How to Deal with a Friend that’s Closing Off

I suck with relationships, but I’m learning

Friend is going through a lot concerning job, personal life and mentioned that she will be closing off. Is there any words and tips to make her at ease? We had a bit of miscommunication her distance

This is what I have so far:

Know that this isn’t an attack as I’m saying it out of endearment. I’m on your side and closing off doesn’t make things better as it will cause more negativity 🫤If you need space, I’ll respect it.! Know that I’m here for you

I think if she needs space then give it to her and don't tell her that it doesn't make things better. It comes off as you're criticizing her for what she has communicated that she needs.

I agree with Timone.. It may not make your relationship better for you but, it may make things better for her.. Everyone has a way of dealing with pressure. I would respect that she voiced her needs instead of distancing herself away from you without any explanation.

Posted by WarEternal

I suck with relationships, but I’m learning

Friend is going through a lot concerning job, personal life and mentioned that she will be closing off. Is there any words and tips to make her at ease? We had a bit of miscommunication her distance

This is what I have so far:

Know that this isn’t an attack as I’m saying it out of endearment. I’m on your side and closing off doesn’t make things better as it will cause more negativity 🫤If you need space, I’ll respect it.! Know that I’m here for you

leave out this part : "and closing off doesn’t make things better as it will cause more negativity"

take your moral definition out of the equation and you´re good to go.

Sounds a little controlling, IMO.

You understand her reasonings for needing space and you say you are on her side.

So her saying she needs to close off to figure things out and you saying it won't make it better, but will make it worse, seems selfish and controlling- Worse for who?

She thinks she knows what she needs and has told you/requested it.

I agree with the rest though, the rest of the statement is nice.

Maybe add in "I know you're going through a lot, and I hope it gets better." or something like that.

I know I'm late to the party, don't know if the message has been sent. You seem to be coming from a good place.

True friendship is when you can go any amount of time without speaking and then just pick back up where you started.

I wouldn't stress it here. She gave you the heads up she will be disappearing to get her life in order. Let her sort thru her shit and be there for when she circles back.

Posted by WarEternal

I suck with relationships, but I’m learning

Friend is going through a lot concerning job, personal life and mentioned that she will be closing off. Is there any words and tips to make her at ease? We had a bit of miscommunication her distance

This is what I have so far:

Know that this isn’t an attack as I’m saying it out of endearment. I’m on your side and closing off doesn’t make things better as it will cause more negativity 🫤If you need space, I’ll respect it.! Know that I’m here for you

what is your friend´s sign?

is about this person?!

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/miscellaneous/damage-control-unfriending-on-social-media-15491650/?checkpg=1

Posted by MonaLisa26

Does anybody remember when we used to run TO our friends when we were 'going trough something' instead of running FROM friends?

I would seriously think I had screw up IF my friend told me they 'taking a break' from me.

Times changing A LOT! I am glad I dont have friends...

jfc you sound one-dimensional.

Posted by MonaLisa26

Does anybody remember when we used to run TO our friends when we were 'going trough something' instead of running FROM friends?

I would seriously think I had screw up IF my friend told me they 'taking a break' from me.

Times changing A LOT! I am glad I dont have friends...

Not everyone is the same.

Introverts, for example, need time alone to reflect and don't want to be smothered.

Makes it seem like the the other party is taking it personally or is offended, when that shouldn't be the case.

Posted by saggurl88

Sounds a little controlling, IMO.

You understand her reasonings for needing space and you say you are on her side.

So her saying she needs to close off to figure things out and you saying it won't make it better, but will make it worse, seems selfish and controlling- Worse for who?

She thinks she knows what she needs and has told you/requested it.

I agree with the rest though, the rest of the statement is nice.

Maybe add in "I know you're going through a lot, and I hope it gets better." or something like that.

I know I'm late to the party, don't know if the message has been sent. You seem to be coming from a good place.

I said, “I’m on your side” because she got defensive and I was trying to ease it 😅 yes I already sent it, but it’s not too late to add that last touch when she responds 🙂 I already took out the part, “it won’t do any good if you close up”. So thankful for the community helping me learn because I’m pretty rough around the edges of things haha

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Posted by WarEternal

I suck with relationships, but I’m learning

Friend is going through a lot concerning job, personal life and mentioned that she will be closing off. Is there any words and tips to make her at ease? We had a bit of miscommunication her distance

This is what I have so far:

Know that this isn’t an attack as I’m saying it out of endearment. I’m on your side and closing off doesn’t make things better as it will cause more negativity 🫤If you need space, I’ll respect it.! Know that I’m here for you

what is your friend´s sign?

is about this person?!

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/miscellaneous/damage-control-unfriending-on-social-media-15491650/?checkpg=1<div class="bqfade">click to expand

No, that was concerning my Pisces friend / interest

This is about my Virgo friend

Posted by WarEternal

Posted by saggurl88

Sounds a little controlling, IMO.

You understand her reasonings for needing space and you say you are on her side.

So her saying she needs to close off to figure things out and you saying it won't make it better, but will make it worse, seems selfish and controlling- Worse for who?

She thinks she knows what she needs and has told you/requested it.

I agree with the rest though, the rest of the statement is nice.

Maybe add in "I know you're going through a lot, and I hope it gets better." or something like that.

I know I'm late to the party, don't know if the message has been sent. You seem to be coming from a good place.

I said, “I’m on your side” because she got defensive and I was trying to ease it 😅 yes I already sent it, but it’s not too late to add that last touch when she responds 🙂 I already took out the part, “it won’t do any good if you close up”. So thankful for the community helping me learn because I’m pretty rough around the edges of things haha

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i think you did what any friend would; showing respect and letting her know that you´re around when and if she needs you. you said your part and now the gods decide.