BFFs

This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by krysrenee7 on Monday, August 29, 2011 and has 7 replies.

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@krysrenee7
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Whoever started the rumor that "Friendships last forever" was a liar!

True, the GOAL is for all friendships to last forever, BUT do they actually last for a lifetime? Usually not

Just like relationships don't always last forever, friendships are the same

Just like people complain about how they can't stand their partners/spouses, but yet stay around b/c they're more loyal to some philosophy that claims "THIS MUST LAST FOREVER," the same happens in friendships

...People settling or putting up with bull all b/c of what some magazine or book about love/loyalty said.

Meanwhile, they stay in them, only to complain & realize at the end that they were never happy
People change. Circumstances chance. Plus, there's a reason why certain people even attract or want to be friends with others in the 1st place & if that reason no longer exists or is found to be a shallow one (like the girl who only wants to be my friend b/c I'm popular OR the guy who only wants to hang with a certain group of guys b/c he sees how many chicks they get), it's even MORE likely that the friendship won't last.

Hey, I'm all for friendships lasting forever, BUT be realistic. Most don't!

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Im still best friends with all my original childhood friends to this day.I used to live right beside one of them on a street from birth until about 15yrs ago ..been through everything together ..27years..basically since I was able to play,walk or talk😉

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@iceredrobot
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Boyfriends come and go, but decent friends are hard to find. I've known my Leo BBF for 15yrs, ain't letting her go now.

Have we had fights? Sure. Got a little too friendly with each other's boyfriends? Possibly😛 But we always make up/out? At the end of the day if someone is willing to drop everything and come running when you're in need you learnt to let things roll off your back.

I find my expectations are far more realistic with my friends.

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I have Uranus in the house of friendship. I usually boot people out. I suck. 😛 I think almost all my chilhood friends have been kicked off. I just want to prove to myself that logic > sentimentality. I used to be very sentimental such that I would tolerate anything from a friend until she betrayed me. From then on, reason > sentimentality. If I smell something amiss, or I feel awful when with that person, then it's a goodbye. Strange thing that Uranus, it has a morbid fascination with cutting ties. My Uranus approves. But Uranus knows when to get back to a misunderstanding that can be salvaged.

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Oh, yeah, no such thing as a BFFs. What a load of trucker. The closest to my BFF (same sex) was someone so complimentary and so in sync we never offended each other, or if we did, made up with nary a resentment. That was a fellow Libra who just moved and was gone with the wind. Also, Sun conjunct Venus. I have that with my guy.

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Posted by LoveBucket
I think in the situations where the friendships last, those are the cases where people didn't use the word FRIEND loosely, but that they apply that term to someone who is a TRUE friend. TRUE friendships can last a lifetime.

🙂

Very true. Yes, people use the term "friend" too loosely

I agree that TRUE friendships usually last, but even true friendships aren't guaranteed no different than just b/c someone truly loves you doesn't mean that things will last.

People throw the term "Bffs" around like players use the word "love."