Complaint About Complainers

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I was just thinking of myself and my brother the other day. When it comes to general attitude, he and I couldnt be more different. He constantly complains and has to be the biggest 'bitch' I know. Love him to death, but damn, get the hell over it already. It's like one of my favorite quotes, 'Life isnt fair, kill yourself or get over it.' Harsh, but you know, who wants to hear bellyaching? I'm not suggesting unhappy people should off themselves, but it's just a point, since when did bitching start making the situation you're so unhappy about any better? Call it venting? That's just a nice term for bitching. Save it for the bff. Or is it that these very annoying complainers dont have a bff for obvious reasons and have to unload on the first poor unsuspecting person?

I like to think I rarely ever complain. No, it does happen, but it comes with a warning. Still I'm the type with a high threshold for pain and irritation. I'm not a doormat. I just change what I can, quietly, and I dont bitch about the things I cant change. There's a lot I can take without having to voice anything. It's not absense of feeling, it's just being able to deal. Ever since I can remember, I wasnt a loud, crying kid and never was a whiner. My parents say I've been self-sufficient even as a tot. I've been a firm and constant believer that if I'm unhappy, I damn well better do something about it. I dwell on what went wrong to make me unhappy for a second. Just long enough to figure out what I have to do. It just makes sense to me. I cant rely on anything else to make me happy. That for sure is proven. I wouldnt necessarily say that I'm a happy person with no reason to complain, but I'm definitely not a downer.

It's just something I've been tuned into lately - People who seem to complain constantly. Stop. Please?
Some people are clever about it too. I work with a guy who I'd say has a general cloud over his head, but he's also very funny and charming. He complains with finesse. It's still bitching though.

imo, It's a little unattractive. Errr very unattractive. I cant be bothered. In response, I usually say something really lame and excuse myself or change the subject. For friends, I'll listen and dig for encouraging words.

complaining is self-perpetuating. The #1 thing I notice about complaints... 99% of the time, it NEVER helps.

happiness is an attitude.

Complain about complainers..?

Unless you meant —nagging?? then you are a complainer too, people like to share their (worries, angst, thoughts —especially negative??, dissatisfactions and generally speaking —THE PAIN?? or what ever you have name for it) with the TRUSTED people in their life.

Like you said, —some are loud and some are quite?? but the pain is there and worse; there are no standards to show what the hell the —pain is?? or at least —should be?? for every individual souls living in this planet (6,8 billions).

Generally, metaphysically and philosophically speaking living life is PAIN no matter what kind of a standard you set for it.

You can be a lending ears or just fuck it..!

And one more thing to add??_

I use to call —positive people?? as happy go lucky clowns, I hope that you are not one of those (since you are on my + list).

Posted by Qbone
Complain about complainers..?

Unless you meant —nagging?? then you are a complainer too, people like to share their (worries, angst, thoughts —especially negative??, dissatisfactions and generally speaking —THE PAIN?? or what ever you have name for it) with the TRUSTED people in their life.

Like you said, —some are loud and some are quite?? but the pain is there and worse; there are no standards to show what the hell the —pain is?? or at least —should be?? for every individual souls living in this planet (6,8 billions).

Generally, metaphysically and philosophically speaking living life is PAIN no matter what kind of a standard you set for it.

You can be a lending ears or just fuck it..!

Q-bone, do you believe that living life is pain?

You, me, and the rest of the humanity are the products of the PAIN, do you think that your mother delivered you with ease..?

Mentioning —pain?? in here is not necessary —physical pain?? (I am sure that you understand what I mean).

I understand.

but the presence of pain does not over shadow the presence of life (at birth), though they occur simultaneously. but by saying life is pain, then wouldn't that make releaving pain the most important part of life?

No, you don't understand me at all??_

I guess it is a bout the life experiences, differences of opinion and what you (know so far) in your 26 years of living in this forsaken planet in so called (safe places) like America.

How many (26) years old females do we have on the planetary scales that are happy with their lives like you do? US 300 millions vs 6 billions out there?

Ease up on that front lady (consider yourself lucky) to have warm food on the table because most of the (similar to your age) living with less than USD $ 5 lousy dollars on day.

Pain..?

Don't you ever dare to speak to me about THE PAIN and the complaint (as the OP) suggesting??_!

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this isn't a front. i liked what you originally said and i thought it was interesting. are you going to yell at me in all caps now?

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I am not your average Virgo type with the —fuck it?? attitudes. We are the same age aren't we..?

are you going to yell at me in all caps now?

Never??_??_??_??_??_??_??_ What makes you think to say so?

Good to know that..

Everyone is entitled to a whinge every now and then when life becomes too much to bear. For some people it's just the way they communicate. They don't even realise it's whingeing.

It's nice to be positive all the time, but at the end of the day it's not real, because if you wake up feeling rubbish and then pretend to be all happy clappy to everyone you meet then youre just lying to the world. People can see through it (because your eyes give you away) and then you start to creep them out. Ive met people like this and I'd rather be with a moaner because at least they are not hiding anything. At least if you get a complainer to lighten up you feel like youve achieved something. But with a happy clappy person if you see the other side of them it's such a disappointment.

I wonder if it's linked to the weather. Im sure people living in sunnier climes whinge less.

Having to read Q the boner and the doper

If someone complains its only because someones "enabeling" lol

yea i guess i wasnt very clear in the first post... this was about those who aaaaaaaaaaalways complain... to everyone and anyone. of course everyone will do it. i admitted in the op that i will do it, but i'll ask a good friend to listen to me. i dont broadcast nonstop like some people seem to. this thread was my complaint about people who perpetually complain.

and, Q, no I'm not the happy-go-lucky type either... again, i quote myself...
"I wouldnt necessarily say that I'm a happy person with no reason to complain, but I'm definitely not a downer."
I consider myself to be pretty even keeled. I have my moments when I'm cheerful, happy and smiling for the shit of it. Just like I have my withdrawn moments. And the reason for me being withdrawn is because Id rather keep my stresses to myself rather than complain to people who in all likeliness... dont care about what I have to whine about. And everyonce in a blue moon I'll catch myself carrying on about something. I'm too self-conscious about it for it to happen often.

to me complaining is synonymous with bitching. both words have the same exact negative connotation to me.

From dictionary.com:
complain——/k??m??ple??n/ [kuhm-pleyn]
—verb (used without object)
1. to express dissatisfaction, pain, uneasiness, censure, resentment, or grief; find fault: He complained constantly about the noise in the corridor.
2. to tell of one's pains, ailments, etc.: to complain of a backache.
3. to make a formal accusation: If you think you've been swindled, complain to the police.

If you (the general you) are constantly complaining... you have a victim complex. nothing is ever your fault. it's likely you dont take any responsibility over your resentment. therefore you never do anything to try to improve what you are dissatisfied about... AND will probably always have something to complain about.

complaining is self-perpetuating.

it's one thing to make a complaint and just have it end there, but if you are always doing it... ugh. ever notice that about people who always complain? it's not enough of their problem to try to help improve, yet somehow it's enough of their problem to constantly whine over.

the link in the op is a really good article. solution to stop the complaining... so no one can say i didnt try to help first before bitching 😉 lol