haven't had a period in that time. Well, I've just changed my contraceptive & come on my monthly gift. I'm 4 days in. Yesterday, I get home from work, say I've felt hot, cold & a bit sick today. He knows I'm on. He says 'yeah I've felt a bit rough today...' I asked what's up. He said 'well 3 days ago I ate something, it really upset my stomach. I'm also passing blood'... 😳
What the hell do I do about captain attention seeker? I feel harsh for calling him out because all of the things he's comaining of (if true) are unpleasant. But equally, how and why is it that EVERY time I've got an issue... He's got a frigging issue??
Not even an isolated thing. Every Pisces I know is an attention seeker in 1 form or another. I already shower this guy with affection, he gives me affection... Like... There's no emotional shortage, so why does he feel the need to do this with my struggles? Every single time?
pisces is sweet. I had this type of man. When I confronted him with the same behaviour, he said that he was just not wanting me to feel alone facing so he is simply telling that so that I would not feel that I'm the only one with the problem, same goes with your pisces man, treasure him instead of scolding
There’s a difference between saying to someone “i’m sorry you’re not well/sad,
that must be difficult, what can i do to help” than every time you’re not well them minimizing your pain with theirs
The first is mature and supportive
The second is childish
that must be difficult, what can i do to help” than every time you’re not well them minimizing your pain with theirs
The first is mature and supportive
The second is childish
Posted by Undine
Why attention seeker....? Are you one, since you started it?
He is most likely a super empath, who feels what you are feeling. His pain is as genuine as yours. It's the opposite of a narcissist, by the way.
Some people just can't be pleased, and find any fucking reason to complain...
*eye roll*
Wow 😂 OK, as a spiritualist, & an empath, I KNOW there's a big difference between empathy & deciding only when you hear about the problem that it's a problem for you. If I hadn't mentioned that I'd sprained my knee or come on, & then he told me off his own back "my knees have been really sore the past 3 days, my stomachs been giving me strouble the past 3 days" before I'd even mentioned it, then I'd be absolutely with you on the empathy theory.
But alas, again... This only somehow seems to be when I've voiced my own.
No. I'm not an attention seeker at all 😂 I didn't complain about my period. Just mentioned it was happening as it put a c***block on our sex life for the week. & I was in a great deal of pain when I sprained my knee. So of course, was going to mention that to him as we chat every day that we don't see eachother. They're just things that come up In your day to day.
My problems aren't special or different, they're much the same as anyone else's 😂 but it would be nice if someone wasn't on the #MeToo when I'm feeling blue about my deceased partners death date & birthday, when I'm in pain from an injury & they're just a bit stiff because they don't stretch, & when I'm literally bleeding for the first time in 8 years. A very much isolated incident 😂 (I hope!)
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